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cant believe ppl on this earth still compare straight women who like gay fanfiction to the fetishisation of lesbians by men that gets us assaulted and killed daily but the former is literally more to do with misogyny than homophobia sorry to be a womanator but unlike fetishisation of lesbians it has very little do to with irl gay men and gay relationships, they don't want a gay relationship they want a relationship that feels "neutral" and between their own internalised misogyny and shame and detachment from their body and sexuality, and external misogyny that frequently reduces women to less than human and does not engage with women sexually in a way that makes them identifiable with, but only the man desiring them to be identified with.

they want a romance in which gender markers are irrelevant, it's NOT a fetishisation of masculine gender markers which you can see blatantly by comparing m/m media made for adult gay men. they don't want a relationship between two MEN they want a relationship between two PEOPLE and for the reasons mentioned above have found it impossible to see that in a relationship involving a women. the convoluted uke/seme roles and mischaracterised and/or tortured submissive men and the whole a/b/o thing are literally not reflective of their views of irl gay men, it's a psychosexual reflection of their own internalised misogyny!!!!! is this thing on can anyone hear me

#you get it or you don't #it's like when a lot of male authors write their male characters as People but their female characters as Women #but women are also more likely to write female characters as Women than to write men as Men #I also think fetishisation of lesbians is also mostly misogyny #hence why a lot of the actual individuals being fetishised directly r bi women yet its always the concept of lesbianism being fetishised #but lesbophobia is an intersection of misogyny so I mean that's obvious #u can't really separate them but if u had to pinpoint one impulse #it would be reclamation and domination of womens autonomy #rather than suspicion of homosexual relationships but obv in the case of lesbians those are very closely linked

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