#physical contact in a romantic sense is just weird and uncomfortable and gross to me

[echojedis]

I relate to your kissing review. Had my very first boyfriend at 28. I lasted 3-ish months. He was a lovely person, but I liked nothing that a romantic relationship entailed. Didn't really care for physical contact, intimate physical contact was so OFF the table. I tried to feel any sort of romantic interest - never happened before that point, not with anyone, and it wasn't happening then. Kissing was ... not a pleasant sensation. I tried to learn to like it - didn't work. Kissing is not for me. I freaking love seeing/reading/imagining my fave characters doing all these things, but I myself don't wanna be on the receiving end. Fast forward a few months after I broke up with said person. Lightbulb moment. "Damn, I might be aro/ace." 😅

This is so real!! I love imagining scenarios between fictional characters but I just feel…absolutely nothing with those kind of interactions in real life and I can’t force it. And that’s okay, as much as society pushes the expectation to have romantic relationships they’re not for everyone! I’m very very introverted, I like my space and independence and I’m not willing to change my lifestyle to accommodate another person, I’m not made for relationships and I’m fine with that