#not maintagging this bc i dont wanna seem like a hater

[onlyinthepasttense]

using my personal space (tumblr blog onlyinthepasttense) to Think about bouquet 

bouquet literally has everything going for it in the world. it has mad scientists, monster lovers, forbidden romance, polyamory, rude bitch disease... literally Everything in the world + the execution makes me want to pull my hair out. i dont mind rocky relationships, esp relationships that start the way this one did (with, like, duels and kidnapping) and between people with such different ideals. im Not upset about the fact that they don’t have it all worked out, in fact i could stand for them to work it out for a long long time, but it’s about the stuff we actually get to experience as an audience 

i dislike damien, mostly, but i appreciate what he brings to the story. i dislike damien even MORE because i want rilla to be an active participant in her own relationship. rilla is written in a really interesting way: she’s stubborn and impulsive and doesn’t let people walk all over her, so the Interesting part is that none of these factors *stop people from walking all over her*. there’s nothing wrong with rilla comforting damien when he gets nervous-- it’s when he’s most tolerable, frankly, and i think it’s sweet :) --but we don’t get to see as much of the reverse. rilla has concerns and damien tries to dissuade her in a way im reading as less than gentle. NOT EVEN STARTING ON the way arum is constantly brushing aside her concerns and advice and perspective to her face, to the point where i don’t even understand where falling for arum might have begun for her. he just doesn’t listen, like ever. in the moonlit hermit he’s dismissive and somehow even more stubborn. like, the WHOLE time. he’s just rude! he appears to learn from her, but in season 3 he takes in an entire child despite her protests, and dismisses her during their experiment. when damien learns there’s suddenly a child, he’s ALSO all for it. rilla is comically disgruntled. 

during the lovers of the fallen tower rilla is, AGAIN separated from arum and damien, and any development in her own relationship. they get to argue and become closer and rilla doesn’t reappear until they’ve gotten out of danger and learned, apart from her. then she talks about how she wants their relationship to work and i also want that SO BADLY because i honestly think she can do better but if she really really wants these disasters i want her to be happy with them, at least. 

and then it happens AGAIN in the holiday special, where damien 1. does not do the single thing that he was supposed to do ALL DAY while she cooks and prepares for like six people and 2. he and marc drive her out of her own house with their bickering because he just can NOT let shit go. and AGAIN rilla is absent for the actual character development part of the episode!!!!!!! 

long story short: i wouldnt hate damien so much if i didnt love rilla , my god, get your stupid head out of the way so i can see your wife