#not tagging this for personal ooc blacklist stuff because it is important

[rubistella]

Regulations

Private & Selective Owing to time constraints and the demanding nature of roleplay, I'm highly selective about whom I write with, as I firmly believe in valuing quality over quantity.

This is not a self-insert/projection friendly zone The title says it all! Projection and self-inserts make me very uncomfortable, so I will terminate interactions immediately if I catch whiff of that.

Dashboard Stuff I often overlook the dashboard since I rarely check it. When I do, I might choose to engage with a few people, but it's pretty infrequent!

Adults Only (21+) Given the mature and dark themes my writing frequently explores, as well as Astarion's past, this roleplay blog is not suitable for minors. I personally prefer that only those 21 or older engage. Every potentially triggering content and/or interaction will be put under tw; dddne and "ask to tag" for blacklisting purposes.

Astarion & Headcanons My portrayal of Astarion will stay unfiltered. For more details, click here. Also, please don’t assume Astarion will choose your muse— there are other people in camp (NPCs) he could be feeding from, or other plot devices we could use instead.

Duplicate Friendly Space While I love connecting with fellow Astarion enthusiasts and sometimes follow duplicates, I avoid reading their headcanons to keep my portrayal unbiased. Any shared ideas or plots are purely coincidental—great minds and all that!

Credits & Disclaimer This blog's avatar is by artbyvi, and the graphics were commissioned from ilithid-psds. Some icon screenshots aren’t mine, so if one is yours and you want credit or prefer I don't use it, just let me know, and I'll make the changes.

Unfollowing & Re-following I'm mutually exclusive: if I don't get a follow back in a few days, I'll unfollow. I also unfollow blogs inactive for over a month without notice. If you return and want to be mutuals again, just drop me a line, and I'll gladly follow back.

The Mun I'm Milky, 21+. I like cats, tea, a good book and playing video games with my friends. Even if we can't, for whatever reason, roleplay together, feel free to send Astarion IC asks or approach me OOC for a chat. :) Toodles!

Ship Exclusives I won't always extend exclusivity to ship partners, and by no means do I force anyone into that position. While not all my ship partners fall under the exclusive category, for those with whom I do ship exclusively, it’s been mutually agreed-upon beforehand. For transparency's sake, here is the list!

[bastardsunlight]

//Howdy folks! How’s your dashboard treatin’ ya today? I just wanted to lay a couple of things out for anyone who might be wonderin’ what I’m about.  

[[MORE]]

If we’re mutuals, I trust that you’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a pretty straight up person—you know, fairly honest, open, and maybe even a wee bit pleasant to interact with/see on your dashboard. In general, I do me best to keep as much negativity as possible OFF ye olde dashboard of this blog. I have been pretty transparent about the sideblogs I keep, @reasonable-assholery is the rant blog so I don’t spew vitriol unnecessarily upon aforementioned dash, @puttingfingerstokeys is my throwaway writing blog for ficlets and ideas (99% Mortal Kombat right now; you’ve been warned), and @thunderdilf which is a great URL and I really kind of just wanted but it has also accidentally turned into a Mortal Kombat/Raiden(Rayden mostly lbr) shitposting blog for my enjoyment (and yours, if you’re into that).

This is the ONLY blog I own. Those are side blogs, yes, but THIS, bastardsunlight is my ONLY blog. I used to have a few RP blogs (no more than five at one time iirc, but the PURGE helped me pare shit down—idk HOW this one dodged that nonsense but I’m grateful that it did). As far as I am aware, none of those blogs are even active anymore. If they are, I do not have the login info which ofc is why they’re still around. E.g. I haven’t been ABLE to delete them. Hopefully tumblr has cleaned that shit up if it does exist.

I also do not LIVE on tumblr. I’ve been more active lately, ayuh, but I’m like… employed and shit. I got stuff to do. I click well with people who are similar. I’m only peripherally aware of fandom drama and shit like that and I really only see it when it crosses me dash via one of the few buddies I retain/have gained from/since the olden days. Ye olden days. I digress… My point is this:

If you hear salacious rumors about me, I encourage you, my sweet followers, to look into it yourself. Scroll my whole-ass blog! I don’t really eve have a TBD tag so if it’s there, it’s always been there and I ain’t getting rid of it ‘cause I’m queen “I SAID WHAT I SAID”. You could also question me directly, or ask one of my friends. ANY one of my mutual buddies will speak to you about me. If they’re not a mutual, we ain’t friends, so there’s no point in taking the word of someone who isn’t a mutual, see? So yeah, maybe that IS a bit biased, but why WOULDN’T I surround meself with friends? I don’t like toadies, sycophants, lackeys, or anyone who’d support a mob mentality type situation if I decided to go postal on someone for disagreeing with me. I want someone who will sit my ass down and say “yo Stiles you’re acting like a psycho; stop letting whomever-it-is live in ya head rent free; that shit is NOT healthy”.

Be wary of people who come NOT bearing screenshots (be wary of those who do and LEAD with that ‘cause man ain’t nobody telling MY ass with whom to interact?? Fo REAL?). Follow your gut. Protect yourself. And should you decide that yes, the mun of bastardsunlight is problematique (recall I have never claimed to be otherwise and I wear that particular mantle with pride), please, I ENCOURAGE you to block me. I implore you to, again, protect yourself, curate your online experience. I make no secret of what happens on this blog. It’s in my rules and FAQ, might even be a PSA post (tagged accordingly). I’ll even tell you if you inbox me! I am not hiding SHIT. I’m here to have a good time with what little freedom I have between work and my other responsibilities. If you are too, we’ll get along just fine.

[hellroots]

『 MOBILE FRIENDLY RULES 』

— here you will find my rules or can also find them on my gdocs as well once i’m done with it. please like this if you read it, but otherwise don’t interact with this post, thank you. rest assured that i always read my moots rules before following and that i fully expect the same courtesy. i tried not to let them get too long but feel free to ask me anything you wanna know about them if it’s not clear ok?

 『 THE MUN』

NOXTROMUN, THEY/THEM, 21+, BRAZILIAN

shy but friendly ! i don't follow for follow, if i follow you that means i've read your rules and want to write with you. i have no triggers nor squicks of my own except drama in the dash, for that reason i do not engage in callouts/witch hunts and if you do it on a constant basis i might have to hard block you for my own peace of mind. although i may come off too strong/harsh, i am always up to talking things out privately. as long as you are civil, so am i. any form of hate will be deleted and blocked -  sometimes mocked, if i’m feeling cocky…

『 THE BLOG』

HELLROOTS, INDIE ( POTENTIALLY TRIGGERING AND NOT MINOR FRIENDLY ), HIGHLY SELECTIVE & PRIVATE MULTIFANDOM MULTIMUSE

primarily run on a low activity \ effort and with a slow speed.. my muselist changes a lot, depends a lot on what i’m watching lately so bear with me please. this is a drama free zone, therefore do realise that mun ≠ muses and (obviously) writing ≠ condoning !! as a quick note, do keep in mind that my blog is my safe space, just as your blog is yours - you are responsible for your own internet experience just as i am responsible for mine. should anything in my blog annoy/trigger/squick you, i strongly encourage you to block me & not write with me - your mental health is far more important ( for me, and hopefully for you as well ) than rp. on that note, please do not softblock me - that’s annoying, just hardblock please.

『 THE TRIGGERS』

TRIGGER HEAVY, PROPERLY TAGGED AND TAKING NO CRAP

i  usually  tend to write for trigger heavy fandoms (such as asoiaf, kingdom and others) and may incorporate some of it into my writing, muses' backgrounds and overall characterization. if you're bothered \ squicked \ triggered by that, i kindly encourage you to reconsider and not follow me. no amount of rp fun is worth your mental health.  i try to tag everything accordingly and i fully expect the same courtesy for our followers' sakes. be aware that there may be mentions of death, gore, violence, consanguinamory \ endogamy (especially when it comes to the lannisters and kekkei genkai clans), rape ( kingdom, though it will only be mentioned on the character’s backstory ) and cannibalism ( hannibal and kingdom ) , as well as unhealthy relationships and dynamics alongside with powerplay, and otherwise bad behaviours.  for all that is sacred, please, do note that i, the mun, do not approve, support or condone any of these actions or behaviours !!  i simply am capable of separating fiction from reality. as long as everything is properly tagged, with mutual consent and there are no minors involved (muse and especially not muns), . i support the right of a consenting adult to explore these awful dark topics in a safe fictional environment with other like minded consenting adults, people shouldn’t have to share their traumas to strangers on the internet to explain why they write what they write, be considerate. if that notion bothers you perhaps you might not want to interact with me, for both of ours sakes. fair warning, most of my graphics and aesthetics might trigger those who have xylophobia/hylophobia (phobia of trees or wooded areas), and considering it is a main theme here i will not be tagging it, i'm sorry. but its too many. however, if you want me to create a special tag for you, there's no issue! it will be either "[your mun name] don't look!" or "[your url] don't look!", whichever you prefer. QUICK EDIT/ADDITION: i do not believe that aging up fictional characters is inherently a bad thing - from what i understand, the whole appeal of aging up a character is that while you like their personality but you do not want them to be kids (for whatever reason) but insteasd adults. if you are one of those who think that aging up a character is automatically something bad (without even knowing why it was done in the first place) don’t bother following me because i do think that opinion is quite silly.

『 THE INTERACTIONS』

OC, DUPLICATE, MULTIMUSE AND CANON DIVERGENT FRIENDLY

my tagging system is simple, i tag triggers as "tw; x" and . images that may be sensitive or triggering as "cw; x". you can further see how my tags work by taking a look at my tag dump post, just search ‘tag dump’ on my blog and you will find the most recent one i’m using.    i shitpost and talk oocly on the dash constantly but you can easily blacklist my tag if it bothers you.  here's something you should know about me:  when i'm doing drafts i usually don't feel like chatting much, so please do not spam me because i won't be able to reply, i love to talk with my moots but sometimes it overwhelms me.  on that note, please don't pester me for replies ic or ooc, i am slow and chances are that if you try to guilt trip me or just nag me about it i'll leave as the ones i'll get to in the later end on purpose, just out of spite. yes, i be like that.   please be patient - i’ll never pressure you and expect the same in return.  plotting wise: i prefer to just wing it with just a faint idea of where to take the thread but honestly i'm cool with anything. please be considerate when formatting your replies, i have a bad eyesight & if i can't read it, i won't bother with it.   my own formatting is simple and clean.   on a smaller note, please bear with me and my muses as my muses ramble a lot but you don't have to match the length, just give me something to work with. if we write together, the chances of me making edits/tagging you in stuff are really big, just lmk if you don’t like that though !

『 THE FLEET』

MOSTLY BI/PAN MUSES, MULTISHIP AND MULTIVERSE, SMUT FRIENDLY

i love shipping but i like my ships to be devices to move the plot/dynamics/muses forward, every once in a while though i partake in some much loved self indulgent shipping. just because i ship a certain pairing don't presume that my characters are approaching yours with second intentions, please.   most of the time i like to reblog those relationship memes, so if you’re interested in a ship the best way (other than  sending me a message ofc) to let me know is by sending ones. there will be some triggering ships here ( like the lannisters, both cersei x jaime and joanna x tywin are my otps, and potential inter clan ships, like with the hyugas - i mean how the hell you think they keep the byakugan in their family?? ) that may either be played with trusted friends or be mentioned/reblogged sometimes, all properly tagged so you can easily blocklist/avoid it.  most of my muses are either bi or pan, those who are not will be specified. don't be afraid to reach out to me for shipping right off the bat - i'd rather have you to be open and honest with me about the interactions you want than lying to me, just know that there will be needed some plotting and threading first to see if your muses match. as an adult, my blog is smut friendly, i partake in sexual sunday a lot because some of my muses are very lewd in nature, you can blacklist my tag if that bothers you as well.

『 THE FINAL NOTES』

GENERAL RP ETIQUETTE APPLIES, CREDITS, THANK YOU FOR READING MY RULES

lastly but not least, general rp etiquette applies on my blog: no godmodding, forced ships, etc. there’s only ONE thing that truly makes me go apeshit crazy, and it’s when people don’t read my rules. i ALWAYS find out and it’s not pretty; i block it like it’s hot, ♪ ♫ ♬ block it like it’s hot ♪ ♫ ♬.   i strongly assure you that i always read your rules before both following you and also before sending memes, just in case. on a much smaller note, i’m not so hot on single shipping and i really feel weirded out about people forcing me to pic who i’m going to interact with due to theirs DNI’s. while i get DNI’s when it comes to actual predators, when it’s something seemingly random chances are that i’ll softblock you because it weirds me out how volatile some can be when it comes to a hobby. i have some trigger heavy hcs ( for example, the one about jiraiya’s hypersexuality being rooted in trauma that he suffered at a young age ) that i share with only a few muns that are closer with me, so i’ll be mentioning them every once in a while but won’t share them, please don’t insist.  i don’t really like most of the main characters of the franchises i write for, and when it comes to certain characters  i reserve the right to decline an rp for my own comfort. for further info on what i use to make my graphics please check my “CREDITS.” tag.  most of my stuff is made by me, i’ve got a lowkey rph in case you wanna check it out it’s @brazucahelps, however if you want a custom content i can see if i get a free time to come up with something :D

 IF YOU READ THIS FAR, THANK YOU SO MUCH — JUST ONE LAST THING, COULD YOU PLS LIKE THIS SO I KNOW YOU’VE READ IT? <3 THANKS!

[faterpresources]

Anonymous:

Do you have any advice on how to start an rp blog? I feel like there's so much to do and so many specific things, it looks intimidating, but I really want to get into it (and your blog seems like a safe space to ask as a baby in the matter)

Hi! Thanks you for asking and for trusting. I do admit that rping on tumblr can look daunting and there is a series of things that are considered “etiquette” that might not be obvious for newcomers. And the only way to learn is to ask, right? As I’m not sure if you would like something more specific or a step-by-step, I’m going to go through the whole process.

note: this is a repost from an ask in a more reblog-friendly format

1.       Setting up the blog

You might want to make a new e-mail account for each blog you want. I recommend making a gmail/google account, so you may be able to use other services and associate them with your blog. I’ll go into more details in a minute.

Some people would rather have a personal blog and then making the RP blog as a side-blog. Or a “hub” blog and many side-blogs so they have everything centralized. The downside is that you can’t follow people with side-blogs, only the main – and some rpers are a little suspicious of personal blogs, so if you intend to go this route it might be a good idea to state somewhere in your blog that you have a RP blog.

Tip : It isn’t said too often, but I recommend saving your blog’s e-mail and password somewhere, maybe a flashdrive or even google drive. This way, if something happens you will be able to retrieve your account.

When picking the URL, for a very long time tumblr had problems tagging URLs with a hyphen ( - ). I’m not sure if it has been fixed or if there are still some issues, so I recommend only using letters and maybe numbers. Other than that, pick anything that sounds nice to you!

Themes are nice, but not entirely necessary. Not everybody has photoshop skills and all that. Some people do have commissioned themes, but if you want to try your hand at it my first stop is usually @theme-hunter  or @sheathemes . They reblog many themes from many creators, so there are always many options that might suit your needs.  Some creators offer very newcomer-friendly themes that you can configure a lot of things without much hassle but some might require basic HTML knowledge – a few creators have guides on how to properly set up their themes and are willing to and answer questions, so don’t be afraid to contact them! You can also send me an ask, I’m not a specialist but I can certainly help walk you through the basics.

Tip: @glenthemes have very good themes and a basic installation guide here.

When fiddling with the options, try to pick colors that have nice contrast and are easy to read. If you are bad at picking colors or have problems in finding the code for them, I recommend trying this link. There is also this one that auto-generate palettes.

Tip : If you mess with your theme, remember there is the Theme Recovery.

Tip: If you use Chrome or Firefox you can set up different profiles and associate each with a different blog, so you don’t need to log out from any of your accounts.

There are two pages that I recommend having: one is an about your muse. If they are an OC, it is always a good idea to have at least some information out there to make things easier. If they are from a canon source, not everybody is familiar with the material so it might be a good idea to state. For example, if you are going to roleplay as Altria/Arturia, it is a good idea to have a “RP blog for Saber (Altria Pendragon) from FGO/FSN “ somewhere visible. The other page that is a good idea having is a rules/guidelines page. This one can be a little intimidating, but it is usually a way to communicate important things. For example: are you comfortable writing violence? Do you have any personal triggers? There is something you absolutely won’t write? There are things you may figure out along the way and it is absolutely ok to fine-tune this session every now and then. Some people also credit source for their icons and graphics in general in their rule/guideline page.

If you are using the tumblr default themes, when you create a new page you can turn on the option to show a link to the page. If you are using a custom theme, most of the time you will have to link it manually.

Oh, and if you are planning to do a multimuse, it might be a good idea to list which muses you have. The same goes for a hub blog; list the muses and link to the pages.

Icons aren’t necessary but are considered commonplace. You can find some icons I’ve done here but there are plenty of other sources. If you want to do your own icons, keep in mind to don’t make them too big, as a courtesy to your mutuals.

Tip: Anything larger than 300 pixels will be stretched to fit the post. As of today ( 4/29/2021 ) the posts are currently 540 pixels wide. This can be useful as making banners for your blog.

Tumblr allow users to “pin” posts. This mean that they will always visible if you access your blog, even on dash/mobile. You can use this to set up a post with basic links for mobile users or something else. For example, if you are out on vacations and won’t be able to do replies, you can pin a hiatus notice and then remove the pin once you are back.

2.       Introducing yourself

Time to officially join the fun! (insert a “Hi, Zuko here” joke) Don’t worry if you don’t have a fancy promo graphic or anything, most people make their initial introduction with a simple post.

(as you can see, I’m not very good at saying ‘hi’)

Try to introduce yourself in a few lines, but make sure to state which muse you RP as. Some people also like adding their pen name/alias and establishing a brand. Follow as many people as you want that reblogged or liked your post, and tumblr is going to start recommending other blogs that are related to the tags you use normally or have any relation to the people you follow. You can put as many tags as you want, but tumblr will disregard more than 6 tags in their system. Try tags like “<fandom> rp” and “<fandom> roleplay” along with the media, such as “movie” “video game”, “anime” and so on.

It might also be a good idea to follow a few RP memes blogs. They often have options to break the ice, like one-liners that your mutual can send you.

Tip: Don’t forget to turn on the asks and the anon

3.       Practical advice

Alright, now that you have a few mutuals, it is time to get to some general tips:

Tumblr can be a little “iffy”, and a great quality of life extension for RPers and navigation in general is installing the New Xkit extension. They offer a number of options to enhance your tumblr experience, but the ones I consider essential are the “editable reblogs”, “quick tags” and “blacklist”. Get it for Chrome or Firefox.

As a rule of thumb I recommend writing your RPs using Google Docs before posting or replying. By doing this you can do some spell check and if your browser crashes for any reason you can easily recover your work. You can also use Word, Open Office, or any text editor you feel like.

Because I’m a bit of a perfectionist, I also have Grammarly ( Chrome / Firefox ) installed for an extra layer of spell/grammar check. There is a subscription option, but the free one works perfectly fine.

To make things easier to locate, always tag the URL of your RP partner when doing a reply. There are other useful things you can tag, such as open starters, memes, and such.

Risking being obvious here, but when you are not interacting as your character it might be a good idea to tag as “ooc” or “out of character”.

Some people like making google docs with basic info and other useful stuff for easier access on mobile. It is a recent trend, it might be easier to edit as opposed to going through tumblr page editor and dealing with the HTML.  You can find some templates here and here.

Tumblr’s activity can be unreliable, so don’t be afraid of contacting your partner to see if they have gotten your reply after a few weeks. However, some people also enjoy using the RP Thread Tracker in order to be on top of things. It might be a good idea to check it out.

Because of Tumblr shadowbanning and shenanigans, it isn’t unusual for people to have NSFW sideblogs (sometimes referred as ‘sin blogs’). If you want to write smut, it might be a good idea to consider making one.

Some people don’t like replying to asks, as Tumblr won’t let you remove the initial ask. It has become common to see people making new posts to reply to asks.  This is a simple example:

As you can see, I used the mention to have the RP partner notified then I copied and pasted their question on my post and used the quote to indicate it. You can also have fancy graphics, like a line to separate the contents, just do whatever you feel like with the formatting or keep it simple.

To make sure your partner got the answer, I recommend copying the link to the post and pasting on the ask and then replying it privately.  An example sent to my rp blog:

4.       Basic Etiquette

Ok, this is a little subjective most of the time but here are a few things that are considered universal courtesy.

Never reblog someone else’s headcanons. If you enjoy it, maybe it should politely contact the author and ask if it is ok to write something based on their original idea but you should never downright copy or lift something from another creator. It is considered rude, or even theft in some cases.

Don’t reblog threads you are not involved with. It is ok to leave a like, but never reblog. This is because Tumblr can mess up the notifications and disrupt the flow of the RP.

Don’t copy other people’s graphics. It is very rude and sometimes they commission (aka: paid) for it.

Trim your posts. What does that mean? Every time you reblog with a reply, the post tends to get longer and longer, and it can cluster your and your mutuals’ dashes. This is why the New X-Kit’s “editable reblogs” is an almost must-have tool. If for some reason you can’t install X-Kit (if you are on mobile for example), then remove the previous post or ask your partner to trim for you.

Never take control of your RP partner’s muse. This is called “godmodding” and it is heavily frowned upon. It is ok to control your muse and the possible NPCs that you inserted, but never seize someone else’s character. Likewise, it can also be very upsetting if you use what people call “meta-gaming”, applying knowledge that your muse shouldn’t know about the other. For example, let’s say your RP partner’s muse is a vampire, but they have never disclosed that information to your muse, who also doesn’t have an excuse to know that (for example, being a vampire hunter) so it can be quite jarring sometimes. When in doubt, contact your partner.

This should go without saying, but RPing sexual themes with users under the age of 18 are illegal. It doesn’t matter if the age of consent in your location is lower, once you join Tumblr you are abiding by their user guidelines and the law of the state they are located in. If you are an adult, don’t engage minors with these topics, maybe a fade to black would be a better option. If you are a minor, don’t insist or you might cause a lot of legal problems for others.

Try to tag anything triggering. Violence, gore, NSFW. Both Tumblr and the New Xkit have options to block keywords.

When picking PSDs or graphics for your blog, you should avoid templates that change the color of the skin of POCs muses and try to pick the right race/ethnicity of the muse you are going to RP as. I won’t go through a lot of details, as it is a rather lengthy subject in an already lengthy conversation but keep this in the back of your mind.

Some RPers don’t like when you reblog memes from them without sending anything. Try to always reblog from a source or to interact with the person you are reblogging from, it can be rather disheartening to be seen as a meme source rather than a RP blog. This isn’t a rule and some people don’t mind, but it is always a good idea to try to do this.

This might be more of a pet peeve of mine than proper etiquette, but it is ok to use small font. What is not ok is use small font + underscript. Some people have disabilities that might make it harder for them to read it, so it might be a good idea to refrain from using it. Maybe if you feel like doing something fancier every now and then, but I wouldn’t recommend making this a habit.

Mun and Muse are different entities. Remember that it isn’t because a muse does something (especially a villain one) that the mun condones something. Never assume anything about the mun, when in doubt talk to them.

Be mindful of your partners and treat them the way you would like to be treated.

As a rule of thumb, always talk to your RP partner. It is only fun as long both of you are enjoying it.

5.       Closing Words

This got longer than I expected.

Despite all of that, don’t be too worried about not being very good at first. I assure you that you will get better with time, so don’t be afraid of experimenting as long you feel comfortable. And don’t be afraid of saying “no” if something bothers you.

My inbox is always open to questions and ideas, so feel free to contact me anytime!

I would also ask my followers: there is advice I missed/overlooked? Anything you would like someone have told you when you first started? Add your thoughts so I can update this.

Happy RPing!

[madasthesea]

I’m sorry for being so mean. I had a really bad day and didn’t mean to say such awful things. But I am frustrated my fics always get ignored, especially by the big names in the fandom such as yourself that claim to support everyone. I’ve written so many fics in this fandom and have been doing so for over a year, yet I only have 30 subscribers. I get really frustrated and feel like I’m a bad writer because everyone ignores me and my fics. I shouldn’t have taken it out on you. I’m sorry.

(2/2) For a fan community that claims they are inclusive, everyone sure doesn’t act that way. Everyone already has their friends and people like me who don’t have many friends get ignored. The big names in the fandom don’t support or read the fics by the new people. It’s not just me. I’ve never received a single kudo or comment from you or anyone else that’s popular like you. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong but people don’t read my fics.

Ok, I’m answering this in the middle of the night in the hopes that not a lot of people will see it so it won’t become A Thing and then as soon as this fic exchange is over I am turning my anons off forever. Anon, I guess I have to give you credit for coming to apologize, but I have to say, where before I was perfectly capable of laughing off your extremely rude message, I have to say, now I’m annoyed. Because there is not a single instance or bad day or frustration that makes what you said acceptable. You came into my inbox and threw a temper tantrum because you knew my name and I happen to have anons on unlike most of the “fandom big names.” You told me I had the worst fics in the fandom, told me I publish outlines instead of stories and accused me of writing incestual pedophilia because you had a bad day? I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you’re young because that is the only possible excuse I could give you. As I said in my original response, if I were already an anxious writer, you could have caused me to delete all of my fics and put me off of writing forever. Someone commented on your original message and said that they don’t post their writing because of messages like that one. You’re right you shouldn’t have taken it out on me, and you wouldn’t have if your name had been associated with it. But here we are, and I’m going to try to make it so this never happens again, at least with the two of us. 

Now, onward to your frustrations. I am sorry that you aren’t getting the attention you want, but one) yelling at me on anon isn’t going to fix that. Two) not to be like callous and insensitive, but that happens to almost every writer I know. I’ve been writing fanfiction for 12 years. This is the seventh fandom I’ve written for and no one ever read my fics before this. My first year on AO3 I published six stories and had 500 views total. I get the frustration, but sometimes you just have to get the perfect combination of exposure, plot, and interest. Three) Do you have any idea how many stories get published in the Peter Parker & Tony Stark tag a day? I’m sorry, I can’t read all of them. I don’t want to read all of them, in fact I have 14 different tags blacklisted. Just because I am a “big name” does not mean I owe you a comment or a kudos. If I like your story, I will tell you. Chances are, I haven’t even seen one of your stories, because I’m an adult with a job and hobbies and writing of my own to do. Most of the “big names” are the exact same except a lot of them also have school. If you want someone to read your stories, ask them. Say “hey, I respect you and your opinion, could you look at this for me?” They will probably say yes unless they have a good reason not to. Don’t just sit there and wait for it to happen and get mad when it doesn’t. Also, this is the third time someone has yelled at me for not reading or commenting on their fics and it makes me less inclined to leave kudos in general in case someone comes and gets mad that I read their fic but didn’t comment. So uh… don’t do this again. 

As for the community, do you want to know how to make friends? Send asks (nice ones) not on anon. We can’t interact with you if you don’t know who you are. Reblog our fics. Comment on our posts. You can’t make friends if no one knows you exist. And the only way to show you exist is show yourself in our notes, in our inboxes. Sitting in your corner of tumblr and being bitter isn’t going to help anyone. This fandom is welcoming and it is kind and it is supportive. You saw how many people came to my defense tonight. If you talk to those people, they’ll talk back, but they can’t reach out to every single Irondad blog, it just isn’t feasible. 

And finally, how to get your fics read more. Like I said, part of it is just… luck. I got in at the very beginning, as did losingmymindtonight, parkrstark, several others, and had already established myself before IW came out and the fandom got bigger. Lucky break on my part, but I’m also a good writer because I’m 25 and I have a Master’s in a writing heavy field and I’ve been writing my entire life. Sometimes it just takes practice. But there is stuff that all good fics have in common, so here we go:

1) Good grammar, good spelling, good punctuation.

I don’t know who you are so I have no idea what your writing is like, but this is stuff I had to tell college students as a teacher, so I’m just going to go over it. 

Are there line breaks between every paragraph? No? There need to be. It’s hard to read when all of the words are bunched together, meaning automatic exits will happen, regardless of content.

Do you start a new paragraph every single time a new person speaks? You should.

“When someone is speaking,” I asked, “do you put a comma before the speech tag?” Commas, not periods. Not periods then commas. Punctuation goes inside the quotation marks. 

Are you writing in first or second person (I or you)? Don’t.

Pay attention to your tenses. It is very confusing reading a story that switches tenses every sentence. 

Are you capitalizing the beginning of every sentence and proper noun? You have to. Reading all lowercase takes energy and concentration and readers don’t like to put more effort in than they’re used to. Also it’s just pointless.  

Get a beta reader. Get grammarly (but the free version, don’t pay) or another editing service. Google anything you have a question about. EDIT YOUR WRITING. 

2) New ideas

Every fandom has tropes they love, but not every fic can be a trope fic. Every fic I write is, if not completely new, a spin on a popular trope.

Yes, there are some popular field trip fics, but most of them get lost in the weeds because they are all the same. And most of the people I talk to don’t even like them. (This counts for May dies fics, sensory overload… If you’re going to write it, you have to make it different and you have to make it good.)

Look to other movies or books for ideas, check out irondad-fic-ideas, something. Write something new, something only you can write, and at least some people will notice.

3) Good characterization

Now apparently everything I write is OOC, so maybe I’m not the best person to be giving advice on this :/ (I’m still annoyed. I’m getting over it)

BUT–the best way to write a well-known character is to know the source material. Listen to the way they talk, watch how they move. Ignore fanon. It’s hard, but try. Peter isn’t actually a perpetual ray of sunshine, chatter box 12 year old like we often write him, Tony isn’t 100% sarcasm and incapable of recognizing his own feelings. 

If you can hear the character say it in their actual voice, it’s probably a good line. 

4) Misc.

Fandom rule of thumb: cute fluff and hardcore whump win out over deep character studies on convoluted plot lines. If you’re just looking for hits or maybe a fic to establish yourself, that’s a good way to do it. 

If you’re posting a multi-chapter fic, don’t post it all at once. People will comment on each chapter as you post and you’ll get more hits. 

Respond to comments, especially at the early stages. It makes your readers more invested, it builds friendships, and it makes your stats look better. 

There’s a blog that supports little known writers in this fandom! Rec your fics there!

Make sure to never, ever put “I suck at summaries” or “fic is better than summary” it is an instant turnoff. If you can’t write the thing that makes me want to read the fic well, why would I think I want to read the fic?

Tagging on AO3 is vital. Tag the right relationships, tag the right emotions (angst, fluff, hurt/comfort). I often sort just by these. Always put in the category, (M/M, F/M, etc.) and the rating. There is no reason not to, but not doing so makes people less likely to read. Always tag triggers.

Never steal fics or ideas. If a story inspires you, you can ask the author if you can write something similar and then link in your story back to theirs. Nothing will make you less popular in a fandom than stealing work.

Lastly, I know authors constantly talk about how important comments and kudos are, and they are so important to bolstering spirits, I get that, but if you aren’t writing for yourself first, you will always be disappointed. You should enjoy your fic as much when you read it in your word doc as when you read it online with comments and kudos. And maybe you write really niche stuff that doesn’t appeal to a lot of people, but churning out carbon copies of the Fandom Tropes and hoping for hits is not going to satisfy you and you will keep being frustrated.

Let’s not do this again, shall we? Next time you have a question, ask me nicely.

[mostly-sentence-starters]

Advice seeking anon here! I wanted to thank you! It was sort of about the technical side of rping and more on tips on how to deal with....the emotional side of things? But not like reactions/stuff going on in the threads I do have. But like...the disappointment of expectation.(Example that made me ask in the first place: Though unrelated but important to start off this with is that...I have friends who are mutuals but we don't write together. We do interact. Liking and commenting on posts and building a friendship that way. I am hecka anxious and I'm working on it. Like ya know, believing that mutuals DO wanna get asks from me and memes. But it's still disheartening when you send in memes they post, make starters, but they go unanswered with the other person later making posts about wanting more threads and being bored. I've had plenty of reasons myself as to why I can't answer certain threads. Ranging from time, RL errands or demands, or just the muse. I feel guilty they're not having fun but I don't feel like trying cos it's clear they're not waiting to hear from ME and so...I dunno, looking for tips on how as learn to calm my anxiety over not being the fix other people are looking for...but now that I've written this out, I'm guessing no one doing hobbies for free will be able to tell me much beyond...it's out of my control. And I guess to focus on what I can do.....I feel like being a kid again. Being in the same class with someone, even the same table and working together and being genuinely friendly but like...they still have their group of friend they hope to get hand written notes from.)

Hey there again Nonnie! There’s a lot to unpack here so most of it will be under the readmore! I totally get what you’re saying though and I have been mutuals with people similar to those you are describing. Of course every situation is quite different though, so keep that in mind.

First and foremost, of course it is important for people to remember RP IS a hobby. However, it is a collaborative hobby which means there is some mutual respect and decency required and communication is a must.

Of course real life / mental health / how much muse someone has / etc is a factor in how active a mun is. That makes sense and is valid.

From what I’ve noticed from my time RPing is that not everyone wants the same thing out of RP. A good chunk of people are more focused toward short on-dash treads/crack interactions, asks, writing headcanons, and plotting OOC. But not so much doing actual threads.

This version of RP quite frankly not for me, and it sounds like it's not what you’re looking for either. My primary concern is, and always will be the writing part of roleplay. This may just not be what this other person’s priority is, which may just mean you aren’t compatible. This doesn’t mean they can’t or shouldn’t RP this way--it just means it doesn’t mesh well for how you RP.

It sounds like you are putting forth an effort to extend an olive branch to them to RP. And that’s good! I do think it’s important to give people chances--to an extent.

But how you are describing what’s happening sounds very similar to some experiences I’ve had with RPers that have and issue with attention pandering/passive-aggressive behavior(x) on dash, which is very much not okay. If you have tried several times to extend a branch to them through memes/starters/etc. and the other person NEVER answers but is constantly or often harping OOC about how they want interactions but never send anything to other people and never answer asks you sent them yet still say they want attention/asks/etc?

That’s very guilt-trippy and acting like others exist to be at their beck and call whenever they want attention. And to piggyback on this post (x) you don’t owe anything to people who are not treating you with equal respect.

If this was a case where the mun had sporadic activity due to IRL/mental heath/etc. and thus can’t send in many memes to other people because of it, but do when they can but are just overall slow and sporadic with their activity? That’s fine (though it may not be compatible with all other RPers) it is fine and acceptable behavior to have a busy life and not be tied to your computer. But you should not be made to feel guilty for not showering someone with attention and keeping them happy 24/7.

I get very stressed out by seeing posts like “I’m bored! Come bother my muse! / Send me asks! / I want more threads! / I want more ships!” as well. Of course, in the end it’s up to you. Me however, I usually find myself unfollowing and dropping partners who do this because of the distress it causes me. RP shouldn’t be something that stresses you out to those levels or makes you cater to someone else’s every whim. 

Honestly Anon, you may just have to let these people go. In my opinion, only from what I’ve heard it doesn’t sound like they are extending the same respect to you despite your attempts to make things work.

There are however, many people in the RPC who don’t do this type of thing that you will be far more compatible with and less stressed out by interacting with them. I personally recommend seeking those people out instead of giving chance after chance to people it sounds like it just won’t work out with.

But that’s only my experience, from what I can understand from your situation from this one ask. Maybe it is worth it to you to stick it out a little bit longer and see if you can make things work Perhaps filter/blacklist the mun’s OOC tag to stop you from seeing their posts asking for memes to be sent in and etc. and see if that helps.

But if RPing with these people bring you more distress than joy it may be time to let them go and look for some new muns to RP with. RPing got much better for me after I decided that interacting with people like that wasn’t for me.

I hope that helped a bit! If you have more questions feel free to ask (just may take me a bit! to get to)

- Mod Mudkip

[illfatedpartners]

mun views (accepting) by @sassgardkeep​

On smut: I am not comfortable with writing it at all. I have attempted it in the past, but it’s just not for me. I am always a fan of kissing and then fading to black (and I also like reblogging light sexual stuff). Similarly, I won’t read anything smutty. That being said, this is only me, so I am not saying that it’s weird that people are comfortable with it or something like that! 

On 'burnbookisms'/anti-blogs: yikes! why would anyone do this??? I get ‘salt’ blogs, in which people might complain about a show (but even then, do you need a blog for that?), but blogs dedicated to send negativity? What in the seven hells is wrong with you, seriously? sorry but not sorry. If you don’t like a blog, unfollow/block/blacklist. Same if that person has rubbed you off the wrong way, or even if you’ve had some issues with them. You are an adult, not a 3 year old, so...act accordingly.

On OOC posts. I don’t mind them! Although I do prefer if muns tag the ‘negative’ stuff, if they are to post it constantly because it often triggers my own anxiety. That being said, I always check on those (the first couple at least), to send support if needed. as for my own posts? on one hand, I love posting little stuff whether it is ‘good morning’, ‘today I shall write’ or me screaming about a character. On the other hand, I do avoid them because I sometimes feel like I am talking to the wall (or not the wall since people are here, just talking and having no one to acknowledge me). I mean I’ve posted things on my other blog/Ed about being busy, about how I hope you don’t mind waiting for replies and...no one acknowledge them, which also reduces my motivation, you know? So for once again, I’d like to encourage people to interact (not just with me, with anyone) and to leave a heart (if you don’t want to have too many ‘likes’) and just show the other person ‘hey, I see you!’. Another simple thing that can be important to someone. Especially if you see other people receiving lots of notes and you get 0.

[pxppinmolly-archived]

🔥🔥🔥

Iwasaki Sip Emoji Here

1.)

I am totally advocate for blocking people who you don’t want to interact with anymore. Make your safe space - someone fucks up do what you gotta you owe no one anything. HOWEVER.

I do believe people should try and practice actually discussing things and talking things out if possible, depending on the situation. ESPECIALLY if it’s been dragged publically.

I just recently had to see in another RPC I’m in two people having dragged drama on the dash. One person straight vaguing another, which the person then replied in PARAGRAPHS accusing the other of practically stalking them and putting up a smear campaign against them and accusing them of some ACTUAL PROBLEMATIC SHIT. Only for OP to continue vague posting bitterly in defense.

An hour or so later the responder makes a post that they and OP ended up talking and realizing: oh! we are BOTH in big misunderstandings and BOTH fucked up and apologized sincerely and cleared things up.

It was SO refreshing to see? Like. People maturely talking their issues and resolving it. Like of course it depends on what happened, but if it’s a friend or someone you’ve known for awhile you. CAN talk to them and maybe find out - hey we were both wrong. I just think communication is important always.

2.)

YOU CAN CONTROL WHAT YOU SEE ON YOUR DASH. If you don’t wanna see someone? Blacklist them. Don’t wanna see OOC or negative stuff? Blacklist the tag. Ask OP to tag what they gotta. Don’t like someones portrayal? Just unfollow. I see a lot of people talk how their experiences here can be so negative and dont like X Y Z but you CAN control wtf you see on your dash. If you end up blacklisting/blocking half the community? OH WELL. New people come in. New things happen. You will always have people because I KNOW you people all have friends here who you are tight with. Remember you’re here for fun not clout.

3.)

I’ve seen it said before but I’ll say it too - Alastor is way too overhyped. And this is coming from someone who actually likes the character.

He’s way too like. Over obsessed with? And over hyped and people put him much higher than he apparently is.

And GOING off that – he is WAY to sexualized for my comfort. I just am always extremely uncomfortable when a canonically asexual character is drawn like. Sexually and horny in OP’s sexual fantasy like. It makes me uncomfortable. Can Alastor have sex? Yeah of course - but not to go off too much into this fucking tangent but what I see in art is absolutely just OP being horny and wanting to sexualize this character and I just get uncomfy with it. I just don’t like it. Leave the deer man alone.

[heroquills-a]

Dang man. It’s about time I hosted one of these, huh?

As of April 15th it will have marked an entire year i’ve been roleplaying in this community, and I gotta say it’s been a real blast. I’ve met so many awesome people, made such incredible friends, and have overall gained a lot of experience as a roleplayer that I’m super thankful for. All the ridiculous dash shenanigans, fun and interesting interactions, and emotionally gut-punching threads have been one heck of a ride and I’m definitely eager to continue on in this community for plenty of time to come. I figured, since this little anniversary is coming up soon, what better way to celebrate it than to host an event?

So what’s happening?

On Saturday, April 13th, Sonic’s gonna be throwing a big party for all his friends and acquaintances to come have fun!! It will be taking place in a rented ballroom hall on Mission Street (Central City), starting at 6 PM pacific time and ending 11 PM pacific time! Now, I know that sounds a bit fancy, but trust me. Sonic’s keepin’ it casual! fancy ballgowns and tuxes aren’t required for this shindig!

There will be plenty of fun activities for your muse to partake in! things including:

music & dancing!

a snack bar, as well as dinner & dessert being served at some point in the night.

party games such as musical chairs, charades, truth or dare, never have i ever!

face painting, courtesy of Tails the Fox! 🦊

karaoke!

an indoor pool!

alcoholic beverages (but only served after a certain time so ppl can avoid it if they want)

and of COURSE a talent show!

basic guidelines will be as followed, although you can ask more questions about the event itself over at @party-event  (which i highly encourage you to follow if you’re planning to participate because it will contain very crucial information you’ll need to stay in the loop of things during the event itself. you will also be able to have your muse sign up for the talent show here as well.)

PLEASE READ:

duplicates, AUs, villain characters, and OCs are allowed, but they all must be sonic related! sorry to any followers who have a muse from a different fandom !! ;o;

don’t godmode/infomod/whatever you know the basics.

villain characters are NOT allowed to disturb the peace/use this as an opportunity to cause harm for other characters/make villainous schemes. however, harmless mischief is absolutely encouraged, just make you run it by the mun of the characters you plan to mess with first and ofc don’t do anything they don’t want you to do to their muse

do not start any fights at the party. if your muse has beef with another person’s muse and for some reason you can’t keep ‘em under control, your muses will be forced to leave the party till they settle their conflict.

this goes for OOC too. don’t start drama/arguments OOC. don’t harass other muns. if i catch anyone doing this you will be banned from the rest of the event. no exceptions. lets just keep this a peaceful fun event, yeah?

this event will be taking place here on tumblr, so i encourage EVERYONE who participates to tag their posts as #party event. not only so i can track the tag and pay attention to everyone who participates, but also so people who wish to block the tag so it’s not spammed all over their dash can do so. PLEASE tag your posts, this will be very crucial.

there will be a discord server too, however it won’t be for RP reasons. IF you plan to have your muse participate in the talent show, it’s required that you join this server so that we can discuss the performance line up. this server will also be used to commentate OOC on stuff during the party too, and for you to chat and mingle with other muns, and also will allow you to find people to interact with if you’re struggling ! this server will be opened a few days before the event takes place so there is time to prepare.

remember, you can learn MORE about the rp party over at @party-event. it will be a very useful tool for you and will contain all the info you need to know for this thing. and remember, tag all posts regarding the event as #party event so i can track it and so ppl can blacklist it.

Secondly, a movie.

what, did you think that was all that there would be? nah man! on the 14th, the day after the party, I’m planning to stream Spiderman: Into the Spiderverse on rabbit!! this movie has become one of my top favorites as of late and i’ve been wanting to stream it for a hecking while! so, at 7PM pacific time, I’ll be streaming it. anyone is welcome to join !! it just note, it wont be an IC stream. you’re free to have your muse make crack commentary of course, but this is mostly just an OOC stream for muns to come and hang out and watch a movie. sound good?

important note about the movie itself: it contains a lot of flashing colors and imagery, so if you are someone who is sensitive to that/deals with epilepsy i strongly warn you to take caution in watching this film, if you haven’t seen it already.

ALRIGHT. i think that just about covers everything. thank you so much for reading and i’m looking forward to seeing everyone who joins in on the fun !! you know the drill, if you could maybe spread this around a little bit and get the word out there, that’d be real great! thank you so much!!

~Blu.

[belzinone]

Hello RPC! ♡

I redirect my peripheral blogs to these rules because I consider Bel my primary muse. If you came here from Eren, my sapphic multimuse hub, or Angel, thanks for taking the time to go through all my stuff. It means a lot to me ~ ♡

      ♡ Things you should know before becoming mutuals ♡

My name is Sal (they/them/theirs; 25+) & I write an OC blog because although I love SnK, I’m an original content creator at heart & blending my own ideas into an existing universe is a happy medium for me. I’m also a queer studies scholar, future paramedic, & C-PTSD / domestic violence survivor, so support, community, & freedom of expression is very important to me.

As a mod, I’ll do my best to encourage your creativity as well as be a supportive friend/writing partner on & off the dash. That being said, here’s a bit on how I like to roll. These guidelines are not only meant to steer my interactions, but also contain resources to potentially help you as well.

First off, here are my hard No’s: I don't tolerate severe ooc ignorance or bigotry. Minor offenses & honest mistakes I understand since we’re always learning, but severe & repeated instances warrant an unfollow &/or block from me. I don't have the energy to entertain these situations nor is it my sole responsibility to make every act of ignorance I come across a teaching moment. I strive to maintain an enriching environment here for myself & others in my orbit. It is also my right to do so as it is yours.

༺ I’m particularly intolerant of offenses towards my identities. These are sensitive issues I don’t appreciate taking lightly unless I’m comfortable with you enough as a person to know where your real sentiments lie. Furthermore, intersectionality’s a real important concept. If your instinct is to downplay the severity of these issues, take the time to learn about them instead of harassing people for the ways they respond to their abuse. It’s tiring & I don’t fuck with it. Neither should you.

༺ That being said, I understand  mun ≠ muse & author ≠ narrative. With sensitivity, communication, content warnings, & consent, these things can certainly coexist. I roleplay for community, enjoyment, & healing while also understanding that everyone processes things differently & silence is damaging.

༺ I ask that if you encounter content not to your taste, please don’t police the internet & instead respectfully ask op to tag, blacklist, block, or unfollow. I’ll extend this respect to you so we can all navigate the rpc safely, as uninformed content policing has serious legal consequences as well as interferes with real justice. 

Now that my hard No’s are out of the way, I’m very eager to fulfill wishlists. Please send as many inboxes, write as many starters, & start as many threads as you like. There’s no pressure to keep all the threads we start, so please feel free to follow your inspirational whims. I’m happy to follow them too if I can.

༺ I love interactions of all kinds & write threads of all lengths, but I enjoy writing multi-para/novella threads most & shippy/angsty/sapphic interactions are my favorite. Though Bel is on the asexual/aromantic spectrum (& is a dysphoric nonbinary woman) she is nonetheless eligible for shipping & sexual encounters with all genders under the right circumstances. However, I prefer our muses to be close in age & would rather not write heavy power dynamics without equally heavy plotting. A quick info post is here. 

༺ I enjoy & thrive on ooc communication. This doesn’t mean we have to be in contact all the time, but I do love getting to know you & your muse(s) because it makes interactions all the more personal and fulfilling. You can also check the status of our thread(s) whenever you like here, as my activity can be a bit capricious.

༺ Please cut your replies & include active responses in your writing. I will have trouble writing off of neutral &/or vague replies. I’d much rather we drop threads & start something new rather than continue writing one that no longer sparks joy.

༺ Please don’t godmod or excessively use me as a meme/musing source. This includes long / unplotted timeskips & practicing karma if we don’t have much development. If your muse is relating to our posts a lot, we should be able to make something out of it.

༺ Severe mischaracterization of my muse is a huge turnoff. Please don’t make assumptions. Please don’t fetishize her. Please don’t mistake her fanon for a hospital nurse. She’s a soldier. Please do gloss over her info (everything under central navigation) & ask me questions if you need to. I understand she’s an intensely developed character, but understanding the unique portrayal of your muse is important to me so please extend the same courtesy. I’m happy to learn as well as explain.

This is an explicit blog & triggers will be present (as well as tagged by request). Please don’t interact if you’re a minor & please ask for consent before writing sexually explicit content with me. More often than not it’ll be an enthusiastic YES, but please give me the heads up as well as your preferences so we can do the dirty in a way that’s fun for both of us. ♡

As a result of the 2018 purge, i’ll be circumventing this god awful policy using the following tags:

current nsfw tag: #FREE THE FEMALE PRESENTING NIPPLE . nsfvv

old nsfw tag: #FREE THE FPN . sfw // only it’s not

Unfortunately, what I cannot tag are spoilers, as many are key aspects of Bel’s character & plot devices in threads. If you’re an anime only fan of SnK, aren’t caught up with the manga, &/or aren’t familiar with other parts of the series (such as acwnr & smartpass releases), I’m sorry I won’t be able to keep spoilers out of Bel’s pages &/or off the dash.

The SnK universe is a playground & this is my sandbox. I’m not interested in seeing or engaging with any discourse or villainization of its existence & am simply here for my personal enjoyment of the series (as well as yours if you’d like to join me. ♡ )

Thanks for going through this! Please feel free to let me know if there’s any way I can help make roleplaying a better/easier experience for you, let it be accessibility &/or communication issues. I experience some forms of dyslexia & understand the struggle very much. I also apologize ahead of time for any misspellings or strange word replacements in my replies. I do my best to proofread, but things fall through the cracks sometimes. Finally, you can find a quick and easy guide to starting an interaction with us here. If you’d like to add me on discord, mine’s sal#2446. Please send yours so I can associate your blog/muse(s) with your name.

Thanks again, & I look forward to getting to know you & your muse(s)!

Love, Sal (they/them/theirs) ♡

community credits

dash icon art by laffi

rp icon frame by shane

dash icon frame by carti

ooc jensen gif icons by magenta

theme by evie

༺ theme background & makeover by sage

༺ theme header graphic by vee

༺ music player by glen

༺ about muse page by rowan

༺ ༺ cinemagraphs by daria

༺ ༺ moodboard by shuuhuu

༺ verse page by raven

༺ community relationships page by index47

༺ npc relationships page by julia

༺ rules page by rowan

other original artwork & edits by yours truly

- - - - - anything unlisted, please ask ♡

- - - - - - - - - - you can find other resources i love on @bzresources 

[luckywildrover]

RULES

1. This is a side-blog of dreamingofmuses. Follow-backs will be from there, and any asks will come from that blog with a signature at the end. If a message comes from anon from me, please check to make sure I sent it!

2. I’ve set this account to mixed-activity and selective because who knows how active I’ll be on a given day. Also, I intend to keep interactions between people I’ve written with before. Saying that, if you wanna ask the boy something, you can still do so. Also, I do welcome OCs, but it’d be cool to have some information about them to work with.

4. Personals are welcome here! Feel free to interact with the boys! I just ask that you don’t reblog anything that either has the tag ‘(not okay to reblog)’ or is a thread.

5. The age rating’s gonna be 16′s. This allows mentions of various topics that might cause triggers. These will all be tagged as ‘tw [word]’. If you find one I do not tag and you want to blacklist, please let me know! As for sexual stuff - mun is 25, Jamie is 27. I won’t do anything in public, but am happy to discuss matters privately with mutuals either here or on Discord.

6. This is a multi-shipping blog, with each ship taking place in a different timeline unless planned otherwise. While shipping may well happen, I’d like for it to be something that can be communicated with OOC. I’d like them to be based on some sort of chemistry, so ideally I’d like them to interact beforehand, or talk to the other mun about it.

6.5. Of course, platonic ships are really important too, but I’d like a heads up on them as well! It's totally okay to throw a message my way if you wanna have some sort of established friendship.

7. The only drama I tolerate here is IC angst. 

8. Icons were made by me.

9. More added as I think of things.

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Hiiii! Eggs anon here! I’d very much like to RP with you properly, but I’m pretty crap at ye olde tumblr. Please could you point me to some basic resources for like how RP should work or like etiquette etc? Thank you!

// oh shoot okay I really want to help you on this because tumblr rp is a wonderful magical thing let me round you up some resources.

First and foremost, roleplay is for everyone. Having a fancy blog and icons and stuff is all very well but honestly all that really matters is that you show up, you respect your partners, and you do your best (: Having pretty graphics doesn’t really matter in the long run. It’s about telling the best story you can, cooperatively.

some (brief) vocab:thread - the roleplay, itself. usually it takes the form of a post that each user reblogs back and forth and adds onto.mun - the writer behind the charactermuse - the character. meme - prefab activities intended generate new threads. these are often in the form of sentence starters, where a list of possible sentences is what starts the thread.

As far as etiquette goes, the most important thing is just to listen to your partners. A lot of people have lists of rules on their page, so it’s good to read those before interacting with that person. If they have a character bio, it won’t hurt to read that too, even if they’re a canon character, just in case there’s something specific you might need to know when writing together.

the browser extension xkit has some modifiers that make tumblr easier for roleplay (there’s one in particular that allows you to edit posts so that you can keep threads short). This isn’t really necessary, but it can help make things easier, keep things cleaner. If possible, it’s good manners to delete your last response when you write your next one, so that each post doesn’t get too long and clog up everyone’s dashboard. 

Other etiquette things that are good to know: - tagging triggers is appreciated, as well as tagging nsfw. some people prefer to put nsfw under a cut, so that nobody accidentally sees it (I’m a little shy sometimes, so I’m guilty of that)- writing nsfw with minors is illegal in the united states, please don’t tell someone you’re over 18 if you aren’t, it could cause a lot of problems- It’s considerate to have an ooc tag, both for blacklisting purposes and so that people can distinguish between mun and muse. - there’s no real etiquette around roleplaying with duplicates of the same character. some people (I think most people) do it, some people don’t.  It definitely means there are more partners available to you-basically just be nice, you’ll be fine :) 

Honestly, it’s not as complicated as it sounds. There’s some culture to the whole thing, but it’s something everyone learns. There’s tons of resources out there, and if you have more questions you are always free to ask me. Here’s a few of my favourite resources, just for further reading (:

this is one of the best explanations of tumblr rp I’ve seen by a roleplay blog.this and this are my favourite RPH (roleplay help) blogs this is a great place to get iconsthis and this are great places to get themesthis is another great source, mostly for themes but also for other graphics stuff

I can answer more specific questions if you have them, but that first link is so good that I thought typing up a how-to might be a little redundant

feel free to PM me too if you’d rather talk that way n3ngood luck!!

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Important!

Hey guys, I have a few things to say and I hope you all take the time to read this all as I’m sure it’s going to get a bit lengthy.

First of all, I want to say that I love all you guys, and I’m thrilled you all decided to take a chance on this rp and join. It honestly wouldn’t be the same without you all. I would also like to state that I absolutely love all of the plots I have going with every single one if you. Their awesome. Your awesome. Your muses are awesome. Everything is awesome.

That being said, I can’t be the only one you all rp with. That makes it more like a 1x1 which again I love our stuff and wouldn’t change it for the world, but I really need you guys to step out of your comfort zone and reply to new starters in the starter tag which is sunsetacademystart. Their are a few starters, which I linked a couple posts down that could really use some love. Of course you are also welcome and encouraged to post your own starters, in which case I remind everyone else to please reply to. I understand it’s easy to get in the habit of just replying to the threads you currently have, but in order for you, your characters and the rp to really thrive, we need you guys to really immerse yourselves and reply to new people, or even message them to plot. It would be much appreciated if you all could help me with this as an rp really thrives on activity and rping with multiple people.

That being said I do of course understand everyone has lives and have spoken to a few people who haven’t been able to be on, in which I totally understand and will work with them. But if this is the case for you where you can’t be on for whatever reason, please communicate with me. If your a loyal dedicated member showing you really want to be here, but life is just getting in the way you can just talk to me and I will hold your part. It’s when their is lack of communication that problems arise. I like to pride myself on being a very welcoming, understanding and accommodating person so just talk to me. Also, if you ever need anybody to talk to, I am here. I will listen and be a friend to talk to. Whatever you need. We also have an ooc chat now which I will give you all links to. Hopefully that will help with communication and plotting.

I am going to tag all of you so that you all see it. Don’t worry this post is not aimed at anybody, just a general statement which should be taken in to consideration as this rp is my baby and I really want to keep it open but I can’t do it myself.

Now, something else I wanted to mention, and I suppose this will be more for the lurkers than the actual members, but unfortunately this rp has hit a slump, people join and than leave, or don’t join and I’m not quite sure what I am doing wrong. I try to be welcoming and I really want this to be a place for everyone’s muses to thrive and for us to become like a family, so and I guess this goes out to members and lurkers alike, give me your honest opinion in a nice constructive way. What would you change in regard to the rp? What do you like/dislike? What would make you join? What am I doing wrong? I dont exactly want to change the rp by any means but am open for suggestions and constructive criticism.

I would like to talk about some of the things I have seen mentioned on rpt blogs and such, as I feel it should be addressed and I hope you can all understand my reasoning better. I really don’t want this rp to have a bad name. I put my heart and soul in to this.

First things first, i would like to preface this by saying I don’t like taking away members creativity. I would like them to be able to play out any plot their heart desires with any FC they would like to use. I really hate limiting people.

Now,I have seen people say that some of the themes in this rp make them uncomfortable. The few I have seen brought up are incest and student/teacher. Again, I hate telling people what to rp. But I do have to tell you that the incest you speak of(which actually is not currently in play) is not “real” incest. They are step siblings, hence not blood related in any way. As far as the student/teacher stuff. Their are lots of university rps that allow that. It’s something fun that members enjoy playing out. That being said, it is slightly different in this regard. Yes, I suppose the teachers in this scenario are in a position of authority, but they are more like glorified students, just older and able to teach a class. If you read the plot, you will see what I mean by that. Any questions and I will do my best to clarify. Also, things will be tagged properly, so if you blacklist a certain topic, you do not need to see it.

The next thing I have seen brought up, is some of the fcs we allow our members to use. Again their are other rps who don’t ban fcs, but I personally don’t feel it’s right to tell someone they can not play a character they have a muse for because that fc may have done something problematic, unless of course if we are talking about an actual rapist or serial killer, as that’s just crossing a major line. But other than that I really don’t see a problem. It’s just a face they choose to use and has nothing to do with the person IRL. I have seen some rps with a ban list so huge and I feel like that’s very limiting to people.

That’s all I can think of at the moment, if anyone has any concerns or questions don’t hesitate to come to me. I will assist you as best I can. I honestly really hope everyone out in the tags decides to take a chance on us. I promise, you will be loved. I will personally love your muse down. Just give us a chance. You might find the perfect home for your muse, and members please get on as often as you can, communicate with me, and reply and post starters. I love you all.

HAPPY ROLEPLAYING

Tagging everyone just so you all can see it. Please like once you have read.

Thanks guys

-Admin Charlene

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Note: The most important parts of this are bolded.

1. In order for me to interact with a blog, your blog must have a ruleset that I am able to find. I need to establish boundaries and to know if out blogs and personalities will mesh well together.

2. I am selective about who I interact with. I will follow if I’m interested in interacting, though if you post a lot of content which is triggering to me and have no clear way of blacklisting it, I won’t be able to follow. I apologize, but since roleplay is a hobby, I have to look out for my own mental health first and foremost.

3. The Mun is 23+. The muses are always 18+ unless during flashback. I don’t do AUs where my muses are children because it makes me uncomfortable. Thank you for understanding.

4. This blog is Multiverse and Multiship. Hence, any ships will happen in separate universes, unless me and other muns have plotted a poly ship.  I don’t mind if you would like to list my character as an exclusive if that is your thing, but I will not be able to return the favor, and I ask that you please do not pressure me to.

5. This blog is OC friendly. All normal rules still apply. OCs should have an about page so that I can get a feel for them as a character. Please also see rule 11, please for further information in this regard.

6. The muses and the mun do NOT share the same values. My muses may be rude, dislike your muses, and have some asshole-y opinions that do not reflect the mun. If you are worried that the Mun supports something you don’t agree with, please reach out to me OOC to ask before you assume that I’m the same person as the characters I play.

7. I don’t support the censorship of fiction. HOWEVER– there is a right and wrong way to handle sensitive topics. Serious topics are NOT a fetish. I will always do my best to tag triggering things, but please consider that I am unable to tailor your internet experience for you. I will always be open to tag something if you need it tagged, but as a general rule, please keep in mind that these topics may come up and will be tagged:

Unhealthy relationships (IE emotional and physically abusive relationships) may be explored on this blog with Muns that I trust, and will always be tagged.

Mental health, smoking, drug use, swearing, and other intense topics along these lines may be explored, and will be tagged.

8. DO NOTS:

DO NOT bring homophobia, transphobia, or racism into my inbox. This is a 0 tolerance rule and will result in an instant block.

DO NOT ask for roleplays involving rape, grooming, sexual abuse, exploitation of a minor, adult/minor shipping, or incest. This is a 0 tolerance rule and will result in an instant block.

DO NOT ask for plots involving pregnancy – mun has severe Tokophobia. Please tag images and mentions of pregnancy with “whimsy dont look” or “tw: pregnancy”. I will unfollow if I am unable to blacklist.

DO NOT ask for ships between characters which have an age gap in which the characters met while one was still a minor. It is fine if the character have an age gap and met while they were BOTH ADULTS. IE if the characters met when one was 20 and one was 40.

9. NSFW Material may be present, and will be tagged. This includes but is not limited to: gore, violence, erotica, and substance abuse. Because of tumblr’s filtering system, I cannot tag them as just “NSFW”, so written erotica will be tagged “Erotica” and “NSFW Text”. Partial nudity in imagery or suggestive imagery will be tagged as “tw: Partial nudity”, “partial nudity”, “suggestive”, and “tw: suggestive” depending on what applies. There will be no full nudity imagery on this blog. (Please note: the mun is a professional illustrator and I will sometimes share my other socials at the request of my followers. These other social medias may contain nudity. Please keep this in mind when viewing and following them.)

10. No instant romances. My muses are not here to fulfill your fetish, and they do not exist JUST to ship with your muses. My muses, as a general rule, are sort of hard to ship with. Here are some rules of thumb about shipping:

Shipping is chemistry based. If there is a relationship in canon, we can assume up to that level. My muses may respond negatively to sexual or romantic advances if they aren’t interested in your muse. If you decide that you are not feeling a ship, feel free to reach out to me OOC and we can absolutely drop it, no pressure! I may do the same if the ship isn’t working for me.

I do NOT change my characters sexuality, gender, mentality or body for a ship. A character who’s a trans man will stay a trans man. A character who has commitment issues will still have commitment issues– however these may be worked through via threads.

I don’t go out of my way to insult people’s ships. I ask that you please do the same, and please respect that if I say I don’t want to ship something, I’m not going to ship it.

The easiest way to ship with me is to reach out to me OOC and let me know there is interest there! If I know you’re interested in a ship and I know it’s one I’m interested in too, we can build up to it in a thread.

If we have a ship planned, feel free to send asks from the perspective of being later-on in the relationship! I do want to have the build up to the ship in a thread, but if you just wanna do something short and fun, I’m more than happy to humor it. Our ships don’t necessarily always have to be linear.

11. I prefer not to do crossover roleplays. I am uncomfortable interacting with characters that I am not familiar with. I will do them with muns I am comfortable with for series that I am familiar with only. This applies to OCs as well– if they do not have a verse for the series that I write for, I may not interact with them with my canon characters.

12. You do not have to match my length. I just ask that you please give me something to work with. I generally prefer paragraph, multi-paragraph, or novella style roleplays. One-liners are typically reserved for asks or crack.

13. Sometimes this blog is slow and low activity. I have mental illnesses and a lot of stuff going on in real life. Please be patient with me and know that I appreciate it so much more than I could ever say.

For the sake of the Mun's sanity, I ask that you please only have one thread with each muse at a time. I will answer asks and all of that, but please keep it to one thread per muse unless you ask me OOC first. Again, this is a hobby and not a job, so if I feel overwhelmed and uninterested in a thread, I will likely drop it because I will forget about it.

14. Please check a muse’s activity level and see if they are request only or selective!

Active muses are my go-to muses and are the ones you see the most.

Request only muses are open but you should ask for them specifically.

Selective muses are low activity and don’t often come to the forefront. I usually don’t have much interest in these muses unless I know a mun and they can give me a plot that interests me.

[fabletonrp]

RP Rules Review and Being Considerate - A (Long) General Information post

I think the time has come to post something like this as a reminder about how to deal with people.  It’s no great secret I’m a little older than most people involved in roleplay, and with that advanced age comes a slightly different perspective on how to interact with others.  Before I really begin, I would like to stress that I have a lot of work experience interacting with people, face-to-face and over the phone/internet, who are happy, who are angry, and who are experiencing profound tragedy.  I’m not a social worker, I’m not particularly warm and fuzzy by nature, and I’m only minimally trained in a formal way.  My interactions are governed by experience, common sense, and a desire to ultimately be effective over being nice.  

However, this doesn’t mean I take free reign to be rude.  That also applies here.  I’m not trying to be rude. I also loathe passive-aggression to a pathological degree.  I’m just trying to share my own experiences in a context and provide a guideline for interacting with other people in a specific place -- in this case, a roleplay. I’m trying to outline what I look for in managing this group and how it informs the things I say to roleplay members who come to me for whatever reason they choose.  As you all know, my metaphorical door is always open.  I’ve happily worked through a number of interaction issues and I have no problem working through more when the need arises.  I also have no problem cheering people on, in their lives or in character. That’s the kind of stuff I’m here to do and I know that.  I’m not posting this to say I’m better than anyone else.  It’s just a way for me to share what I’m looking at when I’m dealing with complaints about how interactions happen, and a place to outline how I do it so you can hold me accountable for it.    

With that introduction and explanation out of the way, I’d like to start with explaining my perspective on an important difference.  This article, by a school counselor with extensive training on the topic and a lot of written force behind that, is my basis for it.  

When I guarantee a ‘safe’ environment here, what does that mean to you?  

To me, it means I won’t tolerate my members being spammed with inappropriate, frequent, or aggressive messages, whether in character or out of character.  This constitutes harassment.  

To be harassment, it has to be systematic. The only thing I can recommend to stop anonymous harassing messages is limiting the avenues they’re received.  For off-anon messages, if I look into it and agree that it’s bullying or harassing, the guilty person gets one conversation in which they are most likely removed from the group.  

What it doesn’t mean is writers will be comfortable all the time.  Especially in a roleplay like this with darker themes, there may be content that is objectionable to some.  That’s why we trigger tag.  Blacklisting is always an option, too.  Characters may not be liked or loved.  Someone else’s perception of your character may not be a positive one. 

It doesn’t mean disagreements won’t happen.  It doesn’t mean you won’t hear the word ‘no.’  It also doesn’t mean assumed priority or rank.  Every character and every plot has a sliding degree of importance based on scale.  In the end, we do not have a main character.  The biggest plot points are outlined on the main roleplay page.  With over a hundred characters, there will be different plots overlapping one another all the time.  With around 20 roleplayers at any given time, there will be different opinions, backgrounds, and needs to balance out.  

A safe environment doesn’t mean we all agree all the time or feelings won’t be hurt.  It just means a respectful place to work through and resolve differences.  It means no one is ignored if they make the effort to be heard.

I have a zero tolerance policy for hate-filled speech regardless of the avenue someone is being attacked (shape, size, religion, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, etc - my ideas generally follow legal language because of my professional background.)  If someone receives this kind of a message from another member of the group, it is cause for immediate removal and I won’t provide the courtesy of a conversation. 

Gross instances of godmodding or metagaming will not be tolerated.  Smaller and possibly unintentional ones will be discussed.     

If the behavior doesn’t meet the legal and/or widely-accepted definition of these things, the guilty person gets a conversation that I consider a warning they need to consider how they’re treating others.  If the behavior doesn’t stop, they’re removed and blocked.  I don’t have a set timeframe for compliance here because it depends on the circumstance and its severity.

In the article I provided above, though, it splits out the difference between being rude, being mean, and being a bully.  That’s what I’d like to focus on next.  I notice the word ‘bullied’ or ‘bullying’ being tossed around a lot, both in the roleplay context and outside it, so I want to clearly outline what it is here, at least in my mind and in my operation as an admin. I agree with the article in that providing misnomers or using the buzzwords involved, at times, does a disservice to some grave issues.  This is the guideline I’m using now, and will continue to use, so please read through. 

Being rude is inadvertently saying or doing something that hurts someone else.  Not everyone is comfortable, if they feel someone is rude, saying ‘Hey, stop it.’  But the key difference between being rude and being a bully is the intent behind it. 

Example in a roleplay context: “I don’t think that’s how your character would react to that.”  Whether this type of statement, which I’ve seen more than once with different phrasing, is said in an effort to mold the speaker’s in-character interaction a certain way or for another reason, it’s rude.  It’s hurtful because of its implication that you know someone’s character better than they do.  A better, more collaborative approach might be “Tell me what your character was thinking when they said/did that.”   This automatically puts someone into a more creative place, rather than a defensive one. 

As a note, rudeness is something I will generally stay out of as an admin because we’re all adults here.  I’ll rely on you guys to work that out amongst yourselves for the most part. 

Disagreeing with someone is different from being rude.  How it’s managed is the difference.  The Golden Rule totally applies - stop and think about your own feelings or response if you were approached with a certain comment before you make it.

Being mean is a contained instance designed to hurt someone else.  Most of the time, this is inspired by anger and often it can be misdirected anger.  A lot of it is passive-aggressive.  All of it could be controlled or avoided but the person has a clear and willful disregard for the other’s feelings.

Example in a roleplay context:  “Character A hasn’t been around because they don’t care about me.”  This is a mean, planned out, and a passive-aggressive bid for attention if spoken in-character.  It casts your own character in the role of victim to someone else’s actions and casts the other character in a negative light in a way that is easily preventable.  It’s designed to get another roleplayer’s attention in a second-hand way (no direct OOC contact).  It’s also godmodding.  A better example is to place constraints and limit it to your own character’s perception.  “I don’t feel like Character A cares about me.”  This is open-ended enough to allow the other roleplayer to respond without trapping them and dictating where they’ve been or what they’ve done (or where they haven’t been/what they haven’t done.)  

As a note with this specific example, we don’t follow a day-to-day format here.  There are some roleplays that do, so an extended absence on someone’s part is a little more noticeable.  Because of the loose timeframe here, only really defined as ‘present-day’, it’s very easy to headcanon out day-to-day interaction.  

One example I feel comfortable giving is, as Marian’s roleplayer, I’ve discussed with Robin’s roleplayer that, in spite of our insane schedules, the relationship between Robin and Marian is stabilizing over time.  They see each other at home and nothing is remiss.  We’ll write out some of the bigger plot points we had discussed for them and we started a para.  This two-minute conversation literally eliminated the awkwardness and need for in-character meanness and passive aggression.  The important thing is having the two-minute conversation before we post and, trust me, with the two of us, the two minutes was spread out over about 6 hours. 

This is mostly about perception, because being rude and being mean both cause hurt in the receiving party.  The difference is really the degree of intent.  I’m more than willing as an admin to look at comments, posts, or messages and determine a degree of intent or look for patterns.  However, please realize this is a subjective science and it’s based on my own knowledge and friendships with each of you in the roleplay.  I try to talk to everyone and get to know them well, so I do consider each writer here a friend.  

If your feelings are hurt by what someone has said or done, please don’t think I’m defending them if I encourage you to consider that it may have been done from a different perspective.  

As much as I say I’m not a nice person, I don’t think that makes me a mean one either.  I don’t think anyone here is legitimately a mean person -- and the intention to degrade someone else is what makes the difference between being mean and being rude.  I know it can be hard to sort out when you’re the one hurting, but when you approach me I will try to decide if I think there’s a difference.  And I won’t be shy about expressing my opinion.  Even if I think the person is just being rude, not mean, it’s entirely possible I will go kindly ask them to knock it off.

Bullying involves three elements no matter where you look:  intent to harm, a perceived/emphasized power imbalance, and aggressive acts/threats against the weaker party.   It’s a big step up from being mean and, obviously, not all aspects apply to roleplay.  Physical bullying isn’t something we can do. I think the most pervasive kind in a roleplay is relational aggression. It’s kind of tied in with cyberbullying, considering the format, but in a long-running group roleplay, the friendships and connections you build (IC and OOC) are the key to having fun, and relational aggression undermines those.

Example in roleplay context:  “I’m just going to ignore your posts and hope you go away.”  This is an example of shunning or socially isolating someone, which is probably the most hurtful form of bullying in a roleplay because it’s insidious.  Obviously people just do this rather than saying it most of the time.  It goes without saying that not all characters will reply to all starters.  However, it becomes apparent over time when all of one roleplayer’s characters are ignored by another’s.  Things like a refusal to plot, ignoring messages without a clearly stated reason why beforehand, and spamming the dash to push someone else’s thread out of sight all fall into this category.

One example I don’t think people traditionally think of as bullying is bubble roleplaying.  We all have our ships and our favorites -- but please expect me to contact you if I notice you’re only writing with certain roleplayers or characters all the time.  It’s very much relational aggression to ignore plots with connected characters without a respectful explanation.  If you have connected characters in the roleplay, I expect you to have some form of interaction with them.  If you don’t like the connected character, you need to reconsider the role you’re taking on.  It seriously screws other people over and it’s a noticeable, glaring lack of development.  Plus it’s hurtful in an OOC way and makes others/newcomers feel unwelcome.  

I know this is long and detailed.  I had hoped it wouldn’t need to be said, but at this point I think it’s good to have a general reminder so we can avoid the casual indifference that happens once we’ve been established this long.  This isn’t me being passive aggressive and I’m not posting this because of any one thing in particular.  As I said earlier, it’s here so it’s all spelled out and, if you come to me with an issue, you can understand a little better what I’m looking at or how I think about these kinds of things.  It lays out a guideline for what I will do and makes me responsible to do it evenly and fairly.  Please click the heart if you’ve gotten this far so I know you have. It will hopefully also avoid me giving you a shut-down response if I think you’re using buzzwords in an attempt to get my attention (it won’t work.  I’ve seen that tree before.)  My ultimate goal is to keep this a safe place, to keep growing as a family, for as long as we can. I have all the trust in the world that you guys are on the same page as I am with that goal.  I love writing with each of you, even if time doesn’t allow me to do it as often as I would like.  

Thank you for being members here, for giving me your time and attention and turning this into something with a life of its own.  

Thank you for being great.   

~ Admin J

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The Guidelines

IMPORTANT

I might be super slow at times, but I'll always try not taking too long to reply. I'm not abandoning this blog ever, even if it sometimes looks like it.

General:

- mun is 24, so 18+ content is very likely to appear on this blog - nsfw will always be tagged nsfw - mun loves dark themes/threads, angst, but also fluff - multi ship and multi verse - crossover friendly & au friendly (yass) - caught up with SPN, spoilers will be tagged spn spoilers

Tracking the tag: doihavetousemymomvoice

This blog is not mutuals only! I’ll rp with you whether we follow each other or not. I usually follow everybody I’d like to rp with, so if I do follow you, this is your cue to come and say hi, because yes I do want to rp. You can always like starter calls, too.

Sometimes I use small font (mostly if you do or if it’s an icon thread), but you can rp however you want, so long as you know basic grammar.

On selectivity & activity

I will be selective at times. I spend most of my time with severe lack of sleep and bad headaches, so while I’m trying to queue efficiently and quickly enough for everybody to get replies regularly, I cannot always promise you’ll get replies right away. I am taking care of my mother and my beep of a father, so I’m stuck lurking a good portion of the day.

On organization

I have a tag system. You have a small navigation by clicking that link on the theme and a complete navigation by visiting the tags page from there. If you ever search for something, check my navigation. I tag everything I post/ reblog. I also sort threads into verses. v: the sheriff of crazy town ( mainverse ) for instance. Those are my verses, general verses to declare when the thread takes place and who/what Jody is.

On triggers

I do not have triggers per se, I’m good with most dark themes, with torture, dub-con etc. I will not rp anything Star Wars related, though. It’d be great if you tagged your Star Wars gifs/posts/etc. if you’re not an SW blog, so blacklist can keep it off my dash.

On smut & shipping

I’m going to be honest, I love shipping and smutting. It’s not a must-have, but I enjoy it. If that’s a problem for you, I’m sorry. I’m all up for best friend/ ally/ enemy threads, too.

I’m old enough to safely smut, but I will not smut with minors even if I am in Germany and you’re in a country where nobody cares. Or if you live on Mars where the sun always shines. Or if you live in my bed. Sorry. Since I post nsfw content, I’m always wary with following blogs with minor muns, too.

I ship with chemistry, no matter the gender, age, height, looks of other muses. The heart wants what the heart wants. Pre-established relationships are fine as well if we chitchat about it first.

On exclusivity & mains

I’m all for that. Both of it. Very much so ( because mun and muse tend to get a bit jealous). If the right person comes along, I’m all for giving Jody to their muse and only theirs. That means, if I decide we found THE Bobby, we will only ship with that Bobby and no other if the other mun agrees.

If we agree to be exclusive with each other and you ship with another Jody? Well, not nice.

If you want to be exclusive, tell me. I’ll probably scream happily and go and change my exclusives/main’s page right away. xD But keep in mind, I do expect regular communication between our muses.

I’m assigning mains, meaning that if mun and muse click with me and my man, your replies will be a bit quicker and less likely queued than others (unless we have more than 5 threads, then I might queue some after all to stay sane), which isn’t because one mun plays their muse better than another, but because I can reply better/quicker to people I talk to/know OOC.

On updates and threads

I update my tread tracker about once a month, sometimes I add threads right away, but not always. Every few months, I post an overall ‘Who owes me and whom do I owe threads’ list. I’ll tag you in it unless I had to drop our thread, I’ll link you to the thread(s), too. If you haven’t replied in several months, I’ll slip your thread onto my ‘archived’ list which I post occasionally, too. If there’s nothing in six months or longer, I’ll assume it dropped. I’m not saying I reply within a month to everything either, which is why you should feel free to do the same with my threads.

If you didn’t reply in a while, while I saw you actively rping on my dash, I will nicely boop you as I know many people don’t use my tracker despite it making things a lot easier, so I will boop and ask whether you saw it or not. That doesn’t mean I’m rushing at all and this is your permission to do the same!

On memes and opens and asks and opens

Yes. Always. Even old ones.

NOTE that if you reply to an open icon thread, I expect you to reply with an icon. If it’s a gif, I expect a gif. If it’s just text, then I want to keep it that way. If you fail to follow that rules, I’ll ignore your reply, maybe message you about it, maybe not.

On OCs

I do love them and I have a few of my own, BUT I’ll expect an about page to give me an idea on what they’re like and that your muse isn’t overpowered.

On the mun aka meeeee

Okay, so I’m 24 and I live in Germany. I study a mixed major of computer sciences, graphics design and journalism and I talk a lot once we’re past the awkward first five minutes. You can always boop me for my discord to chat or just IM me and we talk on there.

I do post ooc stuffs, sometimes rants, sometimes whining, so if that bothers you, just block my ooc tag: out of bull crap ( ooc ).

On credit

I make all icons myself. Most of the screencaps I use for Jody are mine, but if not, they’re from screencapped.net.

The theme isn't mine, but I made the background.

Thank you for reading this far.