#patients shouldn't have to seek this stuff out themselves

[adhbabey]

You should always be wary of people who swear off therapy and then minimize, attack and step over your own feelings and experiences, because they think they're above having therapy, or they've tried it for one day, or one week and didn't seek another professional's advice.

Because genuinely, my heart goes out to everyone whose tried therapy and it hasn't worked for them because of problems outside of their control. But for people who fight you on the fact that therapy never works, not for anyone, and that they're better off just reading psychology and theory, those are the people that you should criticize the most.

It is obvious to anyone in the disabled or neurodivergent or mentally ill community that plenty of professionals are fucking stupid or ignorant because they haven't researched enough or learned past a certain point in their lives and stopped helping their patients beyond what they took tests for. And those are the people who let down people the most when it comes to helping people. Those are the people you shouldn't trust with your time or money.

So what makes you think that reading a couple psychology books, probably the same old, traditional bullshit, that they taught to all those terrible doctors, will actually help with yours or anyone else's mental health issues. Everyone whose met an annoying psychology major knows. It's clear that trying to be intellectually superior than a literal patient in therapy, or someone actually living with the disabilities described in those books, isn't the brightest idea.

As someone whose tried and failed to DIY their own mental health journey, it is not easy nor recommended to go through this shit alone. You probably shouldn't, because its damn well easy to make your mental health worse, because it's so easy to fuck something up. Like accidentally or purposely triggering yourself, in order to get to the bottom to why you're feeling something. It's not fun.

So please, if you're having trouble finding therapy, there are community resources out there to help you deal with shit on your own, but don't go spouting stuff you don't actually understand. Don't go trusting strangers who say they have the answers to self help, and then twist around actual clinical terms to bring their point home, don't listen to those people. Don't listen to people who spitefully swear off therapy because they think they can handle it all by themselves. Just don't trust people who don't actually have a degree, and still criticize the ones that do. If some advice to you, seems off, or overblown or diminished, you should be questioning that advice. You should be getting a second opinion.

I make mental health and disabled content all the time on here because I want people to be informed, and to find community and resources to get the help that you need. But you can't pull therapy words out of your ass and expect people not to question you. Talk to the community and don't just go informing random strangers, if you don't know what you're talking about.

If you abuse your platform to misinform other ignorant people, you deserve to have your platform taken away. So treat the chance to educate people as a privilege, don't use it to spout bullshit that you don't understand. Therapy isn't a last resort, so don't listen to anyone that treats it that way.

[psychelis-new]

And I know about the " people who are friends with everyone are friends with no one" thing. I'm not speaking about this, not of that kind of popularity. But the people who are kind to everyone. Who speak to everyone like they are their friend. About their daily things and stuff. People who are just your classmate, not a friend, they do not know you this much, but still manage to touch your soul. People who you will miss having in your life. And touch your soul way more than some of your actual friends, ironically.

Who speak to you like you are their friend. Their actions matter so much, even if they do not realize it. They can help in your darkest moments without realizing and intenting to do it. Bc they just are like that.

And I personally am so much against treating everyone the same way, but I'll forever love them. Because to me some people are not worth my true self, personality, if that makes sense.

(Last part I promise)

( I literally cried 2 hours about this)

( and wrote a short letter to one of them that I will not send them. Bc what if she just thinks it's embarrassing. And send it to all of her friends. Some know me some not. I was being made fun of so much in the past. Maybe if I wasn't I would have turned in like them. I try to speak up my mind and all nowdays but I think I will never be like them.)

Whatever is your definition of popularity, we're all still humans, and we can (or at least try to) be friend with those we find interesting or inspiring and would like to get more in touch with. Ofc this is something you need to realize within yourself, but... you just wrote about the problem in the last paragraph you sent, imo. The fact that you were made fun of in the past. I'm sorry you had to deal with idiots who couldn't afford their own trauma by themselves, but I hope you'll understand it had nothing to do with you or your worth and lovability. Ofc this hurt you so bad, and your self confidence and trust got destroyed by it, but what happened doesn't mean you can't be treated as anyone else or that you're any less of other people. Or that the people you so deeply admire cannot be your friends cause you don't deserve them. And tbh, you can still work on you and become like them, and actually, as I mentioned in the other answer, you can do even better than them cause you really know how it feels like to be on the other side. You can be of so much help, especially the moment you realize how worthy and important you are. Give yourself just one chance, please.

And you know, the more we tell ourselves "I will never make it"/"I can never be like that"..., our mind learns a message and will always block us when it comes to give us chances on that thing we are considering. Try changing how you speak with yourself. Be patient, be kind... yes, it's gonna be so dang hard in the beginning to look in the mirror and support yourself I'm not gonna lie, but you don't have to be your enemy, you should be your bestie and supporter. You should be one if those people you admire so much for yourself. What would they tell you? That you can never make it or that you can do it? I think it's the second, all the way the second one. Don't you? :)

I didn't quite get this paragraph tbh "And I personally am so much against treating everyone the same way, but I'll forever love them. Because to me some people are not worth my true self, personality, if that makes sense." but it's probably cause I don't get what's wrong with you, while you can only see that because of what happened... I'm guessing.

I really hope one day you can seek and find the help you need and see your true self trying to get out of the place you hide them inside of you. Cause they're already asking you to be freed, and it's shown by you trying to speak your mind more often and be like the people you admire (and ofc, it's up to you but... if you trust this person and see them so kind and gentle, you probably shouldn't be worried about sending your message to her and it beaing leaked or made fun of... you won't be made fun of forever, these aren't idiots as the ones you had to deal with in the past... right? And again, it's not you anyway, even if it totally feels like it is).

Again take care. (you know I have watched some videos about jiu jitsu as I'd like to try it one day if my body allows as for self defence mostly, and honestly read of so many people -even kids who were bullied- with such low self confidence and trust came out of even just a few days trials as a totally different person, so much more confident and brave. If you feel unsafe -cause that's the core problem anyway imo-, maybe you should find a way to heal that or something that can help you gain more confidence too and martial arts can possibly be of support if they're something that you may find interesting or for you)

[hanjifuck]

.˚｡⋆ ༊ .˚｡⋆ stray kids ideal types - series .˚｡⋆ ༊ .˚｡⋆

bang chan version ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ

based on their birth charts! s2

✧*:.���. t/n: i'll be using SIDEREAL astrology on this one. it's also important to say that when we talk about romance in astrology we have to fully analyse the couple's birth charts individualy at first and only then apply compatibility analysis so we're able to check out the synastry overlays.

✧*:.｡. t/n: kinda proofread. <3

the basics:

someone who has sun in virgo or in the 5th house;

aquarius and gemini moons are the ideal but aries moon is also great, libra is good, leo and sagittarius moons are a maybe. capricorn and cancer moons are absolutely a no;

venus in virgo, scorpio, cancer or capricorn;

mercury in virgo (or capricorn/taurus).

obviously there's way more aspects to look into to see if a relationship would work but i'd rather not go too deep into it right now.

a person who's patient and honest. he takes his time into getting to know you before he commits. so, when he does commit, there’s no room for him to change his mind. he's worthy of a romance novel. he will make sure that the bond is strong and stable for both.

someone who's good at communicating, reading people's intentions and has a good sense of humour. he tends to use his voice to express himself and he's such a sweet talker when it comes to romance. communication and intellectual rapport are his thing, so it's important for him to have someone who he can talk to. so good at covering it up his intentions or even lying (but you guys didn't hear this from me), except that he tends to tell the truth in almost any and every situation. he loves to tell stories and to see the smile and hear the laugh of the loved one.

a partner who's not afraid of commitment and long term relationships. listen to me, this man is looking for a soulmate connection, someone to pay him due attention. he's a romantic at heart and has a strong need for love in his life, it being his ultimate driving force, a passionate lover and he knows how to maintain the flame of true love. without love he would be nothing.

someone who knows how to talk to people and be pleasant during social situations.

someone who's highly vulnerable and revealing with him, ONLY.

a person who's adventurous. he does not know how to stay still, he wants to expand and has a hedonistic type of approach to how fun should work in a relationship. he can't be more happy then when his able to impress you with his creative side. if you like an intellectual approach to life you will love it as well.

a positive person, someone who's optimistic and make things seem easy.

an intense, bold, strong-willed and powerful person. would love a partner who knows how to stand up for themselves. he wants besides him a person who can make the world kneel in front of them.

someone who will do anything to seduce him.

someone who challenges him (in a good way, ofc). he loves to be dared as he sees it as stimulating, a reason to try even harder, to put even more effort in. he's prop to play mind games (maybe manipulating, even if it's not his intention, since he makes everything sound so wonderful). often fueled by curiosity and a desire to control/possess others for himself *only with those who he actually loves since he sees romance/sex as super meaningful, on a soul level thing, and focus 100% on the person he loves.

emancipated, educated and high intelligent individuals. a pretty face will never be enough, sorry. virgo sun in the 5th house? pfffff this man is a genius.

someone who's younger or appear youthfu/has a youthful personality. he needs a eager-to-learn-and-to-enjoy-life-with-him person. channie's prone to take up the dominant/leading role in a relationship as well. it's like he has this strong pedagogical (?) side to him (and once again my theory that he would be a teacher if he wans't in the entertainment business is proven right ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)

a person who's not avoidant or keeps to many secrets. if you keep stuff away from him he may misinterpret things quite easily.

a partner who's as clingy as he is. channie does not stand being alone for too long. he needs your warm touch and gentleness.

a freedom-lover type of person, someone who seeks inspiration and fun. he's extremely motivated and light-hearted, very flexible and adaptative.

a person who knows how to encourage him. basically someone who knows his intentions almost better than he does. he has a need for validation and appreciation cus sometimes he fixates on certain ideias but doesn't have what it takes to go further with it.

someone who would enjoy having kids, taking care of them, educating them together, and is family-oriented. he would love to have a partner who's as excited as he is to mentally stimulate his kids. very inclined to having lots of children. he wants someone who has the potential to go all the way to the finish line. man's want commitment.

a person who's charming, "feminine", sensuous and romantic. he's not interested in a person who is crude. he has strong yang energy on his birth chart so it's a good thing if your chart is yin energized. the whole thing about lighting up candles, putting on some romantic music is important to him. may be enticed by a person who has an overly sexual appearance (SPECIALLY if you have scorpio sun or rising), femme fatales (the energy, not necessarily a woman) are just right for him. maybe someone quite mysterious as well.

someone who's painfully monogamy. you can trust him on remaining faithful, as long as his partner do the same. trust is important for him and when it comes to love, it's absolutely essential. if you don't want to lose him forever you shouldn't break his confidence. he rarely has any interest in casual encounters, not being the type to take different people home every night. loyalty is such a turn-on for him, cute. he wants to be only yours, so he expects the same from you, not wanting you to even look at other people. the more committed to him, the deepest his love is.

someone who's not shy. he’s a non-conformist, private person and rather do his own things, away from the public eyes. remember when he said he usually likes "dark things"? man wasn't lying. he knows exactly who he is and what he likes even tho society might shun him for it. however, he does not care. <3

a person who's devoted and dependable, who's also ready to work by his side. someone who knows how to handle his possessiveness and maybe even suspections. just be honest with him and patient enough to put him at ease, assuring him that he's the only one who deserves your attention and love. his jealousy may be really tricky.

okay, this dude has mars and venus conjunct pluto in scorpio. do you guys know what this means? i would DIE to make this man love me!!!!!!!!! help. he will be SOOO OBSESSED WITH THE PERSON HE MARRIES, IT'S INSANE KDISADJADNAUS HELP ME.

[eruverse]

Putting my thoughts regarding my last reblog on a separate post, because it's gonna be pretty long. Explaining my background, I've been drawing all my life but it remains a hobby. Sans this drawing course I did in elementary school, I have no formal artistic background, nor am I making money out of it. This makes my opinion about art probably unusual (idk), but I give zero fuck about it lol because I'm not seeking to preach to anyone except to make sense of my own values and experiences. Because I AM the one experiencing stuff and I AM the one interpreting stuff in my brain.

Well, actually, it's not like I didn't go to an 'art school' whatsoever:

(Not my actual school but it was located in the same city)

The Dutch during colonial era in Indonesia founded two medical schools, and they called them 'Artsen School'. Artsen is plural for Arts which means physician. Funnily, while I'm pretty sure the root word isn't linked in anyway to English word art as we know it, they look hella similar. And my lecturers, especially the old ones who probably were taught by actual Dutch medical lecturers themselves, always taught us that doctors are similar to artists, and that they have to embody the mindset of artists in their practice.

Why is a doctor similar to an artist?

Because they all have their own unique ways to cure their patients. Doctors give you prescriptions, and one doctor's prescription can include different things from another doctor's, even if in the end it's to cure the same illness. That's a very good thing. Sure, in medical school we certainly also learn the basics and standards, but doctors have to and will come up with their own arts when they're establishing their own practice. For sure, this is why doctors are the most bullheaded people in the hospital you will work with (if you work in one. Good luck lol). And it's by design!! Doctors who conform too much to the system are not very good doctors, because it means they're not independent. If doctors aren't independent, they shouldn't even be called doctors. How can one make final decisions to help the patients if they're not independent in the first place?

Anyway I have the MD but not a practicing doctor because I hate it, but this lesson stuck. In my mind, art simply means authentic creative outputs independently (and individualistically) done. That's why I think it's bad if one attempts to standardize arts into what's acceptable or not, for people in general, because it creates a system that seeks to cage artists and audiences in. An artist who falls for that is in the end not a very good one, because they lack an independent sense of self to generate artistic expressions. As an amateur, I think the purpose of art is most of all to invoke feelings in the people who perceive it anyway, and you can't control feelings, can you? You can try as hard as you wish to convey your art in a certain way, and there will still be quite a variety in responses. Because the way we interpret things differ from each other. An audience should be as independent as the artist, too. What's next, you want to say that only a certain kind of people should enjoy a certain genre of art? I think not.

[themindfuloverthinker]

Is there Heaven? Is there Hell? Is there Someone Who Can Tell?

It's A again. And I'm writing this while I'm at work and these thoughts just popped inside my mind.

Also, the title just came out naturally in my mind and actually sounds catchy.

First of all, I was born and raised in a kind of religious family. I'm a Roman Catholic, but (sadly, for some) I don't practice my religion that much. It's something my parents dislike, me not being as religious as them.

I consider myself as an Agnostic Theist.

(ctto of the photo)

I believe that there is a God but I also question it. I'm not entirely sure of His existence.

Agnosticism and Atheism are two different things to understand. It's not really that hard to understand the two as long as you keep an open mind.

But there is a similarity, they aren't bad nor they are evil as most people would think.

How did I become Agnostic when I was raised in a somewhat religious family? How did I become one even when I attended my classes in a Catholic university?

I've already known there was something different about me when I was a kid, I would always go to church on Sundays, I was taught how to pray the rosary, novenas and such, all that religious stuff but I just didn't feel it. It didn't really make me feel connected to my religion.

And then I realized that even though I practiced it and not feeling connected, I've been observant as well when I was a kid. I was a quiet kid but I always looked around and listened so here's the reason why I'm like this.

In my opinion and early observation as a kid, most religious people that I know of are, well, hypocrites.

I'm not saying that they're bad people. It's just that it irks me that they practice the religion in which they expect a moral dessert at the end of the road when they also do things that should be frowned upon.

Things, actions, words that hurt other people. That hurt their neighbors. In all honesty, if you don't like a person, then just be civil with them, don't talk badly about them.

And if you just can't help yourself and you just want to talk about a certain person, also talk about all the positive things they've done to you or made you feel, not just all the bad. Don't paint them as a bad person in the minds of the people around you because they do not know the person as they are, they'll only know them through how you want them to see that person.

(Sidenote: I'm actually still working on that last bit because it is honestly so hard when you've been hurt by those people you know who have done you wrong in the past. I'm honestly still in the works of being a good person just because I want to be, and not because there's a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.)

It's not just in my religion though, but maybe also in other religions as well.

I actually attended a Muslim Immersion tour where I had the chance to learn more about their culture and how they have played a part in my country's history. It was eye-opening and I was able to learn more about my country's untold history that was way before we were colonized.

Sadly, a lot of my Catholic brothers and sisters are afraid of the stigma laid out about them that were made and conditioned in their minds generations ago.

All I can say is that, there is no bad religion. Over all the religions in the world, there is no bad religion. Respect each others' religion.

There is in fact bad people. Bad people who were once good but were maybe forced, molded, or somewhat other things that made them out to be the bad version of themselves.

All people are born good, but people have the free will to choose on what they want to become morally factoring in the events in their life, they're upbringing, what they were taught, and their current situations.

We are good, not because of our religion. Our religion does not define ourselves. Religion is a part of what and who we are.

We are good because we want to be. We try to be. We try our hardest and best to be good in a world that's cruel.

I actually love a line from a series that I've been watching, "The Good Place".

"You're supposed to do good things because you're good! Not because you're seeking moral dessert."

For me it means, even if heaven and hell do or do not exist, we shouldn't be good based on the fact that we'll have a place in heaven or the good place and that we are afraid of going to hell or the bad place.

We all should be morally good because we want to be. We have to be. Just be natural humans. Be empathetic. Be understanding. Be patient. Just be good.

These are the thoughts of a Roman Catholic Agnostic Theist (sure, is a mouthful to say out loud.) and now I must bid you adieu as my thoughts have slowly calmed down as the tranquil sea like some of the beaches that I've visited.

Be kind, always, for no one knows if heaven and hell is real or not.

Just please be kind to one another. Always.

[thatodp-blog1]

So lets kick this off with a heavy starting point.

This article is American based and generally about the whole team in a Resus A&E setting. But give it a read, think of your experiences, how often have ODPs in resus been expected to ‘just move on’? I expect the statistic is huge and one that can absolutely pull on every human emotion we have. If you were luck enough to train in a large city hospital you will undoubtedly have had some experience of A&E resus during training, for others, even post qualification its not uncommon to almost walk into the place blind.  The role of an ODP has grown and as airway specialists we are expected in resus more and more, but remember your first time, or your most recent, or your most harrowing. 

The bleep goes off “ODP to Resus” and you move, no knowledge, no warning. You get in, the patient often there, family members, staff everywhere, voices and information flying. Chances are the only person you’ll know is the anaesthetist, or be mistaken for one. Stop. Introduce yourself to the scenario, ask the background and the plan. It might have been said 10 times already, but you need to know, no-one minds repeating this stuff, its vital. 

Chest compressions, intubations, failed intubations, chest drains, invasive monitoring, full on arrests, paediatric cases. It could be any of the anything and you just go at it. 

Sometimes we prove how good everything is, sometimes not. 

When we do its great, when our efforts doesn't work, we walk away. But do we? I’d hate to be someone that did walk away and not give it a thought. I remember my most traumatic loss, I remember every detail and when we stopped leaving and breaking a golden rule and sitting outside (in scrubs!) to process what happened. It stayed with me for days if not weeks, and I’ll never forget it. A few days later the anaesthetist at the same event caught me, we had a catch up about niceties then discussed the case. Both had gone home and had a drink and mentally replayed it a few times. She told me how impressed she was with my work, I told her the same (never be afraid to tell more senior people when they do well, we all need assurance). We talked about the background to the case and how we did our best. It felt better to discuss it and know someone was concerned how I felt afterwards. 

Recently one of our junior ODPs had a bad experience not so dissimilar to mine, 2 days later I caught them acting out a bit and not being themselves - I had heard about their experience. So I sought them out, privately, and discussed it. There were tears, frustration and rightly so. So why did it take 2 days for me to intervene and offer some support and guidance professionally?

I find it a worry sometimes ODPs are thrown at this and just expected to ‘deal with it and move on’. We aren't robots and we shouldnt be. Celebrate your humanity, seek responses from these events, find support in seniors / colleagues / professionally. Never be ashamed to admit sometimes this job can be rough.