#pls my fellow bylers

[lunabug2004]

I Hate Karen and Ted Wheeler (Mainly Ted)

So... a few days ago I saw someone's post defending Ted Wheeler and it made me kinda mad so I wanted to share this bit of info I learned in class recently: statistically, the absolute worst form of parenting is neglectful parenting. Let me elaborate a bit.

As mentioned in my intro post, I am currently in college studying to become a math teacher, and as part of my degree I have to take a course called Educational Psychology. One of the first things we went over was different forms of parenting and how they can affect a child. The worst style of parenting we discussed, called uninvolved or neglectful parenting, was defined as "Parenting lacks both control and responsiveness. Parents of this style are typically unaware of their child's behavior, friends, difficulties, or achievements." Sound familiar? Ted & Karen (but mainly Ted) Wheeler.

This form of parenting can also often lead to emotional or physical abuse. Now, I'm not saying that Ted or Karen abuse their children, but it should definitely say something that if they were just that little bit worse, it probably would be the case. Ted Wheeler is just the perfect example of an uninvolved/neglectful parent and anyone who can't see that is frankly blind. And yes, you could this was fairly common in older times, but it absolutely does not make it right.

We can also clearly see the results of a neglected child in both Nancy and Mike. They don't know how to talk about their feelings in a healthy, mature way because they were never taught. Because their parents never cared when they had problems, and never tried to reach out to them either. (Cue, Karen saying, "he'll come to us when he's ready" after her son's best friend died or Ted and Karen forcing Mike to get rid of toys in s2 instead of trying to help him when he's obviously acting out.) We don't know for sure what the case is with Holly, but it seems like both Ted and Karen are making more of an effort with her. Why? I don't know. Maybe they finally realized the reason their other kids are holed up in their rooms (or basement) or always out with friends, why they don't talk to them, why dinners always end in fights. Too little too late for their oldest and middle, but maybe they can still change for their youngest. (I doubt it, I believe most of what we see of them in s3 is them putting on a show for others but what do I know?)

Anyways, I'll stop rambling now. I just wanted to put that piece of information out there just in case some still think the Wheelers are good parents :)

[miatartistry]

fellow byler artists, or just fellow fanartists in the stranger things fandom, or even fic writers, please follow me!! i want more artist/writer moots!!! :D

[hawkinsp0st]

logging off till later, so i’ll leave y’all with this: please discuss what you think we’re going to see in that van scene script/4x8 as a whole tomorrow, like, genuinely! i’m so curious to know what we are expecting or what everyone thinks !!!

• my fellow astrology byler and i did a lil astrology analysis of tomorrow’s date and we think whatever we get is going to be……subtle? @rainbow-roomies feel free to jump in if you want, bc i think u can describe it better than i can !! :-)

• my personal speculation is i think we will see something very similar to what we saw in 4x4—will’s pov of being in love with mike—except this time, possibly stronger on those beloved stage directions for will (eyes welling up etc), as the van scene is basically will’s love confession so ofc he’s going to be feeling emotional and lovey.

• for the rest of 4x8 or even during the van scene, i think it’s highly possible we’ll get some mike pov-ish where he’s missing el or really happy to see her or thinking of her fondly/lovingly. i just want to remind y’all that if that happens that doesn’t mean anything bad for byler !! i think elmike are like, platonic soulmates and i think mike is genuinely devastated that el was taken to NINA. also, it feels like this season is seen thru will’s pov, so if we see mike feeling truly “in love” w el that’s likely just the way will perceived it as our unreliable narrator (thank u @causeineedu for this concept it changed my life)

anyways pls reply or reblog with what u think, i wanna see what everyone has to say when i come back tonight/tomorrow morning before i get that script email 🥰

[bylrlvr]

my fellow byler girlies,, i havent been active for a bit and ive seen some people talk about noah’s panel or something like that?? what is that about, pls elaborate. and what else has happened recently

[lesbianremu]

idk why my byler posts keep getting trampled and slobbered over by mileven shippers but can some fellow gay people pls save me WHY ARE THEY SO MAD

[lunabug2004]

Scrolling on my tumblr rn is such a rollercoaster. One sec i see a post that makes me so giddy my face hurts from smiling, then the next i see a post that makes me mad sad for the next hour. Crazy.