#oh. also. this was written abt lovelessness or aromanticsm in my mind. but it applies for other stuff also.

[fagofgod]

so weird to me that people will say they dont understand x identity or whatever and expect it to just be like. the end of the conversation. or like they expect it to go unchallenged. like. ugh. idk how to say this. why do they seem offended when you try to explain it to them. like. i had a point.

why do people say they dont understand something and just expect it to be accepted. like, no, actually! i don't think its helpful or harmless to just go on not understanding "but still supporting". like. ugh. understanding something isnt relating to it, necessarily. i understand that, for example, bi people are into men and women even if i dont relate to it. bc... what do you mean if you say, for example, that you don't "understand" people not feeling romantic attraction bc you're a deeply romantic person. what does that MEAN. bc to me. PERSONALLY. it almost always feels like the people saying this don't really view the identity as.... properly real. i guess. it's like they're saying 'oh you can be that way you one but that's soooo wild i could NEVER do that you're WEIRD. but that's okay hehe'. it feels condescending. sort of. ughhhhhhh. do you get. what i'm trying. to say