#queer ppl are like: im not homo/transphobic im gay/trans!!!

[our-queer-experience]

i think about this post so much. “leftists” are so quick to think theyre progressive and radical, but the instant that means they have to change basic parts of how they live- where they shop, who they support, groups they attend, ext- then its seen as too overreactive and too much work.

activism is work. it is a lot of work. its making an effort not just to change other people but to ask yourself what you need to change about yourself.

[gateway-2000]

btw the reason it was super popular to hate furries in the 2000s - 2010s (and now);was because "furry" is and always has been synonymous with gay, trans or some other flavor of queer. it has nothing to do with the costumes or art.

the furry community has been an integral part of the online queer community. it has been a a pivotal and safe way for queer ppl to express themselves online without being identified by IRL homo/transphobes that could discriminate against and harm them. being able to blend creativity and escapism seamlessly with expression of sexuality and gender without having to conform to a norm has been literally vital in many queers lives.

so yea anyway furries are awesome, they literally helped me realize i was trans and bi by meeting other trans furries in furry social networks. my first exposure to trans terms like genderqueer, nonbinary, neutrois, and trans man were from other furries. ive been a furry since 2010 and im still planning on owning a fursuit :3

[800-dick-pics]

mmmmm idk everyone else can call lesbians dykes with malice and like that hurts, and like lesbophobia is truly a real thing very few people are open to fixing in themselves, dont act brand knew yall know what ppl mean when they say “dyke”  even if we get called the same slurs lesbians esp gnc, black/brown, and trans lesbians still get called “ugly dykes” “mean dykes” “rude bitter dykes by OTHER lgbt people and nobody thinks thats lesbophobia??  when my gf says theyre a “fat butch dyke and proud” dont act like you dont know what that means, dont act like 99.999% of the ppl who say that are LESBIANS 

and like yall best believe that shit is also racialized!!! bulldyke is and has always been a BLACK LESBIAN term, that even my old black ass mom used @ me a black lesbian in derogatory way  because even she knew after changed lables that there was something available to hurt me, hurt the lesbianism. my mom is liberal homo/bi/transphobic but really hates lesbians and trans women specifically bc were like “failed women” Ive had my white bi/pan/queer coworkers call me a dyke several times at work, have called me dyke several times before/after sexually harassing me!!! lets not act like white lgbts dont suddenly try to dig up “acceptable” slurs to use at black n brown lgbts when they want to manipulate/hurt/embarass/shame us. getting called a “dykey queer” by other gbtq people is not ok!! bi/pan wlw can, have and will continue to call lesbians dykes with malice in their tone/intention as long as lesbophobia continues to run rampant. “lesbian” as a porn category for is already deeply fucked up bc its never geared towards actual wlw but men instead but like “lesbian r@pe porn” is a sub genre and you know how many titles have the work dyke in it? and are calling the person in the video a dyke durring this simulated or actual rape. this has been the reality for too many lesbians i know. we are beaten raped and abused and we hear dyke spat in our fucking faces, from cishet folks and from gbq folks too. I was bi/pan for 9-10ish? years and honestly still question if im really a lesbian or not, so i deeply empathize and know that it still and will always hurt to be called a dyke when youre seen being gay, but understanding where were different helps us break down our les/biphobia because a lot of us experience a lot of the same traumas for loving women, we share a lot of the same feelings about our love for women and that i think is the best thing on earth, loving women!!! my love for bi/pan women literally is endless and im thankful for all the bi/pan women esp women of color in my life yall are everything <3 <3 <3 les/bi solidarity means acknowledge where and how we can hurt eachother, esp how black/brown, trans, poor, disabled wlw are getting hurt. lets acknowledge how dyke is weaponized a lot of the time to directly hurt/shame lesbians (esp more marginalized lesbians), just like how we need to acknowledge how our (and other gay/queer) distrust/judgement on “cishetesque  couples” hurts bi/pan women and can keep them feeling like theyre not apart of the community.

no reblogs bc whites and some weirdos online dont know how to act

[reaperkaneki]

k i read stay gold and it was.... alright i guess it kind of made me viscerally angry and i hated 90% of the characters but like, lgbt love and acceptance written by a trans author i guess sure why not. intensely white and upper middle class to the point of physical pain tho. nvm i think i actually hate this book but whatever

i spent the last thirty or so pages of the book going i hate u, u suck, shut up, nope to different characters so like that was a thing. like the main girl is casually homophobic and then rejects the main guy specifically bc hes trans.... Twice. fucking twice. at that point just throw the whole girl away idc if she later writes an essay article in defense of trans ppl and publishes it in the school newspaper. like every stupid moral in this book sucks. his shitty alcoholic army dad magically decides to stop misgendering him, but really just throw the dad away, hes an abusive piece of shit for other reasons, who fucking cares. his overly queer out and proud trans bestie just keeps ragging on him for being stealth and not living his truth, and then the moment he comes out he gets jumped in the bathroom and in the hospital bestie is like im so proud of u, im gonna start a community petition to get back at those bullies! like no, just smash their teeth in actually. fuck that.

every character feels like an overblown stereotype and that’s i guess the point, is that everyone is too focused on what others think to step outside their roles and reputation but newsflash high school musical did that and you can not be high school musical, you can never be high school musical, and while we’re at it, you’re not even close to mean girls.

the only characters i actually genuinely liked was the old dying closeted gay actor and the two aggressively straight idiot guys who were like, casually homo/transphobic in the way straight bros are but ended up actually pretty chill in the end. okay that sounds pretty bad but i have a weakness for idiot himbos who realize their casual bigotry on their own and apologize for it and love their bros unconditionally. plus they were funny.

[izzyliker]

alright adding this to the part of the post that Doesnt have screenshots with violent slurs and transmisogynistic rhetoric bc frankly if u want to see it its in the notes and im getting tired of looking at it plus you can probs imagine it anyway just think real hard what terfs would say abt trans women and evangelical christians would say abt effeminate gay men + transfems and youre probs already there. 

anyway like this was already obvious to me so i didnt even add it but im readin the tags in the notes and yes like literally it doesnt even matter if the people wearing these clothes or makeup or whatever are actually queer its just an added extremely revealing aspect of how deeply fucking transphobic people are WHILE pretending to defend us. it literally shouldnt matter if the person wearing skirts or crop tops is a cishet guy! like its SUCH a non issue and it SHOULDNT register as a Threat to you ANYWAY! gender nonconformity isnt exclusive to the el gee bee tee queues and cishet men wearing skirts isnt like. appropriating your experience or profiting off your trauma. 

cishet men are NOT celebrated for being gnc, especially not BLATANTLY so, random homo/transphobes dont see the dif between you, a GNC gay person, and that random cishet guy in a skirt and fishnets. it is strange to me how people are saying guys who wear skirts arent ACTUALLY gnc and are just appropriating the Look as if like... idk... hm. what do people think being GNC is? obviously its not JUST presentation but like... outwardly Gender Non Conforming Presentation is actually A Big Thing. maybe ppl just need to like say the full words from the acronym and stop interpreting it as the synonym for nonbinary 

i’m going to lose my goddamned mind at twitter for AGAIN making hot takes about how ~men~ on tiktok wearing skirts or fem clothing are just doing it to prey on girls with SUCH confidence in the ideas that 1. the people making the tiktoks ARE cis men and 2. if the people ARE cis men they’re straight and 3. men dress fem to prey on women as if that isn’t an ancient transmisogynistic talking point

[sgatcommunity]

hey like... co-opting sgat to mean "super great aspecs together" is rly uncool, we shouldnt be taking labels from sga and trans ppl?? we belong in the queer community but thats like... really homo/transphobic imo... and like... im a gay trans ace so like?? im not here to be an Acephobe(tm) its just. real shitty, to do that

Chill, it’s just a joke, not actually what the acronym stands for. ~Cinder

[catboyrightsdefender]

hey I'm just wondering what you mean by saying there is a lot of homo and lesbophobia in queer spaces? :0 This might just be my experience but I personally have seen a lot of bi- and transphobia but never homo/lesbophobia? /gen

disclaimer im sorry if my words are clumsy or if im accidentaly offensive. i dont like talking about such serious subjects in english cause i Know what i say risks getting misinterpreted more as i dont master english as much as my native language.

i personally havent seen much biphobia, and most transphobia ive seen coming from queer spaces was a specific brand of transphobia that is subject to debate (like. seeing trans men as different than cis men, this is poorly worded but im not gonna develop this issue here cause this isnt what you asked sjjs) (i say subject to debate cause to some, like me, its transphobic, while to others who have different opinions it isnt. same happens for biphobia i guess), but obviously it depends a lot of which 'circles' you evolve in/which people you follow.

obviously im not the best suited to talk about lesbophobia, but from what ive seen lesbians often get attacked far more often than other groups. especially radical and political lesbians, who get both the ''mainstream'' lesbophobia and very aggressive responses from others from the queer community, because they often adopt a materialist or marxist point of view which clashes with the heavily individualistic queer point of view. its also all of the erasure, i remember at some point pride posts often didnt feature a lesbian flag (i havent seen that as much nowadays but also i follow different ppl and more lesbians now so again what you see highly depends on who you follow). its also stupid shit like people trying to strip the lesbian identity from its meaning by saying bi girls can call themselves lesbians (same happens with queer ppl calling themselves gay and then getting mad when gay/homosexual criticize it. im not gonna enter this debate cause i did call myself gay while i was still bi so erhmm im not the best suited to criticize it, even tho i regret doing it now). its all the 'jokes' non gay people make about gay people's lives and sexuality, like for example the jokes about 'white gays' (when they are coming from white queers. im obviously not saying that the racism in the gay community shouldnt be adressed, but look at most of the white gay jokes, this term is often used with no actual relevance) or 'cis gays' (when said jokes could totally target trans gay men too). its thinking that cis gays and lesbians are the opressor and are privileged as if they dont face homophobia or worse in some countries. like obviously there are power dynamics in the community, cis ppl have the cis privilege, but it just sounds so hypocritical to pretend that cis gays are the ennemy cause they have more privileges and at the same time refuse to aknowledge that trans hets have privileges by being het (yes this is discourse i have seen yes it did make me want to die).

i could go on, but yeah, its ''little'' things that seem ''harmless'' but in the end they add up. and again, it highly depends on who you follow. rn on twitter i mostly follow gays and lesbians who have similar political views as me, so i either see very good stuff or bad stuff when it gets debated. i also think its important to think critically. everyone who participates in discourse says things as if they are the One Truth, but there are in fact many different point of views! just because someone doesnt use the same vocabulary, or doesnt have the same world view as you doesnt mean what they say is wrong or queerphobic. you dont have to 'choose one side'! just because im interested in materialism more than queer thinking doesnt mean i reject the queer movement, i still think there are interesting things in it, and that there are certain things in materialism that arent perfect. in the end you just gotta do you and build your own opinion.

hope this answers your question lol im certain that there are people who'd be more qualified to answer than me with my not-perfect-english. have a nice day <3