#point is i'm an adult and i should be less scared about it bc sexuality has been and will continue to be a part of my ocs' stories

[carbonateddelusion]

somehow I always feel paranoid when I do sexual things with my ocs. reasonably I shouldn't be, I'm an adult, I tag properly so people can avoid it, but I'm still a little hesitant every time

[eggsnatcheskneecaps]

i have a question ab transformers and im too scared to google it bc of what i think ill find but is there anything in canon that tells you if transformers reproduce??? and like how? do they have some sort of build-a-baby or smth??? sorry i know its late and this is absurd but its been plaguing mind for 4h now and i had to ask

Fjgng you're right to be afraid of what you'll find. There... Is a sea of fics out there.

The fandom has an extremely well curated Wikipedia, so if you're up for something more in depth, read through this article or browse through other ones.

Anyway, this is an excuse to ramble about Transformers >:) but I'll give you info on just the medias I've consumed, or know enough of.

The answer more broadly, there are cannon forms of reproduction, not sexual, per say, but the Transformers writers have a. Well. Long and weird relationship with Cybertronians having sex and especially pregnancies (yeah, you heard me right-)

To start off:

1. In one of the really old TF comics, we have a couple formed of a human woman (Cover Girl) and Brawn. They are married and also, they have a child. ...the child is not adopted. I don't if it's stated how they got there, but y'know.

2. In Beast Wars, we get protoforms.

In multiple continuities, they are basically the first stage in a robot's life. Kind of like infants. All they need is a spark (soul) and alt mode code (what they transform into) in order to develope into a fully grown Cybertronian.

The weird thing with this tho, is that you'll have characters such as Cheetor, who have been here from the start, and they'll be treated like the teenager of the group (although he IS the child appeal character), but then you'll see the ones who come along later, such as Silverbolt, who are immediately treated as an adult with full agency. Sigh.

But that's not all on reproduction in this show.

You have Rattrap at some point talk about... Bars on their home planet where waitresses walk around tits out, basically.

There are also some sex jokes, if I remember correctly. The femme fatale character takes a rod to cut it, her boyfriend cringes, and another one calls her emasculating.

For less cannon stuff that still sprung out of here; the official artists who worked on the show made a 3D render of Dinobot (main character) with... Dinobot Jr. Out on full display.

Also, at some point during the show production, someone decided to play a prank on someone else in the studio by submitting a pornographic parody of the episode script they should have originally given. Why does the fandom know this? It was leaked way back in the day before the episode aired.

Anyway, can you imagine being some poor fool thinking you're getting some exciting leaks to read and instead you get smacked with porn of the character who's literally inspired after Hannibal Lecter- also he transformers into a crab.

3. In Transformers Animated, protoforms make another return.

They basically work about the same way as they do in Beast Wars, except this time, we get Sari.

She's a protoform that somehow landed on earth, and her father, a human, touched it, which caused her to imprint on his DNA and become a hybrid.

In this show we also get several instances of objects being hit by the power of a Cybertronian relic, and making them come to life. Now, I don't know if they count as Cybertronians, since they are random ass earth objects, but they have a consciousness. Also, the same relic has been shown to be able to bring back Transformers from the dead. So.

...........

Ok. So. I received this ask forever ago, I'm so sorry for not getting to it. I've gotten busy and I can unfortunately feel my cognitive dysfunction kicking in, so I'll try to just get this done, but it'll be less detailed from now on and kinda disjointed.

Plus I was a while into writing this part and I lost the progress-

So. IDW1. The comics. They are a mess and weird.

Also, I read these years ago and I don't really remember the details.

You have hot spots on the home planet or moon. That create sparks (from the ground). Sparks can also pop out from Cybertronian relics, such as The Matrix.

Titans (HUUUUUUGE Cybertronians. They turn into cities or battle ships) may also carry hotspots that make robo babies.

Sparks harvested from this sort of thing either become cold constructs or forged. I'm not going to go into technicalities, but basically cold constructs are sparks who were taken and placed in a premade body and forged were allowed to develope naturally. If they are having trouble, a blacksmith may help them along by shaping their body. Or so I recall, at least.

I think I remember a mention in the comics about "A turbofox in heat". Turbofoxes are Transformers animals.

IDW1 also... Sports a lot of allusions to pregnancies. And. Pregnancies in general.

A lot of metaphors for pregnancies. Character is in a coma for 9 months. Another one gets a body upgrade and the entire thing is reminiscent of birth- an actual Cybertronian being mpreg with an organic alien------

^btw there was no narrative significance for this last one to happen

And. One of the main writers had... two? fanfics before he started writing cannon works. Telefunken and Eugenesis. Robots giving birth- to be fair, from their chests, from what I've heard. But the entire thing. It's. It's yeah.

Now!

IDW2.

Kiddies pop out of the ground. They are given one or two mentors. Mentors help them along to find what they want to transform into and their future jobs.

Earthspark, the Nickelodeon show, has come out pretty recently and I haven't watched it, but I think it has 3 robot kids as main characters! From what I know, they also popped out of the ground, except this time on Earth.

^also this one is canonically non binary sob

Transformers: Prime

I thiiiiiink they say Cybertronians pop out of The Well Of All Sparks? Which is a hole in their planet. Don't remember it being explored much. In the movie, a bunch of sparks fly out of it by the end, but I think it was a sort of- everybody gets revived! Yay!

The live action movies. Are also. Trippy

The ones directed by Micheal Bay are shit, but I gotta talk about them. You've got robots being sexual and creepy. But you also have sparklings. They pop out of goo eggs- I don't remember if in these movies energon or other relics posses and bring to life - I think they do tho.

However, that's an occurrence in the Bumblebee movie.

PS: I thought I posted this before I was done and I had a heart attack

[troglobite]

alsdfkjas

nothing like having what you think is a normal conversation w your mom abt feeling like shit and all of the medical things making you feel like shit and how that might be related to neurodivergence and social trauma but there's no fucking research on it only for her to say

"what trauma?"

"what? i already said"

"no, what trauma did you experience?"

cue wishing i was fucking dead

bc clearly nothing that has traumatized me in my life is REAL trauma.

real trauma is only the stuff that's happened to HER, not me.

being bullied for years doesn't bc i wasn't beaten up

being fat, mixed race, autistic, and queer my entire life and childhood and getting bullied for it doesn't count bc i wasn't assaulted, sexually or physically

nothing abt my life and anxiety and my friend groups abandoning me and turning on me was traumatizing, clearly

the only things that're traumatizing are SA, a guy's face on the news after a shooting (which i also fucking experienced, for the fucking record), and dealing w my horrible aunt. also being poor, but not in the way we were poor when i was a kid, only being poor in the way when SHE was a kid. bc it wasn't as bad for me.

nothing abt my life was traumatizing, nosiree!!!!

wow i wish i was fucking dead

doesn't matter how many times i've mentioned or discussed complex ptsd and how it's an ongoing thing

doesn't matter anything i've talked abt

or fear or stress or anxiety or anything

or the fact that just this summer, being alone for several weeks in a house full of spiders literally traumatized me

so i left the conversation after briefly explaining being bullied & the thing this past summer and just said "sorry i'm so fucking weak and pathetic"

haven't gotten a response back

it's just every fucking time i think there's been progress made--

like with these MEDICAL diagnoses i now have, she can BELIEVE me abt the pain and discomfort and misery i'm in, and how difficult things are for me

but now apparently we've backtracked on EVERYTHING ELSE

apparently i am untraumatized

apparently we're back in a world where only SHE'S traumatized (and talks abt it and names it but refuses to fucking do anything about it) but NOT ME

bc i'm weak and pathetic and my life is uninteresting and uneventful and unimportant

and it doesn't matter that being autistic changes what might be traumatizing to me

none of it matters

all that matter is that my pain is less than hers

it was less than my brother's

less than my dad's

less than my cousin's

less than everyone else

she dare fucking say to me as an adult that i sholudn't and can't compare my life to other people

but as a kid whenever i felt bad all i fucking heard was "so and so has it worse, be grateful and thankful for what you have. it could be worse."

my pain is never enough. it never matters. even when i'm in there talking abt how my stomach is burning and in active pain, i have the world's weirdest headache, i'm dizzy and tired and woozy and i'm scared something is wrong

i'm tired of having to wait to DO something abt my autoimmune diseases

i'm tired of feeling like shit, i'm tired of ibs, i'm tired of scientists and doctors not knowing WHY

i'm tired of how being autistic and being who i am predisposes me to do this stuff

but it's not enough

it's not enough reason to be in pain or traumatized

it's not enough, it doesn't pass the test or meet the bar

i'm weak. the ultimate conclusion is that i'm weak. and that is the only reason there's anything wrong w me. and there's not anything REALLY wrong, bc that would mean i wasn't weak. but i am weak. i'm weak and pathetic and i'm never suffering as much as others and i should be grateful. i can't ever complain bc i should be grateful bc things could always be worse.

doesn't matter if i SAY THAT at any point, it still doesn't mean i'm allowed to cmoplain at all.

and this is validated by basically everybody i know

"wow that sucks."

and then silence and nothing else

bc no one cares or thinks it matters and they're sick of listening to me complain bc i shouldn't be complaining

i am weak. i am pathetic. i deserve worse. i'm a baby crying over a papercut. and i wish i was dead.

[dimonds456]

Thoughts of the night: I'm 23, when internet became normality it was probs around when I was 14. That age I was "pfft this is my DOMAIN!! I know everything! Adults are worrying for NOTHING! I know the rules and the warnings, I grew with them!!" But now, today, at my 23, I look at youngers and am "BE CAREFUL YOU DIPSHIT!!! Stop looking at pron, wtf? it's not for you!!!" This came to be bc today a family moved beside my house, I saw they're son and thought "oh probably a high schooler! he's a cutie, good for him! and wow he's taller than me!" (I'm 5'10), but NOOO they're 12!!! The make up transformation that became even more on spotlight with tik tok are now coming naturally as they grow, I mean you see CHILDS of 12yo with the bodies of a high schoolers! And it scares the crap out of me (and I know it's the heavy chemicals, fertilizers and the stuff they feed the cattle), bc that "I'm the shit and know better than adults" mentality have one more supporter, the f*cking beauty market (and the creeps from the internet, which was always a problem and worrying abt them is already implicit as common sense, thank the gods). Worse is when the adults see them and treat them as adults as well!! LET. THEM. BE. CHILDS. ...I hate this (sorry for heavy shit like this, but I thought abt it and I think you're rlly cool and have some cool opinions and points of view, even though I follow you for a short time I already super like you and your blog! sorry if this is weird or annoying though...)

I was on vacation with my mom and grandma about a year ago, and I had been thinking about this at the time. This is one of the big moments that convinced me I have ADHD, sidenote. I told them that makeup is just as bad as drugs, because of how people get addicted to it.

Now, this earned me quite a few looks and scoldings, but honestly? Even if that initial statement was very extreme, I still hold that same sentiment.

Makeup is marketed specifically as something that every girl should need. Not want, need. You need this to make yourself look pretty. You need this to make people like you. I watched confident girls go from taking names and kicking butts to scrambling to find lipstick because they had lost all confidence that they could be themselves without it.

It scared me. It still does.

Makeup is a mask you put on. It's not the real you. And to people who wear it, the thought of ever taking it off is terrifying.

Here's the thing, though- makeup doesn't change the way you act around people. Makeup doesn't change your personality. All it does it alter your confidence in yourself.

I agree. Young people shouldn't be wearing it, and a lot of things that young'ns do that mimic adults is also scary. They dress up like they're 20 rather than 12 because they're convinced that's the only way adults will take them seriously, then once it becomes a habit, it's hard to break since they've latched onto this concept so strongly that it's a part of them now.

It's scary. It's sad. The internet has just made it worse, because now they get praised for it by everyone, since everyone they know (and then some) will see them.

This isn't the case for everyone, obviously. There are some people who just like to use it, and dress up to look nice with it. Men, enbies, and women alike will use it to make a statement, or to just feel good. That's perfectly fine! More power to you! But I'm talking about the people who feel like that physically cannot be seen if they aren't wearing makeup. People who will actually cry if they find out they don't have spare eyeshadow in their purse.

The worst part is that this isn't taken seriously. "It's just makeup, it's not harmful unless you use the wrong products." No, it is harmful. Y'all just not looking hard enough.

If you're under the age of 18, please listen to me. Don't do this. Yes, it makes you feel confident and makes you look beautiful, but if it's getting to a point that you can't wear it without it taking a chip out of your confidence, DON'T. That's more reason to NOT wear it.

Wear it as an accessory, not a mask. If it's a mask, then please consider opening up and showing us the person behind it. I promise you're not ugly. I promise you're not less fun to be around. You can still do your hair and clothing (though try not to sexualize yourself, either, and if you don't know what that means, DM me or look it up), and you'll still be beautiful.

There's my hot take for the day. Take it or leave it.

[darthsuki]

Hey dad, I've got a problem. I've known this friend of mine for years and we dated for a while but it didn't work out. I dated one other guy in the time where he and I didn't talk (I'm the anon that also talked about the admin whom we could call Daddy, if you remember) and now we're friends again. Our conversations usually end up with a lot of sexual tension and while I've decided that I don't love him anymore I still take advantage of the tension, if I can call it that. (1/?)

I still live with my parents and they’re on vacation this week so I told him I’d be cool with voice/video calls. Again this ended with sexual tension and we ended up doing some mutual masturbation (we were both reading doujinshi) and it was okay. We both weren’t noisy (but I did let out a lot of sighs especially during the end) so it almost felt like I was just masturbating alone. Now he knows I don’t love him and the chance of us getting together is p much zero but he still likes me. (2/?)

He doesn’t care what I want to do, he trusts me enough to do basically whatever. I know he’d never use anything against me if that makes sense. Now the worrying part. While we were chatting I had fun but I keep wondering if maybe I do like him, but I always come to the conclusion that I don’t. The other guy I dated (I’ll call him W) I know for sure that I loved him. I felt comfortable doing whatever with him and that we were a good couple (even tho I ended up being wrong in the end) (3/?)

With this friend (I’ll call him P) I know I can tell him anything but I don’t want to date him. He told me after last night that we don’t have to speak of it again if I didn’t want to, or could try again. Thing is, we were looking for a time where we could meet up again (since we’re long distance) but after overthinking a lot again last night I don’t wanna see him for a while. When I thought about dating him I just couldn’t see it. P’s romantic, but I don’t want to be part of it. (4/?)

With W, I could imagine us doing everything, to just normal couple stuff and anything on a sexual level (we had almost exactly the same kinks) but I just don’t even like imagining myself with P. With W I felt beautiful and happy and such, with P I guess it just feels more platonic than anything? I feel really bad “using” him to feel less lonely. W has a new gf and I’m happy for him because I still lowkey love him, but I feel that it’s unfair because I’m a great gal as well.(5/?)

My relationship with W was ldr so I never saw him outside of my phone’s screen. That’s why I tell people I haven’t ever been in a relationship. I see people around me dating and being happy and I love tumblr imagines but I get scared when thinking of dating. Like I’m not worth being loved, but I have a lot of love to give. I’m a little clingy, love romance (and my kinks) (6/?)

I’m a senior in high school this year and I’ve accepted I won’t get a good relationship until I go to college. I’m trying to lose weight to feel better about myself but I also know relationships aren’t everything. What I’m trying to ask is, what should I tell P? I don’t wanna hurt his feelings but I feel uncomfortable doing “couple things” with him. And should I be worried about a relationship? Tysm (7/7)

Long answer short: you should absolutely tell P that you do not feel the same way that he seems to feel for you. I have a very personal story about a similar relationship that I myself had in high school, which I look back on with some regret because I was too passive and didn’t communicate or work for what made me happy.

Longer answer under the cut bc it’s a bit long

I started dating someone in high school that I had a mutual friend with–for the most part, he was part of my friend group that sat together at lunch, hung out during in-school free time, ect. I was at a time in my life where I wanted to be in a relationship and utterly romanticized the idea without being very knowledgeable or experienced in myself or what I wanted (I was questioning my sexuality, gender, and a billion other things at the time). Though my ex at the time (lets call him R) was more or less a sweet guy, he was obviously very inexperienced and had way more romantic (or perhaps only sexual) feelings towards me. I wanted to be in a relationship and so I stayed with him, even though I eventually decided that my feelings for him were purely platonic. This became an increasing issue for me; it made me stressed and anxious, constantly second-guessing my own wants simply so that I didn’t upset anyone. 

I was with R for a total of years, and while he was a good friend, he was definitely not someone I should have been dating, and not nearly for that long. Among problems that made it a bad romantic relationship, I simply didn’t share any romantic or sexual attraction to him, and almost got to the point where I told myself I was straight-up broken and that fictional relationships had ruined my ability to feel love for other people (a total cop-out excuse, but I nevertheless believed it). It wasn’t until shortly I graduated that I finally stood up for how I felt and told him that I didn’t share his romantic feelings and we broke up, but not without a shit-ton of guilt-tripping where he tried to convince me otherwise (keep in mind this was the SECOND break-up attempt, because the first time a year prior, he guilt-tripped me and won, furthering my self-doubt).

Because I didn’t prioritize my feelings over others, I was in a relationship for 3 years that I was absolutely unhappy with and, to some degree, felt extremely uncomfortable with. I like to blame that for my inexperience and lack of self-confidence at the time, along with the turmoil that came with trying to figure out my sexuality and gender in a very cisheteronormative home.

Always prioritize how you feel when it comes to any relationship–the moment you start to make excuses, that’s when its worth really flies out the window. You will definitely hurt yourself when you don’t remember to keep your wants and needs in the forefront of your mind, and I absolutely say that you need to tell P how you feel, regardless of how he’ll feel or take it. He is not entitled to your love, your feelings, your anything. A relationship is based on mutual respect, adoration, and a desire to encourage and help the other people involved in it. It is ALWAYS mutual.

If he can’t respect that you don’t share romantic or sexual feelings for him, if he can act like an adult and understand that no attraction is obligated to become something more, then you shouldn’t affiliate with him at all in all honesty.

On the same topic of relationships, I learned a bit of a hard way that you’re honestly better off looking for them once you’re out of high school. I know this can seem weird, but the romanticism of being in a relationship–especially when you’re younger/still in high school–can lead to a lot of inexperienced people hurting themselves and others because they don’t yet understand what they want out of a relationship. 

It wasn’t until I got my feelings and self together that I was emotionally prepared to be in a relationship I would consider deep and fufilling in all honesty, and that’s the one that I’m currently in with my two partners. I’m gonna be 23 next month, if that’s any sense of an anchor-point for where you’re at. It’s nice to be in a relationship, I won’t deny that! It’s helped me learn even more things about myself in a healthy environment, such as me being trans and asexual, but it’s also because the people I’m with understand that we have to put our needs first and worth them out together. 

As long as you stay safe, focus on your needs and desires, and work hard on being confident to stick to your guns to make sure that whatever relationship you may find yourself in is healthy and mutual, then you don’t have anything to worry about. Just enjoy life one day at a time as best as you can, and I’m always here if you ever need any other advice or help with something.