#raising her son as his mistress but still trying to encourage his traits you see in her that you could never have…. Sigh
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alphaketoglutaricacid · 6 months ago
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probs another reason the rift formed between hien and toshiro is bc hiens like that hag curse, izutsumis and tades situation, maizuru being the mistress ✅ all normal while shuros havin a several year realization of like hey. Whats going on here
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plan-d-to-i · 4 years ago
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Hi i saw some of you mdzs posts and i have a question; i’ve seen a lot of people say that Madam Yu acting the way she did as a cultural thing or cause she is annoyed a servant being treated like family. Which both don’t make sense to me? And she just seems cruel?? But i was hoping if you knew more bout that ;~;
I think you should go with your instinct. haha I honestly thought that Madam Yu just being a horrible person could be the one thing this fandom agreed on. The novel makes it quite clear, but some people will devil’s advocate anything ig? Personally I find it a bit weird and a lot awkward that some vehemently defend Madam Yu's brutal behavior in multiple part metas because she reminds them of their mother- a lot to unpack there. Now I’m not saying that Madam Yu can’t be a familiar figure to some. She certainly reminds me of my own mother, I’m just saying trying to defend her behavior is a really, really weird hill to die on. 
Let’s say we judge her as the Mistress of Lotus Pier. Can she abuse her servants- like WWX? (Side note it’s interesting that a lot of people who defend Madam Yu will aggressively argue jc & WWX are ‘brothers’ up until they need to defend Madam Yu and then WWX is ‘just a servant’). It’s true though WWX is not actually adopted so sure-  Madam Yu occupies a position of power and privilege and can afford to hit people who can’t hit back because they’re socially weaker than her. Does that make her a good person? Nope. Does that make her behavior correct at the time this fantasy novel is set in? Still no; she’s just an abusive and cruel master.
 As jiang cheng’s mother does she have any actual reason to feel that her son’s inheritance & position are threatened by WWX? Again no. In fact we see clear proof that she doesn’t consider WWX a threat when she sends him off with her son and demands that WWX protect jc with his life- knowing she would be obeyed. This is not her showing mercy to WWX, this is her sending the best disciple the Clan has to protect her son, meaning she knew very well WWX would shield jc with his life. So really her whole problem with WWX was her unwarranted hate for his mother, that she then took out on the orphaned kid under her authority, by singling him out for punishment & verbally, emotionally and physically abusing him. Remember, WWX is well acquainted with Zidian an electric WHIP prior to Wang Lingjiao’s arrival. So could her perpetual mistreatment be explained, though STILL NOT EXCUSED, as the valid concern of a mother : hell NO. 
Maybe she’s just full of affection but hides it under the guise of tough love* to strengthen her children & prepare them for the real world? Whilst I’m not saying that she didn’t love her biological children- or whatever passes for love in a person like that, she spent all her time chilling with her servant ladies and invested absolutely no effort or time in their actual enrichment. In fact the only time she did take an interest in her actual children was to put them down and emotionally abuse them or use them as weapons against their father. Abuse and love are not mutually exclusive. 
Abusers can love, but their love is still very much just a twisted version of the ideal most of us deem to be love, and deeply damaging to those on the receiving end of it. Lastly and perhaps most importantly, the novel written by a modern woman, in modern times, with contemporary sensibilities, makes no secret of framing Madam Yu’s parenting and behavior as bad! We’re not supposed to empathize with Madam Yu, or think her form of childrearing- via unceasing verbal/emotional abuse (extended to physical abuse of the orphan under her authority) were cool & nifty. She forced one kid in the role of nurturer, & encouraged one in becoming a toxic mess of an adult who flayed people alive for 13 years and is just a trash heap of bad character traits and rage.This criticism is reinforced in the way jiang cheng is now raising his nephew, echoing his mother’s behavior and thereby shaping Jin Ling into a friendless, homophobic, lonely, emotional wreck riddled with anger issues who in contrast immediately improves when shown healthy attention and affection by WWX. 
So no, let’s not excuse Madam Yu. Some people are just shitty and the only thing they have to offer the world is a warning to not be like them, and relief when they depart it. 
*for tough love please refer to Lan Qiren. <3 
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