#plus I wouldn't wanna be like 'um actually hello women on this site please stop thinking about yourself as xyz'

[contagious-watermelon]

what is it with all of y'all on here (<- overgeneralization) acting like trans people are just members of our assigned birth sex who look superficially different + well you say you're a man/woman/nonbinary/etc and gender is fake so we can accept that you are

mostly I'm talking about bottom surgery. why is it that every post on here about trans men assumes he still has (and is okay with having...) his original genitalia. why have I seen someone saying "the trans genitals" to, I assume, refer to genitals that "don't match" someone's perceived sex (perhaps I'm being uncharitable and they meant post-op as opposed to natal genitals... either way the way it was worded was incredibly vague bc they couldn't bear to say the words they actually meant)

even the conversation about "should you tell your sex partner that you're trans" assumes the trans person in question is pre-op — in which case I thought we all obviously agreed it was a given (mostly for your own safety) that you tell your partner in advance of sleeping with them. to me the only situation in which that discussion makes sense is when you actually have the choice to have sex and not tell them — i.e., when you're post-op and passing. and usually when you're stealth. but those three things, particularly and especially being post-SRS, seem to be forgotten as possibilities for trans people to be