#ranting here bc literally any of my other spots have been invaded by people who regularly vent to me

[thegreatbuttoneer]

Everybody knows about the spoons analogy, right?? You wake up with a certain amount of spoons that you can use to spend on the day?

I woke up and got metaphorically bashed in the face with a metaphorical plank of wood, kicked in the side of the head, got hot coffee dumped on me and then bashed in the skull with the metal travel mug, hit by a car, had all of my spoons stolen, water boarded, kicked in the face again, and then was swarmed by tiny gnomes that used my stolen spoons to gouge out my right eyeball.

Metaphorically of course.

[fiovske]

im so sad about the way the bj fandom completely tore itself apart and is now grasping at straws to dismiss any validity in by just because. both ships are so valid and there is so much overlap in fandom and now two wlw ships are vetted against each other. the bj tags are just depressing at this point and by has a few rotten eggs on high horses and it’s just so sad that once again the wlw of the fandom are going to have to comprise their space because a few loud people can’t be adults. sorry for the rant im just over this; cr fandom is ugly and these parts have become the ugliest. by isn’t allowed to be a wlw ship because somehow it’s straight and bj has build up fanon too much to a breaking point. it sucks to have to choose between that when i as a wlw had a happy place in both before.

ah, I can relate tbh. B/Y was the whole reason I switched to c2 from c1 bc I heard canon sapphics and went WHERE!! I HAVE TO GO THERE RIGHT NOW so thats the place I came to cr from.

I'm sad abt B/J too tbh, that relationship developed so organically and so beautifully it will always have a soft spot in my heart, but as a whole I can understand why B/J was abandoned from a meta perspective and... and I've come to make my peace w that. B/Y is not a bad ship y'know, like. I like the potential of it, I like that it can develop now that a*hley is here full-time. the reservations I have abt the ship are just that it often feels like something is supposed to be climatic but... it hasn't had that kind of emotional buildup yet to lend it the gravitas it otherwise would to B/J and even Y/J tbh. but I believe this mollucien arc could be fundamental to B/Y's relationship growing and maturing emotionally and be a ripe ground for building something good since m*lly affected the both of them so deeply. B reaching out to take Y's hand at M*lly's grave was a nice touch. subtle and... promising. I want to believe that it could be nuanced and good, given time and... conversations.

but gosh some B/Y fans out there are so loudly toxic in the B/J tags like why can't u just be happy for ur ship and let the other people be?? it makes no sense to me tbh, it just shows immense immaturity. just be happy for ur ship and let those who are on their blogs being sad... be sad, sapphics were affected by the shift and the change and ppl are allowed their space to grieve and that's not someone else's place to invade and tell them they're WRONG for being sad about it while spewing all kinds of hate. abusing the tag feature is so fuckin... weird like. just stay in ur lane and celebrate ur ship going canon instead of being spiteful for no reason??

wlw shouldn't have to fight over scraps like this tbh so like... I honestly don't know what to tell you. I redirected my energy to other things that made me happy instead and... i found it healing. it helped me reset my expectations from CR as a whole and... I'm ok with that now, whatever it is they're going for. I've distanced myself enough to not get truly emotionally invested, taking a step back from something that used to bring me immense joy once has been... quite something. it's sad the petty fights are still on, I can only recommend blocking those toxic B/Y folks (it's what I did and have since been better for it) and moving on. curate ur own online experience. block and mute liberally. engage only in things that make you happy. in things that don't, don't.

for me, bashter >>>>>>>>> literally anything else