#nobody likes terfs

[idolomantises]

I was gonna say I’m glad tumblr became a lot more of a civil website with less petty discourse but its also the website where people unironically call feminists terfs and tone police women who criticize men so you win some you lose some I guess lol

[lazylittledragon]

detransition is something that should Absolutely be talked about but the idea of going into this tag terrifies me beyond belief

[cozylittleartblog]

FUCK NAZIS

[spitblaze]

No no, I don't think sex is bad because it's evil and dangerous, I'm not a puritan. I think sex is bad because its something men like to do, because they're evil and dangerous. Completely different.

[phantom-of-the-memes]

Something I’ve found so horrifying about all these “Christmas hauls” women are doing on tiktok (I know why am I even using that hell app), is that every single gift is in some way related to their appearance. I haven’t seen one relate in any way shape or form to a hobby or interest that isn’t about how the present themselves to the world. It’s all just clothes, jewellery, makeup, shoe, bags, skin care, and “anti-ageing” gear.

And don’t get me wrong, fashion and makeup can absolutely be hobbies. But not in the way they’re consuming it if you get what I mean? I am by no means an expert on fashion as a hobby, but that is not the vibe I get from these women (and young girls!). It’s all what micro trends are currently in, and what will make them look best to their peers.

Most people get stocking fillers of makeup and skincare and new clothes. Nothing wrong with that. But for them to be your only gifts and therefore interests? I mean I’m talking about ANY interests that are not appearance related.

Like do you collect certain things? Do you like certain animals/ characters and therefore get teddies of them or clothes/ items with them on them? Do you have a certain area of interest?

ANY hobbies? And I mean any. I’m not an elitist that only considers reading and intellectual persists to be valid hobbies. For me my main hobbies, and therefore gifts I get are video games, tv shows, movies, reading, science stuff (I study zoology), and crafts like cross stitch. But any other hobby like sports, art, yoga, working out, hiking, travelling, cooking, baking, etc. Even niche things like bird watching! Just something you do only for yourself that isn’t consuming influencer content.

It’s rotting our brains so bad and setting the movement back immensely. Why are we normalising returning to the notion that the only thing women should concern themselves with is the pursuit of youth and beauty. They are enforcing this idea that we have worked to get rid of for so long!

And the most disturbing part is seeing young girls (I’m talking six years old!) not getting a single toy or hobby item for Christmas. Only makeup, skin care, clothes, anti-ageing bullshit, and trendy things like Stanley cups. That’s not right! How can influencers sleep at night knowing they are stripping children of their childhood and essentially setting them up to be trad wives when they grow up?

And don’t not come at me with the choice feminism bullshit. Just because women can choose to do something it doesn’t automatically make it a feminist action. For example, there’s nothing at all wrong or anti-feminist about being a stay at home mother. But promoting it as an action that all women should pursue is not feminist. That is actually damaging. Same with this situation.

And yes these women are also victims of the patriarchy, but they’re still perpetuating it.

[scentedluminarysoul]

Antishippers are kinda wild

"I don't get why people like (this thing), it's a huge ick/trauma for me."

That's totally fine, actually. You don't have to interact with something like that at all!

The problem comes in when you make moral judgments about what people like IN FICTION.

If you don't understand : fine

If you say people are bad because they like a thing you don't : not fine

How can people like it? It's simple actually:

Because it's not real. It's fiction. The people involved are not real and and cannot be harmed in any way.

If engaging with content harms you because of your trauma, don't engage with it.

Nobody forces you to. You're free to filter and block to your heart's content.

But claiming people are morally bad for something they enjoy in fiction is bigotry, actually. Bigots think like that.

[lesbianshepard]

my current favorite flavor of schadenfreude is TERFs crying about how people stop talking to them or are mean to them for being transphobes. good!! i hope nobody interacts with you!! i hope you're lonely and unloved and when you get hit by a truck nobody even glances your way!

[purple-mothman-majesty]

[tinystepsforward]

like a lot of articulate autists who aren't conflict-averse, i have had many a one-sided nemesis in my life. 99% of those situations were clown car level convoluted drama that revolved around a white queer person getting mad at the uppity brown bitch who dared to speak authoritatively in a space that now is ~unsafe~ bc someone brought up race (and was right to do so tyvm) and decided to devote way too much time to ruining my life, sometimes without me noticing for years

[dragontatoes]

maybe it's how it gets people on the radfem pipeline or maybe it's me being triggered from erasure of my own experiences, but I've been seeing a lot of gender essentialism in the last couple weeks and it has me feeling like joker from the joker

[shamebats]

I wish ppl would stop linking to websites owned by literal Nazis when they share news. Just link directly to the article, I don't want to see some rando's take on it. Yes that includes Xitter, I'm actually talking specifically about X formerly known as Twitter. I don't care that you really really like to use it. If I click on a link on mobile where I can't hover over it and that cursed website appears, I'm going to be pissed. I don't want to give page views to the world's #1 biggest Nazi transphobe bigot owned website.

[homestuckconfession]

some of yall act like the slur replacement project is to make homestuck less problematic or some shit and like.... im not gonna deny if thats the intention or not but there still Should Be One That Exists. that just censors the slurs. are we forgetting that slurs are slurs and some people cant read them without having a full blown panic attack

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[unlimitedbutchworks]

genuinely though its kind of insane the transmisogyny and fear trans women just have to live with and how much of it is waved away as exaggeration or paranoia. all i can think of is that bit from infect your friends and loved ones, “THE WHOLE WORLD MONITORS AND MOCKS MY EVERY WAKING MOMENT”, literally it is the strongest part of the entire book just because of how well that describes this shit

[contagious-watermelon]

I'm ngl some of the trans people on here say stuff that is actually indistinguishable from terfs were it not for the nouns they use. and it's always the same people who go so hard on the "terfs DNI!!!!" and calling anything and everything "terf rhetoric"

[octahyde]

also wrt swerf in particular it’s very easy to get sucked in because on paper it’s a good thing! Sex workers are often exploited and need support from violence! But the thing is, that’s also what pro sex work and sex work decriminalization advocates also want. The difference is, at its core, SWERFs only want protections for white cis female sex workers. All of their examples and rhetoric is based around that group specifically. Decriminalization of sex work applies to ALL sex workers, which they do not want because they actively support the death of others (ESPECIALLY twoc in particular)

[rlyehtaxidermist]

one of the most frustrating Online Queer things i see is "you should be out at work actually" presented as some kind of Revolutionary Moral Obligation. like i agree that in an ideal world it shouldn't matter what your gender or orientation is and society wouldn't have repercussions or whatever but that is not the world we live in.

i've had people say this about My Job Specifically, because "you should be an example for queer students" or whatever. mate my job is to help them with algebra and chemistry. we've had parents complain to the board when they saw a teacher at the grocery store during a staff work day i am not painting a pride flag coloured target on my ass