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[genderfluid-dionysus-child]

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[bea-schuyler]

Ummm hey

heyy!

[positivelyadhd]

Thank you for that sps post 💗 I have high intelligence but below average processing speed and its such a conflict in my brain. I dont think many people realize just how much of a problem sps can be, especially when they can't even tell you have it 😞

i'm so glad it helped anon <3

i expereince the same, my processing speed is very below average but my intelligence is higher and i found those things kind of balanced each other out?

it's largely the reason i couldn't get any support for my ND until i was in sixth form (16/17), because teachers would see that i wasn't failing my exams so clearly i didn't need any support?

learning about what having a slow processing speed means how it impacts us has helped me a lot with being kinder to myself.

I think that society places way too much importance on the ability to do things quickly and really sucks how little people seem to understand it? Since leaving school and working in retail I've found my sps has been the most difficult thing, not because I find it difficult but because people around me seem to struggle to understand it?

so many people seem to think that if they point out someone is taking a while to do something they'll just speed up. like it's something that a person can control? or that everyone does things at the same speed and if someone takes longer to do something than them then they must've been wasting time or not doing it right.

it's the thing i've always been insecure about because it's the thing i've always been so aware i sturggle with it and get told to get better at. it's upsetting and frustrating to have to try and explain that i can't. that yeah it must be a little annoying you had to wait 10 minutes for me to complete a task you would've done in 5 five, but this is my life, everything takes me longer and no matter how hard i try i can't change that.

it has felt so isolating, to know the world works faster than I can, so i'm glad to hear i'm not alone. i'm sending you love anon <33

[swallowstosea]

hello!!! how are you? 🥹💖

hello!! I'm good thank you I've missed you!! how are you? 💘🥹

[faenights]

I’m routing for you, take all the time you need.

thank you friend <3

[positivelyadhd]

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[positivelyadhd]

hey, did u know your one of my favorite blogs??? Well now you do, happy Valentine’s Day! May it only be filled with joy and love!

oh my goodness thank you!! I'm so sorry I never saw this I always seem to miss ask notifs </3 ily I hope you had a great valentine's day! <3

[positivelyadhd]

it might seem a little bit counter intuitive for things that have brought me joy/comfort but I’ve been having a chronic illness flare up this week But, I’ve surrounded myself with wonderful people who are happy to give advice when I reach out to them and are respectful of my boundaries and capabilities and volunteer to help me with tasks :) (smiley face). I am very happy to have them around

that's so lovely to hear!! honestly I think having things can bring you joy/comfort on days when things are hard are somehow more important than the days when things are easier! I'm glad to hear you have such wonderful friends <33

[swallowstosea]

... but is it greg james though because i Cannot Tell 😅🤨

Honestly I'm not sure? It's for some reason vey hard to find any proper pictures from then (reverse image search is so bad now??) but it looks like the photo was taken backstage when Taylor was at BBC Radio 1s Teen Awards in 2013!

Greg James interviewed her afterwards for Radio 1 (so did Dan and Phil to the death of my 11 year old self). But the only red carpet picture I can find is in two Mirror [1 | 2] articles about Radio 1 generally and then this random gallery that says the photo is of Matt Edmundson, which I'm sure isn't right?? (this is Matt Edmundson that night). It's also very possible that the shirt just belongs to Matt Edmundson and Greg James wore it there?

I'm sure they would've mentioned it during the show/on the radio at that time but I truly cba to listen back to all of it

I'm bad with faces tbh, but I'm still convinced it's Greg James someone please correct me if I'm wrong I feel like I am going crazy.

[positivelyadhd]

ik its not ur usual positivity but THANK YOU so much for that post!!! I feel like "gifted kid burnout" really dominates the conversation and thats only one experience of many.

I was diagnosed with adhd in elementary school and was basically like. "the kid with problems" "lost cause" my entire life. one of my teachers even directly told my mom she should be ashamed of me lol. any successes were like-- "see what you just did? imagine how much more you would be capable of if you didn't have adhd." to the point where I don't even feel any sense of accomplishment for graduating college. it's just one more "failure" i avoided in other peoples eyes. (i dont personally think not graduating college is a failure at all btw, that is just Society's Message™)

this part is kinda tangential but from what i've seen a lot (ofc not all) of gifted kid burnout posts are like, if only i would have been diagnosed earlier all of this could be avoided. and maybe that's true - I understand where it's coming from at least, the frustration of feeling that something is wrong but not knowing what or having that "proof" that you're not just "lazy" etc. im not saying this isn't a valid wish or frustration but in my experience... hoooo boy.

personally being diagnosed with ADHD in the early 2000s, didn't meant you got support, it meant you were written off from the start, adults thought you had no future, you were seen as a "problem child" like it wasn't "oh you're not lazy you just have adhd!" it was "you have ADHD so you are built to be lazy and theres nothing you can do about it lol" so it didn't solve much. just created a different type of problem. im very happy to see things look to be changing though!!

I'm curious if other people had a similar experience and thank you so much for adding the 'diagnosed but not supported' part bc that is so real!!!

Absolutely this!!

My experience with diagnosis and lack of support was strange, but basically my primary (ages 4-11) school (I believe) suspected I had adhd/dyslexia and did offer some (very limited) support. But they also always told my parents they didn't think I had a learning difficulty when they asked because I was in extra programmes. I don't really think the support they did give me really helped all that much, and honestly, when I did get my diagnosis (around 12/13?) I'd spent so long thinking there was just something "wrong" with me that I feel like the lack of diagnosis was a lot more negatively impactful than not receiving support would've been.

My secondary school then managed to flip this and despite me getting my diagnosis part way through, nothing really changed either. Being told I had ADHD/Dyslexia changed me and my understanding of myself. I finally felt like things made sense and there was a reason i found things so difficult, it wasn't that there was something "wrong" with me but the system was not built for me. Although my diagnosis was early compared to some people, it felt late to me, and everything that can happen when you're undiagnosed had already set in.

I wished I'd been diagnosed earlier but honestly, I had a similar experience to you, and I don't think it would've done much. And even when I was finally diagnosed, my school also never really acknowledged my diagnosis and wouldn't put any of the accommodations that I needed in place (despite my diagnosis coming with a report which explained everything they should've been doing to support me and how they could've done it) I didn't get any accommodations for my neurodiversity until I was in uni, and I got my diagnosis in 2015 so at least for me, my experience wasn't that different to yours in the early 2000s.

When I tried to fight for the accommodations I should've been given, I was told that I would pass my exams, and so it didn't really matter, they didn't believe going through the hassle of giving me accommodations would help me (although the diagnosis report itself said otherwise.) I always felt similarly to you, I could scrape by but "imagine how much better you'd do without dyslexia/adhd" but I also had this weird "well because you're "gifted" you can get average grades, you don't need support!" message as well?

And yeah, just like you, I didn't really feel as accomplished as I should've done when I finished uni. I'm proud of myself for doing it but I do feel this weird pressure of knowing that if I didn't have adhd/dyslexia or managed it better, I would've done much better.

I apologise for rambling about myself but yeah thank you for this ask! I feel the same way, and I'm glad to hear I'm not alone in it as well.

I wish you the best dear anon <3

[positivelyadhd]

hi just wanna say thank u so much for this blog. i dont even remember when i started following it, maybe a year or two or three ago? but it was the first ever like, genuine unabashed positivity account on the internet i started engaging with.

i used to loathe myself for years. i used to beat myself up for everything and criticize myself and assume everyone was holding me to this impeccable yet undefined social standard that was always barely out of reach. i used to isolate myself and avoid everything and i didn't really care for life. i thought self affirmations were stupid and self love was uncomfortable, weird, and i relied on every form of external validation to feel good about myself. i didnt think i needed friends and i did everything to avoid feeling any hurt.

i started trying out this thing of unabashed self kindness earlier this year and it's been incredibly foreign, but also i have never felt more alive since i was an actual child. and i think like, majority of the words that have kept me afloat have been from posts on this blog.

im at a point now where ive like, experienced so much joy that my brain's sort of reared its head and started beating me up again when there's a chance i'll become depressed again. which is not fun but also im really really glad i have things to lose in this world now. if that makes sense lol

thank u sm for being a wodnerful ray of positivity in this world and i wish u the absolute best. 💖💖💖

Hello Anon!

Firstly, I'm so sorry it's taken me so long to see this! (I need to use tumblr desktop more, mobile always seems to hide ask notifs from me!)

I honestly can't find words to tell you how happy and honoured it makes me to know that this blog and my words have helped you in being kinder to yourself and finding more joy in the world.

Everything you said, about not believing in positivity posts and isolating yourself and holding yourself to an impossible standard also resonates so deeply with me. Those are all things I found really really difficult (and still sometimes do!) and are the reasons I started this blog in the first place! I admired the positivity community here a lot and wanted to have somewhere to keep the posts that resonated with me in one place. As a way of reminding myself that there is so much joy and beauty in the world if you look for it, but also acknowledging that that can be so difficult when you're struggling with mental illness and the fact you are trying is so, so important. This blog is here for everyone, always, but it started as a thing for myself when I was finding it hardest to find the parts I love in the world! I am so happy to hear that it's also helped to achieve the same thing for you as well. If there's one thing I want to do with my life it's to help people in ways I wish I could've been helped myself and to remind people (and myself!) that there is wonderful things here, even it's sometimes hard to see.

I'm sorry to hear that you've been finding it harder again, but I am sending you so much love and positivity and I hope you can continue to be kind and patient with yourself as you have been and know that you deserve to do the kind things that you do for yourself.

I am sending you all my love and thank you so much for this ask <33

[faenights]

whered u steal ur username from

no where specific really! I love folklore and fairies so I wanted "fay" or "fairie" ect and something night/moon/star related because those are two things I really love! plus I just think the words look pretty! I kind of just tried out a few different things until I found one that wasn't taken!

[positivelyadhd]

Ofc and the same goes for you too ❤️💕

thank you friend <33

[positivelyadhd]

Thank you ❤️💕 I would send you a love meme but it seems like you closed the pic option but that's ok 👌 I can express it with my words, and yes it was bad but now am better 👌😩 like yesterday I have walked about a 1 hour + half and today I will walk too, also I have decided to walk on evenings you for the support 💕❤️ I hope I will able to lose some weight and be more healthy

look after yourself friend and make sure you are drinking enough water and eating enough to care for yourself! I'm sending you my love!

[positivelyadhd]

Tw: mentions of not eating well and other sentisive topics + venting so pls if you are uncomfy with those ignore it

Today , i didnt ate properly cus we had less food in the frige , i made myself eggs but couldnt eat all of them :( its so annoying 😩 am on a diet so am being carefull on what to eat or not so theres that but we dont even have like anything like chicken , cumbers , tomatos , and other healthy foods that i can eat but thankfully my mom ordered somethings and hopefully she bought some of these and other healthy foods 😩 anyways love , like i said if any of those bothers you in some way , you are 1000% to delete it ❤❤

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling to eat. The fact that you're trying to recovery is important to acknowledge and im proud of you for trying! look after yourself my friend i hope you can get some more food you feel comfortable eating <33

[positivelyadhd]

it'll be okay right? right???

yes!! i promise you it always is <3