#no they're just having sex but men having sex with women makes them emasculated. obviously

[onewomancitadel]

You spend so long on Tumblr you forget the average opinion online is that cunnilingus is gross and demeaning. I never even thought the opposite position, or at least its neutral answer, was at all notable until I was disabused otherwise with my pet misogynists on AO3. None of you people are having sex properly

[sickofthis666]

Man, I miss when tumblr wasn’t the "t4t" website. Now we only got girld*ck jokes and trans rights are the only social issue that's worth mentionning, apparently. It's obvious if only by seeing the amount of posts, pinned posts, and bios with the mention "terfs/transphobes dni".

As an afterthought, some may add racists, ableists and/or homophobics to their little list. Sexism doesn't even appear.

Reading users bios, it's like everyone on this website is trans now - see also, reblogs of people's own post years later with the mention "im a girl now :3" - even though statistically, they're... what? 2% of the population?

Meanwhile somehow half of said population doesn't deserve to fight for their rights. BLM vanished but fear not, TLM is there. Online feminism peaked in 2016 with "the future is female" and #MeToo ended with a lot of calling out by victims but very little consequences for the abusers.

Your brain won't explode if you campaign for more than one cause at a time, I promise.

Old sexism was "your biology determines your behavior". New sexism is "your behavior determines your biology". Same result. Same harmful stereotypes. Some things are meant to harm, no matter how much you want to reclaim them or have fun sounding quirky by using insults/politically incorrect language. No, calling yourself a slut doesn't change from a man calling you that, because the very definition of that word is harmful. An insult doesn't stop being an insult because you enjoy it or because you decided to interpret it in a way that fits you, like religious leaders interprets scripture in a way that fits their interest.

We were supposed to get rid of the idea that women enjoying sex like men do is shameful, bad, disgusting, unnatural. We were supposed to make it neutral, just the way men get to have it, but nooo, you guys wanted to be quirky, rules breakers, special. Somehow you're convinced that doing the complete opposite of what society commonly deems acceptable automatically makes you cool, Good, right, and better than the others. It doesn't! It's not a dichotomy! Same thing with whore. Calling a man that moves his hands when he talks or has a high pitch or exaggerated manners "effeminate" makes you a misogynist and a homophobe, actually.

P*rn doesn't automatically becomes Good and healthy just because society frowns down upon it. Degrading women became a trend. God forbids you kinkshame, but somehow mocking vanilla sex is great, actually. Obviously vanilla must be Bad since it's the opposite of porn, and we all decided at some point that porn was Good. Can’t find f/m erotica on this website that doesn't include at least One sentence specifying how the woman is degraded/seen like a toy/less than human by the man. It's Very Important.

The solution to "women shouldn't have to wear make up to be considered seriously/human" wasn’t "women like their cage actually", it was destroying the cage or put the men in it with us. Cause that is the definition of gender equality. Treating men and women the same regardless of gender.

Hijab will never be feminist as long as men don't wear it too. It's the difference of treatment, simply because of gender, that is sexism/misogyny. The intention of the wearer doesn't matter - the result does.

"Taking your husband's last name isn’t sexist because *I* would be honored to do it" affirmed a woman to me - Since when does sexism mean "mentality/behavior/outfit/etc that all women as a mindhive dislike"? Oh wait - it doesnt - never did; it means difference of treatment between genders, overwhelmingly balanced in favor of men. The day men don't see taking your wife's last name as emasculating, degrading, insulting, belittling, diminishing, disgracing, shameful; the day they take their wife's last name spontaneously, almost systematically, the way women do; the day merely suggesting the idea to them isn’t preposterous;

the day women don't see taking your husband's name, as honorable, normal, the bare minimum, the day women stop taking their husband's name almost systematically, because it's an evidence in their eyes; the day women are not pushed to take their husband's name because it makes administration's work easier, because it's the only way for them to prove that they're related to their children - when i was a little kid, school staff once refused to let me leave with my mom at the end of the day simply because, since she hadn't taken my father's name, obviously she couldnt possibly be my legitimate mother; that "incident" lead to her renounciating her own name; before that, she hadn't entertained the thought; - the day french civil service stops differentiating between Nom d'épouse (wife name) and Nom de jeune fille (maiden name), making marriage an event so decisive in a woman's life that it changes her status; whereas men are born, live and die with only one name, their own, and no one else's.

That day only, we'll be able to affirm that this part of society/culture/custom is not sexist anymore.

In favor of men, not because I hate men, or because women need someone to blame, or because men are inherently evil, but in favor of men because men have been ruling society for thousands of years. Our kings are men. Our presidents are men. Our Prime Ministers are men. Our religious leaders are men. Our CEOs are men. Billionaires are men. The most powerful and/or rich on this earth are men. And people in power, in a logical conclusion, decides measures that will favor themselves over others.

Feminity isn’t real. Masculinity isn’t real. Just like the economy, or borders, it's something humans made up. And yet it would never cross your mind to romanticize or fantasize about those concepts.

Boomers' sexism says "if you're a woman, you must act feminine." Gen Z's sexism says "If you're feminine, you must be a woman."

Feminism says "You'll always be a woman no matter what - but so what? You can do whatever you want."

This website is full of selfrighteous, full of themselves assholes who pretends to be Better than everyone else because they're sooo tolerent, sooo inclusive, they condemn nazis and terfs - but mostly terfs. Terfs never commited murders, contrary to neonazis/white supremacists/incels, but that is but a detail my friend - vigorously, they boycott JKR absolutely - but not their favorite rapist male artists/authors/actors/singers -, they have the moral High Ground. Yet the second they smell an Enemy, someone who doesn't adopt 100% of their causes, verbatim, no holds barred! Anything goes! Death threats, rape threats, stalking, doxxing, going after family members... calling The Other, the Villain - of course they're the villain, since I am the Good Guy and they're against Me! - names, a loser, ugly, fat, a virgin, who can’t get laid/p*ssy. Yes I said Asexuals were a part of the community, what does this have to do with anything? Death and rape threats are okay if they come from My mouth!

[not-goldy]

I do agree that JM is more mature than JK . It doesn't make it a bad thing. Jm is obviously aware of his man, and he is willing to make it work. Hence, they made the decision to serve together. No relationship is perfect. It's not always that 2 people in a relationship have the same emotional intelligence and maturity level. We also have to remember that we don't get to see everything.

I don't know if it's a virgo thing, but my ex-boyfriend was a virgo same birthday as JK. Behind closed doors, he was very affectionate with me. He would always have his hand on me or his leg on top of mine. He would rub my back and give me massages. But when we go in public, if I try to kiss him, he would be so awkward, or if I try to hold his hand. It had me questioning myself and our relationship.

The point I am trying to make is that we don't know what happens behind closed doors iI swear people that saw my ex and I in public probably thought he didn't like me that much. But it was the opposite. He was very loyal, and he was kind, loving, affectionate. I was the one to break off the relationship because he was too possessive, I couldn't have friends or go out without him. I was losing myself along the way.

So please don't judge JK or JM. We don't know everything that goes on between them. Let's support them!

Hmmm

Honestly for Kook I have a feeling what you see is what you get.

I know most people try to put up a facade on camera and would become a whole other person when the cameras are turned off. it's especially true for most men you see on TV.

Unless they are trying to go out of their way to be controversial, most men if allowed to be themselves on screens would be canceled every single time they open their mouths or do anything on camera.

Most cis straight men are not nice people and the ones you think are nice and unproblematic are pretending.

In my experience most men who pretend to be sweet considerate of women, who advocate for women on camera and in public are also the most vile abusive misogynistic monsters in their private lives.

They feel emasculated in the public eye and would go home and take it out on the women and children around them. Fear men if you don't already.

Uhmm, it's not just a virgo thing, I think it's a men thing.

The term toxic masculinty don't exist in the cultural zeitgeist for no reason.

Most men are simply toxic, don't know how to be anything BUT toxic and the boys are not an exception.

We've seen them address this in themselves vocalized it and gradually moved away from it and unlearn these toxic behaviors which I hope to God is not all just an act.

Jimin has had a toxic side to him Jungkook has had a toxic side to him literally every single one of them have been toxic at some point in their life and dare I say might even still be toxic in their personal lives. We'll never know.

It's just the way the male species are.

Most of them are insecure, fragile, don't know how to regulate their emotions, can't take no for an answer which is why they often don't respect the boundaries of others, (if you are a woman or they with boundaries they probably hate you) are egoistic, competitive, arrogant, prideful, can't communicate, don't know how to be vulnerable, cold, insensitive, feel the only way they can get their needs met is through violence and manipulation which is why they'll rape you than ask for sex, hate women, hate children, hate cats, scared of things they can't control, tone deaf, narcissistic, predators, and just plain cruel.

These are the default settings of most cis men and until they do the inner work heal and unlearn these bs behaviors they are quite traumatizing to deal with.

Which is also not to say male masculinty is inherently toxic. men are very different from women and express themselves differently. Their chromosomes are different their testosterone to estrogen levels are different, they're socialized differently and they behave differently. That is perfectly fine.

People who look at Kook and can't tell what's "toxic" from what's typical male nature are themselves toxic.

There's a reason people look at him and think he's quintessential straight male and they look at Jimin and call him gay. It's because Jimin doesn't behave like the typical cis straight male they are used. He's not toxic enough to qualify as cis male.

Actually, I think modern day Jimin is not what the "typical straight male" looks like or even behave like. Debut Jimin is a whole other story.

People who don't like Jungkook and find everything he does problematic should just admit to themselves they just don't like men or that they've built fantasies of what being male actually is.

[izzyspussy]

okay yes keeping the reproductive organs as listed because a) interesting dysphoria possibilities but also b) if izzy has a vagina but it's shallow and has no womb then alpha ed can't knot him and release a full alpha load in him without hurting him >:}

so anyway instead of the he had no idea he wanted to be an omega before being turned into one against his will, I'll have him aware and he's asked ed to bitch him before but ed won't do it because he thinks they're role-playing basically and that either it's dirty talk when izzy asks during sex or that he's trying to prove his commitment to being with ed which ed finds very frustrating because they're pirates mate they don't have to adhere to sex roles neither one of them has to be an omega here but while we're on the subject maybe ed would like to play that role himself sometimes and isn't that the beauty of an alpha/alpha pair after all but does izzy ever think of that?

meanwhile izzy legit wants to be an omega, feels like an omega, wants even the "bad" parts of being an omega, and it's not about ed. well it's not entirely about ed at least, and it predates him. the reason he's only ever asked ed to bitch him is because he obviously can't trust any other alpha he knows (jack, hornigold, etc) not to take advantage of him and bond him while they're at it. ed would never do that (and also if he did... maybe izzy would be into that anyway. risk free). but does ed ever think of THAT? no, ed thinks it'd would be an act of deeply degrading sexual violence that will cause izzy permanent damage physically and mentally. so he won't do it... until the kraken era.

he does it during a fight, as a way of winning and of making izzy eat his own words. be careful what you wish for kind of thing. and he THINKS about taking advantage and bonding izzy too but ultimately he doesn't.

izzy's a bit fucked up by the changes starting to take place already, so he has to crawl to get away. ed lets him go but makes it very very obvious that's what he's doing by keeping easy pace with him all the way out onto the deck. where he makes frenchie first mate, since obviously an omega can't do the job (a comment that hurts izzy just as much of not more than the bitching itself; they'd talked about it before, how it doesn't matter and omegas can do anything alphas can just like women and men, but apparently ed only said what izzy wanted to hear and now he's a lesser man to him).

izzy stays holed up for the transition, because it's painful and a little sickening but also because he's not immune to socialized shame - and that comment really struck home - and he feels emasculated. he doesn't want to see frenchie doing his job nor try to take it back from him. he doesn't want to face ed. the crew bring him food, water, and medical supplies, set outside his door.

ed assumes he killed himself. that's what everyone says a bitched alpha will always, unless they're bonded too and forced to live on as their bitcher's mate. and ed couldn't force izzy to live. he's not even going to force himself to live.

so. the storm. the mutiny. izzy's grand re-entrance.

and then izzy is the defacto captain because no one else has the experience and sense of authority enough to get them through the storm, and then keep them afloat with a ship so damaged afterward.

but the thing is, sex changes are not one way only. sometimes an omega will transition into an alpha if there aren't any in their community. and there's a lot of fear mongering about that too: if you "let" "your" omega be too in charge or do too much hard work, they'll change. and izzy is TERRIFIED he's going to change back into an alpha if he doesn't get kept in his place somehow. (unclear here if he should keep this bottled up or if he should beg frenchie and jim to do something about it.)

anyway, eventually the reunion tour comes along. they take back the revenge, ed is alive, yada ya. stalling out on specifics here, but obviously we'd need to have at least one heat.

oh! no yeah, a masturbation scene where izzy explores his new body now that he's not absolutely sick with stress lol. and then after that a heat, and eventually they get back to the beginning where 'ed would never take advantage of him, but if he did maybe izzy would want that'.

I probably will not actually write this. but damn wouldn't it be so cool if I did.

what if i wrote an a/b/o fic just for the pleasure of making izzy double trans