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unicorpseboi · 1 year ago

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Having a partner with severe untreated adhd is super fun. Until everything they forget is things you’ve asked they help you with specifically cuz you’re chronically ill and need help and it just never gets done. Or when their social anxiety gets the better of them and you have to make a bunch of calls despite not being able to hear well on the phone because surely it isn’t fair to make them make all the calls. There’s gotta be some sort of compromise here that we’re just too stressed out to see. Cuz I know they aren’t doing anything malicious, but I’m also getting really exhausted having to do all of the mental work here when even reminders don’t help and seem to be annoying them more.

#I’m all about fairness #and I want to be understanding cuz I get it #It’s hard living with neurodivergency with no help or meds #but I’m also not physically well and some of the stuff they want me to do to be fair #are just things I can’t do because my body is physically incapable of doing it #and after a while when it’s constantly things that directly affect me that get ignored #I can’t help but feel like it’s personal #our roof is water damaged beyond repair because we’ve need to reseal it #I have the tools #I have everything we need #I just can’t get up on the roof physically and do it myself #and it just never gets done because when I bring it up my partner doesn’t feel like it in that moment #or is busy doing something else #so it never gets fixed #and every time it rains my side of the bed gets soaked because of water dripping on me overhead #I’m not sure what else I can do because even talking about this problem seems to be upsetting to my partner #I just asked them for validation that this isn’t what it feels like #that they don’t resent me #and it was such a chore and bother #it got them quite upset that they had to reassure me #which is great

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