#on a less serious note never was benji closer to score a gol than on last monday was that a sign ya Rab lol!!! mchallah 3omri and all🤍

[mchiti]

tw loss

I recently had a convo with a friend of mine who never got to meet her dad because he passed away two months before she was born. And because we do talk about loss a lot, and because I always feel embarrassed to share my grief with her as she had it worse than me in that sense, I always stay in silence when she speaks. She does speak a lot on the importance of grieving and how it teaches you to find a balance and to know your place in this world and I'm not as good as her in this bc I don't know to what extent I agree - to me every pain is unnecessary, a crime, an obscenity, and I know this is also not what my religion has taught me and it does question a lot of my relationship with it as well, not gonna lie here.

Either way, she said to me today that she was almost glad that she never got to meet her dad because if she did, letting him go would have been much worse and that she feels sad for me. And I was at loss because it sounded very painful to me and I wanted to tell her that I actually feel the opposite - that I'm glad that I got to spend my life with my mum for 21 years and I can't imagine how painful would have been if I never knew her. We both felt we were one luckier than the other and that really hit me. I still think her pain is worse than mine but it made me think that maybe she's right, grief does enable us to see the light somehow, to understand things in a way, to feel empathic towards others, to balance out sadness and love. I don't know how to explain but maybe I will tell her next time.