#or it fucks with your hormones. i’m sorry u want someone with depression to have MORE hormone problems 😭🤧

[thewingedwolf]

i was cramping over the weekend and now i feel linen i had a sudden mood drop which is aggravating bc my period is p far off. i think i might need to go back on birth control but i’m like. so bad at remember to take it 😭

[autistic-katara]

cw transphobia/cw suicide/rant

disrespectfully, if ur the typa parent who treats ur kid coming out as trans as “ur little girl/boy dying” or u “being in mourning” and especially if u talk abt that infront of/to ur trans kid fuck you.

“let them have emotions” no, fuck that. u can have feelings like that or whatever, i’m not trying to police ur thoughts but 1. acknowledge that u need to work on those feelings for the sake of ur kid and 2. keep those feelings to ur fucking self.

and if u absolutely HAVE to talk abt them, do it privately, when ur kid’s not around, when no other trans kid who might be in a similar situation could hear. if someone asks u if u feel like that when ur kid’s sitting right fucking next to u just lie, or at the very least tell them uve been working on it (which u better have been.)

because it makes it seem like u think ur kid’s transition is abt urself (which i sometimes wonder if u mfs do think that), and it makes ur kid feel like they cant explore their own feelings abt them feeling like they killed the little girl/boy they used to be, even if its not related to gender or being trans at all, heck, maybe ur trans son feels weird abt thinking he “killed the boy he used to be” bcz of smthn else like depression or smthn and he feels weird abt thinking that bcz u talked abt how u feel in mourning for his past self and it made him feel super icky (or vice verca w/ ur trans daughter or enby kid).

parts of this go for other insensitive shit u could say to ur kid during their transition (“i’m worried it could be a trend” “hormones/blockers r just so dangerous”, comparing medically transitioning to girls developing anorexia due to diet culture, etc.)

i’m sorry, i know i should probably be sympathetic to parents going through a kinda (and partially rightfully) scary change but if ur saying or doing shit that negatively affects ur kid, even if u didnt mean it that way fuck u, idgaf abt how u feel abt it, how u feel like u lost a child, how u hate ALL surgeries (but especially an unnecessary one), how after a few hours of facebook research ur worried it could be a trend, how ur worried that using their name/pronouns might confuse their younger siblings (who would probably easily understand a simple explanation with the option to ask questions after if explained right), i do not give one single fuck abt ur self-centred, uneducated worries.

you might have good intentions or whatever but this shit is gonna kill your child, i’m sorry. and if it doesnt kill them its gonna make them hate u, both now and when theyre actually able to medically transition and live on their own.

and honestly, even if they do figure out “oh hey, i’m actually just cis but with a kinda complicated relationship to gender” i promise u they arent gonna thank u profusely for bringing up the worry that theyre not actually trans or making their transition so much harder and slower, theyre gonna hate u for making them scared to question their gender anymore incase u turn out to be right and u think u did the right thing which would both feel shitty for them personally for obvious reasons but might also hurt their trans siblings or the trans kids whos parents might be in the same facebook group or whatever.

and theyre very much gonna hate u for overlooking their feelings, doing stuff they know u know makes them actively suicidal, and not caring enough to look at actual resources for parents trying to support their trans kids better, preferably written by a trans person themself, and instead go to, again, ur mommy facebook group where ur bsf posts terfy memes and abt how “she doesnt want her teenage daughters in the same bathroom as perverted men!” (both “daughters” also being trans boys who coincidentally are both insanely suicidal, cope in unhealthy methods, and talk shit abt their parents the moment the topic of them comes up) and where they fear-monger abt how ur young impressionable girls (and probably boys too) are being taken advantage of by the evil transgenderism movement and how its a social trend for them to mutilate their bodies, “just like how girls would starve themselves to fit in when we were teens!”, and thats in the rare chance that they DO detransition.

anyways idrk what else to say other than support ur fuckin trans kids as much as u can, do actual research to support them, or dont be shocked when ur child tries to kill themself and/or doesnt speak to u anymore when their older, and when that happens i hope the pain u feel is as bad as half the pain we feel from having to deal with ur self centred transphobic bullshit that makes it feel like our parents dont love us and just see us as dolls and see our struggles w/ dysphoria as small irritation that surgery and hormones would be unnecessary to fix, and if u make ur kid feel like that i cannot stress this enough: Fuck. You. because you are the reason the child ur supposed to love, care for, and protect feels like this and wants to kill themself. just fuck you.

[satanfemme]

Sorry if this is really personal (sorta the reason I'm asking anonymously) but I am enby and I want to get top surgury and get these titty the fuck out. Is there anything people should know about top surgury?

Honestly my top surgery was super straightforward so I’m not sure how much new and original advice I can give but here’s some things I’m glad I knew going into it/wish I knew going into it/think u should know:

1: research surgeons, don’t just go with whichever one is most convenient. Check out their documented results, check out their reviews, search for their names in the r/ftm subreddit (

Some things to consider when researching surgeons besides results is which surgeries they offer (double incision, keyhole, etc), price, if they take ur insurance, travel prices/plans, how easily you can get there and get home (keep in mind someone else has to drive u home/to a hotel post-op!), and also just make sure u have some sort of meeting with the surgeon before deciding to go with them, whether that’s an irl meeting or a video call if they’re far away.

You should discuss with ur surgeon before hand how you want your results to look. In part so you know what to expect when the bandages come off (cause there’s gonna be like a week or two there post-op where you can’t actually see the results yet!!) but also there’s sometimes choices you can make about your results depending on the surgeon, things like nipple size and to some extent scar placement if ur doing double incision.

2: One complication that can happen that you should be aware of is post-op depression, I didn’t have any of this but it’s not uncommon and isn’t talked about v much. But just be aware that u might experience an emotional crash post-op and if that happens it’s 1. temporary and 2. doesn’t mean you made any mistakes or fucked up or anything. Just focus on giving yourself time to heal and hold off on making any harsh judgements until ur hormone stable out some. Tho that being said:

3: The process as a whole is not as scary as you might think, drains aren’t really that bad, going under isn’t that bad, and recovery isn’t usually that bad either. Everyone’s different but I spent like my first week post-op drugged out on pain meds and sleeping pills in and out of consciousness in a nest of pillows listening to mbmbam and that’s literally a state of bliss I long to return to. So, not that bad.

Hopefully that helps? Good luck getting top surgery and good luck with the procedure when it happens

[compassionatereminders]

Sorry about this I just really need to rant, Im gonna put a tw on this just in case bc idk what Im gonna say but Im so fucking angery >:( i have like 4 or 5 undiagnosed, completely untreated mental health things Including psychosis/schizospec, like am out here no meds no therapy bc services have been refusing to see me since i was like 13 (now 18) my mother refuses to believe me that im psychotic/schizospec and blames it on my vitamins/hormones/whatever, doesnt understand anything (1/?) - 🌟

“outside of her little narrow wellbeing "depression/anxiety" boxes, like those things suck and theyre super difficult, im just saying she doesnt understand there are other things. My dad is a fucking asshole, he makes me fun of me all the time for not being able to do simple things like get out of bed or taking forever to complete simple tasks like laundry (adhd/exec dysfunction), and he's even worse to my sister (autistic/adhd) and it just makes me so fucking angry like leave us alone!!”

“my now ex-boyfriend recently broke up w me for like the 3rd or 4th time which is a major struggle bc i also have boderline pd and we were together for p much like 2 years on and off and he said he never really liked me romantically this whole time, and I love him as a person but i also just wanna snap him like a glowstick because What The Fuck??? Took you two fucking years to figure that shit out????? Yeah whatever, but also he's my best friend so Im splitting on Him really badly

im just so frustrated because all the bad shit keeps happening to me like nothing remotely good that happens to me ever lasts and all the shitty things like the trauma and the abuse and the mental illness seems to Stick im just so tired, im so tired of screaming into the void that i want to be loved im so tired of begging to be treated like a real person by the people I love, is it too much to ask that something good Just Happens like it seems to Just Happen to everybody else?? 

is that selfish??? Is that unrealistic??? I dont know, I dont know anymore. Im so sorry for dumping all of this on you, I know you have ur own problems too so you can ignore all this if u want I just needed to Rant about it somewhere instead of just screaming into the void i needed someone to listen but u dont have to respond thats okay. I hope ur doing okay!! Ur drawings are very cute btw, keep practicing ur doing so well!!”  

It’s not selfish and unrealistic to want good things to happen - and while you may not see how or when right now, I am sure that good things WILL start happening at some point if you keep doing your best to cope and move forward. Your current situation is not your final destination and change is one of the only guarantees in life - so even if everything sucks right now, most of the things you’re struggling with at the moment is temporary. Try to hold onto that. 

According the lack of mental health care, have you looked into your options for seeking out mental health care on your own without involving your parents now where you’re a legal adult? As far as I’m aware, in most places child mental health services and adult mental health services are separate, meaning that even if child mental health services rejected you for years, that doesn’t necessarily equal that the adult mental health services will do the same thing. I definitely recommend looking into this if you haven’t already!

I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles with your parents and your ex boyfriend! It’s not easy to cope with mental illness, and facing judgment and ignorance from your loved ones definitely doesn’t make it any easier. Your ex honestly sounds like an asshole, and while you may still love him, this doesn’t automatically mean that he deserves anymore of your time. If you’ve been on and off for years and he hasn’t been willing or able to commit or even genuinely care, I think the best thing you can do is work towards moving on.

All in all this sounds like a real shitty and toxic situation and I am so sorry that you have to struggle through all this bullshit. It really isn’t fair. But please don’t let your current struggles convince you that it’s selfish or wrong to want to feel better, or that getting better is a hopeless project cause it isn’t. It may be hard and it may take time, but you deserve better and I promise you that if you keep pushing through and working on yourself, things will eventually improve.

[artsy--fartsy1]

Journal ramble entry#1

i know have depression and anxiety and i shoulD probably go seee my therapist but i kinda like it in a way like its my comfort zone. i know i should go get help so i stop feeling so anxious and come up with new ways to kill myslef. or just reigate my favourite way . things are finally starting to get kinda good but then i just push everyone away and get mad at them till imlonely again so then I’m sad again since things are kinda getting good i should be feeling good too but i don’t i feel more suciddal , anxious, and then i have in a long time i just don’t like it butiit s= my friend my only friend i just feel so drained and fed up all the time and bored with life  i take my ani=xiety pills but i don’t think they work conse=idering how many i take and i have to wait for the date where i can get more and I’ve usually run out before then so have withdrawal kinda where i feel worst ugh i m the worst i hate myself i wish i was skinny i wish i weigh less then 40kg i wish i just bones i wish i dead i wish i wasn’t needy at the moment i didn’t fantase about ending up in hospital for some reason and break something just for the attention I’m just so fat and ugly nobody loves or likes they just have cause they’re my and want something from me i don’t understand why they like i don’t even like me i want to do alll the things I’m supposed to do but i prefer to to just give and wollaw in my pit of dispear just liave bye alone stupid people I’m crying all the time now its not like me unless its my hormones but still its stupid and annoying like evertyinthg else I’m fed up oh god I’m gonna cry again my inside hurts i even have the engird to cry i want them to leave me alone but don’t want them to leave me alone ill ignore your message s hoping you’ll go away but i don’t want you to go away cause you make happy and sad anebverything  in-between but there i go again getting too attached getting too needy way too fast i want you pay attention to me and reply to my every message but i don’t want you focussing on me i want you talking about yourself but not too much but talking about me when I’m doing but just don’t no you stupid little shit hwyd you have to and do that why’d you send me messages then don’t why why why cry sad die i wanna be better for you be ma=y better self hwoi used to be i trying i  really am but its hard and i can’t so i give up you make me happy but I’m so needy and too involved in this way tooo much way too early that i get sad when igte no attention but then you’re there again hwy won’t you just o away you and t=your stupid beautiful ugly face i could just kiss slap you now but no its supposed to be perfect but I’m stilll recovering from all wounds making moving hard na adheres the pains again right on queue and dead tired sleep akey sad fed up and i check again and sigh still nothing i wonder why listen to your heart, kill yourself lol love it what you wanna be for halloween, dead lol i’m damaged. fucked up. broken. damn right i am love tumblr depression they have the best shit i can’t make the plans tonight that i kinda maybe said i’d go to but didn’t want to be my better said i did sorry not sorry i feel like crap best excuse i have given up can you stop trying to make me better maybe i don’t want to do something better with my life maybe i love the depression and the hopelessness and everything inbetweeen that comes with it ugh you just don’t understand maybe just want to till someone i have depression without them automatically asking how they can help or passing it off as some made up shitty illness for attention or an excuse or something maybe i just want to tae a mental health month whenever i feel like and just lay about not doing anything and here comes the hurtful pains in my chest again do do do oh oh oh its magic you know never believe its not so its magic you know never believe its snow duh duh duh duh we bare bears wink smile we bare bears duh jump that corner duh fish duh we bare bears we be there i need to turn the lights off but i have no energy i planned to get shitfaced tonight just to make me seem i don’t know overthinking is my worst gift its killing me literally reasons to live none comes to mind apart from my pets there the first and only thing i don’t feel so good i’m dead inside but i love nature I’m clingy leave i’m sad please leave i fall too fast and get too attached just leave my life is a mess JSUT LEAVE i’d rather sit alone that with people i dislike JUST FUCKIJNG LEAVE WHY WON”T YOU LEAVE i’m sorry LEAVe GOD DAMN IT don’t leave please don’t leave just please don’t leave me cry when i’m alone I’ve have dangerous thoughts or what some might call dangerous i call creative fun my middle name is danger but you spell r u t h lol cry die bye die i’m not living, I’m just killing time love it life is painful just wanna go somewhere where no one knows my name

[julystorms]

Oversharing

Tagged: by @poolsidescientist who is a cool bean!

Rules: once you have been tagged you are supposed to write 92 truths about yourself. At the end, choose however many people you want to tag!

LAST��� [1] drink: black tea [2] phone call: health insurance card activation line lmao [3] text message: future mother-in-law [4] song you listened to: Honey, Let Me Sing You a Song (Matt Hires) [5] time you cried: i don’t remember [6] dated someone twice: ???? what does this even mean in context last dated someone twice?? is this supposed to be a have you ever list? i’m marrying someone i dated 3 or 4 times so. [7] been cheated on: n/a [8] kissed someone and regretted it: n/a [9] lost someone special: it’s been some years [10] been depressed: comes with depression idk [11] gotten drunk and thrown up: n/a

LIST 3 FAVOURITE COLOURS [12] green [13] purple [14] peacock blue

IN THE LAST YEAR HAVE YOU… [15] made new friends: yeah [16] fallen out of love: no [17] laughed until you cried: yes [18] found out someone was talking about you: people are always talking who cares [19] met someone who changed you: yes [20] found out who your true friends are: uhh idk sure [21] kissed someone on your facebook list: i guess technically who fucking uses facesbook tho

GENERAL… [22] how many of your tumblr friends do you know in real life: i’ve met quite a few irl. [23] do you have any pets: eight cats [24] do you want to change your name: yeah tbh [25] what did you do for your last birthday: not a damn thing and it was great [26] what time did you wake up: 6am [27] what were you doing at midnight last night: trying to sleep [28] name something you cannot wait for: the weekend [29] when was the last time you saw your mother: christmas :( [30] what is one thing you wish you could change about your life: wish i wasn’t in pain all the time and that my arms worked right [31] what are you listening to right now: someone’s heater [32] have you ever talked to a person named tom: i used to have a work buddy named tom and i had a mad crush on him for some reason [33] something that is getting on your nerves: i’m pretty okay right now tbh [35] elementary: i forged notes to get out of having to go to recess. [36] high school: i barely remember it [37] college: i liked most of my classes [38] hair colour: blonde but more like a weird brown these days? idk. [39] long or short hair: shorter hair, i miss having long hair but it’ll take years to grow it out again. [40] do you have a crush on someone: the guy i’m gonna marry lmao [41] what do you like about yourself: i’m not a complete idiot

[42] piercings: none

[43] blood type: i have no idea [44] nickname: manna is a nickname but i use it daily [45] relationship status: engaged [46] zodiac sign: leo [47] pronouns: she/her [48] fav tv show: don’t ask me to pick [49] tattoos: none yet [50] right or left handed: right but i do a lot left handed since it’s a stronger hand

FIRST… [51] surgery: oral surgery to remove a badly fucked up wisdom tooth? sorta? i had to go to an oral surgeon for it but i wasn’t put under. [52] piercing: none [53] best friend: my cousin brianna we were born 2 weeks apart and were close for a while. [55] vacation: i went to virginia to visit a friend in 2005 does that count [56] pair of trainers: the fuck kinda question is this they make these for infants

RIGHT NOW… [57] eating: nothing [58] drinking: tea still [59] I’m about to: do my inventory tickets [60] listening to: heater... [61] waiting for: the day to end [62] want: to go home and nap [63] get married: ????????? this doesn’t make sense in context??? got a few weeks left before i’m married [64] career: where i’m at is fine

WHICH IS BETTER… [65] hugs or kisses: hugs [66] lips or eyes: eyes [67] shorter or taller: who gives a shit [68] older or younger: i’ve already had my midlife crisis [69] romantic or spontaneous: neither [70] nice arms or nice stomach: arms [71] sensitive or loud: middle ground [72] hook up or relationship: relationships [73] troublemaker or hesitant: the fuck does this mean

HAVE YOU EVER… [74] kissed a stranger? no [75] drank hard liquor? define ‘drink’ i’ve tried a lot of shit and most of it is nasty af [76] lost glasses/contact lenses? no [77] turned someone down: yes [78] sex on first date? hell fuckin no [79] broken someone’s heart? yeah several times (i’m sorry) [80] had your own heart broken? yes [81] been arrested? no [82] cried when someone died? i cried before they died if that counts [83] fallen for a friend? yeah

DO YOU BELIEVE IN… [84] yourself? i’m a boss ass bitch [85] miracles?  not the standard definition of the word, no [86] love at first sight? those are hormones i don’t happen to have so not for me, no [87] santa claus? never believed that lie and won’t perpetuate it either. [88] kiss on the first date? it’s up to the people involved [89] angels?  idk i mean the bible definition isn’t some touched by an angel shit but i’d probably prefer the latter it’s way sweeter but anyway...

OTHER… [90] current best friend’s name: i don’t believe in having one bff that’s bullshit. [91] eye colour: some awful blue color  [92] favourite movie: i always say Ever After but idk i have a lot of favorites.

Tagging: anyone 20 years old or younger if you see  this and want to do it. say i tagged u so i can read ur thing.

[wp-yahoo-style-1042-yahoopa-blog]

Even Gigi Hadid gets body-shamed — Here's why it needs to stop

It’s pretty universally accepted that body-shaming isn’t OK, but unfortunately, people still do it — and sometimes in a very public way.

Gigi Hadid is the latest celebrity to speak out after being body-shamed, addressing people who claim she’s gotten “too skinny.” In a series of tweets on Sunday, Hadid answered people who have been calling her out for her weight, citing her battle with Hashimoto’s disease.

For those of you so determined to come up w why my body has changed over the years, you may not know that when I started @ 17 I was not yet diagnosed w/Hashimoto’s disease; those of u who called me “too big for the industry” were seeing inflammation & water retention due to that.

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

Over the last few years I’ve been properly medicated to help symptoms including those, as well as extreme fatigue, metabolism issues, body’s ability to retain heat, etc … I was also part of a holistic medical trial that helped my thyroid levels balance out.

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

Although stress & excessive travel can also affect the body, I have always eaten the same, my body just handles it differently now that my health is better. I may be “too skinny” for u, honestly this skinny isn’t what I want to be, but I feel healthier internally and (cont)

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

(cont) am still learning and growing with my body everyday, as everyone is.

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

I will not further explain the way my body looks, just as anyone, with a body type that doesnt suit ur “beauty” expectation, shouldnt have to. Not to judge others, but drugs are not my thing, stop putting me in that box just because u dont understand the way my body has matured.

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

Please, as social media users & human beings in general, learn to have more empathy for others and know that you never really know the whole story. Use your energy to lift those that you admire rather than be cruel to those u don’t.

— Gigi Hadid (@GiGiHadid) February 11, 2018

Hadid is not the only celebrity who has been body-shamed while struggling with an illness. Actress Sarah Hyland wrote on Twitter in May that she hasn’t “had the greatest year” and pointed out that her weight has fluctuated in the past as a result of a kidney transplant in 2012. However, she didn’t give specifics on whether that was linked to her current health issues. “I will say that this year brought a lot of changes and with that, physical changes,” she continued. “I am not a fan of ‘being skinny.’ Which many of you have told me that I am too much of. ‘Eat a burger,’ ‘your head is bigger than your body and that’s disgusting.’ And you’re right! I should eat a burger! ‘Cause they’re fucking delicious! But guess what. I do.” Hyland also said that she’d “basically been on bed rest for the past few months,” causing her to lose a lot of muscle mass. “My circumstances have put me in a place where I’m not in control of what my body looks like. So I strive to be as healthy as possible, as everyone should. Oh, and no, that’s not Photoshop. Those are my legs. Those are my arms,” she said. Hyland added that “no one should aim to be the weight that I am at right now” and that, while she’s not thrilled with the way her body looks, it’s due to her health—and she can’t please everyone.

My story as of now. Part 1. pic.twitter.com/6kWlnxgjIb

— Sarah Hyland (@Sarah_Hyland) May 24, 2017

In 2015, breast cancer survivor and E! host Giuliana Rancic told People that she was accused of having an eating disorder after a weight loss, which she attributed to a cancer-suppressing medication. “It’s really hurtful,” she said. “I’m sorry that some people think I’m disgustingly skinny, as they put it, but there’s nothing I can do. I’m lucky that I even have the type of cancer that reacts to the medicine.” She added that it’s hard for her to look in the mirror at times. “I am really thin,” Rancic said. “I want to look fit and beautiful and sexy, and I can’t.”

Of course, people have been body-shamed for gaining weight when they have an illness as well as for losing weight. In 2017, actress Sasha Pieterse revealed on Dancing with the Stars that she had gained nearly 70 pounds over two years due to polycystic ovary syndrome. “[It was] one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through,” she said at the time. “I had no idea what was going on, and I didn’t have any way of solving it.” Pieterse also said it was “really hurtful” when people would call her “fat” or assume she was pregnant. “They were angry. They were mad I looked like this,” she said. The actress also addressed the matter on Instagram in 2015.

To my incredible and loving fans, Words cannot express how amazed I am by you! I’m so thankful for the affection you have for me, Alison, and Pretty Little Liars! We/I wouldn’t be able to make it happen without you! I get to do what I love every single day because of you guys! As a lot of you have noticed my body has gone through some changes, and I want to clear the air and give you an explanation. I have been facing a bad hormone imbalance that has thrown my body completely out of whack. I want to assure you that I’m healthy and getting everything back on track! A big thanks to all of you who have been in my corner! We live in such a judge mental society that puts every kind of flaw, including weight gain, in the same category. And for those of you who are struggling with any health problem, hormone imbalance, and weight gain of any sort I urge and encourage you to please deal with it in a healthy manor. YOU and YOUR health are what matters, not anyone else’s opinions and assumptions of you. Getting healthy isn’t just about working out and eating right (however extremely important) it’s also about surrounding yourself with those who care about you and want to see you succeed and become the best you can be. I love every single one of you and I hold you all dear to my heart! Xoxoxox Sasha

A post shared by Sasha Pieterse (@sashapieterse27) on Jun 9, 2015 at 10:15pm PDT

  Clearly, body-shaming isn’t OK under any circumstances, whether someone is struggling with an illness or not. But it can be pretty difficult to deal with being shamed and deal with an illness at the same time, psychologist and body image expert Sari Shepphird, PhD, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “It’s hard enough to feel like anyone can relate to you when you have a serious illness,” she says. “You already feel like you’re not yourself, and dealing with body-shaming can tear a person down tremendously.”

“In general, body-shaming ‘devalues’ people and reduces their self-worth down to their outward appearance,” Tom Hildebrandt, PsyD, chief of the Division of Eating Disorders at Mount Sinai Health System, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. If you’re struggling with an illness on top of that, it can make someone feel worse about themselves at a time when they may already be having difficulty with body changes they’re going through, he says — and that can lead to low self-esteem, depression, and problems with eating.

If you’re body-shamed, Hildebrandt recommends treating the comments like a racial slur — that is, something that’s incredibly offensive and wrong. For some reason, body-shaming is seen as somehow more acceptable than other forms of bullying, and it’s important to show people that it’s actually not. “People should be held accountable,” he says. “There’s no context where body-shaming is useful or healthy.”

If your body has changed due to an illness, you can mention that in your response to try to enlighten your critic, or not — it’s ultimately up to you, Jennifer Carter, PhD, a sports psychologist who specializes in eating disorders at the Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. However, some people use it as a teaching moment to educate people about their illness, which can have a profound effect on shamers — and even get some to apologize, she says.

But again, your response (or lack thereof) is your choice. “You have the right to your own body and to do what you please,” Shepphird says.

Read more from Yahoo Lifestyle: 

How to get over a person who ghosts you 

What is Hashimoto’s disease, the weight-related condition Gigi Hadid suffers from? 

Energy drinks are still killing kids in America

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