#people should be able to learn ina safe environment

[suffrajett]

An interesting article on the in-between zone when it comes to trans care.

My biggest takeaway is how trans care has become black and white and political, and how that hurts trans people and those considering if they are trans. someone’s identity is so maleable and unique that it requires maleable and unique care for each patient. One size fits all models never work for any care- why would gender care be different?

Transphobes are obviously incredibly dangerous and their policies and bigotry are killing people and hurting so very many!

But I also think that it is good to give young people a chance to explore their identity safely and figure out who they are without pressuring them to label themselves trans immediately the moment they question their gender.

Gender and sexuality and identity are all so hard to explore without all these outside pressures to either ‘be cis het you godless heathen- kill yourself‘ or ‘immediately transition and ignore your comorbidities or other possible identities or you’ll kill yourself.’

Like… identity is hard to navigate. People should be able to find their fit with no outside pressure. Are you gay? Are you just slightly gender nonconformist but cis het? Are you nonbinary? Are you trans? I wish we could have better models to help people explore this and have them be more universal models instead of just ‘get fucked’ or ‘transition immediately!’ Like, exploring is healthy.

It took me a while to figure out my sexual identity- and mostly because I grew up in the south ina. Time when me being seen as a lesbian hadnñarents calling my house - but if I was a kid today I could see me accidentally believing I was trans since I was not very gender conforming in many ways as a kid, loved playing boys in plays, and wanted a deep voice to hit low notes at times. 90% of the time I like being feminine now, and am on my way to being a mom- and 10% I love doing ‘man-voice’ and occasionally like drag. I know I’m queer now, but I grew up at a time where being queer was not safe and identity that wasn’t cis het was seen as dangerous. The only thing I’m grateful for from that horrible oppressive state and time is that I had time to know who I was and figure out my identity.

I never want kids to experience the deep fear and shame I went through- and know sadly so many kids still do- but I hope we can give them the time and space they deserve to know who they are and take their time with it. We should be able to let them explore all the nuances before getting locked into anything.

Are you trans today? Cool! What are your pronouns? If it’s my kid,‘I’d also ask that we explore what gender means to them. What part of that different gender calls to them? Have they thought about sexual orientation? What does it mean to them to be a man/woman/person etc. let’s explore and learn in a safe environment where it’s ok for what you identify with now to not necessarily be perm any, but it’s also ok for it to be permanent.

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Matt's dad accepted a payment from the FBI for "mistreatment" They offered the same to my father but my father turned it down, stating he just wanted us to be left alone. So they of course in their evil ways thought they could twist it enough to be able to bother Matt So they would do stuff like test his poop and pee, offer him to have sex with sleazy chicks Jesse was into. But Matt says he didn't mind it so much because mark would give him photos of me or videos. While I had complete amesia, he had the opposite. He did have alot of trauma tho, but mark would try to make it comfortable and safe. Like he had to only give one poop sample cause he complained and mark told him just to do it and he would tell them that there was a misunderstanding. Cause me and Matt were talking once about poop.. and they thought that what I ate came out his butt and what he ate came out mine. So they had to test his poop. Because they weren't allowed to interact with me. Of course Matt would just shit in the toilet and it took three days for them to get a sample... Only when they covered the toliet with saran wrap so he didn't have to try to shit into a cup would he let them take his poop. I ain't gonna lie and say they didn't hold a gun to his head so he would shit for them because they did. But he knew they wouldn't because he was the sole link to the Poop So he popped off because he knew it was the poop they wanted. Not his brains popped all over the floor like some massive dirreahah Anyways so Matt had it rough. So his little ass holeness like grabbing his dick after he gets lost on the track, it's just him saying he can beat you. And he does. It's why he's so fuck you without any remorse... Until of course he tries to but heads with me then he is "#1Jerk" which he proclaimes himself Honestly I don't like it. I just wish he wouldn't be one.. alot of times I don't think he is one but when I do think he is one it takes him a week to realize it and then even he's still fuck you Sabrina Not really.. kinda but not. Like the reason he upset me doesn't change he still is all just deal with it But he tries to not to upset me more. And then eventually I roll my eye at him and tell him I think he's dumb but I'll try to deal with his format that just seems completely irrelevant to anything logical. I have amnesia and im completely sick all the time and I drive him absolutely nuts because I won't eat or take my medicine and he still loves me. So I can't hate him for being irrelevant & illogical... Right? That's not nice. So Terri asked Mark, "so tell me, was Sabrina really a good kid or Was she a total hellian?" Mark says without a beat "perfect, she was a marvelous kid." "Honest?" "Honestly" I was a good kid. I was Cinderella. I found it easier just to do my best and feed the house and just live. I didn't like make dinner and wait for my mom to come home so we could all eat together. I cooked according to my stomach. I didn't eat breakfast nor lunch so Ina's starved for dinner And a snack wasn't enough. So I cooked after an hour of laying down or immediately, depending on how I felt and then we ate. Denise didn't really seem to mind that we ate without her although she did try to give my dad shit from time to time. I told him I cooked for me and she was more than welcome to cook when she came home and that everyone else happened to be hungry when my food was ready so I shared. So no one really had the right to be mad at me. Now did they? I told him I would not share if that made him happy. He said that I would go around bragging that dinner was ready and so maybe I should keep my mouth shut I didn't like eating alone tho so that lasted less than a week. Plus my mom wouldn't cook. But I did the dishes everyday and cooked everyday and I had to do everyone's laundry to go out on Saturday night with my aunt that was as old as my Gramma So really no. I wasn't a hellian. Which is why in such a "bitch" because I can't stand alot of shit That's why I'm so "hard on" people I'm not some rich bitch all threatening and demanding although alot of people see me that way because that's what they're used to or that's how they are. But I'm not. I just work really fucking hard for nearly nothing. Or alot of times, especially with the NHRA which is always, for absolutely nothing money orinantated. Hell it's difficult enough to get respect Mostly it's just fear But whatever, some people don't understand the concept of respect and usually those are not respectable or respectful people so their loss. They can have that fear It's not my job to analyze every fucking person on the planet and tell them what they lack. I'm just gonna instill what you attempt to instill into me. Be it trust, fear, respect, hate, whatever. Eye for an eye. I ain't got much more time for anything but that. I still to my morals regardless if you have any or not. So you either learn or not. Idc. It's not my job to make sure your soul is safe in the environment that you create. It's my job to make sure that My soul is safe around you And it's pretty fucking easy for you because I don't go around you, you come to me. So you can complain but idc it just means that my message is making sound. And that's better than nothing. Like Mike Andrews is all "I'll be here until she gets Jesse and Dejoria in jail" Seriously? HES THE COP NOT ME He's a total dumb ass. He cheats on his wife and he's trying to get back with her then blames me when I post shit about him. That's the only reason he cares if they go to jail for he can get back with his wife and keep the money Because if I do it then he didn't betray JP But yeah he's praying so that's basically the same thing. He's values aren't with JP anymore that means he's betrayed JP So Matt is all brash and gross and rude to people to get them to go away from him I'm just honest. It is what has worked with us for our life dealing with the FBI.