#note to self learn to stfu and speak in one to two sentences i exhaust myself with how talkative i am online lol

[kenjkats]

i'm a very shy person and gets really anxious when issues come along. i've lookedupon you for a very long time. may i know how do you handle the fandom's toxicity and does it also affect your real life? do you have any tips and suggestions how to deal with it especially when attacked by those who thought your "friends"? since the internet has alot of ups and downs, especially with relationships.

Hey nonny! I feel you. I rambled as usual so

how do you handle the fandom’s toxicity and does it also affect your real life?

Contrary to what my behavior on here may tell you, I’m pretty shy and anxious too. Especially in person. I’m that girl with the resting bitch face mixed with shyness who’s quiet a lot of the time so people think I’m a bitch and don’t talk to me LOL. 

Anyway the point of that is: I can usually shrug things off, but yes it affects me now and then when things happen in the fandom. 

Mini rant on why it affects me lol:

This place is supposed to be a community where we can get along or leave each other alone regardless of whether we like or dislike the same parts of the game. And for a lot of the busier people, this place is a hobby and leisurely getaway from chores and boring work. So seeing fights and discourse on almost a daily basis causes anxiety or makes you feel exhausted.

To be clear, the drama that makes me anxious is all the unnecessary ones that shouldn’t even be drama like differing opinions and preferences in the game. Important topics like things relating to racism, sexism etc. should definitely be discussed. I don’t mean those. But fighting over why you like this LI over this one, or ideas and preferences on how a story should go, or saying people who like romance only are dumb is so unnecessary.These are things we can and should be able to talk about, just not attack each other for.

It makes as much sense as if I picked a fight with my friend because they preferred vanilla ice cream when I love chocolate ice cream.

The whole thing makes you feel like you’re not allowed to say what or who you like or what you think on here and that brings a lot of anxiety, when the fandom is supposed to be THE place you do that.

do you have any tips and suggestions how to deal with it

How I deal with it is I do it anyway lol. Why let people ruin your fun? Basically my tip is you do you, find others who you are comfortable with and fangirl with them (you don’t have to friends or liked by the entire fandom), ignore the critics and hate anons, and just have fun. 

If it does get to you, which it does to me sometimes too, then take some time for yourself. A lot of us came here first of all to have fun looking at game-related content, so when this place is affecting you to the point that you are stressed outside of it, then leave it for a while, take a break, and come back when you feel better. Blacklisting certain tags that you don’t want to see like Anti- character tags can help. 

especially when attacked by those who thought your “friends”? since the internet has alot of ups and downs, especially with relationships.

Internet relationships are something you should generally be careful about. Not to say that all people are by default awful, but it’s the same “be careful” mindset you have with real life strangers. 

And if you had “friends” attack you over this mobile game, they’re not your friends. Unfollow and blacklist them. If it doesn’t work then block them so they can’t interact with you or your posts. You should never feel bad about it. The buttons are there for you to use in such cases and they are your right as a user on this site. Because no one should be attacked over a game or feel unsafe on a site we go on for shits and giggles. It’s absurd. 

SHORT VERSION: Don’t stress too much. It’s the internet and you can remove yourself from it at anytime, plus they can never actually get to you. Only their words can if you let them. And lastly, do all you can to make yourself safe and comfortable within the community.