#only stupdu girl allowed to bs femme apparently

[bunnyboy-juice]

😐😐😐😐😐😐 this is literally a post i wrote because i, a fat hairy gender fucked/gender nonconforming femme with a fat belly and "nontraditional" expressions of femininity, have felt othered by my own community and needed love and it took less than 100 notes to be othered again. this happens on my nudes. this happens on posts i make sharing my love about BEING femme. this happens when i express that no, i am not going to perform the femininity that is expected of me by ALL cis people and even other queer folks who hold onto bioessentialist ideals of what Real femininity looks like. this happens ALL the time. i can literally scream I AM FEMME I AM FEMME I AM FEMME and people will refuse to call me such and will sometimes go as far as to call me butch WHEN I AM TALKING ABOUT BEING FEMME AND LOVING BEING FEMME. IM FUCKING SICK OF YOU PEOPLE. IM FUCKING SICK OF YOU. I AM LITERALLY NOT ABLE TO BE MYSELF AND BE SEEN AS FEMME. DO YOU GET IT. DO I HAVE TO DO THIS FOR YOU ASSHOLES TO RESPECT ME AS A FEMME? WHAT THE FUCK DO I HAVE TO DO? JESUS FUCKING CHRIST im turning the reblogd off on this i cant do this shit again and again. you guys only can recognize the most stereotypical expressions of femininity as femme and im fucking done trying to make positivity posts to include femmes like me when it just results in me getting misgendered and othered more.

a message for fat femmes with complex relationships to their gender expression, fat femmes who are not women, fat femmes who are gender nonconforming, fat femmes who have a lot of body hair, fat femmes who are balding, fat femmes who aren't "traditionally" feminine, fat femmes who are trans, fat femmes who are on HRT, fat femmes who have flat chests and asses, fat femmes who are not curvy, fat femmes with big bellies, fat femmes with loose skin, fat femmes who have skin problems - fat femmes who have been made to feel undesireable, to feel you have to perform gender a certain way to be read as femme, who feel like you are never included in any femme positivity posts, who feel invisible in your community for being fat:

i love you. i love you. i love you.