#oonahmed canon

[spaciebabie]

so unamed does a lot of outwardly awful things throughout the story both to dahlia and to the people around him as a result of the trauma hes experienced, but dahlia is also not innocent in her treatment specifically of unamed. the bad things she does to unamed are more invisible/you have to look closer to see it. it starts off when they first meet and dahlia takes him in. unamed has been living on the streets for like 20 years so he doesnt really have good home etiquette nor does he know how to co-exist with other people. dahlia will constantly chastise him for not acting like a "normal" person. she may play it off as a joke, calling him a slob or a freak, getting passive aggressive, complaining when he does something, getting pissed at him for something that was his fault....but unintentionally implying that hes a screw up. treating him with harshness when its all hes known his whole life, rather than the gentleness he needs to heal.

and its not like dahlia has any clue that her words are hurting him. unamed doesnt even know himself! he's so deep in his cptsd flashbacks and abandonment depression that everything dahlia says he already believes about himself. so dahlia is really just confirming his (unrealistic) cptsd fueled thoughts he has about himself. hes the worst person alive he deserves to die he'll never be a good person even if he tries and so that directly makes his relationship with dahlia worse.

dahlia doesnt realize that she is part of the cause of why unamed acts the way he does and the reason why he seemingly gets worse over the course of the story. if she did, she would change her behavior immediately. but these characters are so uninformed about each others plights their relationship is doomed to be toxic.

dahlia is also...Kind of Clingy. literally forgetting that unamed is an adult and his own person and doesnt need her protection all the time (but then at the same time he feels anxious now when shes not around hehe codependent ships for the win). like. hes a literal BIOWEAPON for christs sake. he is more than capable at taking care of himself (and has for 20 years!). and when unamed disappears for awhile and suddenly appears back at dahlias doorstep shes (understandably) pissed, but lays into unamed instead of having literally any other healthy reaction.

and then there's her people pleasing. ohhh shes already a really bad people pleaser but when it comes to unamed? shes floored every time he demands something of her. she effectively has no boundaries with unamed. she may get real pissed at him about stuff, but whenever unamed exhibits his awful behavior she literally just takes it. maybe she gives him a gentle "hey stop this" but there are no consequences for when he hurts her. she just lets it happen over and over again and gives him a pass, once again, actively worsening him in the process.

and then at the same that she acts awfully towards him...she treats him Like A God. will tell him how amazing he is, how she loves him so much and will always be there to support him....in DIRECT contradiction to the way she treated him before. unamed already has a god complex, but dahlia makes it so much worse. he feels like he has really high expectations to fill now. hes being held to a standard that he has no hope of ever reaching which makes it all the more awful when he fails.

these lesbians are nawwwwwt good for each other at all. they both need relationship therapy as well as individual therapy if they ever have any hope of making this work.