#or El vs Carrie

[ylove-bandaesthetics]

Spooky Month Qs #27

27. Since there was a Freddy Vs Jason movie. Which two iconic horror characters would you want to see go head to head in a movie next?

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[shy-sapphic-ace]

List of queer books I read, loved & recommend!

(There isn't any particular order, I wrote these as I remembered them)

Master Of One - Jaida Jones & Dani Bennett (mlm, fantasy, very cool worldbuilding and magic system, funny, cool characters)

Legends & Lattes - Travis Baldree (wlw, fantasy, very soft & chill vibes)

The Priory of the Orange Tree - Samantha Shannon (wlw, high fantasy, cool worldbuilding, kinda reminds me of LOTR but with more dragons and feminism and lesbians)

Even Though I Knew The End - C.L. Polk (wlw, supernatural noir, cool 1930s detective story with angels & demons, I loved this one!)

The Love Interest - Cale Dietrich (mlm, science fiction, very cool concept)

The Darkest Part Of The Forest - Holly Black (side mlm, fantasy, cool fae lore)

The Weight Of The Stars - K. Ancrum (wlw, not quite science fiction but space stuff is involved, lovely and complex characters)

Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe - Benjamin Alire Sáenz (mlm, fiction, very nice in general, there is also a sequel)

The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue - Mackenzi Lee (mlm, historical and vaguely fantasy, nice story but I preferred the sequel honestly)

The Lady's Guide to Petticoats and Piracy - Mackenzi Lee (wlw, the sequel to the one before, more fantasy elements than the first, asexual main character!!)

Gallant - V.E. Schwab (no romance, but in the background one of the characters(?) uses they/them pronouns, very cool dark fantasy vibe)

Stranger Than Fanfiction - Chris Colfer (gay main character, trans main character, coming-of-age, nice book)

Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda (yes it's the Love, Simon book, mlm, fiction, pretty nice)

They Both Die At The End - Adam Silvera (mlm, sci-fi ish but mostly fiction, cool ideas, but the ending is sad! Very amazing book though, I haven't read the prequel yet)

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo - Taylor Jenkins Reid (wlw, bi main character, historical fiction, cool story, just a neat book in general)

This Is How You Lose The Time War - Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone (wlw, sci-fi, very cool time travel stuff!! and very beautiful, it felt like reading poetry most of the time)

One Last Stop - Casey McQuinston (wlw, background trans & pan & queer characters, sci-fi or fantasy idk, but time travel, I loooved this book, great)

The House In The Cerulean Sea - TJ Klune (mlm, fantasy, THIS BOOK oh my gosh you should read it!!, just cute and lovely and good)

Under The Whispering Door - TJ Klune (mlm, fantasy, this book is also sooo amazing, great character development and awesome relationships and stuff, it's been a while since I read it but it was so good)

In the Lives of Puppets - TJ Klune (mlm, ace main character!!, sci-fi, now THIS is found family, oughh feelings. argh, tj klune you’ve done it again, a human and his family of funky robots… I love them)

And They Lived... - Steven Salvatore (nblm, fiction, about gender identity and learning to love yourself, read it a while ago but it was very nice)

I Wish You All The Best - Mason Deaver (nblm, fiction, about finding your identity and people who care about you, very cute and sweet)

The Song Of Achilles - Madeleine Miller (mlm, historical, very good in general)

Carry On - Rainbow Rowell (mlm, background wlw in the third book, fantasy, it's a trilogy, basically Harry Potter if it was gay and also better)

Silver In The Wood - Emily Tesh (mlm, fantasy, very pretty, lots of fae stuff and lovely descriptions, it has a really good sequel too)

Pretty much anything by Alice Oseman (all cute and lovely and great, though I've only read Radio Silence so far I hear only good things, Solitaire is on my to-read list)

I Kissed Shara Wheeler - Casey McQuinston (wlw, fiction, it's been a while but I liked this book)

The Falling In Love Montage - Ciara Smyth (wlw, fiction, this book was so cute and funny and deeply emotional it made me Feel way too many things, I'd definitely recommend it)

What Big Teeth - Rose Szabo (a bit of queerness all around, fantasy, werewolves and monsters, this one was pretty cool!, lots of original ideas for the world/character building)

His Quiet Agent - Ada Maria Soto (mlm, asexual, fiction, about like spies but this book was so gentle and sweet I wanted to cry in the best way possible)

Some By Virtue Fall - Alexandra Rowland (wlw, historical fiction(?), theatre drama!! rival romance!! duels!!, a very good read in general)

Don’t Want You Like a Best Friend - Emma R. Alban (wlw, historical fiction, I’m not usually one for regency romances, but I really liked this!!, very cute and lots of drama, and there’s a sequel coming out soon!)

[queer-media-tourney]

Here are all 64 round 1 polls:

Rent vs Orphan Black

Heartstopper vs Orange is the New Black

Carol (2015) vs Bugsnax

The Starless Sea by Erin Morgenstern vs Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Fienburg

Red, White and Royal Blue vs This is how you lose the time war by Amar el-Mohtar and Max Gladstone

Our Flag means Death vs Always human by Ari North

The last of us two vs On a Sunbeam by Tillie Walden

Heartbreak High vs Shameless

Undertale vs The Handmaiden

Young Royals vs Revolutionary Girl Utena

Sens8 vs Carry on by Rainbow Rowell

Bee and puppycat vs The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Yuri on Ice vs Ranma ½

Q-force vs Feel Good

Torchwood vs The interview with a Vampire (2022)

Homestuck vs Good Omens

Some like it hot vs Killing Eve

Scott Pilgrim Takes Off vs Bound (1996)

It's a sin vs Magnus Chase by Rick Riordan

Doctor Who vs Portrait of a young lady on fire

Steven Universe vs Saltburn

Xena Warrior Princess vs Cyberpunk 2077

Welcome to Nightvale vs Schitt's creek

Night in the woods vs A league Of their own

Lisa Frankenstein vs The boys in the band (1970)

Black Sails vs Owl House

Hannibal vs The Traitor Baru Cormorant

Bottoms vs The Locked Tomb series by Tamsyn Muir

The picture of Dorian Grey vs Adventure time

The Sandman (comic) vs Supernatural

Maurice (1987) vs Hazbin Hotel

Nimona vs Love Simon

Epithet Erased vs What we do in the shadows

Buffy the Vampire Slayer vs The Other Two

One Day at a time (2017) vs Falsettos

She-ra and the princesses of power vs Dykes to Watch Out for

Celluloid Closet vs Harley Quinn

But I'm a cheerleader vs Vida

Angels In America vs Glee

Hooky by Míriam Bonastre Tur vs They both die in the end by Adam Silvera

Will and Grace vs Paris is Burning

Sanders Sides vs The Magnus Archives

The L word vs Goncharov

Queer as Folk vs Paper Girls

Boys don't cry vs Dracula

All of us strangers vs Yellow jackets

The Song of Achilles vs D.E.B.S

Brokeback Mountain vs Dead end: paranormal park

Carmilla vs Pride (2014)

The Bifrost Incident vs Pink Flamingos

Call me by your name vs Hedwig and the Angry Inch

Grishaverse vs Roswell New Mexico

Riverdale vs We Know the Devil

Stardew Valley vs Pose

Disco Elysium vs Different For girls

Banana fish vs my own private Idaho

Celeste vs Tales of the City, by Armistead Maupin

Everything Everywhere all at once vs Outer Wilds

To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything! Julie Newmar vs Victor/Victoria

Moonlight vs Stranger things

The birdcage vs Midnight Cowboy

The Watermelon Woman vs The Ritz

The haunting of Bly Manor vs Epic of Gilgamesh

Fun Home by Alison Bechdel vs How to survive a plague

[batbabydamian]

DC November 2024 Solicitations - Comics Featuring Damian! 🦇

LITTLE BATMAN: MONTH ONE #1

11/6/24

Written by Morgan Evans

Art and Cover by Jon Mikel

Variant Cover by Patrick Ballesteros

Taking place after the events of “Merry Little Batman,” Gotham City finds itself reeling from the Joker’s attack, and Damian Wayne (a.k.a. Little Batman) is eager to get back into the fight. That’s going to be harder than it sounds, as Bruce now wants Damian to put the cowl aside and embrace the value of his secret identity. After a suspicious guest is found lurking around the Wayne New Year’s Eve Party, it’s up to Damian to find the balance between both of his personas and save the day yet again. See Little Batman in a new adventure from the film’s screenwriter, Morgan Evans, after catching the rerelease of the breakout movie in theaters this winter.

BATMAN AND ROBIN #15

11/13/24

Written by Phillip Kennedy Johnson

Art and Cover by Javier Fernandez

Variant Covers: Simone Di Meo, Ashley Wood (1:25), Aaron Bartling, and Guillem March (Creature Commandos Variant)

What should have been a run-of-the-mill charity banquet for Bruce and Damian has, quite literally, gone up in flames—and now, without access to their costumes and gadgets, father and son find themselves fighting for their lives at the hands of the mysterious specter known only as Memento. But who is this new villain who set the blaze that threatens to disintegrate the Dynamic Duo, why does it replicate an infamous, century-old tragedy from Gotham’s history, and what is Memento’s connection to the Dark Knight’s past? Nothing can prepare you for the answers to these questions, so join us and bear witness to “Memento,” part two.

DC VS. VAMPIRES: WORLD WAR V #4 of 12

11/13/24

Written by Matthew Rosenburg and Matthew Manning

Art by Otto Schmidt and Acky Bright

Cover by Otto Schmidt

Variant Covers: by Stephen Segovia and Homare

Gorilla Grodd and Aquaman have had little luck capturing the elusive Damian Wayne, but a mysterious figure arrives bearing a whispered prophecy that could turn the tide of war in their favor. Elsewhere, John Constantine might well be the human resistance’s last hope…just a shame he can’t remember what it was he was meant to be doing. Enter The Spectre to help guide his way! And in the shadows, a new Batman lurks…but what’s his connection to Bruce Wayne?

BATMAN/SANTA CLAUS: SILENT KNIGHT RETURNS #1 of 5

11/27/24

Written by Jeff Parker

Art by Lukas Ketner

Cover by Bernard Chang

Variant Covers: Dan Mora, Dan Hipp (DC Holiday Surprise Rub & Sniff variant), Kevin Wada (1:25), Erica Henderson (1:50)

Horrors haunt the Christmas season as life-drained bodies litter the countryside, each marked with a strange symbol. The Justice League responds—but it’s a trap! The heroes are pulled from our world, but not before Batman helps Robin escape. Now Damian Wayne must seek out Zatanna and the one and only Santa Claus if there’s any hope of saving their friends and family. Santa comes to the aid of the DCU heroes in the crossover-event sequel you wished for! And you must have been extra good because a wintry mix of DC’s wildest characters arrive this time to face a powerful foe… the Silent Knight!

*Clayton Henry Main Cover appearance

ACTION COMICS #1077

11/27/24

Written by Mark Waid and Mariko Tamaki

Art by Clayton Henry, Michael Shelfer, and Meghan Hetrick

Death to the Phantom Zone! Superman and Mon-El are reunited at last, but are our heroes too late to stop the impossible threat of Aethyr?! The mad wizard has breached the realm and begun decimating planet Earth…the Super-Family and the Justice League are holding on as best they can, but this sounds like a job for Superman! Plus, can Kara put her feelings aside and carry out the mission Superman gave her?

[karaspal]

it’s such a shame pkj has written so little of supergirl given how well of a grasp he has on the character. he is one of my favourite modern-age writers to write kara. and the thing is, he pitched a supergirl story. one with her and thao-la called “supergirls”. and dc said “nah, we have other plans.” when they didn’t even???

guys, literally look how pkj talks about kara. he gets her fr.

“I love Kara I think Kara is one of the best DC characters. I've seen a bunch of different versions of Kara. In my ear, she is almost like a mother hen to all other Kryptonian adjacent characters, since she is more Kryptonian than anyone else, having lived and grown up there in a way that Clark never did. Even though she's sort of younger than Clark via some, you know, sciency reasons she's really older kind of in other ways. And I see her as kind of the matriarch of the EL family really. She's not always portrayed that way. But that's how I see her. I love writing Kara.” - PKJ

like, hello? he recognises kara as the smartest person in the room, writes her as mature, capable and confident, yet still headstrong and cocky, and what is more important, he doesn’t use krypton as the trauma that will always haunt kara till the end of her days, but rather as a found memory she carries that she gets to share with other people.

i’ve said it before, but one thing kara should always be is the holder of krypton’s spirit, but with enough time passing, it should be more about celebrating krypton’s spirit vs mourning it. it’s not fair for kara to stuck in the same cycle of anger for her planet forever. of course she should mourn her planet at first, but with enough time passing she deserves to heal. she doesn’t deserve to be haunted by it for the rest of her life. the bitter memories should bleed into found ones.

[in-the-moodboard]

Young Justice Core Four fanfic recommendations

Cassie Sandsmark - pieces and pages by Anonymous

General Audiences - Cassie Sandsmark/Rose Wilson

When Rose was alone with Cassie, she wouldn’t want to change a thing. It was when other people were there that she would change. Cassie tore herself away from Rose, her eyes wide. She took a few steps back to lean against the wall on the other side of the hallway. “Someone’s coming.” "Oh."

Tim Drake - Gotham Knights vs. Gotham Nights by TeviTevi

Not Rated - Bernard Dowd/Tim Drake; Darla Aquista & Bernard Dowd & Tim Drake; Bernard Dowd & Tim Drake; Tim Drake & Lonnie Machin; Bruce Wayne & Lonnie Machin

In which Tim Drake, in a universe where he was never Robin, still managed to be a precocious little genius. Tim Drake and Bernard Dowd have a fairly popular YouTube channel, where the two of them run around Gotham and discuss its heroes and villains. Getting the attention of the Bats of Gotham themselves technically wasn't on the list of objectives, but hey, Tim and Bernard will take any chance for a good video. They knew they weren't supposed to be in a recent Rogue hideout, but rules mean nothing in Gotham, especially not to a pair of plucky young clout chasers. Meanwhile, most of the Bats are wondering who exactly these kids are, and why one of them knows their names.

Bart Allen - Sunshine in the Rearview Mirror by SleepySpeedster

Teen And Up Audiences - Bart Allen/Preston Lindsay

Set three years after the conclusion of Impulse, it's summer in Manchester, Alabama once again. Preston Lindsay, now eighteen years old and enjoying his last summer before college begins, finds himself once again reminiscing on the past and on Bart Allen. Three years and there's been no word from his best friend. But one day he reappears and neither Preston or Bart are the same again. The voice drew him back. It drew him back in time, way waaaaaaaaaay back. Just like Alice finding her way to Wonderland, his mind followed a brown hare down the rabbit hole as he was pulled back to junior high, back to when the sun shined brighter, when each day meant a new adventure with his best friend with his funny quirks and ways. He heard his voice and knew it shouldn’t have been possible. His hand trembled the slightest. His mouth felt dry. He didn’t want to lower his camera and be disappointed that his ears were tricking him. He didn’t want to know that he had just misheard the voice, but he could have sworn he heard him, he heard.... “Bart?”

Kon-El - a timeline can be a haunted house by connerdrakewayne (chaoxfix)

General Audiences - Bart Allen & Kon-El | Conner Kent; Bart Allen/Kon-El | Conner Kent; Bart Allen & Tim Drake & Kon-El | Conner Kent & Cassie Sandsmark

In the cosmic joke that is Kon-El's life, the universe pulled one final prank. The multiverse had itself a do-over, and decided to reset itself without Kon-El. It reset, and everyone he loved now lived a whole life without him. They remember a world where he never existed, never made an impact in their lives. It all would have been fine and dandy, too, if the universe had actually done the thing properly. But Kon's still here, somehow. A ghost in the machine, carrying all the ghosts of his old timeline with him. Maybe it would be easier if he stayed away from all the people wearing his friends faces. ...Kon's taking the universe reset just fine, why do you ask?

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[snowviolettwhite]

Several Sentence Sunday

Been a while since I upload a preview. This is from a upcoming short 9-1-1 fan-fiction about Eddie being diagnosed autistic as a small child, growing up and his relationship with his parents and his relationship with his son Chris and parallels of what it is like growing up disabled in conservative environment vs growing up disabled in a more accepting environment.

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Edmundo Diaz, Eddie was born November 18th 1992 in El Paso, Texas to Ramon and Helena Diaz. He was a quiet sweet happy smiling giggling baby boy. He carried around his stuffed toy dog everywhere. He liked cuddling and playing with his mama and papa but a little behind. It took him longer to hit milestones. It was decided to keep home until kindergarten and instead of preschool. Since Eddie is different than his older sister who is loud and outgoing. Adrianna likes being independent and making new friends. Eddie likes staying home with all his toys and going on adventures with mama. That is okay.

It turns out Eddie is different from more kids, which is not okay. Eddie Diaz is six years old and diagnosed with autism. He knows his parents love him no matter what, but sometimes think they are lying

Christopher Diaz, Chris was born August 16th 2011 in El Paso, Texas to Edmundo and Shannon Diaz. He was brought into the world crying and in pain. He was diagnosed with cerebral palsy but with parents who try understanding and give him everything they can. So, it is okay. He was a sweet yet loud baby boy. He knows his parents, especially his love him no matter what.

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Tagging But No Pressure Especially Since It Is Late But Still Wanted To Share @anewkindofme

@pimento-playing-hopscotch @the-flaming-nightmare @missmagooglie @aroeddiediaz @warpedpuppeteer @babygirl-diaz @lochnesswriter

@tommykinard6

[filmnoirsbian]

Can you share some of your favorite and least favorite horror movies?

Some of my favorites are Scream 1996, Dark Water 2002, The Crow, Jennifer's Body, Rec, Se7en, Saw, Bodies Bodies Bodies, Zombieland, Night of the Living Dead, Get Out, The Stepford Wives 1975, 28 Days Later, The Silence of the Lambs, Carrie 1976, American Psycho, the Fear Street trilogy, Zombieland, Malignant, Us, Rosemary's Baby 1968, Poltergeist, Stoker, Bones and All, Snakes on a Plane, Zombeavers, Tremors, Kairo, The Thing 1982, Vamp, Alien, Return of the Living Dead, Practical Magic, Hocus Pocus, Cabin in the Woods, El Orfanato, Fright Night 2011, The Craft, Ginger Snaps, Pan's Labyrinth, Blade, Alien vs Predator, You're Next, The Exorcism of Emily Rose, I Know What You Did Last Summer, Signs, Chronicle, Mandy, The Devil's Backbone, Planet Terror, Train to Busan, Nope, The Descent, The Doom Generation, Prey, Midsommar, The Host 2006, The Eye 2002, Suspiria 1977 and 2019, The Invisible Man 1933 and 2020, A Nightmare on Elm Street 1984, Resident Evil 2002, Ready or Not, Trick r Treat, Delicatessen, The Blair Witch Project, Thirst 2009, Thirst 2019, Friday the 13th 1980, The People Under the Stairs, The Moth Diaries, Final Destination, Hereditary, The Village, Bride of Chucky, A Quiet Place, Candyman 1992 and 2021, Censor, Dead Snow, The Velocipastor, 8 Legged Freaks, Barbarian, M3gan, Zombie Tidal Wave, Pumpkinhead, Detention 2011, Insidious, The Fog 1980, Donnie Darko, Annabelle: Creations, The Blob 1988, It 2017, Sinister, Killer Klowns from Outer Space, Fresh, and Black Christmas 1974

Some I dislike are The Hills Have Eyes franchise, Cabin Fever 2002, the Hostel franchise, Martyrs, My Bloody Valentine 2009, A Nightmare on Elm Street 2014, Rob Zombie's Halloween movies, Terrifier, Thankskilling, The Boy, Prom Night 2008, Dawn of the Dead 2004, Lycan Colony, Splice, One Missed Call 2008, Detention 2010, The Fog 2005, The Roommate, The Bye Bye Man, Wish Upon, Truth or Dare, Creepshow 2, Prometheus 2012, Annabelle 2014, The Purge, The Conjuring movies

I am extremely lenient with horror movies tbh for me to outright dislike one it essentially has to either bore me or feature unnecessary gratuitous rape/threats of rape--or be a bad remake.

[byleranalysis]

Mike has literal emotional baggage…

while working on my analysis for the iconic Airport scene... I noticed that Mike was holding a large blue duffle bag... or ya know-- baggage.

You can see the baggage here–

and it's still in his right hand here while he talks to El about the flowers... HOWEVER--

when the camera cuts to a close-up of the note saying "from, Mike", the baggage has suddenly transported to his left side. Perfectly behind the note and flowers. Interesting. but there is more…

Mike walks in to Will's room with the same baggage earlier. 

Will asks "You already packed?" To which Mike responds: "Yeah I mean-- I never really... unpacked." Oh-- thats interesting. Mark that for later.

After Mike has his heart to heart with Will, saying that 

Oh! And after Jonathan "shatters" their teary-eyed "intimate moment"... well you see--

Well-- he forgets about the baggage he has been carrying. The baggage he has been carrying since walking off the plane in California. After speaking with Will, that bag never shows up again. Note: Will still has his backpack and painting.

Mike hasn't been able to unpack the baggage he has been carrying. The emotions with him when he gave El flowers and his awkward interaction with Will. The emotional complex baggage that El questions in their fight. The note. The inability to say "I love you". Mike hasn't been able to unpack the emotions weighing hm down that surround such. Yet-- the first heart-to-heart with Will... welp, the emotional baggage is quite literally forgotten.

Not to mention:

"You never say it" + "I say it"

vs

"I didn't say it" + "You didn't have too".

TL;DR

Poor Mike hasn't been able to unpack his complex feelings but talking to Will makes him leave such troubles behind.

  anywayssss.... byler endgame.

[waltzingwithyourenemyattheball]

PICK A PILE: WHAT DO YOU NEED TO SURRENDER TO ATTACT LOVE?

Top left: Pile 1 ; Top Right: Pile 2; Bottom: Pile 3

Pile 1:

So pile 1, welcome to your reading, remember to take only what resonates and do not force any messages to apply when they don’t.

Lets begin! 

Surrender your ego

You might be the type of pile who is needs a mental shift regarding relationships. Remember, that relationships mostly require collaboration not compromise. It is not you vs them. If one of you loses, both of you lose. This could be due to past traumas or hurts, but to allow love to come settle in, we must create a space that she loves. She loves gratitude and warmth. She loves a space for growth, she loves acts of service. Broken hearts and wounds run deep, do not expect to surrender fully immediately, Give yourself time to push the boundaries, learn to collaborate not compromise. This won’t just attract romantic love, this will improve all your relationships. Just little gestures that you remember them helps like “Was thinking about you, hope you are well” works just as well. This tells them they are on your mind, don’t be afraid to text or reach out first. This will be different for everyone. A good place to start this shift is to see how your parents/primary caregivers relationship affects your views about relationships, find what doesn’t align to your path to love.

Thank you for letting me read for you, please provide feedback. 

Pile 2:

So pile 2, welcome to your reading, remember to take only what resonates and do not force any messages to apply when they don’t.

Lets begin!

Surrender your belief in Scarcity 

My heart goes out to you, you believe that there isn’t enough love for you. You are the person who cheers up everyone and tells them to be optimistic, tells them that things can happen for them, but doesn’t believe them for yourself. You somewhere carry the belief that it can’t and it won’t happen for you. You are quite stubborn and set with this as well. Whenever you catch yourself feeling or thinking this just say “I have just as much chance for love as anyone else”. This is a good start, you might not believe it at first but keep repeating it. This is a good start as it doesn’t brew a romantic notion of life or is this pessimistic. It is simple, just straight up facts. You have as much chance. Your lack mindset might also be stopping other forms of abundance to enter your life as well. Surrender this belief and see the magic happening. I know that current world state, divorce rates and what not, do not let you dream of love but remember the media doesn’t show you the full story, there are people who love and loyalty have stood the test of time, you just don’t know about them. 

Thank you for letting me read for you, please provide feedback. 

Pile 3:

So pile 3, welcome to your reading, remember to take only what resonates and do not force any messages to apply when they don’t.

Lets begin!

Read pile 1 as well, you might might messages there if you were attracted to it. You belief that for things to go well, for things to go in your favour, you must control them: people, situations. The truth is you cannot control every variable and yes that does scare the shit out of you, but listen to me once: you do not control your heart, yet it beats and keeps you alive, you do not tell your lungs to breathe yet they do. The point is to get power or control you must first relinquish it, things will fall in place. Moreover surrender to the wisdom of your body, the healthier you are the more you attract love. If you feel uncomfortable/weak after meeting someone take note, you body gives you signs, you just need to listen, and this will happen once you relinquish control and try to stay physically, mentally and emotionally fit. These are interconnected. Small steps go a long way, all you need to do is surrender and listen to the signs, yes it is really that simple.

Thank you for letting me read for you, please provide feedback. 

For much such posts -> ELTAROT

Love,

EL TAROT.

[beautifulpersonpeach]

I hope that by now, after Hobi’s collaboration with J. Cole, Joon’s El Pais interview, and now Jimin’s Set Me Free Pt. 2, it’s obvious a lot of the criticism around BTS, much of what counts for ‘discourse’, is completely pointless.

Something I noticed after BTS released Fake Love in 2018, is that ‘Discourse’ around the mediums they choose to make music, the kind of music they put out, and how they communicate their ideas, all frankly just boils down to people dissatisfied that BTS didn’t express an idea the exact way those people would prefer, at exactly the time they’d prefer it. That’s it. It’s not a criticism that tackles the substance of their ideas or elevates the conversation around BTS, but one about personal preferences that people with inflated egos courtesy of the internet, mistake to be synonymous with meaningful appraisals of their skill, competency, and their characters.

BTS has always made music in a variety of styles and they’ve shown they’re more than capable of making some of the best hard-hitting and unconventional music there is, not just in Korea, but globally. But then they release a handful of pop tunes that while not my favourite, generated a whole multitude of k-pop stans circle-jerking to ‘discourse’ about how ‘BTS has lost their roots’ when all those people are actually saying is that “BTS didn’t make the exact sort of music I prefer or say something exactly the way I prefer, this time around, on my schedule.”

Take for example discourse around Joon’s latest interview:

Joon has shown similar candour as in the El Pais interview, in their 2022 Weverse interview, in their 2021 Billboard interview, and in honestly more Vlives and interviews than I can count. The primary difference between the El Pais interview and the others is in the sort of questions asked by interviewer/publication. That is what was refreshing because Western media outlets often do not take their music seriously enough to not venture beyond the obligatory ‘dark side of k-pop’ asks before grilling BTS on their potential romantic partners. The interviewer in El Pais was notably more informed about BTS and Namjoon in particular, and that carried through in the interview. Joon is older, more mature, and more comfortable (especially now that they’ve announced their intentions to enlist), but if you were paying attention, you’d realize he’s said a lot of what he said in that interview, long before. He’s not significantly more eloquent and more candid than he was a year ago, he simply responded to the interviewer based on the questions posed and the tone used.

Another example is in Jimin’s latest release, SMF Pt 2, which brought to mind criticism of Jimin I’ve seen from solos, multis, antis and general k-pop stans every fortnight or so, for the last eight years. We can all see references in the lyrics, in the choreography, in the stylistic musical choices, in the medium: rap vs vocals, to many BTS songs and even Jimin’s solo work put out long before. In SMF Pt 2:

For lyrics and message, Jimin references narratives expressed in Lie, Promise, ON, among others;

For sonic expression, Jimin references Friends and ON, seen in his preference for choral effects; Tony Montana and Black Swan for autotune as a tool and rap music as a medium;

For dance/choreography, Jimin references Butterfly, Lie, and ON.

Set Me Free Pt 2 is a combination of various expressions we’ve already seen Jimin do, sharpened to the extreme to drive home the point that this is his time and everyone should get the fuck out of his way.

It’s effective.

Like JITB and Indigo before now, I’m already seeing people lament that Jimin is talking about how their fame affects him, the reference to his haters, or that he is too proud and egotistical. And some Anons are already starting to fret about it in my inbox. I don’t know what to tell y’all besides that I don’t care. I’m not sure how many times I can show that none of those people know what they’re talking about. I’m not confident enough to express how little I think about some random’s opinion about music and how I listen to it, without rudely telling them off in two syllables.

All I’ve got to say about the discourse around this song is ‘fuck off.’

I’m enjoying myself too much. I’m loving Jimin’s vocals and self expression too much. I’m too happy to give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks on the matter.

Aside, Jimin has inspired some of the best fanart I’ve seen in ages:

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[spanishskulduggery]

Can you offer a better understanding of how verbs like acabarse/"to be out of" are constructed, and why? Bing's Copilot ai described this as a "pronominal verbs with dative construction" but it took 20-30 minutes to elicit this so I'm not sure if the term is correct. To illustrate the verb's unique construction to other blog readers here are some sentences showing its use:  “Se les acabó el pan” meaning “They are out of bread.”

Yes, kind of correct

Pronomial is the linguistic term for a verb that uses reflexive endings [me, te, se, nos, os] and in the infinitive form they end in -se

As an example, the dictionary will show ir "to go" then irse "to go away" or something like that, where irse is a little different from ir

But pronomial is an umbrella term - reflexives [where the subject/object are the same, like afeitarse "to shave (oneself)"], reciprocal reflexives [two or more subjects doing something to one another like abrazarse "to hug (one another)" or conocerse "to meet/know one another"], and then the weirder ones which is where you get into acabarse and verbs like that

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What also makes this confusing is that se is used in other situations like passive voice or impersonal expressions so it isn't just limited to this. And all of this is fairly advanced grammar

Side Note: Just to clarify, the basic textbook will tell you about "reflexives" where someone does something to oneself, but they then don't further explain all the uses of "pronomials" in general - so if you take classes you might understand "reflexives", but not "pronomial"

What I'm going to discuss is mainly "ethical dative" and "superfluous dative" but all these linguistic terms sort of come up together so it's like you look up one, you find all of them... they run together a lot so it can be confusing

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With the weird ones, you often get into what they call "ethical dative"

First, "dative" in linguistic terms usually refers to indirect objects - to whom or for whom something is done. With "ethical dative" (dativo ético) it means that a verb will take a typically reflexive ending to show a "significance" to the person it refers to

They usually take on a secondary meaning

As an example, ir and then irse for "to go" and then "to go away/leave". Another is dormir "to sleep", then dormirse "to fall asleep"

acabar by itself is "to end/carry out", while acabarse is "to run out"

A big one that can be confusing is that native speakers often use comerse with food to show they enjoy it... so you can see me como la pizza "I'm eating the pizza" rather than simply como "I eat". It adds a little extra something

The weird ones like this are harder to translate or explain, but I try to tell people to think of it like prepositional expressions, or expressions that add a little extra word that changes the feeling

morir "to die" vs. morirse "to pass away", or caer "to fall" vs. caerse "to fall down / to sink", or quedar "to remain" vs. quedarse "to stay behind" or "to be left"

A big one is olvidar "to forget"; many Spanish speakers will prefer to use olvidarse (de) because it comes out more like "to slip one's mind" or "to become forgotten" rather than someone actively forgetting

And similarly for weird ones... acordar is usually "to agree" or "to make agree/an arrangement".... but then acordarse (de) is "to remember". In school people usually teach you recordar which is "to recall/to remind" as "to remember" because acordarse takes extra explaining

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The se + indirect object + verb is called "superfluous dative", sometimes called "dative of interest"

It's a pronomial verb (i.e. it uses the reflexive endings), but it shows directly who gets affected by it

The example I use most often for explaining this is romper "to break":

Rompí el coche/carro/auto. = I broke the car. [on purpose] Se rompió el coche/carro/auto. = The car broke down. [on its own] Se me rompió el coche/carro/auto. = The car up and died on me.

With se me rompió el coche it's that "the car broke down" - on its own - and me "I" am personally affected by this

People use these expressions a lot to show a sense of passivity, things happening on their own that then deeply affect other people. It's partly a way to say "not my fault" (which is what I mean by passivity), but also to show who is most affected - it happens a lot with involuntary things, things that are inconvenient, unexpected, surprises (good or bad), and sometimes strong emotions

se me rompió el coche is literally "the car broke itself to me" but an English speaker would more likely say "the car died on me" or even suddenly "the car up and died on me"

Similarly, se me olvidó "I forgot it" is more often translated as "it slipped my mind", literally it's "it forgot itself to me" - it shows that it's not intentional. And se me olvidaron las llaves for plural, "I completely forgot about the keys" or "the keys slipped my mind" rather than making it seem like you purposefully forgot them

These expressions show up a lot with inconvenience . Buses "leave people", time "runs out" on people, things "break" on their own "to people"

Another common one: se me durmieron las piernas is "my legs fell asleep on me", like "my legs went numb" - the legs [piernas] fell asleep [se durmieron] and "I" didn't really want that or do it on purpose but now the situation affects me [me]

You could also use it with people, like if a teacher had students falling asleep - se me durmieron los estudiantes "the students were falling asleep on me"

In the case of acabar it can be many things "running out", like se nos acaba el tiempo "time is running out (for us)" or "our time is running out"

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Note: People will also use possessives in the translations for the se + indirect object + verb ones; like "our time is running out", "my legs fell asleep", "my car broke down"... it's not a literal possessive in the Spanish but just keep an eye out

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NJPW THE NEW BEGINNING in Osaka Review (Feb 11th, Osaka EDION Arena)

Toru Yano & YOH vs. Ryusuke Taguchi & Boltin Oleg **

Bishamon vs. Great-O-Khan & Callum Newman ***1/4

Shota Umino, El Desperado, Tomoaki Honma & Tiger Mask vs. EVIL, Ren Narita, SHO & Yujiro Takahashi **1/4

Tetsuya Naito, Yota Tsuji, Shingo Takagi, Hiromu Takahashi & BUSHI vs. SANADA, Yuya Uemura, Taichi, DOUKI & TAKA Michinoku ***

Kazuchika Okada vs. Hiroshi Tanahashi ****1/2

IWGP Tag Team Championship - El Phantasmo & Hikuleo (c) vs. KENTA & Chase Owens **

Bryan Danielson vs. Zack Sabre Jr. *****

10 Man Dog Pound Cage Death Match - United Empire vs. Bullet Club War Dogs *****

Photos.

Wow, what a show this turned out to be. It started pretty ordinary, but ultimately had three exceptional bouts, one of which is the best match of 2024 so far. The show opened with CHAOS teammates Yano and YOH taking on Taguchi and Young Lion Shooter, Oleg. This was perfectly fine, but only went 3:45, so there really wasn't much to mention. YOH scored the win over Taguchi with a roll up. Next, UE Young Boy Callum Newman got a chance to shine in his tag match with O-Khan against Bishamon. This was a good little sprint, with the spirited Newman looking especially good. It wasn't to be his night, however, as he was put away by the veterans at 7:37 with Shoto.

The NJPW Babyfaces took on House of Torture next. This was your typical HoT match, beginning with a brawl, before the babyfaces got their shine, only to succumb to heelish shenanigans. After Dick Togo distracted the ref, Narita hit Tiger Mask with the Metal Plated Push Up Bar Of Doom, before SHO pinned him with a Shock Arrow in 8:43. Post match saw SHO steal Despe's IWGP Jr. Belt and proclaim himself the new champion, so we've got yet another HoT stolen belt deal, and Desperado seems destined to feud with these dorks for his entire reign. This was followed by pretty much the same LIJ vs. J5G match we've seen all tour now. It was a good outing, but I can't say that I'm interested in any of this, aside from Tsuji and Uemura's Hair Match in Sapporo at the end of the match. The two youngsters carried the action in this one, which culminated in SANADA tapping out BUSHI at 11:05 with Skull End to go strong into his Title Match with Naito on the 24th.

Perhaps the final ever Okada vs. Tanahashi match followed, twelve years to the day that the Rainmaker Shock happened in this very same building that made Okada a Superstar. This was excellent, emotional stuff that was by no means the best match these two have ever had, but it was a great send-off for what is perhaps the greatest, most consistent feud ever. I've potentially gone a tad high with the rating, but I don't care, I'm sticking with it, as this one had me invested from the minute the entrances happened. The Osaka faithful were super into this, loudly chanting for Okada at the start, going crazy throughout. Tana, who's definitely in "office shape" at the moment, even turned back the clocks and hit the High Fly Body Attack to the floor, which was awesome. After getting the knees up on a HFF attempt, Okada nailed the Tombstone, but Tana turned the Rainmaker into a small package for a great near fall. After some back and forth which the crowd were totally into, Okada hit a beautiful dropkick, a Landslide, and a Rainmaker to put the President away at 16:50 with one final Rainmaker. The pair embraced in the post match, and a teary bowed to the Lion Mark and Okada bid farewell to Osaka. He only has two matches left in his NJPW career in Sapporo, which should be similarly emotional occasions, and hey, who knows, maybe he could even put someone over on his way out (nudge nudge, wink wink).

The IWGP Tag Title bout that followed was something of a dampener, to say the least. This was the opposite of the last match, the crowd were dead for the most part, and it moved at the speed of smell. It was hovering around one star territory, but things picked up once Hikuleo got the hot tag and ran wild, but it was short lived as the ref got bumped, Taiji Ishimori ran in, hit his old pal ELP with a belt, then Hikuleo, which allowed KENTA to steal the win and the titles. Look, I know New Japan likes and rewards loyalty, and Chase Owens was there for them when they needed people badly, but the notion of him holding a major title in NJPW in 2024 is all kinds of bemusing. And to say the new GoD's Tag Title reign was a bit of a disappointment would be an understatement. These guys deserve better, and I honestly don't have the strength to watch another match between these teams after the two we've already seen so far this year.

Thankfully, things turned around in fantastic fashion with an absolutely perfect display of pro-wrestling between ZSJ and Bryan Danielson. This was a rematch of their 5 star classic in AEW last October, and it managed to surpass that match and is the best bout of 2024 so far. Outstanding grappling and counter sequences throughout this, Dragon used an arm wringer to send Sabre's legs into the ropes, which he then proceeded to work over the whole match with intense kicks and leglocks. Zack fought back, working over Danielson's neck. Lots of Romero Specials, Manjigatame's and Cobra Twists, before it broke down into a stiff strike exchange. Danielson hit a big Back Suplex off the top for a near fall, then tried Cattle Mutilation, which Sabre escaped and hit a Zack Driver for a near fall of his own. Dragon hit the stomps, then locked in the crazy arm submission he submitted Okada with, but Zack fought to the ropes. Another strike battle culminated in Danielson hitting the Busaiku Knee out of a backslide, but Sabre turned a second into a European Clutch, they exchanged great cradles, before ZSJ got the pin with a crucifix at 32:46 of fabulous action. The two shook hands afterwards, and now being 1-1, Danielson challenged Zack to a 2 out of 3 falls tiebreaker backstage, which I'm 100% down for. In the ring, ZSJ signalled he wanted a belt, then called out the winner of Naito/SANADA (despite what Chris Charlton might have claimed he said). I'm all for Zack winning the belt to be fair. I've lots to say about Naito being the champion again, which I'll refrain from, but all I will say is that the guy who holds the top belt in this company sure has felt like an after thought since winning.

Then the Dog Pound Cage main event that was also Will Ospreay's New Japan swan song. Look, theres way too much to even attempt to recap, and I went back and forth about going the full 5 stars on this one, as it did feature some stuff I really wasn't keen on. BUT, at the end of the day, these 10 guys put on an absolute spectacle of bloody drama and craziness, and it's definitely not a match I'll forgot any time soon, and a tremendous post match. They had an impossible task in following the previous match, but they had an equally blow-away outing, that was the complete wrestling polar opposite. This was set up like that classic ROH vs. CZW Cage of Death from 2006, in that the cage encircled ringside as opposed to the ring itself, and was fought under War Games rules, with guys coming out every two minutes.

Ospreay and Finaly started, with Ospreay convincing Finlay to let them fight for 5 minutes. Lots and lots of crazy stuff followed, which included the heels bringing out a ton of plunder, Akira hitting an incredible dive off the cage onto the War Dogs before Connors gave him a big spear through an upright table in the corner, Gabe Kidd potatoing HENARE with table shot, that split him open bad on the top of his head, which the doctors at ringside spent a lot of time trying to patch up. HENARE got a receipt of sorts later when he hit Kidd with a super stiff slap that looked like it knocked Gabe silly. Connors hit a big spear on Ospreay through the ropes, off the apron and through a table at ringside, Jeff Cobb ran wild on everyone with his incredible power moves, TJP emerged from under the ring as the Aswang, running wild and misting all the heels, Maloney broke up a pin attempt by Drilla Killa'ing Ospreay into the pile of bodies, Coughlin took a serious wilful beating with kendo sticks, who then took a big senton through a table off HENARE from the top of the cage. Connors introduced thumbtacks, but ended up bumping into the pins. Gedo came out with a barbed wire wrapped table, but O-Khan put an end to his interference, and it was Finlay who went through the barbed wire table, thanks to an Ospreay powerbomb. Gabe Kidd responded by hitting Ospreay with a piledriver off the apron, through a ladder bridge to the floor. Moloney forked Akira in the head, who juiced heavily, but then overcame his fear of the fork, no-sold it, and stabbed Drilla in the head with the cutlery, drawing his blood of his own, then hanged Connors over the top with a dog collar.

The heels then handcuffed Cobb to the cage, removed the ring canvas and padding, exposing the boards, and what followed was absolutely terrifying, as those boards were flying around and guys were falling through the ring left and right, to the point I thought someone might get seriously hurt. HENARE hit a massive vertical suplex on Kidd to the boards, before he too was handcuffed. Akira then took a horrendous Tombstone on the boards, which left Ospreay alone with the War Dogs. Sacrificing himself to save Akira, he tried a Hidden Blade, but collapsed from exhaustion, resulting in him taking a spear into the boards by Connors, then Finlay wrapped his knee in barbed wire and hit Ospreay with his new Overkill finish to end this insanity and win for his team in 64:05 of crazy, mind-blowing action.

The Overkill finish was quite ironic given the amounts of sheer overkill in this thing, there were times when I thought/was begging it would be over, but they just kept going and doing crazier stuff. Anyone who knows me knows I love a good crazy, unhinged blood and gimmicks match, and this was one of the best there's ever been, overkill or not. In the post match, Ospreay bid farewell to New Japan, and he got the big emotional send off with the confetti and all the UE guys surrounding him. Ospreay asked that the fans not forget him, and backstage he promised he'd be back, but when was still a mystery. Losing Ospreay is a major blow to NJPW (not to mention they're also losing Okada!), but I've no doubt he'll do great things in AEW.

NDT

[queer-media-tourney]

Here are the match ups for round 1:

Rent vs Orphan Black

Heartstopper vs Orange is the New Black

Carol (2015) vs Bugsnax

The Starless Sea by Erin Morgenstern vs Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Fienburg

Red, White and Royal Blue vs This is how you lose the time war by Amar el-Mohtar and Max Gladstone

Our Flag means Death vs Always human by Ari North

The last of us two vs On a Sunbeam by Tillie Walden

Heartbreak High vs Shameless

Undertale vs The Handmaiden

Young Royals vs Revolutionary Girl Utena

Sens8 vs Carry on by Rainbow Rowell

Bee and puppycat vs The Rocky Horror Picture Show

Yuri on Ice vs Ranma ½

Q-force vs Feel Good

Torchwood vs The interview with a Vampire (2022)

Homestuck vs Good Omens

Some like it hot vs Killing Eve

Scott Pilgrim Takes Off vs Bound (1996)

It's a sin vs Magnus Chase by Rick Riordan

Doctor Who vs Portrait of a young lady on fire

Steven Universe vs Saltburn

Xena Warrior Princess vs Cyberpunk 2077

Welcome to Nightvale vs Schitt's creek

Night in the woods vs A league Of their own

Lisa Frankenstein vs The boys in the band (1970)

Black Sails vs Owl House

Hannibal vs The Traitor Baru Cormorant

Bottoms vs The Locked Tomb series by Tamsyn Muir

The picture of Dorian Grey vs Adventure time

The Sandman (comic) vs Supernatural

Maurice (1987) vs Hazbin Hotel

Nimona vs Love Simon

Epithet Erased vs What we do in the shadows

Buffy the Vampire Slayer vs The Other Two

One Day at a time (2017) vs Falsettos

She-ra and the princesses of power vs Dykes to Watch Out for

Celluloid Closet vs Harley Quinn

But I'm a cheerleader vs Vida

Angels In America vs Glee

Hooky by Míriam Bonastre Tur vs They both die in the end by Adam Silvera

[quitealotofsodapop]

Yuebei y los gemelos es prácticamente es ''por la compra de nuestro producto puede llevarse nuestro producto obtiene dos gratis'' Y que Wukong es el que lleve a los gemelos dhsavdjasd, Entonces Yuebei es la reencarnación de LBD? intento volver pero no le resulto ? ¿Cómo se siente MK? ¡Siento que su relación es como la de Marco y Meteora en Star vs forces of evils!

translated via google:

"Yuebei and the twins is practically "by purchasing our product you can get our product you get two free" And that Wukong is the one who carries the dhsavdjasd twins, so Yuebei is the reincarnation of LBD? I try to go back but it doesn't work? How does MK feel? I feel like their relationship is like Marco and Meteora in Star vs forces of evils!"

Haha! Wukong and Macaque certainly got a "2 Free with Purchase" deal with Yuebei and the twins.

MK is very nervous about Yuebei for sure. He wants to be excited for his baby sister + two extra brothers. But the lingering memories of LBD still causes him issues at times. He does discuss it with Wukong and Macaque, and his parents understand that it might take him longer to bond with Yuebei for it.

Then she arrives, and Yuebei is all screaming and chirping at everything in sight. MK adores her from that very moment.

Yuebei loves her big brother too, but can be a bit... difficult to manage at times.

She proves to be a lot more aggressive than the Eclipse Twins were.

MK has a brief moment of panic thinking that it's LBD's memories leaking in, but then the Lunar Node Twins bite him too. He sighs in relief knowing that this group of babies are just very bitey.

[fiddlepickdouglas]

Disclaimer: This post is an interpretation of some of the Barbie movie's themes and messages, particularly struggles men are faced with. That's its focus. It is not exhaustive of all possible takes or understandings of the film, either mine or others. If talking about men as equal human beings is a problem for you, feel free to ignore this post and then block me. Otherwise, carry on.

One of my favorite parts of Barbie is when Gloria is doing Barbie's makeup toward the end and they're talking about overturning everything that the Kens have done to Barbieland, where Barbie expresses how she just didn't expect her Ken to act out so drastically. Gloria tells her it's because he has feelings for her, hinting that creating Kendom is how he tried to express those feelings and his upset with the constant rejection he's gotten. And when Barbie starts to say she's afraid of hurting him by going behind his back Gloria stops her.

I could praise that moment alone for showing how women need to stop apologizing for the feelings of others, but this is really key: Gloria doesn't trash talk Ken. She states the bad things he did but she never equates those actions with who Ken is, because they're not. I feel like any other film would've gone the route of "He's an asshole/You don't need him/Dump the douchebag/Why do you care about him when he's treated you like this?" (and to be fair I have a huge tendency to go that way myself)

Gloria doesn't even know Ken! But she was right not to immediately act like he was garbage. I don't know if she got that understanding from Barbie herself or just from being a long-term Barbie doll lover and employee at Mattel, but it stands out to me. We even see proof that none of the Kens are truly bad! In the beginning of the film they're just dudes (Just Kens, lol, I set myself up for that)! Dudes that don't even know what they don't know and can't be blamed for it.

Because the truth is that men are not inherently trash and their actions do not come from an innately evil place. Unfortunately for men, especially in the west, society has come up short in teaching them how to deal with and properly express how they feel in favor of power and saving face. Emotions hold bigger weight than they even know, but the modes they've been allowed are generally aggression, romantic passion, and cool. Nothing outside the lines. Imagine trying to sort a giant ball of complex emotions into one of those three things and stay normal.

Gloria understands that the lack of emotional maturity and regulation is where Ken's dramatic tantrum stems from. While she has experience with the patriarchy and knows how to deal with it because of the situation in the real world, I find it fascinating that her character is the one to understand both sides because she also has experience as a matriarch. (I could be wrong, but it seems like she's the breadwinner of the household. The role of her husband I have no commentary on other than que Dios lo bendice, el pobre no se puede hablar español).

So while Barbieland agrees to barely give the Kens back any power (an extremely accurate reflection of what women get in the real world), the film and its characters ultimately don't villainize or punish them further for their wrongs. Punishment isn't always the right action when someone is wrong (insert commentary on Barbie and Ken constantly getting put in jail in the real world vs. no such thing happening in their own). Sometimes it's simply helping them understand what they're dealing with and guiding them through the ordeal step by step.

Painting the Kens as all bad would've ignored what a Ken is. He is a doll just like Barbie. Ken's issue is that he's unloved and the only form of love he has been given to accept is romantic love. What he and all the other Kens begin to discover at the end of the film is self love, which is just as important, if not more.

Now I'm going to rephrase that last paragraph.

Painting men as all bad ignores what a man is. They are humans just like women are. Most men's issue is that they are unloved and the only form of love they've been given to accept is romantic love. What the men of this world need to discover is self love, which is just as important, if not more.