#ps sorry if this sounded like a trauma dump

[hannyoontify]

protecting my peace fr

[thatsmutaccount]

ATTENTION: this post is more me venting about something, nothing too serious or that could upset people, but still, if you don't want any negativity don't read this, and instead I hope you have a fantastic day ^.^

Quick disclaimer before we start: at the beginning of this August I discovered that someone stole one of my works on ao3 and tried to pass it on as their own. When I tried to comment on his fic to talk about it I discovered they blocked me so I couldn't say anything about it.

After that I looked around and what to do about this kind of stuff and so I sent a message to the ao3 staff to ask them to put it down, blocked the dickhead in question and bookmarked the incriminated fic as public telling other people the truth.

The fic is still up and is currently the only bookmark on my profile.

Anyway, as if this wasn't enough I started digging around and found out I wasn't the only one they where stealing from: there are at least 4 other people he stole fic from and tried to pass them as his own, and this is really making my blood boil, especially because all the other times they where scared and being called out by them they cancelled the incriminated fic, but not with mine apparently.

The author in question is called notyourtypicalauthor, or itwasnotnytasfault on Twitter I think, and if you search their name, even here on Tumblr, you'll find the post where people are calling him out.

The fic he stole from me was the first actual chapter of my "Logan the himbo collection", it is practically a 1:1 replica with some added part. It's honestly pretty cringe to read, our style (if he even has a style at this point and all the stuff he does are not stolen as well) don't mash together like at all.

Now, of you follow me on ao3 or read the notes on my chapters you already know that, and you probably also know that I promised to never talk about it ever again. But it's hard, because now I'm always afraid. I'm afraid of him stealing again from me or the fact that I read a story with the content I write about and find out it was, again, someone else coping my stuff. It's stressfull and it's really taking a lot out of the joy of reading on ao3.

Today it was particularly hard because I saw he published a new story and from the premise I was getting a weird feeling, so I clicked on it, and I know it's not like "Logan the himbo", it's not a 1:1 replica, but I can't help thinking he took some of my scenes and like stitched them together and tried to pass them as his own.

Maybe I'm just paranoid, I know that people who write (and I use the word "write" very loosely when I'm talking about him) similar stuff may end up with similar scenes but the fear is there, and I don't know what to do about it.

Sigh, I'm sorry for this venting post, it's just really unfair and I needed to talk about it to someone, or just post my thought about it without having the feeling of trauma dumping on my readers on ao3, again. Thank you for listening to me and just be careful and have a nice day.

PS: do not go and harras them or something like that, did I make myself clear? It won't change anything and it will just give him a reason to complain and twist the story to make me sound like the villain here, so please if you want to do something good just spread the word, tell the truth and block, mute or unsubscribe from him. Being mad at him won't change anything and, more importantly, it's not worth any of you time, your time is better used doing something useful and by being productive, so go do that! ^.^

Have a nice day, dudes!!!!

[waitimcomingtoo]

🥰 advice - hi bestie how was ur day?? ok so basically i came to u for advice bc i really dk what to do. so my name is unisex and there's a guy at my school and there's constantly a debate about whether i (the girl) or he (the boy) is better. so the groupchat started acting up and ofc i wanted to defend myself and my best friend jumped in too and they started to be really rude and put us down and curse us out, so we got mad, naturally. i then texted my guy bsf who i've been friends with forever, and he told me to just "shut up," and that there was "no need to continue the convo." it kind of hurt my feelings especially since it was a group of eight guys ganging up on us, and me and the friend in question did have a really big fight before but we patched things up or so i thought, but recently i'm getting the vibe that he doesn't like me, and idk what to do or if im in the wrong. any ideas? sorry to trauma dump lol

drink lots of water, take care of urself, xoxo

I don’t think you’re in the wrong. I think guys share a give mentality a lot of the time and can’t think for themselves. If one guy was being mean to you, they’re all gonna follow. And you guy friend is probably too worried about the approval of the other guys to stick up for you. He doesn’t sound like a very good friend. If he’s giving you the vibe that he doesn’t like you, let it be. If he doesn’t want to be your friend then he doesn’t deserve to be 🖤🧡

Ps - I also have a unisex name and I had a boy in my class with the same name growing up. I know how you feel 💔

[upthehillask]

Answering an anonymous ask that was sent to my main:

Hey, hope you’re doing well. Just saw the post you made on discussion abt pansmione. I want to say I am incredibly amazed and proud of how much you’ve educated yourself on the matter then before (not saying that you weren’t as educated before but I can definitely see the reflection and a difference in opinion then back then). I wanted to ask you abt your opinion if you don’t mind, it’s about a post you made on 2016 on how you found it a bit hypocritical that most people that hate on dramione are drarry’s. I want to know if you’ve got a different view on that too?

in my opinion drarry is more of a enemies to lovers while dramione is more of a loving an oppressor. while both Harry and Hermione were bullied by draco, never once has draco expressed that he saw Harry as anything lesser than him. Unlike dramione where he called her a wizarding equivalent of a slur, could be quite problematic and quite frankly degrading, because I believe the main issue with drarry is just two frustrated teens angry at each other (one more than the other) dramione is just plain prejudice. I do get the argument that he was raised that way, his parents thought him that, it’s a story of redemption. but isn’t it degrading for Hermione to accept someone who at one point in her life thought her as less deserving of the rights he’s got (especially if he’s had these prejudice behaviors until he was old enough to distinguish between what’s right or wrong)? Wouldn’t a more satisfying redemption be forgiveness? Why should she get with him in order for him to be redeemed? Sure we could say love redeems all, but is there a line to draw?

Obviously I don’t think your opinion or anyone else’s is wrong, but as a POC myself who’s been bullied over something I’ve got no control over, I find it degrading to forget and accept. Sure I would be able to forgive, but I’ll never be able to live with myself if I were to accept the person who once caused me trauma as a lifelong partner. I would accept them as an acquaintance, maybe a friend but never someone I could rely on for my future, knowing that my kid could also go through that same experiences I’ve went through (no matter how smart and changed he is or how strong and mature I am).

I do know that there’s a lot of POC that love the idea of dramione (which quite frankly I don’t understand, I would love to tho!) and I’m not saying that they are wrong for doing that, it’s just that i cannot begin to fathom how one could just ignore and change a character with acceptance (again, not shaming anyone or their morality). Now this isn’t as the same intensity as actual racism but it hit so close to home to me. I hope you get my point on why drarry could be more widely accepted then dramione is. Don’t mean any offense to you or any other shippers. You’re honestly amazing, keep doing what you’re doing! (Ps sorry if this post sounded like a trauma dumping, also the long ass essay, didn’t mean for that to happen hahaha)

First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to share your personal thoughts and experience! I appreciate your question and your own reflection on the matter!

Now, I don’t know to which extent I’ll be able to answer your questions fully. Point being, I do not ship Dramione anymore. I shipped them in 2015-2017, it was the first fanon ship that I truly fell in love with and it’s the reason I decided to draw fanart, so naturally it IS a ship that holds a lot of meaning for me to this day, at least in terms of nostalgia and gratitude. However, if I were to be honest, the reason I sort of “grew out” of Dramione is more or less what you yourself described. My early 20s were a very transformative time, and as I matured and learned more about myself and my values, my feelings towards Dramione just changed organically. It wasn’t rational, it wasn’t intentional, I just literally “grew out” of it (This may sound as if I’m implying that this ship is something to be grown out of, and that is NOT what I’m intending to communicate. I am referring to my experience ONLY, and this is how it felt to me personally).

As I’m reflecting upon my 19yo self, I am realizing that a lot of what changed within me since then is breaking down my internalized misogyny. Because, at least in my journey specifically, that is partly what allowed me to be drawn to Dramione. In my opinion, the dynamic or trope that Dramione tends to often represent is: “the love of a selfless woman will save/fix a bad man.” Back then, I did find this trope empowering and poetic - to this day I do understand how it can be. However, later I started learning more about social issues and eventually realized that this kind of trope does not stand well in the context of our patriarchy as we have it. The more I liberated myself from my internalized misogyny, the less passionate I felt about Dramione. Can’t stop thinking that those were related.. :) Again, in my case specifically.

I read my old posts about why I ship Dramione that you are likely referring to, and I do still stand by my choices and thoughts because I know that, at that time, I felt all of that very strongly. Those themes of challenge and breaking down prejudice felt meaningful and enriching and made sense, and I think it’s okay for me to have enjoyed that. But the way I envision the characters shifted a bit with time, and now, the Hermione that I imagine today would NOT get with the Draco that I imagine today.

I always viewed Hermione as a feminist icon, and in the past, she was feminist to me in her power to teach a person out of their bias as well as learn to overcome her own bias too and find love in those challenging circumstances. To me, it seemed like getting closer to Draco was an opportunity for Hermione to actually RECLAIM her power, because Draco was now “at her mercy” in a sense, she had influence on him, and that’s how she could heal her own wounds and also help Draco in the process of shared vulnerability. On the other hand, in my current feminist version of her, she WOULD find it degrading to be attracted to some white skinny ass prejudiced slug (lol) who hurt her so much, even if he’s a better person now. So I agree with you! I think she’s capable of forgiveness if Draco has earned it (by himself, that is - it’s not a woman’s job to teach a man how not to be an awful person lol), and I mean, if she falls in love with him AFTER that fact, sure, absolutely! But the tropes where caring comes first and redemption second I no longer find tasteful enough for my liking. Doesn’t mean they can’t be done well! They can! But it’s not for me anymore. Nor is Dramione in general. Your struggles that you described - not being able to fully look past the bullying in order to be able to love and rely on that person - I hear that and I think that Hermione (my version of her) would feel the same way.

Can’t say whether there should be an actual line drawn, as I said, I think that even a trope that can ring a bit sexist in todays’ society can be approached with care and value; who am I to take that away from someone, you know? Like, I don’t regret liking Dramione and I’m happy I went through that time of my life, it was of great value to me. So everyone deserves to experience that in whatever way they’re given. But it’s also okay to change beliefs and move on! And I’m glad I got to do that too.

I don’t think I have much to contribute if we’re also bringing (real) racism into the picture, what you shared is great and makes sense; each person of color will have a unique experience and a unique relation to a certain ship, like Dramione. Many POC enjoy it, many don’t - seems like it’s more individual than it is universal. Maybe some of those people will eventually change how they feel about this ship, and maybe they won’t! And that’s ok :) Just because something doesn’t make sense to you or me, doesn’t mean it doesn’t have the capacity to be profound (and I know that as someone who experienced both loving AND not loving Dramione).

When it comes to comparing Dramione and Drarry - I do agree with the points you made! Throughout the years, I’ve always seen people discussing the difference in power dynamics between Drarry and Dramione, and I think those arguments are pretty accurate. Again, doesn’t mean one is inherently better than the other, but yes, they’re different, I acknowledge that!

Hopefully all of this answered your questions? :)

EDIT: Oh also, I do however love, say, Pansmione, and I understand how this ship can be seen as just a lesbian version of Dramione in terms of its “history,” and the fact that I love it does show that I still enjoy this kind of complicated dynamic... I feel like Pansy and Hermione are more on even level as opposed to her and Draco, but idk why I feel that way? Maybe nothing in the books supports it, maybe it’s only because they’re both girls, in which case, I kinda get it because patriarchy but also kinda yikes? So yeah, that’s a WHOLE other thing, and I should definitely continue reflecting on it!