#obviously anon gets dibs since they asked but if they don't want it you can have it

[romelle]

(I’m the anon that was asking about the url)

I was kinda thinking of something to with Lance or romelle or allura (hence why I asked you haha)

ok!!! for now i just made a list of urls related to those three that i already have saved (though it's mostly just lance & allura & then alteans in general), but if none fits and you give me a more specific vibe, i could probably find you some new ones 😊💖🌈🍓🌻💫

pinkpilot | roseallura | voltronallura | vldprincess | vldsallura | pixieallura  | allurastan | voltronsleg | oceanlance | lanceblue | lmcclain | vldsniper | bluearmour | thetailors | lancesbi | lancestan | stanlance | vldromelle | healingpods | alteanpilot | voltronpilot | mechalions | paladinarmour | junieberries | alteansword

also not related to them (and she's a pretty minor character), but if you want a canon url i have florona!

[couch-house]

Wow people like that anon are why we need to be more educated about manipulation via self-destruction. We all need to understand and know that if we constantly, repeatedly "make" someone feel bad enough to consider harmful actions just through TINY contradictions it might just not be us and we don't have to put up with all the stress, discomfort, depression, etc. that comes from it. And sometimes it's really obvious when it's manipulation, it's not NEVER an option.

exactly bro. i’m gonna do something real fun and talk about my abuser, who did this for years! under the cut

so im just gonna come right out and say it so i dont gotta give him an epithet every time, but his name was dibby/dib. he goes by a different name now i think but from what ive heard it seems like ppl r familiar with him by that name as well. w/e for his privacy i guess ill just leave his current name out of it. anyway i knew and was friends with/dated dib for about 7 years before we cut each other out.

ANYWAY dib had/has legitimate mental health problems, yes, but he also chose to use those problems as excuses for his manipulative and abusive behavior. dib had bipolar and would experience dramatic mood swings. unfortunate but normal and okay! if you experience mood swings and suddenly feel overwhelmed by sadness or anger, you probably know that, if you recognize this as a disorder, you should let the people around you know, tell them how you’re feeling, and do what you can to manage the situation.  dib would instead say “oh no i feel a mood swing coming. :( quick, distract me!” which, again is a clumsy but fair way to handle that, EXCEPT when it inevitably failed to cheer him up, he would blame us for failing, call us bad friends, insist we didn’t care about him, and isolate to only talking with his favorite person (for a while that was me). 

when dib got upset he would blow up, block me for days or weeks, and then later when he calmed down and felt lonely he’d add me back with some half-apology and assume everything was fine again. here’s a list i kept of things that upset him and had this result! it was called “things not to do”

tell dib when [his gf] is streaming

fail to tell dib when [his gf] is streaming

ask dib if it’s okay to do things

talk to him when he’s feeling antisocial

offer critique when it isn’t asked for

ask dib not to do something

talk to him in the tags (when not friends)

spam things he doesn’t like/isn’t involved in ((the relevant examples are bug blogs, bunnies, and the pbs kids show arthur. not because they trigger him, just because he doesn’t like them))

talk about/mention people that are my friends that he doesn’t like

offer solutions when he just needs confirmation

make it about you

yeah. keep in mind every one of those bullet points corresponds to at least one time he either faked his own death or blew up and blocked me for a week.

the bigger problem though was his suicide ideation. dib had a pretty shit life and pretty shit mental health and unfortunately was legitimately depressed and suicidal. he needed help but, living in america, really couldnt afford it most of the time. this is okay. if you or someone you know is unable to get medical health for depression or suicide ideation you know how hard it is to live with. sometimes there’s not a lot you can do and that person will Just Be Depressed an just Want To Die and theres not a lot you can do to help, even if you try your best. that of course, is not the problem with dib. 

the problem was repeatedly, starting i think when i criticized him for pushing everyone away by insisting no one cares about him and not putting any effort towards others, would make some vague allusion to feeling suicidal and abruptly log off and stop answering messages. this can be an okay way to deal with yourself if you’re upset BUT. THE NEXT DAY, after i frantically thought he was going to Attempt and repeatedly messaged him to try to deter him, check on him, ask if he was okay (he really just went to sleep, which again is fine), he decided to PRETEND TO BE DEAD.  he told his gf and maybe one other person he was alive but threatened them to stay quiet and pretend he was dead or he WOULD commit. so his gf at the time had to play along and all of us then-kids were freaking out that our friend had died, only for him to decide later that he’d had his fun and he could now announce “no i just logged off for a little bit :)”

he did this. many times. make some allusion to wanting to attempt then abruptly stop answering messages, knowing what people would assume. (this was one of the pieces of testimony i did not include verbatim in that rk post: i was told rk would do very similar things; part of why i thought the post was necessary. ive lived through the other side of that and i dont want ANYONE else to). i think two separate times that he did this, i was sent home from school early because i was crying so hard (my best friend let me think i was responsible for his death. he did this on purpose. he did this repeatedly. thats fucked up)

one time he posted a supposedly queued suicide note post! and all my friends were terrified he’d died! so i remember someone anonymously messaged kylee henke asking for advice, and i (who at the time he was mad at and had already blocked) got fed up with it (again because he’d done this so many times and i knew by now that there was no point in getting upset, he was just doing it for sympathy or attention or w/e) and messaged his mom on facebook asking her to check on him. he was fine, just like. crying in his room. also sidenote he got BIG MAD that someone told his mom and was posting when he was found out liek WHO TOLD >:( n i was like :)). bc bro if ur really abt to attempt i have an Obligation to get someone irl to check on you and protect you. but obviously you werent since this was like the 20th fucking time youve done this 🙃

he was a huge pizza shit for other reasons too but the main relevant one was that he would use his mental illness as an excuse for his deplorable behavior and blame others for things literally no one can reasonably do anythign about and then constantly and i DO MEAN CONSTANTLY use his own life and suicide ideation as a trump card.

anyway if you know someone who repeatedly threatens suicide or pretends to commit suicide by purposefully alluding to it before ghosting you, or posting a suicide note meant to blame others, you need to get out of there right now. that is not okay and you should not be dealing with that. ive taken years to get used to the idea that if i criticize my friends, they won’t kill themselves

[iholli]

I'm in the same age range as most of the newer fans, but seeing how they act infuriates me. I've liked Invader Zim since sometime in 2009. I engaged with the fandom in 2015/2016. Even at the age I was then, I knew ZADR was the brunt of tons of awful hate for no real reason, and when I return to the fandom and revisit the series in this year? It's the same shit, just with a new hat. It's not that these new fans are beyond learning and understanding things, they just don't want to. 1/2

They don't care enough about the series to do so and even those we do really care only acknowledge certain parts of the truth while disregarding everything else. It's a shitshow THEY started and they will stop caring about it after like a month when the hype train surrounding the series dies. It happens every time something gets popular here and very few times is the hatred surrounding one specific ship in a fandom truly valid while other worse ships get to fester on with no complaints. 2/2

(This will turn into some weird tangent bc I can’t stay on one track, bear with me lmao)

Honestly I guess it’s just the curse of Tumblr, people just want to be pissy about everything that may or may not be remotely problematic—and since it’s had trouble for as long as it’s existed, why not ZaDr ig? I can’t really speak about it myself bc I’ve been here for literally two and a half weeks—I was too young when the series came out, couldn’t watch shows like that, didn’t really get involved too heavily in actual fandoms until the last couple of years, etc etc. But reading the discourse is like, wow, this whole thing is really ridiculous. JV obviously loves to troll the fans and start shit (I totally respect him as a creator but the guy is such an ass), this is a ship that has been around for longer than a lot of these newbies have existed, and whining on Tumblr about it is not gonna change anything ??? Especially since most of them...turn around and ship ZaPMr...which is just,,,,,,,,,,,,it bothers me sm (tho since Dib is PM’s clone...well. irony.)

Also why do they only complain about ZaDr? What about ZaGr (which ??? JV himself would’ve made canon if romance fit in the series ???? hello???)? TaGr? TaDr (is that a thing)? Like it’s SO obvious that JV has carried his homophobic trolling about it into the new era and just turned it into something different to rile people up about a ship he hates, but everything else is apparently still okay (after all I don’t see blogs with “ZaGr do not interact” plastered everywhere)

If these newbies are looking for some good wholesome purity whatever they’re already in the wrong place. IZ is so dark and twisted there’s no purifying it already. Like, there’s so many things wrong with IZ, ship discourse is the LEAST concerning thing if people really want to start shit. The body count alone in IZ is disconcerting as hell. And do I even need to say Dark Harvest? But here we are.

I...don’t rly know where I was going with my tangent so, tl;dr the new people need to sit down and stop taking JV’s every word as gospel law to throw in the faces of fans who’ve been here way longer and/or know wtf is happening. At least have enough brain cells to look at the whole picture instead of just jumping into being angry on anon.

(Thanks for the ask! I 100% agree with you and I’ll be glad when the toxic people find some other wagon to jump on so we can enjoy our fandom in peace. Sorry about the rambles x”D)