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perkeleen-lavellan · 1 month ago

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My hear me out moment rn is having Vitani become the Crow version of a trad wife in order to enable Lucanis to become an actual trad wife.

Vitani:

-facilitates a quick marriage in order to please the family and secure his legal status

-immediately begins family planning in order to facilitate Lucanis an heir, so that every second cousin twice removed doesn't try to assassinate him in order to launch an inheritance dispute the moment Caterina actually croaks, not to even mention Illario's role in this

-takes control of Lucanis's schedule so he gets to have free time (and time to take Vitani on dates that Vitani is in charge of arranging so Lucanis doesn't have to stress about it)

-takes control of the finances because Lucanis doesn't understand money, that's why he employs fantasy mob secretaries that Vitani who can actually do math gets real familiar with

-basically begins to run the estate, much to Caterina's begrudged respect and Illario's annoyance. (If they wanted Lucanis to do it they should have thought of that before... actually if they had thought of that they'd have realised Lucanis never had any will to do it and by they I mean Caterina because Illario fucking knew)

-all of this then enables Lucanis to be his sexy self, show up at the Talon meet ups, be the Mage Killer, and have plenty of free time to cook those 5 michelin star meals and roam around his mansion in his comfy sweaters secure in the knowledge that his husband and demon cat are handling everything while he gets to be a silly wet little meow meow who spends his days playing with his baby and catching up on romance novels

#nobody is safe from the trad wife pipeline #not even the assassins #i just thought there was something so funny about vitani becoming like a trophy husband in theory but actually it's lucanis who's more like #the trophy here #like vitani is the one navigating the weird family politics and dealing with all the paperwork threatening all the other talons #all so that lucanis can be a glorified figurehead by night man who likes no more responsibility than deciding today's dinner menu by day #and you know why they're both like this?#the world almost ended #of course their coping by moving fast attempting to make the idyllic crow version of simple family life #yes this is low-key unhealthy and avoidant and yes it will be a problem for their child/ren later #you think my ocs and blorbos get to be spared from shitty parent syndrome?#at least their form of shitty will be of the overprotective and coddling variety #well for now the whole thing is just vibes snd concepts in my head #i've been watching a lo of history docus about royals and popes so the whole crow families are insane estates that actually have to deal #with the added complexity of common adoptions and assassinations #and that's been bleeding over to my dragon age brain rot

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abdlgossipblogg · 1 month ago

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Its always women have the right to choose, women can do what they want, women should have the autonomy to make decisions, women should be able to choose how they live and who they marry ; Until someone's choice is to be in a traditionak marriage. I don't think any of you realize that there is abuse within any community or lifestyle type.

A traditional marriage is what it says on the tin, a marriage with traditional values (ex ; not shit talking your partner, upholding more stereotypical gender roles regardless of sex, not complaining the secon you get home, taking things slow / going steady before marriage, having kids if desired or able, getting divorced being a last resort, homemaking, being neighborly, homecooking meals.)

When people say "I want to be a tradwife" or "I want a trad marriage" they aren't saying "I want to live in the 1950s even if I get institutionalized for speaking my mind" or "I want to be in a marriage where I am a helpless domestic robot." Nobody who says "I'm into 1950s household as a dynamic" is getting an eyelash bat at them, because people have the brain to understand that a 1950s household kink = being okay with my husband beating me, getting a lobotomy, and hating people that arent white.

Women have the right to choose a marriage where they do the cooking, women are allowed to marry someone that upholds the values they have about being married. Women fought for women to be ABLE to CHOOSE how they live their lives at home and in the world. Women are free to choose to be a homemaker, to be a more traditional wife. It's not glorifying sexism or misogyny or domestic abuse to say "I want a marriage where my husband goes to work and I stay home, I enjoy cooking for my family, and being a stay at home spouse is something I feel satisfied with in life."

"But what if he leaves you!"

Women are not useless, helpless, terrified little creatures upon choosing a trad lifestyle and marrying a man. Women can get jobs, women can pick themselves up. It feels so infantilizing, and also like projection. "What if your husband that you love and depend on LEAVES YOU! What if he DIVORCES YOU and CHEATS ON YOU!" Is just such a strange and alarming thing to immediately think of when a woman says "My spouse works and provides for our family and I make sure our family's home is taken care of"

Stop taking your info on traditional marriages from conservative ans extremist pipeline interaction bait. If you believe women should have the right to choose how they want their lives, loves, and futures to go, then go around saying how horrible and abusive and wrong and disgusting a womans choice is, It's just hypocritical. Can't a girl bake? Can't a girl be a nesting lovergirl? Can't a girl get satisfaction from making the home a safe and nurturing enviorment? Cant a girl raise some chickens and make some sourdough? Damn.

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