#one of the biggest things that made me personally realise I was (bi) ace was looking in the past

[katsune-nya]

Tokyo Revengers Romantic and Sexual Orientation Headcanons.

Part 2.

Contains: Michi, Mikey, Draken, Baji, Tora, Fuyu, Taka, Hakkai, Pah and Peh, Hina Emma, Yuzuha, Senju, Sanzu, Ran Rindo, Koko, Inui, South, Taiju, Shin, Benkei, Waka and Omi.

Takemichi:

He's so Straight it's actually sad, like i've never seen a straighter man. He actually doesn't have too much of a sexual attraction, but he's not in the ace spectrum either.

Edit: I change my mind, he's a bi king.

Mikey:

AroAce. He's in the spectrum and honestly doesn't really see the charm on relationships, he would get in one with the right person but doesn't look for it AT ALL. (He's the biggest simp when he falls tho).

Draken:

Straight Ally. The kinda ally that literally doesn't give a fuck. Would kiss a dude, doesn't care. He grew up in a fucking brothel, literally nothing about sex makes him raise a brow.

Edit: Remembered this.

That's such a weird thing for a straight guy to say, man. WHAT DID YOU MEAN??!!?!? Do you like Emma 'cause she kinda looks like Mikey?

Keisuke:

AROACE AROACE AROACE AROACE. He's so in the AroAce Spec it's not even a secret. Experimented with boys and girls, just doesn't really do much to him. Doesn't look for a relationship but if it happens he'll be surprised. No gender or sex prefference.

Kazutora:

Actually, i think he's Bi. The Homophobic Gay kind. He was so in denial until he was an adult and came out to Chifuyu and Kei in such a nonchallant way in the middle of a random convo at breakfast.

Right. In front. Of their salads.

Chifuyu:

Either the Straightest one can be or Pan. He's a romantic but doesn't get in a relationship easily, has literally zero experience but when imagining kissing in the rain suddently he realised the gender of the other person was changing??? The first person he came out to was Peke J and then Keisuke who gave him a thumbs up and kept walking like nothing.

Takashi:

I'm so sorry to the fangirls but this man came personally to me and told me he's a Fully Fledged Homosexual. He's so gay, oh my fucking God. Gay gay gay gay gay homo gay.

He has so much experience too and loves girls (could be bi) but men are just *chefs kiss*.

Gay and pissed about it but 'cause he's a Misandristic Man.

Edit: I realised I was wrong, he's actually the only straight character in this whole manga, he's just unrealistically perfect and that made me not see that he is a cishet.

Hakkai:

He's so fucking Bi for fucks sake. He realised he liked boys before he liked girls and he felt SO guilty about it. He literally doesn't know what the fuck he feels for Takashi. Is it Platonic or Romantic Love? He decided it didn't matter 'cause he just loves him and that's enough.

Pah and Peh:

Both Straight but both experimented with different kinds of people. They genuinly don't care and will be your biggest suporters whatever you are. Literal definition of Love Is Love. Will beat up a Bigot for you and enjoy it.

Hina:

Bi Bi Bi (actually Pan). She had only one or two crushes in girls but she fell in love with Michi at such a young age she never really cared. She has fucking queer merch but the aesthetic ones. She is the violent gay, Be Gay, Do Crime.

Emma:

... I wish she was gay... She's so Straight. She found being queer weird at first but only 'cause she never saw it 'round. Once Hina came out to her in a casual "boys" convo she was just like: "Oh... Well, that makes sense." And moved on. Got a cute lil pin with her pronouns and put it on her bag.

Yuzuha:

GAY. She's a Pan queen. She has crushes VERY rarely, like, once every 80 years, but it never matters what gender they are. She has a "Beat a Right Wing" sticker. She is gay with a PURPOSE, the purpose is to make her brother mad. She got over her crush on Michi just to develop one on Hina... Give this girl a break.

Senju:

A romantic. Probably Pan. She falls in love every Tuesday, Waka and Omi have to deal with her talking their ears off about her latest crush "I'm telling you, they're the one!". Probably the most into Non-Binary people, she thinks it's badass and cool.

Haruchiyo:

He HAS to be Gay. Bi at most. He just likes men. He likes men. Have i said he likes men? First crush was OBVIOUSLY Mikey. Whenever he gets drunk he starts saying the gayest shit (specially towards Rindo) and the Haitani brothers just have to listen to him and pray for him to get tired and shut the fuck up. "Listen, if i wasn't into [name] rn, i'd probably fuck you too". Ok, they don't care, go to bed.

Ran:

Pan. A hole is a hole. No but fr. He doesn't care, he literally has no prefference, but actually, 'till he was like 20 he had NO PULL. NOTHING. NADA. Hit him up and he'll fold.

Rindo:

Bi. He likes boys, he likes girls, he has liked the random nonbinary cutie down the street. He just kinda goes with the flow but he has prefferences so he doesn't really call himself pan, he likes men the most, especially if they are smaller than him, he thinks it's cute. Another one with no fucking game, probably kissed Sanzu and regretted it instantly because why Sanzu?!?!?! He was drunk, let him forget it.

Hajime:

... Come on, he HAS to be Pan. He likes pretty people, whatever they are. He likes looking at people as if they were art pieces but he doesn't get crushes. Once he falls in love, it's for LIFE.

Seishu:

Probably Bi or the best Straight Ally. He likes people rougher than him and people energetic/extroverted/chaotic/talkative. Doesn't really think about his prefference so he doesn't put a label on himself. Whoever he likes, he likes. In the Ace Spectrum.

South:

... Listen. Ok. Listen to me. I swear i have a point just liSTEN TO ME.

...

He's gay. He's fully homosexual. And he has no real prefference about it bUT, he likes femenine men a lot. Or men shorter or skinnier than him. Or... Honestly. He just... Likes men.

Taiju:

Pfffft. He's actually Bi or Pan but so in denial, in the closet, a closet guarded by Cerberus himself and a thousand locks with a pond around it filled with crocodiles. He likes strong people who can tell him to shut the fuck up and encourage him to do better. He dreams of getting married and having a family. Ew.

Shinichiro:

He's Pan. He has an obsession with women but he gets just as down bad with men, or enbys. He likes people smarter than him. He preffers people smaller than him 'cause he gets too flustered with people bigger, but ohohoho, he LOVES heavier people.

Benkei:

I swear i can't decide. It switches every time. I think his sexuality is fluid and he's unlabelled. AroAce Spec tho, doesn't really get crushes.

Wakasa:

AroAce Spec, but he has TOO MUCH GAME. He pulls without trying. He is mostly uninterested in people and relationships. You have to be an EXTRAORDINARY person to catch his attention (I have this headcanon that he's lowkey into Shin but that's for another day). Once he falls, you are not getting rid of him.

Takeomi:

Probably fully Aro. His true love is money. If he got into a relationship it would be a VERY slow and robotic process, until he relaxes and is like... Huh... This is nice. Then a switch flips.

• Will do more in some time about the rest of the characters. I had no more space in the tags lmao.

[huphilpuffs]

how did you realise you were gay?? im confused because ive been with boys and girls and with girls it feels real and i feel something but with boys like i dont feel much?? its like im capable of being infatuated with them as a person but i dont get the feeling i do with girls?? i cant tell whether its bc im used to 'liking boys' or what its so ????

sexuality is so confusing, anon, and really hard to figure out. keep in mind that it’s not necessarily black and white, and everything is on a spectrum and fluid and no one’s experience is the same. but, that being said, here’s kinda the steps towards me identifying as gay or, more specifically, somewhere on the ace spectrum and homoromantic (under the cut due to length):

1. breaking my brain’s heteronormative way of thinking. I grew up somewhere where, rather that people talking bad about gay people, they just didn’t talk about them at all. I was in 9th grade when I realized being gay was a thing that happened outside that one parade in Toronto that my dad bitched about every year where guys grabbed each other’s asses (that’s how my family described pride). and it wasn’t until 2 years ago that I really became aware that girls could be gay, too. but the biggest step for me, in this, was identifying as ace because it was the first time I acknowledged that I wasn’t straight.

2. differentiating between platonic and romantic attraction. this was a pain that was made easier by a timely crush on a girl. after identifying as ace I was p convinced I was either hetero or bi or panromantic because I thought I’d had a crush on a guy. but then I got a crush on a girl where I wanted to kiss her and hug her and cuddle her and kiss her cheeks and hold her hand and date her and blah blah blah. which I’d never felt for a boy. also I found myself wanting to stare at her because she’s cute and getting butterflies when she spoke which I quickly realized I had felt for other girls in the past (back when I didn’t know that girls being with girls was a thing that happened). so that made differentiating quite easy.

3. letting myself be just gay. by which I mean even at this point, when I knew a) I liked girls and b) I never liked boys the way I liked girls, my brain kept trying to convince me that I had to be bi or pan. (note: this is not to say that being bi or pan is always the result of brain’s being stupid, just that I’m probably not even though my brain wanted me to be attracted to boys, too). I still kinda struggle with this step, but overall I’ve accepted that I like girls and haven’t had feelings for boys and that’s okay.

so that’s kinda my story, the condensed version. keep in mind that that’s just me, though. :) I hope you figure your situation out, and that even without a label, you understand that your experiences and feelings are valid. 

[karin848]

All odds ✌🏽✌🏽💕💕💕

Ooooh my! Alrighty, this is gonna be one long post buddy! [Guess who just realized they put this post in their drafts instead of published on their blog!!!] Sorry @glove23

1) what is your sexuality?

I'm ace! But I identify as biromantic

3) how long have you been aware of your sexuality/identity?

Probably since junior year of high school? And even then I've gone through different labels up until as recent as last year trying to find the word that accurately describes how I feel

5)share a positive memory about coming out!

I remember my grandpa asked me during lunch if I was "ACDC" which apparently was slang for bi? I said yeah and he was cool with it and I still think that was funny

7)do you participate in pride related events? any other events?

I'm involved in my college's GSA (Gender & Sexuality Alliance) as well as my home town's youth center for LGBTQIA kids.

9)do you feel pride in who you are?

Yes, absolutely!

11)tell us about your first crush?

I remember a boy in the first grade named Santiago who I liked because he was the only other person in my class who loved reading the Clifford the Big Red Dog books. His mom hand-sewed me a skirt that still fits

13)have you come out to friends and family?

Bits and pieces. I still have friends who don't know that I'm in a polyamorous relationship, and my dad thinks I'm a lesbian because I didn't want to tell him about being nonbinary

15)do you believe there is a “closet” to come out of?

In terms of society's way of pushing people who differ from the ""norm"" to the outskirts of the mainstream, yes

17)what’s your biggest pet peeve when it comes to lgbtqa characterization in media?

Having this idea of a limit on how many minorities you can have in any form of media. Like "oh there's too many gay guys in this show, its just not realistic" like, do people not realise its not just one Asian girl and a gay guy in a group? We flock to each other like penguins, looking for similar people. You'd be surprised at how many groups have the "token straight friend"

19)what did your teachers say about the lgbtqa community in school?

Hmmm, I'm in college so I've had some AMAZING professors (One prof named Deeb was really cool and it made me happy when he'd find a way to slip words like " heterosexism" and "heteronormativity" into a lesson) But one thing I hate is when teachers mention "the gay community" and people snicker like there aren't probably at least ten people around you who identify as something other than straight and cisgender

21)what’s an absolute turn off for you in people?

casual rudeness to anyone they believe is "lesser" than them on a social scale. One asshole in high school was an absolute dick to the janitors and I can't stand that. They're doing the necessary jobs that people that that jerkwad would never want to do in a billion years. Also people who are rude to the shuttle drivers at my college. The drivers are so nice, they're not just your chauffeurs, you can make some small talk for three minutes.

23)how do you feel about lgbtqa clubs/apps/websites?

Love em. Like I said, I'm involved with my college's GSA and I'm all about hosting pride events to meet other people in the community

25)how does you country view the lgbtqa community?

America is...I will say definitely more accepting than other places, but it all depends on the type of people you surround yourself with

27)any tips for heterosexual people on how to handle lgbtqa events/news?

Other people exist, you can take a minute to respect news even though it doesn't directly relate to your gender or sexuality

29)how do you feel about receiving questions about your sexuality/idenity?

I am all for questions!! (As probably proved by this questionnaire) I'm super interested in educating anyone who has questions. I never would have found a label and a community if I didn't go asking questions wen I felt that something was different.