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inkykeiji · 2 years ago

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ughh ur tag ur it part 2!!!! omg sooo good. for me i SEE where dabi is coming from cutting off contact between reader and keigo, but thats bc ive been in similar situations with family members where I didnt even realize 'helping' was enabling them, I dont wanna say im 'team dabi', cuz yes ZERO contact is a tad harsh but I feel u write dabi like he knows the outcome of this situation and he doesnt want readers heart to break from her brother just like his did with his mother and her addiction

waaaah thank you so much anon bb!!! <333 i’m glad it comes across that way, though, because more or less that’s exactly the situation!! in addition to his own personal experiences with having a family member addicted to drugs, dabi works with addicts on a day-to-day basis; he knows them, their habits and their behaviours, very well. he’s seen other people get hurt and, as you’ve touched on, he himself has experienced that pain and agony firsthand, and the last thing he wants is for his baby to have to suffer through that shit, too. if he can shield her from it as much as he can, then he WILL, in every way possible. as i mentioned a few days ago, dabi truly and genuinely believes he knows what is absolutely best for her. he is positive that he is doing the right thing in this situation, even if it hurts her, even if she can’t necessarily see it from his point of view, he doesn’t care—none of that matters, in his opinion. what matters is that he is doing this for her benefit and is keeping her safe, and he doesn’t see anything wrong with his behaviour in any way. i’m going to touch on this in the next ask as well, but it can also be said that dabi’s actions are also influenced by the jealousy he feels regarding reader and keigo’s close relationship and sibling bond, however that is more subconsciously prompting his actions; it isn’t something he himself realizes as a motivating factor.

#but yeah!!!!! i feel u so hard on the enabling thing #and it can be so difficult to stop #because you WANT to help #you know??? you want to help them out but you obv don’t want to spur the addiction #but it’s so difficult to kick someone you love out of your house and onto the street #to stop feeding and funding and clothing them #it’s very hard and painful #it’s something my mother tried to do so many times and just couldn’t bring herself to do #it’s a lot more complex than people realize and those who don’t have addict family members just DON’T understand #like you cannot truly understand unless you’ve been in that situation yourself #anyway that’s pretty much reader’s fatal flaw: she wants so badly to be HELPFUL; to be USEFUL to everyone around her #to ease that stress and pain from those she loves and be a little ray of sunshine and hope for them #and i think that’s a fatal flaw SO many of us can relate to #the whole ‘lighting yourself on fire to keep others warm’ type deal #aNYWAY i have rambled enough #i love u anon thank u so much for this <333 #have an awesome thursday night bb!!!!!#tag universe #inky.bb #clari gets mail

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