#or am I just unable to handle any outside complaints/negativity at this moment no matter how valid | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

violetclarity · 1 year ago

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gotta love the feature of depression that's like, can't tell if people in my life are actually being annoying or if I'm not handling things well and therefore overreacting to things that would normally not bother me!

#are my friends oversharing without asking and using me as an unpaid therapist #or am I just unable to handle any outside complaints/negativity at this moment no matter how valid #a question I ask myself daily #sometimes it's pretty obvious like I told one of my coworkers today that I was in a car accident this weekend #(it was a fender bender and I am fine)#and her next sentence was about how tired she was etc. until she circled back to asking me about the accident #(you'll notice she has been downgraded from friend to coworker bc she does this shit all. the. fucking. time.)#another friend texted me unprompted about her car issues #and when I responded to commiserate and also told her about the accident #she was surprised that I'd been going fast enough that I was in pain from it #(again I am fine. just sore.)#like in that case I probably shouldn't be pissed that she texted me about her car issues out of the blue #bc we had already talked about it and I do want to be kept up to date on my friends' lives?#this is the story of me at almost 29 realizing that I've let a bunch of my friendships devolve into #me being a receptacle for other people's problems and complaints at all times #and now I don't know how to set boundaries or get myself out of this situation #especially since this is the pattern I've developed with like...most of my friends #it's super cool I don't hate it at all #ask people if they have capacity before you bitch about your life #also if anyone has the lead on a cute cottage in the void where I could just exist and not have to speak to anyone #or have any responsibilities whatsoever #for like a week or two #PLEASE lmk #a bitch needs an actual break

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