#no sad taylor swift song compares to this song and that's the actual truth

[iheartmoons]

havent listened to waiting room in a few weeks. put it on today. destroyed. destroyed. head in hands. no joke. it must be the most devastating song in existence. and i listen to a lot of sad music. oh my god. ohmygod. destroyed. destroyed--

[queensgaybeach1d]

HELLOOO, I just discovered your blog, shame on me. So, I read your masterpost about the stunts in the industry (great work btw) and was wondering how to tell if something is real or purely pr. Would you mind giving me a few pointers ?? Answer however and whenever you can.

Hello Sweetie,

Thank you so much for your lovely words. I would love to help you dig deeper into the PR industry. In fact, I did some research myself and I stumbled upon a great confirmation on how everything works. I think it is just the right fit for you, sweetheart.

Please take your time reading the post and if you have any questions or suggestions, please do not hesitate to ask me. Have a great day and enjoy!

Kisses,

Suman 😊

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How to spot a PR relationship?! 

This post is made for everyone who would like to learn how to spot a fake relationship in Hollywood. This information is supported by a very reliable source. The name of the source is Jack Ketsoyan, he set up two PR relationships himself. If you would try to compare this to your favourite Hollywood couple, you might be surprised of the outcome. I wish you all the best while reading this and if you have any questions/suggestions please do not hesitate to ask. Enjoy! :)

 This is the link of the podcast about the PR relationships (skip to 5.40). I will make a little summary of the very important things Jack said. There is also another man who is speaking about this subject. His name is Christopher and he is a lawyer who has worked with cases like these for a long time.

 (Please note that I am in no way hating on anyone. I have a strong dislike for all ‘’beards’’, but what they do with their lives is their responsibility. Therefore I mean no harm to any of these people. It would be very sad if any of these people would do it because they needed money for their families. If that was the case I would truly feel sorry for them, but the thing is they want to become famous by dating someone else who put his/her hard work in his/her career. That it just not fair. There are plenty of ways to become famous by dedication, hard work and staying yourself.)

I want to give compliments to the lovely @Totallylost4you on twitter. She made me aware of the podcast.

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-’’To hide the artist’s sexuality; boosting of the careers.’’ --> (Louis, Harry, Zayn, Liam and Niall. Also, Kristen Stewart, Cara Delevigne and Taylor Swift) -->

‘’It is more common on the male side than on the female side. There are certain celebrities who were, back in the day, in the closet and it was not okay to be out. We live in a completely different time nowadays, these days being gay is okay. So back in the day that was the biggest secret, it was a big taboo, if a certain high profiled male, the heartthrob is all of a sudden gay, they were not going to get the bigger roles anymore. They were going to be type casted, so that was the big way of hiding things. Them hiding their sexuality was dating a female who would keep them in the limelight basically and cover it up.’’  [about closeting] ‘’Times have changed, it still happens, but a lot has changed.’’ --> There are still people who would not like attending a Harry Styles (the heartthrob) concert when he comes out as gay.

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-’’To be able to sell the hype of it.’’ --> (Whenever a picture of Taylor and Tom or Louis and Eleanor comes out, people are quick to retweet, post and talk about what happened. Within no time the pictures have traveled through the internet. Which automatically means that a lot of people have seen it. All of this gives the label/couple/artist attention and money. --> Whether it is bad attention or good attention, attention means money.) a few examples of these couples are also: Haylor, Zigi and Elounor.

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-’’To sell tickets to concerts or movies.’’ --> 1D world tours and solo tours. That is also why beards like Camille Rowe, Eleanor Calder and Maya Henry attend their concerts. As for movies think about Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart (who is gay) fake dating, moments after Twilight came out. Think about 1D bringing their fake girlfriends to the world premiere and Zayn and Perrie getting engaged a second after. The purpose of these events are attention. Sweethearts, whenever people go to these shows/movies all they will focus on is 1D and their ‘girlfriends’. Photos will spread faster than ever and people will talk about how ‘real’ they are. Their aim is to kill two birds with one stone; making them look like a ‘real’ couple whilst promoting their movie/album.

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-’’To sell albums.’’ --> (Zigi, Chiam, Elounor, Hamille, Nailee, Haylor.) Let us be honest, are they not the biggest reasons why antis buy the album? Just to see what stuff they write about their fake girlfriends/boyfriends. Just to see how ‘Camille’ pronounces ‘’Coucou’’or just because Gigi Hadid starred in Zayn’s music video. Or maybe to finally know the ‘truth’ about Taylor’s fake relationships.  

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-’’It's all about the hype at the moment. Especially with the social media world.’’ --> I am going to point out an important thing Jack said. He said ‘’especially with the social media world.’’ Remember when there were only rumours of Louis and Eleanor being back together? The whole fandom tweeted about it. This made it popular and that was the solid moment 1D’s label knew that Elounor 2.0 would do it for them. They would earn a lot by it. The same thing counts for Zigi, Chiam, Haylor, Hamille. Hamille is a good example too. When all of you heard that Harry wrote a song about her and that her voice was going to be included in his song, what happened? Exactly, everyone went nuts and made sure to listen to that exact song. That is exactly what they want. They want that power over you, that is what gives them the money. Another example, how fast do you think solo Zayn stans and Directioners tweeted about a ‘power couple’ when the news broke that Zayn and Gigi are ‘expecting a child’? How fast did people open their social media accounts when Kylie Jenner was pregnant for the Kardashian’s 10th anniversary? (Social media does A LOT. Whenever a picture of Eleanor (beard) and Clifford (Louis’ dog) arrives on the internet, people automatically assume they are together in a room. This, is not the case. That is how convenient social media is to arranged relationships. Why start a rumour by hiring newspapers instead of posting a message on social media? It is much cheaper and more people will know about it in less than four hours.)

Promoting certain brand like Coca Cola (Elounor), YSL, Gucci, Vogue (Zigi) and Hugo Boss are also a part of it. Celebrities wearing those brands make their fans want to buy it too, think of the Kardashians promoting Adidas and other expensive brands. Also think of people like Briana Jungwirth promoting flat tummy tea. This is called ‘celebrity branding.’

Tell me, how many times do you get HQ pic of your PR couple on your phone? People tend to go out of their mind when pictures come out. That is the immediate effect Hollywood has on social media/ you. That gives them the promo they need, even during quarantine the beards post pictures of themselves, making you think they are together when in reality they are not. :)

{About why Jack hooked an arranged relationship up himself} --> ‘’It was more of a mutual agreement between the agents. {Tells a story about an actor getting bad reviews for a movie and in order to let people focus on something else they got the actor a girl, so the media would focus on the girl instead of the bad movie.}’’ -->  ‘’Just a one year deal. Basically they finished of the press and the international press and then they went their separate ways, because she did not want to do a two year deal.’’ {interviewer asks if it worked} --> ‘’It worked.’’ -->  A few examples of (approximately) a one-year deal: Calvin Harris and Taylor Swift, Niall Horan and Hailee Steinfield and Louis Tomlinson and Danielle Campbell. It is also good to point out that the beard can decide whether she wants to continue or not, but the celebrity has to do what the agent arranges.

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{Interviewer asks what reasons people might have to agree to one of these PR relationships} --> Different reasons, that could be to deflect attention away from a controversy (damage control. think of something Larry or Ziam related happening and the next day Zigi and Elouno are papped. Or fans finding out Louis is in the same country as Harry and the next day they will let Elouno do a pap walk. Another example is when Ziammies find out a Zigi picture is photoshopped, the next day you will see Zigi in person. This happens when their stunts fail). So if an actor has drugs and alcohol problems they may want to give the appearance that they have settled down and are in a committed relationships so that they can banked for films. Or they are going to be able to get bonded and get work and people will trust them, because they have settled down. It also could be done to create a brand. Two celebs getting together and 'now there's this tremendous interest about them being a power couple.' [...] We create strong provision against the disclosure of any negative facts against the celebrity - with consequences. So these agreements need to be structured with a hold back of money so that over time if they have complied with the agreement and not disclosed ehh no personal information and violation the agreement then they would be entitled the payment, so under the agreement. " --> The last part might be difficult to understand, because the lawyer uses difficult words, but what he is actually saying is very important. He says if the celebrities who are in the PR relationship have done their part (parading around with each other) then they will receive their money (please correct me if I am wrong). The host also confirmed that contracts like these are the reason why a lot of celebrities do not admit they had a PR relationships.

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Clues on how to spot a PR relationship:

-‘’The main clue you would see is if, you know, a certain high profiled male is dating a female (or when a high profiled female is dating a regular male), who was not high profile. All of a sudden, she is, overnight, the most talked about girl in Hollywood and everyone want a piece of them. That is the biggest thing, you know, it is such a career boost for the female that some females end up taking the deal.’’ --> Zigi, Elounor, Chiam, Brouis, Haylor, Taylor and Calvin. How does the world know Eleanor Calder? Because of Louis Tomlinson. No one knew her before, except her family. How did Gigi gain so many followers? Because she started dating Zayn Malik. Gigi already had a platform for herself, but she gained a lot of followers by dating Zayn. Zayn also gained followers by dating Gigi. Gigi needed promo and Zayn was in the spotlight, because he just ‘left 1D.’ This made him the perfect target. I hope all of you also notice that when beards/fake girlfriends post pictures of them with their fake boyfriend, it gets way more likes than their usual pictures.

{What was the benefit for the girl in the scenario?} --> ‘’Ehm, she has a huge career at the moment. She benefit from that by becoming a household name (someone that is well known) and getting bigger roles than she would have. She would use to be the 3rd or the 4th lead in any auditions or any jobs that she was getting. She then became the first lead. She got a great career boost out of it, for sure.’’ --> Gigi Hadid, Eleanor Calder, Sophia Smith, Cheryl Cole, Maya, Camille Rowe and Kendall Jenner are just a few examples.

How did the world know Townes? Because ‘Harry named’ her in one of his songs. How did the world know about Maya Henry? Because Liam Payne started dating her. Before this, she was just a fan. How did Cheryl Cole get the attention back? Because of baby gate and by fake dating Liam Payne. How did Briana gain so many followers? Because Louis Tomlinson fans gave her the attention and because she participated in faking a pregnancy. How did Shawn and Camilla become a couple in the spotlight? Because people have always shipped them, ever since the beginning and their label gave the fans what they wanted. How did Kim Kardashian become famous? A *** tape of her and Ray J leaked and she became famous. Now, she is a lot richer and more famous than he is. A quick note, not many people know how Kim Kardashian became famous. They only really know her from Keeping Up With The Kardashians. The newer generation does not know about the tape scandal, and that is what they do. You need to dig a little deeper to see that. This all is an on-going cycle and it will not stop unless we all stop believing it. 😊

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  What do they do in order to make a PR relationship look real?

{Interviewer asks what the clauses in an arranged relationships contract are} --> ‘’An arranged relationship is estranged by definition. So certainly we are going to see requests that are equally odd. They are certainly going to have requirements as to how they hold themselves out to the public as a couple. This would mean appearances at award shows, parties or events together as a couple and that there would be requirements maybe for specific events.’’ --> Eleanor attending Jay’s wedding and being ‘maid of honor’, Calvin and Taylor at Award shows, Elounor at the fashions show 2013, Haylor and their NYE ‘kiss’, Zigi at the MET gala and Chiam at the Brits, celebs at after parties with their ‘girlfriends’. All of these couples have also pictures with each other’s family members. That made a lot of you think they are close and real, well my loves, now you finally know that it is all part of a PR stunt. The fake girlfriends also have to look supportive, that is why they have to be there at concerts, soccer matches, award shows etcetera. 😊

Remember when Eleanor (beard) posted a picture of herself and in the background you could see a picture of her and Louis in 2012 and ‘Louis’ written on a board? Remember when she posted a picture of herself with her and Louis’ boots in the background in 2018? All of these things are there to make it look like they truly live together and  that they truly own each other’s stuff. The same thing counts for Haylor’s airplane necklace. Do you genuinely think they did that by accident? No, that is the purpose of the whole picture. 😊

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‘’Then there is going to be particularly some none disclosure issues surrounding them as to what cannot be said about the relationship and what needs to be said. There could be a script even as to what they have to say if asked about the relationships. There would be photo sessions showing them as a couple. And then I have seen issues of sexual relationships and specific whether this would happen or not happen in an agreement. But if it is truly a PR relationships then sex would not be a part of that relationship, because it is not real.’’ --> Loves, do you remember a moment when someone asked a celebrity about his/her relationships and they stuttered and looked uncomfortable, or they just said something wrong or embarrassing or tried to talk themselves out of it? Well, that happens when you have to make up stuff that never happened.  Louis Tomlinson confirmed his interviews are scripted, so this one is just an extra thick layer of confirmation. I also recall Gigi doing a live and someone asked about Zayn and she just stuttered and looked away, not knowing how to answer a question. (I think there have definitely been times when two people who were in an arranged relationship gave different answers to the same question, why? Because they do not know anything about each other.) Here is an example of a moment that is repeated and scripted about Louis’ ‘relationship’ with Eleanor, even know we have legit proof that is not what happened:

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Now I can hear all your lovely brains working and thinking whether a celebrity is willing to sign a contract like that or if their label is making them sign it. Well, if you have read my previous masterpost about the music industry you can see confirmations of the label making the artist their puppet. They own you, so if they think you should have a girlfriend to hide gay rumours then they will give you one. ‘A label cannot force you anything’, but it does make you sign a contract. When you sign the contract without reading it carefully, then your label will mess you up. In those contracts they do not write ‘’Taylor Swift has to agree to arranged relationships.’’ They write stuff like ‘’When signing the contract, Taylor Swift allows the label to make changes in order to get her to fame.’’ Of course Taylor (and other artists) would think that they mean changing her outfit and looks, but no. The label thinks being gay is something that will not get people enough fame. So what do they do? They change her, they change her sexuality. They closet her and even though Taylor and other LGBTQ artists do not want that. You cannot deny because when you do so, the label will show you the contract you signed. A contract like that is never written literally, they can manipulate their words. To the label ‘’being gay or a part of the LGBTQ+ community’’ falls under ‘’making changes’’ in order to make her famous. Of course there are celebrities who willingly closet themselves for various reasons. I hope to create a single post about how devious these contracts are for you all! 😊

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Here are a few things I hope you have learned from this: 😊

 - Fake relationships still exist and they will always exist. It has been confirmed, so no one can deny this anymore.

 - The girl and boy have to go to special events, such as award shows, family dinners and weddings in order to make it look real.

 - Homophobia is still a thing and the biggest reason why arranged relationships exist.

 - The beard has a contract too, so your idol has no say in how long she can or cannot stay. If she does good then she will stay. (I see many people say that Louis chose Eleanor because they are friends and that is why she is back, but he actually has no say in anything. Your idol is their product to sell. Your idol is basically a marionette.)

 -The PR team does everything to make it look like they are truly together, think of photos of each other in each other’s homes and ‘personal gifts.’

 -Celebrities get an enormous boost on their social media accounts when they start being part of an arranged relationship. Something I have always thought was a bit odd, is the fact that Eleanor never created an insta account until her and Louis’ ‘relationship’ had its peak; in the middle of June 2012. When in reality, insta was created in 2010. She also created twitter in 2012. Exactly when the first few big events were attended by them. (I genuinely think she did that, because everyone wanted to see more of her. Plus, she has always wanted to be a fashion blogger and this was her ‘big moment’ to do so.)

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The credits for this post go to @Totallylost4you. They made me aware of the podcast and they continue to shine light on hidden treasures like this one. They also hardly get credits for their solid hard work and I hope they will continue doing this! Thank you!

Thank you so much for your attention. If you have any question/suggestion, please do not hesitate to ask/tell me! I wish all of you the best and please stay safe. Have an amazing day!

[lanternburning19]

My (Romantic) Interpretation of Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince

First, we should introduce the characters of the story.

Miss Americana: Taylor. From the very beginning of her career, Taylor was dubbed America's Sweetheart and was branded to be a role model. She avoided talking about sex, showing off her body, and was not shown drinking or partying. She loved (and still loves) being a role model. She is kind, polite, charismatic and has an air of dignity about her. She also is not shy about her love for her country. Her 4th of July parties were highly publicized and has been a big advocate for exercising the right to vote ever since 2008. She is Miss Americana.

But then 2016 happened. And her reputation did a 180. She went from the friendly girl next door to the calculative mean girl. People were routing for her career to die. She went from America's Sweetheart to America's Most Hated.

The Heartbreak Prince: Joe. Rumors say that Joe used to be a huge playboy and never had a serious relationship until Taylor. This is echoed in Taylor's lyrics.

"Maybe you ran with the wolves and refused to settle down"

"Do the girls back home touch you like I do?"

"I don't want to be just another ex-love you don't want to see"

It's interesting to me that Joe gets the royal title of "Prince" but Taylor is just "Miss". This alludes to Joe being British and being under a representative monarchy government, where America is not.

Now into the story:

You know I adore you

The song starts out with a declaration of Taylor's love. This ties in with the theme of the Lover album.

Crazier for you

Than I was at sixteen

Lost in a film scene

I believe this is referring to when Taylor first started her career. She was 16 when her first single dropped. While she wasn't in the acting business, she was still in the world of celebrity. Realizing her dreams with her first single and album doing well, she must've felt as if she was walking a cloud, or "lost in a film scene".

Waving homecoming queens

Marching band playing

These lines do two things at once for me. First, they remind me of the You Belong With Me music video in which Taylor plays a high schooler in marching band. Second, these lines evoke a feeling of victory. Homecoming queens usually wave to the student body after being crowned. Marching bands strike up when their team scores. YBWM was a huge hit for Taylor early in her career, and continuing from the previous lines, her early successes probably made her feel victorious.

I'm lost in the lights

The very last line of the first verse takes a sudden turn. The way Taylor sings this is very different from how she sings "lost in a film scene". When she sings "I'm lost in the lights" she sounds breathless and scared. She is no longer feeling the joy of being crowned homecoming queen or the excitement of your team earning a touchdown. She's not lost in the wonderment of it all, she's lost and scared. She got lost in the fame.

American glory

Faded before me

In this verse, we learn that Taylor is scared because her shining moments, her victories, her happiness is slipping away from her. She did not purposely push it away. It faded like a ghost, slipped out of her grasp.

It is interesting that Taylor links homecoming and football games to "American glory". While homecoming may seem like a tradition, it is distinctly an American high school thing.

Now I'm feeling hopeless

Ripped up my prom dress

Running through rose thorns

This is imagery of Taylor wearing a prom dress, and this immediately takes me back to earlier in her career when she used to wear princess-y dresses on tour. She also wore a prom dress in the YBWM music video. And that very same dress was repurposed for the Fearless Tour's performance of Love Story (calling back to the Lover theme).

Taylor ripped up her prom dress. How is unclear to me, because of the lack of punctuation in song lyrics. Is it "Ripped up my prom dress. Running through rose thorns..." Or is it "Ripped up my prom dress running through rose thorns". Did she purposely rip it herself or did it get accidentally torn by the roses?

If she ripped it up herself, it could be symbolic of her wanting to distance herself from the music business, from the fame, from the plastic Party-City homecoming queen crowns. But I don't think that's the case.

It is more likely the dress was ripped unintentionally. The rose thorns seems to be a call back to the line "Rose garden filled with thorns" in Blank Space. This line means that nothing is as it seems. What looks nice and pretty can actually hurt you. The life of celebrity looked pretty to Taylor at first. She wanted to be "lost in the film scene" with all the glory that a homecoming football game brings. But the industry ended up hurting her.

I am, of course, talking about 2016 when Taylor's reputation went from America's Sweetheart to a "snake". She was on top of the world with a hugely successful album and world tour, but became overexposed because of that success. Suddenly, people who posed as her "squad" on the red carpet started turning against her. Ex-friends and ex-lovers who usually kept to themselves started bashing Taylor all over social media. Longtime fans who had bought every album couldn't stop saying bad things about her. Her social media accounts were flooded with hate comments. The media thrived off of using her downfall as a headline.

I saw the score board

And ran for my life

Shortly after this chaos started, Taylor took a step back from the spotlight. She stopped posting of social media, releasing new music, doing interviews, attending award shows. She disappeared.

No cameras catch my pageant smile

With her avoiding the media, the paparazzi couldn't take new pictures of her "pageant" or fake smile.

I counted days

I counted miles

To see you there

To see you there

It's been a long time coming but

It's you and me

That's my whole world

The "you" here is the Heartbreak Prince, or her love. Taylor went through many hard days before she was able to find love.

They whisper in the hallway "she's a bad, bad girl"

This line evokes an image of teenagers gossiping in a high school hallway. So we're back to the high school theme.

The "bad girl" is referencing Taylor's bad reputation that was mentioned earlier. But it also could be referencing her dating life. Taylor was mocked for years for having a rocky dating life. People would joke that men should stay away from Taylor. Taylor is comparing people who spread rumors to immature teenagers.

The whole school is rolling fake dice

The "school" is Hollywood. People obsessed with fame are fake.

You play stupid games

You win stupid prizes

The students at this metaphorical school are focused on the wrong thing. They risk cheating (fake dice) to win a game that in the end, doesn't yield you a fulfilling prize.

It's you and me

There's nothing like this

Miss Americana and The Heartbreak Prince

But Taylor isn't focused on those "little games" (Look What You Made Me Do) anymore. She's focused on someone that really matters to her.

It's so sad

We paint the town blue

Instead of painting the town red in celebration, they paint the town blue. This line reminds me of how Taylor and Joe painted Patrick's room blue together.

Voted most likely to run away with you

To me, this line is referring to how Taylor has jetted off to different parts of the world to be with Joe.

My team is losing

Battered and bruising

I see the high fives

Between the bad guys

Again, we get another visual of a high school football game. Taylor's team is down and others are celebrating her defeat. This reminds me of the Taylor Swift is Over Party, where people were celebrating the end of her career.

Leave with my head hung

You are the only one

Who seems to care

With the whole world seemingly against Taylor, it must've been a relief to meet someone who actually cared about her feelings.

American stories

Burning before me

This feels to me like a reference to Fahrenheit 451, which is about a dystopian society and the effects of mass media. Miss Americana has crumbled. Her glory days have been burned to the ground without any hope of recovery. Mass media and social media played a part in this.

Instead of just repeating "American glory" Taylor chooses to use "American stories" instead. Perhaps it's because no one wanted to believe her side of the story of things. Her truth was ignored.

I'm feeling helpless

The damsels are distressed

If boys will be boys

Then where are the wise men

Darling, I'm scared

The "damsels in distress" reference flows nicely after the mention of stories. Taylor is feeling like a damsel in distress, but no one is coming to save her.

"Boys will be boys" is an expression often said when a young boy acts reckless to excuse their behavior. Perhaps Taylor is waiting for her knight in shining armor, but he has abandoned her to go do something else. Everyone is excusing his behavior but blaming Taylor.

"If boys will be boys, then where are the wise men?" Is one of my favorite lines Taylor's ever written. If men are all off doing stupid shit, then who's the smart one around here? Where are all the men when it's their time to save the damsel in distress?

No cameras catch

My muffled cries

I counted days

I counted miles

To see you there

This could be referring to a long distance relationship. Miss Americana is going through some hard times, as described in the last 2 verses. But her Prince is not there to comfort her. So she has to hold out for a while.

And now the storm is coming but

It's you and me...

There are much more difficulties that lie ahead of the couple. I love how the last word of the verse is "but". and then it leads in to the romantic chorus. It's going to be hard, BUT, we have each other.

And I don't want you to go

I don't really wanna fight

Because nobody's gonna win

The last words of these lines are a standard cheer for high school football teams. The cheerleaders will yell "Go! Fight! Win!" to encourage the team.

Fighting is mentioned a few times in Lover, in songs like Afterglow, ME!, and The Archer. But in each song, Taylor sings about fighting with remorse. She doesn't want to fight with her loved ones or turn against them. Nobody's going to win in the end of the fight because they'll both be without each other.

And I'll never let you go

Because I know this is a fight

That someday we're gonna win

The last part of the bridge keeps the "Go! Fight! Win!" motif but changed the lyrics so that instead of fighting against each other, it's about fighting for each other. They might face some hardships but they'll be alright if they stick together. This song is an encouragement of their relationship.

In the end, Miss Americana became America's Most Hated and The Heartbreak Prince settled down with someone to love.

[themotelbar]

okay so i went crazy and i wrote a huge post about this love because i love it so much. i tried my best to keep it simple but this is something i could go on and on, on and on about. hehe

so, first of all, the song starts off with the most calming music ever???? it’s calm and beautiful and slow and just makes me want to melt into a puddle of love for taylor swift.

after the peaceful intro, taylor’s voice echoes clear blue, water - and that’s when i actually being to sink and drown and die because it’s so beautiful.

high tide, came and brought you in - talking about a love that just kind of came to her, without her looking for it. this line is honestly one of the most beautiful metaphors in the universe because it’s comparing love - usually something that is described as difficult and painful and hard - to a peaceful blue sea.

and i could go on and on, on and on and i will - can we just talk about how her voice gets soft and echoes for this part???? and the way she lowers her voice in “and i will”???? also it’s sort of a defiance, she’s saying she’s going to go on and on about it and nobody can stop her.

moving on, the song grows a little more ominous with skies grew darker, currents swept you out again - now she’s comparing that love to a stormy sea. another beautiful metaphor that makes me want to fling myself off a cliff into a stormy sea.

now, when she talks about silent screams, it could imply nobody heard her cries, nobody was there for her. or it could mean that she called out to him but he had gone. (kind of like in wonderland- i reached for you but you were gone)

in wildest dreams, i never dreamed of this - when that love first came to her, she didn’t know what she was in for. she had never dreamed of it. it could also be hinting at her song wildest dreams, talking about a love that was taken away from her.

next is the chorus. it’s full of echoes and soft voices and beauty and it’s so calm and peaceful and i could go on and on, on and on about it. firstly, this love is good, this love is bad. in that relationship there were probably many ups and downs. next, this love is alive back from the dead. her love left her and came back.

also, i need to just talk about the way she says “ooOh” after each part of the chorus. it’s spiritual.

the second part of the chorus, these hands had to let it go free, is possibly the most heartbreaking lyric in the song. she wanted to hold on, she wanted to ask him to stay, but she forced herself to let him go. she knew it was for the better. also, if you don’t picture taylor standing on a beach with the wind in her hair, reaching towards nothing in complete desperation and sadness when you hear this lyric, we can’t be friends.

and this love came back to me. to even out the sadness of the line before it, this lyric possibly makes me cry. a lot. because taylor was convinced that he’d had left her for good. forever. and he came back. if that doesn’t make you emotional i don’t know what does.

after the very first chorus and before the second verse, the word “ooOh” is sung by taylor three times and makes me cry even more because she sounds so fragile, so helpless, so beautiful. i can’t even describe it.

the second verse. makes me cry. again. even more.

starting with tossing, turning, struggled through the night with someone new, i begin to get emotional. because she tried to start new, to begin again, to move on. but she couldn’t, she kept remembering him. it could also go in the opposite way, maybe taylor is saying that he was the one who struggled through the night with someone.

to prove my point further is the next lyric. lantern, burning, flickered in my mind for only you. she couldn’t get over it. and the way that “only you” echoes, i get even more emotional, which i honestly didn’t even think was possible.

in losing grip, on sinking ships - again with the ocean metaphors that define this song and make it so vulnerable. taylor was trying to start over, without him. she was lost. she was losing her grip.

you showed up just in time. he came back to her. right when she was on the brink of losing everything.

i forgot to mention the way the drum starts shortly into the second verse. it simultaneously makes my heart skip a beat and my breathing stop.

the chorus starts again, only this time there is a second part to it. in my opinion, even more emotional than the first :,)

this love left a permanent mark - it makes me think of the lyric in dress, “made your mark on me, a golden tattoo.” taylor is always going to have a place in her heart for him. i’m totally not crying.

this love is glowing in the dark - in her darkest times, in her worst times, he was there for her, when nobody else was. it also makes me think of dress now that i think about it. “even in my worst times, you could see the best of me.”

now. the way the words this love echo over and over again. it’s the most beautiful part of the song. it sounds painful and beautiful and vulnerable and powerful all at the same time.

next, the bridge. of course i cried. this is lyrically the most soul-wrenching part of taylor swift’s entire discography. and that’s an understatement.

your kiss, my cheek, i watched you leave

your smile, my ghost, i fell to my knees

just. read that over again. in the first line, it’s telling us again, he left her. but the second - that’s taylor remembering their relationship and sinking to her knees.

when she says i fell to my knees, it sort of reminds me of the reputation tour. probably because i fell to my knees a lot to pray during don’t blame me. but that’s a different story.

next comes my favorite lyric in the song - no, my favorite lyric in the entire universe.

when you’re young, you just run, but you come back, to what you need.

i love this lyric for a lot of reasons, but i narrowed it down to just three:

reason #1: it’s advice. it’s the truth. it’s helped me through a heck of a lot of things. i’m young. i worry a lot about things i probably shouldn’t worry about. but this lyric - it makes me think. when you’re young, you don’t realize a lot of things, you’re naive and innocent and simply going about your life. there have been times when i’ve been terrified i’m going to lose things that i love. but this lyric helped me. i started to realize that what really matters to you will never really leave you. and in the long run, you will always come back to what you need.

reason #2: taylor felt the same way. when he left her, she felt as though her whole world had come crashing down, leaving her broken and scarred and unable to love anyone else. but what really mattered is that he came back. she was important to him, he needed her, she needed him.

reason #3: the way she says the word need. it makes me want to jump into the pacific ocean and cry. it’s quite possibly the most beautiful thing i’ve ever heard in my sixteen years of living.

i’ve basically explained what i think about nearly every lyric in the song. but, i’m not done yet.

the last part of the song, when this love is echoing around and the last piece of my soul has evaporated into heaven, the words this love came back to me are sung softly one last time as the ending of the song.

i need to talk about a few more things.

first, the hidden message for this love. timing is a funny thing. in taylor’s case, when she was at a low point in her life, her love came back to her. see how the timing worked?

and lastly, i just want to make it clear that this love is the only song on 1989 written just by taylor. she got the inspiration for it when she wrote a poem in the middle of the night. the poem later turned into the chorus of the song. so it’s clear that every word in this song, every lyric, is taylor’s raw emotion.

okay i’m done being annoying. but hopefully after reading this, you’ll think twice about saying this love is boring and the worst song on 1989. :)

[skylarmiller04-blog]

James Dean- The Rebel With a Cause

In the past few years, Taylor Swift has become a well-recognized singer who appeals to young girls and teenagers. All six of her albums have had hit songs and one of her most recent albums, 1989, stayed the number one hit album for a record amount of time. That album happened to include Style, a song written about Harry Styles and their time together. The song used catchy lyrics, had a nice beat to it, and the words happened to stick in my head. In it, she compares Harry Styles to James Dean by making the reference, “you’ve got that James Dean daydream look in your eyes” (Swift 2014). Not many people can say that they have a look named after them, but James Dean can. As much as I don’t like to admit it, I didn’t really know who James Dean was until I heard Swift’s song. After listening to Style I was curious on who James Dean was and proceeded to research him. I found out that he was an actor in the fifties prior to his tragic death at the age of twenty-four. I don’t know if I could pinpoint what exactly it is that draws me in towards James Dean, but he certainly interests me and I hope to figure out why. Even though he died at a young age, James Dean is considered “a Cool original,” to many people, like Pountain and Robins, the authors of Cool Rules: Anatomy of an Attitude (70). Not only has he had songs written about him, like James Dean by the Eagles, but people, like James Franco, have styled themselves after him. Having managed to become an iconic actor after starring in only three movies, Dean’s level of influence is unprecedented. Something I have noticed about James Dean is that there is not just one thing that draws my attention towards him. Not only was he attractive, but he was also a rebel both on the screen and in real life. As sad as it is to admit it, I have not met a rebel and am starting to think that I haven’t met any rebels and cool people because the first thing they tend to do is drop out of school and I have been in school all of my life. Something that is essential to cool is dropping out of school, which Gwendolyn Brooks argued for in her poem, We Real Cool, by writing “we real cool. We left school” (1). It’s a known fact that cool people tend to drop out of school; just look at Rihanna, Charles Dickens, and Elton John. They chose to abandon the education system to pursue their passions. And let’s not forget that Marlon Brando was expelled for riding a motorcycle down his school’s hallway. The bottom line is that cool people do not stay in school. Whether they leave voluntarily or not, they are still leaving and that is what matters. So it is no surprise that in 1951, James Dean dropped out of the University of California, Los Angeles to pursue acting. That was a cool move on his behalf, and his acting career skyrocketed afterwards. If I were given the option to drop out, I don’t think I would take it. To me the surest path to success is by attending and graduating college. Sure I could drop out and become the next Steve Jobs or James Dean, but the odds of that happening are low. While this may not be the coolest move on my behalf, I am going to fully commit to school, not just cruise on by. I am going to take a rigorous course load, actually learn what is being taught and not just memorize information for tests, and I am going to be proud of graduating from college. School isn’t for everyone, that’s why people leave it when the opportunity arises, but others stay in school and that’s fine too. Despite what Brooks argued, I don’t necessarily think school is uncool. I think it has more to do with the amount of effort people put to their education. If one don’t want to put in the work, then he should drop out. But if he stays in the system, he should really commit to it and take control of his learning. After all, control plays an integral role in cool and if people have control over their education, then to me that makes it cool. As aforementioned, James Dean starred in three movies prior to his death- Rebel Without a Cause, East of Eden, and Giant. In Rebel Without a Cause, Dean took on the role of a high schooler named Jim Stark who recently moved to a new town and didn’t really start off on the right foot there. In fact, the film began with him passed out in the middle of a street where police officers found him and took him to the station (Ray 1955). If that doesn’t scream rebel, then I don’t know what does. James Dean perfected the role of being a rebel in Rebel Without a Cause. The title of the movie clearly speaks for itself and James Dean set the path for teenage rebels of future generations to come. James Dean was known for being one of the first teenagers in America. In the past, people were either boy or man, girl or woman. But, Dean managed to create this in-between space that didn’t really exist before. Of course people still went through the ages of thirteen to nineteen, but they took on more of an adult role. For instance, when my grandparents were nineteen, they were already married and my grandfather started a construction company. But at nineteen, James Dean was attending UCLA trying to figure out what he would do with his life, kind of like what I am currently doing. Right now, I am at UM trying to figure out what I want to major in, if I want to transfer universities, and what I want to do with my life. These are all major decisions to make in today’s world, but this was uncommon in the past. Teens prior to Dean, and myself, did not have that privilege, they had more responsibilities and had to take care of themselves and sometimes their families. Thus, James Dean created the American teenager. Something worth noting is that Dean didn’t only create the American teenager, he also created the rebel. While some people thought this teenage rebellion was a ploy for attention, and a phase angsty kids go through, others sympathized with Dean and saw him as “a rebel with a cause, and that cause was escape from the suffocating web of family ties, school, suburban respectability and labour discipline that the new ‘mass society’ imposed” (Pountain and Robins 70). In other words, he was rebelling against things I am drawn towards. Just because Dean got to live the life of a teenager doesn’t mean his life was easy. In fact, he was mostly raised by his aunt and uncle after his mother passed away when he was nine. The death of a parent deeply affects and influences a child and I’m sure Dean was no exception, perhaps this is where his fascination with the macabre came from. Also, let’s not forget that while he was living with his aunt and uncle, Dean was molested by Reverend James DeWeerd (“James Dean Biography”). This is another area where Dean and I differ. The most difficult thing I have had to deal with was my parents getting a divorce. Perhaps this was the event that triggered Dean to have sexual encounters with many people, like Marlon Brando, Marilyn Monroe, Steve McQueen, and Pier Angeli, or perhaps that abuse was part of what added to his broody, mysterious, and rebellious aura. Something I find it ironic is that James Dean wasn’t an advocate for teenage rebellion even though he symbolized it. In fact, he advocated for teens to do the opposite and follow the rules. For instance, during an interview with a sheriff Dean was asked how he felt about teenagers speeding. He responded by saying people shouldn’t drive fast because it’s not safe and is dangerous. But he seemed to be a into hypocrisy considering he died speeding in a Porsche. So, while Dean might not have verbally encouraged this kind of teenage rebellion, his actions made him the epitome of it. To me, this is uncool. His actions and words contradicted each other. I hate it when people, like my grandfather, tell me, “do as I say, not as I do.” If I am supposed to act in the way someone is telling me to, but they don’t act that way, then why should I? Perhaps that was why teens didn’t heed Dean’s advice on driving the speed limit. Maybe they figured that if he wouldn’t take his own advice, then why should we? In this instance, I think they were cooler than he was. I’m also fascinated that James Dean’s motto seemed to be “live fast, die young, [and] leave a good looking corpse,” which he did all of the above (“James Dean Quotes”). He was constantly involved in risky activities, like smoking, speeding, and racing, died at a young age, and was quite handsome at that time. It makes me wonder if his mindset made it inevitable that he would die young. If he didn’t die on September 30th, would he have died the next day, month, or year? Once again I don’t have an answer to this, no one does, but when one involve himself in activities like he did, death is a factor that needs to be acknowledged. Something cool that I think James Dean did was that he seemed to acknowledge the fact that life is about balancing living and dying. He, like many cool people, flirted with death. He acknowledged the fact that at some point he will die and there is no in acting like immortality is a thing. My father once told me there are two things you have do in life, pay taxes and die. So when you acknowledge death, you can dance and flirt with it by pushing the boundaries of living that border death. James Dean’s favorite way to flirt with death was by driving fast cars and breaking speed limits. This is portrayed in the Eagles song, James Dean, in which they wrote “along came a Spyder and picked up a rider” (Eagles). James Dean wasn’t nicknamed ‘One Speed Dean’ for no reason. His one speed was fast and that ended up costing him his life. He even received a speeding ticket hours before his death, but that didn’t slow him down. So sometimes flirting with death, means that death wins, but eventually everyone will die. It is an inevitable truth humans cannot escape. No matter how hard one tries, he cannot outrun death, even I am guilty of trying to avoid death. I go to Zumba classes and eat kale and quinoa salads somehow thinking that this will increase my chances of outrunning death, even though I know that’s impossible. This is uncool on my behalf seeing as humans cannot control when they die. But sometimes the unexpected happens and death comes earlier than expected. James Dean was no exception to this. In fact, Pountain and Robins argue that Dean’s “untimely death in a car crash sealed his status as Cool’s first martyr” (70). As aforementioned, James Dean died at the age of twenty-four. This makes me wonder, do we regard him as highly as we do because he died so young? James Dean only starred in three movies before he died. That isn’t a lot to base a movie career on. Think about it, Robert Redford and Clint Eastwood have both starred in over forty-five movies each. That shows that they are both actors have strong acting skills that make them sought after to star in movies, but James Dean doesn’t have that kind of track record, per se. The three movies he starred in, he received praise for, but if he didn’t crash his Porsche on September 30, 1955, would his career have continued to carry on the upward trend it was on or would it have plateaued or even plummeted? While no one knows the answer to this question, it is interesting to think about. Also, James Dean would’ve not only continued to act if he didn’t die, but he also would’ve continued to age. It would be interesting to see what he would’ve looked like as he grew older. I think one of the reasons people, like Pountain and Robins, regard James Dean as “a Cool original,” is because he was and is so attractive (70). Thanks to photography becoming more widespread in the twentieth century, James Dean was captured on film quite frequently, which wasn’t common in the past. These photos show what James Dean represents and why he is considered attractive to many people, including myself. In one of his many pictures, Dean is shown reading a large book, The Complete Poetical Works by James Whitcomb Riley, at a kitchen table while smoking at the same time (Farr). Not only is smoking an act of rebellion, but it is also wildly attractive, especially when caught on camera. The way Dean is holding the cigarette in his hand is almost as if he is dangling it between two fingers (Farr). In fact, he doesn’t really have a grip on it. He manages to hold the cigarette in a nonchalant and subtle way that if one were to glimpse at the picture, he might overlook it. Not only is the cigarette an attractive aspect of the picture, but the glasses he is wearing and the book he is holding are as well. As stereotypical as it may be, when I see someone reading a book, I think they are intellectual and that makes them attractive. And the round eyeglasses Dean is wearing give him a touch of geek chic. Something that is cool about James Dean in this photo is the fact that he isn’t smiling at the camera like most people do. In fact, he isn’t even looking at the camera- he’s reading his book (Farr). That’s a cool move, he’s not being cheesy and smiling like most people, including myself, would do. James Dean’s pose is not the only attractive part of him in the picture. He himself is attractive. He’s both young and handsome, and that essence is captured in this photo, like all James Dean photos considering he did not live past the age of twenty-four. Not only was his face wrinkle free, but his hair was still on his head and he was sporting the messy bed head (Farr). His hair wasn’t neat and gelled back, it was messy and unkempt, standing up in different directions, and yet he still looked attractive, maybe even more so. I think this James Dean is attractive in this picture because he managed to do so in an effortless way. But, I don’t think I would see him as attractive as I do if he lived to grow older seeing as some people do not age well. Another thing worth noting is that Dean lived and acted in the mid-fifties, which was roughly seventy-two years ago. A lot of things have happened in those seventy-two years. People have walked the moon, started carrying phones on them, and constantly use the Internet which was nonexistent in 1955. Society has changed drastically and while people, like myself, may not want to admit it, it affects who they are. If James Dean was born sixty years later than he was, I’m sure he would still be a rebel today, but it would be interesting to see society’s effect on him.

[behindsonglyrics]

Hi, I was wondering if there was any evidence that the one direction song Infinity is about Taylor swift? I saw a few people who think that it is and I want to know if there is any evidence to the theory. Thanks love your blog

Hi, I’ll be glad to answer this one.

So, I was going through the lyrics, and a few other songs to compare… Personally, I am gonna say no, only because the song was written not by any of the boys themselves, therefore, none of their actual experiences are most likely incorporated in the song. I believe it’s one of those songs they are given and told to sing it.

But, there are some lyrics that stand out a lot. “Since you went away, there’s nothing left in mine.” - From this lyric, we’re being told their upset because their lover went away, now the “light” has died in his eyes. If you remember, that lyric is the exact same lyric as found in “From the Dining Table” which Harry tells us the listeners that Taylor went away. But, that lyric was referring to them no longer speaking in “From the Dining Table.” But, the lyric “Since you went away / there’s nothing left in mine.” Is completely different in meaning, as he’s not referring to communication issues in this song. But rather the overall heartbreak feeling, you know, when you go through a heart break and you use to be upbeat and happy? And your eyes just light up? When you breakup with someone, that tends to all go away.

Then there’s another lyric that caught my eye; “And now I’m one step closer to being / Two steps far from you/And everybody wants you / Everybody wants you.” While this is true, I’m sure everyone wants Taylor, you can’t really pin-point it to be about her, because, I’m sure if it was about Taylor, it would be written that she was taken with a new man (like in Woman/From The Dining Table), but, instead it’s just a regular general heart break lyrical statement, kind of like; “Steal My Girl.”

Finally there are these lyrics that sort of link up to Olivia; “And time is irrelevant when I’ve not been seeing you / The consequences of falling out.” Which is very similar to; “Down to Earth / It’s like I’m frozen, but the world still turns / Stuck in motion, and the wheels keep spinning ‘round /Moving in reverse with no way out.” But … Here’s the thing, when he is talking about the world turning still. What he means by that is, the world is still the “same” (kind of like, to put it this way, when someone dies, the world still “turns” and nobody stops for you.. The buses keep running, people keep going to work, people still make their dinner. Etc) But for that one person they loss, it’s a horrible feeling, because it feels like everything comes in a complete “stop” for them. This lyric also simply means, being without them feels like forever.. But the moving in “reverse” is him saying everything is going wrong. 

Therefore, I don’t think it has any relation to Taylor. I think it’s just an incredibly sad heart break song (seriously, I adore this song.) But, I think for all the boys, it’s something they could always relate to if they were ever to play, despite not specifically being about anyone, but the lyrics would be something they could easily relate to … More specifically, Harry.

Also, keep in mind, when Harry writes songs for Taylor, they’re very specific with references (which is what Taylor does.) “Olivia” is a good one for example. From the title it’s self, he’s referring to her cat, Olivia, which links to Taylor. Even obvious one’s like his t-shirt, or the “day we were giving up” (Out of the Woods) reference. “Stain of Red Wine” (Clean.) The butterflies … Another “Clean” reference. “You told me I didn’t give you enough” - I Wish You Would. “I Love You” lyric is referring to his song he gave Alex & Sierra. From all the songs Harry/Taylor have written for each other, there is nothing to do with truth, as they both are very well-aware of them loving each other. So, definitely not for Taylor.

While “Infinity” doesn’t have specific references, they’re more so just general heart break lyrics.

I hope that helps :)

[niamhm13]

20 Things I Learned Before I Turned 20:

This list is comprised of both things I have learned and things I am still learning or wish to learn. I am really only making this for myself to see where I want to grow in my twenties.

I learned that looking after my mind is equally as important as looking after my body. I tend to focus a great deal on my weight and what I eat and don’t give the same attention to my mental health. Our body and our minds are connected. It can be hard to keep your body in check while your mind is needing some attention and vice versa. I am working on finding a better balance.

There is no such thing as permanent happiness and that’s okay. Or at least I don’t think there is. I think you can be happy overall, but you will always have the occasional bad day. This is okay. If you don’t have a bad day you won’t appreciate the good days as much. Last year my good days were few and far between. However this year I am finding the bad days are fewer and fewer. I appreciate every good day I have and don’t live in fear of the bad days anymore (for the most part). Instead I just push through, try and find the silver linings as much as possible and reassure myself that tomorrow is a fresh start. (I also listen to sad Taylor songs in the bathtub with some wine because why the fuck not, I’m depressed).

I want to learn a new skill. I would love to learn some basic Spanish and French. I would also love to learn an instrument. Maybe piano or guitar.

Social media is unbelievably harmful. Although it can be used for good (e.g. Posts about educating yourself on politics and current affairs), I think for the most part, in my experience, it has lowered my self esteem. I’m not just talking about comparing yourself to photos of airbrushed models with flawless skin and unattainable bodies. I’m talking about group chats. Questioning why you are or aren’t in a group chat. Pressure to read every message for fear you’ll miss something but there’s 15 members of the group and there’s over 100 unread messages. Read receipts. I don’t want to know if you’ve read my message but not replied because it makes me doubt myself and your opinion of me. I also don’t like you knowing I’ve read your message in fear that I’ll offend you by not replying immediately. We are all too accessible to each other and taking a social media break from time to time is not only healthy but necessary.

You have some friends for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime. I learned that from Zoe Sugg and I think about it all the time. Since leaving school I have lost most of my friends. I had a lot of friends in school and quickly realised we were friends because we saw each other every day in school. Not because we had a lot in common. I even realised they weren’t very nice people. I am thankful for having them during that season of my life but also grateful that I had the courage to step away. I have remained close with a couple of friends from school but I don’t see them often. That’s okay. Every time we meet, whether it’s been 4 minutes, 4 days or 4 months, it’s as if we never spent time apart. We are friends for a reason and definitely for a lifetime. I made a new group of friends in uni. I’m not sure what category these friends fall into, but I hope they are for life.

I learned that maturity does not come with age, it comes with experience. I am very mature for my age as I am told frequently. I take this as a compliment. I have had a lot thrown at me in life. More than some, but not as much as others. My obstacles have been tough but I wouldn’t be who I am and would not have the same outlook on life without them. #wokebitch

I learned that children are smarter than me and everyone else. I think that children are the purest people in the world. They have done no wrong and are so (sometimes painfully) truthful. They are so curious of the world, aware of everything that’s happening, and are able find the fun and joy in every situation. If we all maintained a bit of childlike wonder, the world might just be a better place.

I want to learn to be more patient. I believe I am fairly patient when I have to be, but could have more patience for those closest to me. We all have bad days.

I learned that confidence and ego are very different. I lack in confidence and used to look up to egotistical people and envy their confidence. More often than not, people with large egos who appear to be self centred are actually suffering from low self-esteem. They show a false ego to hide their insecurities. I now look up to people like Taylor Swift and my Mum. These women are confident in themselves and their actions but are open about their insecurities and don’t let them run their lives. Thank you both for being such great role models.

I want to learn to be as good a Mum as my Mum is. I hope to have children in my mid to late twenties and wish to be the kind of mother that my mother is. I never ever felt like I couldn’t come to my mum with any worries or problems. Although we have the usual mother daughter arguements, I don’t have a doubt in my mind that she loves me unconditionally . I hope she knows how much I love her, and I hope my children never doubt how much I love them.

I hope to learn to manage my time better. I am constantly either procrastinating or overworking. I hope to find a good balance between studying and time off.

I learned that it’s important to surround yourself with people who make you push yourself. My friends and family encourage me to be the best possible version of myself I can be. It’s very difficult to not make excuses for yourself when you mess up, and it’s also difficult to not be too hard on yourself. I try to always take that extra step to be kinder to someone. Or help others. I also try to revise more (something I need to work on haha) so I can be the best nurse I can be. I am trying to make more time for people that I love.

I hope to overthink less than I do. I am such a worrier. If there’s anything I can worry about I will. Past. Present. Future. Things that might happen. Things that probably will never happen. Things that could never happen but I convince myself they will. I waste so much time overthinking everything instead of just carrying on with my life and dealing with things if and when they happen.

I hope to learn to love someone romantically, and I hope to let them love me. I have come close to relationships a couple of times (never had a boyfriend - sad I know) but I have always found a reason to push them away. Perfectly. Nice. Boys. If I can’t find anything wrong with them, I tell myself I don’t deserve them. Instead I find myself hurt that I let them go and convinced I can’t get them back because they probably already found someone better. Have I mentioned I have issues? lol.

I learned that the amount of time you’ve been friends does not determine how good a friend someone is. I have had friends from when I was wee, who I thought really cared about me. I won’t share details but it turns out I was definitely wrong. I also have friends who have only recently come into my life. I don’t have a single doubt that they would do anything for me, and I would do anything for them. Showing someone you care with the smallest of gestures goes such a long way. I promise.

I want to learn more about other cultures. I hope to travel a lot more in my twenties. I want to see more of the world. I think you can read everything about every culture in the world but will not truly understand it unless you’ve experienced it. Understanding that there is no right or wrong way to live, there is just different is so incredibly important. Everyone has a right to live in the way they want. Love who they want. Celebrate what holidays they want. And eat what food they want. Don’t let anybody tell you you’re doing it wrong. You do you.

I hope to become the best possible nurse I can. I have so many nurses in the hospital I work in that I look up to. I just hope I can be as good, if not better than them some day.

I learned to be kind to every single person you cross paths with in life. Whether it be a close friend or relative, or the man at the checkout in Tesco. You never ever know what kind of day they’re having. What news they’ve just been given. Or how they are feeling. The sad fact is a smile and a “good morning” could be the difference between life and death for some people. Be kind.

I learned that someone treating you badly and/or being unkind isn’t always a reflection of you. They could be having a bad day. They could have been given some terrible news. They could be struggling with their mental health. Don’t let their words impact you. Shake it off and don’t allow yourself to stoop to their level. Don’t blame yourself either. It’s not always someone’s fault.

Accepting apologies sincerely is just as important as giving them. Apologising to someone and truly meaning it can be a very difficult thing at times. I know myself I have found it hard in the past to admit I was wrong. Accepting an apology allows both parties to let go of any anger or hurt. Furthermore, actually let it go when you forgive someone. Holding onto grudges burdens you more than anyone, and not forgiving people for their mistakes is just spiteful. Apologise, forgive, learn and move on. (Don’t ever forget though. It is important to learn from fights, fallouts and mistakes).

[loveaningenue]

Hiddleswift Timeline 2016

The biggest fauxmance of 2016? As bad as Tayvin was, this was worse in terms of fakeness (IMO, but both were really fake). It’s fun to see how people actually believed in their relationship, but here we are, on Tumblr, where people believed not too long ago that they were still together. Enjoy this short timeline (and analysis)! 

(More pictures are visible on the links that are on the dates. + I’ll add extra pictures later).

May 3, 2016: Taylor and Tom dance together at the 2016 Met Gala. 

May 16, 2016: Tom answers question about her in an MTV interview. (”How was dancing with Tay Swift? I sat next time to her at dinner that night, and she was very charming. I mean, I've seen a couple of her videos, and I think, I remember 'Shake It Off' was released around the time we made I Saw the Light. She's very cool, yeah.” “Would you be up for a duet? I don't know that I could stand up to her vocal talents, to be honest. That's what she does. She's a professional musician and I'm an actor. We'll see. You never know. But I'm pretty sure we won't do it.")

(June 1, 2016: Taylor and Calvin Harris break up)

June 15, 2016: Taylor and Tom are photographed together in Rhode Island which is quite funny because there aren’t paparazzi’s in RI, except if you call them...

June 16, 2016: Taylor and Tom are seen boarding her private jet in RI. Might I remind you of the airport they were seen in was the Groton airport in Connecticut. 

June 21, 2016: Taylor brings Tom with her at Selena’s concert in Nashville. Tom is mocked for dancing like a dad by the media. There aren’t any paps in Nashville usually, so seeing these made a lot of people raise their eyesbrows again. 

June 23, 2016: Taylor and Tom go on a date in Nashville with Holly Williams and her husband. 

June 25, 2016: Taylor visits Tom’s family in Suffolk, England. The paps suddenly appear in an English county that is quite unknown to the general public.

June 26, 2016: Taylor continues her visit in England. She meets Tom’s mom just 10 days after their relationship began.

June 27, 2016: Taylor and Tom visit Rome, Italy. It was a super low-key trip because they went to the Colosseum, a very unpopular touristic place in Italy. 

June 28, 2016: Taylor and Tom have breakfast together at a cafe in Rome. Tom was acting really well here.

June 29, 2016: Taylor and Tom visit yet another unknown place in Rome, this time, they go to the Vatican. They also eat at Piazza Navona and go on a helicopter ride. 

July 3-4, 2016: Taylor has her annual Fourth of July party and Tom gets the honour to wear an I ♥ TS shirt, later to be ridiculed by it. 

July 7, 2016: Taylor and Tom fly to Australia where Thor: Ragnarok is being filmed. 

July 10, 2016: Tom refuses to answer question about Taylor in Autralia (How is Taylor enjoying the beautiful Gold Coast? I'm not going to answer that, if it's all right.).

July 11, 2016: Taylor, Tom and eight bodyguards dine at Gemelli's Italian in Queensland, Australia. 

July 14, 2016: Taylor, Tom, Chris Hemsworth, Mark Ruffalo and others watch Ghostbusters at the movie theater. 

An interview with Tom by Hollywood Reporter is later released (You're in the middle of a cultural frenzy right now because you're dating Taylor Swift. How would you respond to people who claim that you're involved in some sort of publicity stunt? (Laughs.) Well, um. How best to put this? That notion is — look, the truth is that Taylor Swift and I are together, and we're very happy. Thanks for asking. That's the truth. It's not a publicity stunt. ) He mentions Taylor as Taylor Swift, as her boyfriend of one month, you expect them to say Taylor, but Tom just couldn’t say it. The fact that he had to state that it wasn’t a publicity stunt is 👌.

July 22, 2016: Taylor and Tom are papped in LA. 

July 25, 2016: Tom gets questioned about Taylor at Comic Con and answers.

July 27, 2016: Taylor and Tom eat at Hillstone restaurant in Santa Monica. 

August 12, 2016: Tom follows Taylor on Instagram and an interview by the Hollywood Reporter and answers a question about Taylor.

August 13, 2016: He’s later papped boarding Taylor’s private jet in Burbank airport (where the paps were called to take pictures of him at a very secured airport). 

September 6, 2016: Taylor and Tom break up. 

After the Break-Up

February 8, 2016: Tom talks about Taylor in his GQ interview. 

[...] “Taylor is an amazing woman,” reads the prepared statement Tom Hiddleston has memorized and is now giving me at The Bull & Last, where his voice has gone low. “She’s generous and kind and lovely, and we had the best time.” But I didn’t ask that, I say. I asked something else. So I wait, and he says, “Of course it was real.”

I ask if he wants to say anything about Australia, about the Fourth of July party at which he donned that fateful tank top, about the rumors that she thought he was too eager. Does he want to say anything about any of it? And here he puts down his fork, a bite of my steak still on it. He looks off into the middle distance, and here is what he says:

“The truth is, it was the Fourth of July and a public holiday and we were playing a game and I slipped and hurt my back. And I wanted to protect the graze from the sun and said, ’Does anyone have a T-shirt?’ And one of her friends said, ’I’ve got this.’ The friend pulled out the “I ♥ T.S.” tank top that Taylor’s friends are contractually obligated to own. “And we all laughed about it. It was a joke.”

So that’s his statement on the entire relationship: an explanation of the tank top. “It was a joke,” he repeats. “Among friends.”

I can vouch for this depiction of Tom Hiddleston. He is definitely, without a doubt, someone who would put on an “I ♥ T.S.” tank top, both to protect a scratch from sun damage and to make his new friends laugh while th—wait, sorry, he’s still talking:

“I have to be so psychologically strong about not letting other people’s interpretations about my life affect my life. A relationship exists between two people. We will always know what it was. The narratives that are out there altogether have been extrapolated from pictures that were taken without consent or permission, with no context. Nobody had the context for that story. And I’m still trying to work out a way of having a personal life and protecting it, but also without hiding. So the hardest thing is that that was a joke among friends on the Fourth of July.”

He still isn’t looking at me. The last piece of my steak is now poised on his fork in mid-air. He is so sad, and I can’t take it anymore, so I put my hand on his and I say, “Tom, Tom, it’s okay. You don’t have to talk about the tank top anymore. I got it. I understand. I’ll tell the world.” But he can’t stop talking about it. He literally cannot stop talking about it.

“I don’t know,” he says. “I just, I was surprised. I was just surprised that it got so much attention. The tank top became an emblem of this thing.” It’s hard to tell me this, he says. He wants to trust me. He wants to trust that the world won’t use this to embarrass him again, but he doesn’t know. He just knows it will follow him until he talks about it. [...]

General Conclusion A failed PR stunt that only Taylor benefited little from. At least, compared to Calvin, Tom was nice and a decent human being. Probably sounded great at first, as if nothing could go wrong (Taylor Swift dating and British actor), but the acting was over the top and too many paps were called. The media didn’t believe much in it, having various articles about it being PR, but they were still a lot of positive stories about them. The general public could easily tell it was PR, so only the Swifties really believed in it.

Swiftie Side Tom was the nice Englishman that danced with Taylor at the Met Gala in May 2016. Right after her terrible breakup with Calvin Harris, she was spotted kissing Tom in RI and the rest of the summer was a wonderful world tour, from Nashville to England to Italy and to Australia. Taylor, not ready for another serious relationship, decided to break things off with him just a month after their trip to Australia. 

Another theory about them was that they either never broke up and were dating secretly (or that they did break up, but got back together quickly after). Some fans believed it when Tom was working in LA while Taylor was there as well. Though it was said by Tom that he was single and the theories were proved to be wrong. 

PR Side Taylor had no new music to promote, but she had Kimye to deal with. The perfect way to hide the bad press was by stunting with Tom. Tom wasn’t known in North America and a relationship with Taylor surely upped his profile. 

N.B. Taylor was still allegedly with Karlie at this point, so it was PR and bearding.  Tom is rumoured to be gay, but since I don’t follow Tom, I can’t confirm this. 

How It Went Down (Overview of the Timeline) Taylor and Calvin broke up June 1, 2016. 

June 15, Taylor and Tom were spotted in RI together and the media was all over it, overlooking Kim’s negative comments on Taylor. 

Taylor brought Tom to Nashville where they went to Selena’s concert and danced together. Tom was completely ridiculed for his dancing and looking like he could be Taylor’s father.

They continued their romance to Suffolk where Taylor met Tom’s family. Talk about moving too fast.

Then they went on what the media called a private vacation in Rome, Italy. Spotted kissing, taking pictures, and eating together, everything felt forced.

Tom even brought Taylor to Australia, where he was filming the new Thor movie, but not too long after, Kim released a series of snapchats of Taylor and Kanye’s phone conversation about Famous, Kanye’s controversial song. 

Nothing going well for Taylor, her and Tom were reducing their pap pictures and ceased them in August, though Tom was seen boarding one of her private jets. In early September, it was publicly announced in the media that they broke up.

My Thoughts Hiddleswift is what I like to call a failed fauxmance and possibly one of Taylor’s worse one. In my first post, I said that it was the first time I looked at the pictures could say it was fake. 

I barely knew Tom before and I feel bad for the embarrassment he got from the stunt. For now, he’ll be known as Taylor Swift’s ex-boyfriend. I hope he can get out of that title. This is a situation in which saying “was it worth it?” just fits perfectly (“if the high was worth the pain”??) (for Tom: “Grab your passport and my hand”). At least he got what he wanted, exposure in the US. 

I could only hope that this is the last PR stunt that Taylor does, but I highly doubt it will (a girl can dream). 

The Aftermath (will be updated) Tom tried to find an excuse for his I ❤️ TS shirt which caused him a lot of humiliation on the Internet, but it failed because no one cared. He said many positive things about her in his GQ interview (see quotes👆) but now refuses to answer questions about her. 

Pretty sure there are other timelines about them, but I think this is the most completed one (Larrienation stopped when they arrived in Australia, but she has a pretty good post about them that is linked in my 2016: The Bearding Timeline). 

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Why I love pop music

It’s actually pretty simple: I love good melodies.

Pop music is a lot of different things and the limit between genres often overlap, which means that music can be defined by ridiculously long and stupid names (I once heard a band described as “vegetarian, progressive, normcore indie-rock”, which melted my brain a little bit). For me pop music is basically music with fairly simple chord structures and rhythms, and with melodies humable without significant brain capacity – and that is in every possible way a compliment to the artists.

Because pop music is an artform – if I could write and produce songs that people would sing along to after one or two listens I can promise you that I would because that must be very satisfying. I’m not saying I would become the next one-hit-wonder or name myself the next DJ-something og Lil-whatever – far from it – but I would not be sad about the ability. Again, far from it. Pop music is not demanding of the listener, it is not musically challenging, but it is comfortable, danceable and since it sells millions of records there must be some kind of meaning to it.

I do not want to claim that all pop music is the same, because it can be difficult (and to some people dangerous – or brave) to compare The Beatles to Justin Bieber or Michael Jackson to The Chainsmokers. And of course, there is pop music that I loathe with almost every fiber of my body. No, it simply isn’t easy when a genre isn’t all awesomeness.

But let’s focus on the positive: pop music doesn’t need to be challenging, since the whole point of pop is to be comfortable. Pop can be complicated and musically straight up impressive – think of Toto or Quincy Jones – but that simply proves that pop is a very diverse thing which is pretty great! It’s one of the reasons that I think pop is cool.

The Diversity

If I named 5 pop artist that I enjoy listening to, it shows a pretty big gap between the different parts of pop music: Michael Jackson, Taylor Swift, Ed Sheeran, U2 and Toto. 5 random pop artist that I have listened to within the last month, and the differences are pretty apparent. From complicated, “handmade” and masterful instrumentation in Toto, to perfect modern productions, electronic beats and “simple yet elegant” with Taylor Swift – it’s all pop and the common denominator is that millions of people sing along.

I will bet you that you can sing or hum the chorus of at least three of the following five songs: “Billie Jean”, “Shake it off”, “Shape of you”, “Still haven’t found what I’m looking for” and “Africa”. And why? Because it’s pop, it’s quality and it is awesome!

Pop music is a beautiful kind of art because it’s basically about pleasing the listener and that’s why I love it. I am obviously ready to discuss a bit of pop, but please note that I never said that pop is the only kind of music that I like. Because that would not be the truth. I listen to almost every genre this was simply a post to express my joy with pop.

Pop is a lovely subject when you want people to look weirdly at you – I play the guitar, mainly blues and rock music, but that doesn’t make pop any less good than rock, it’s just a different thing and you have to respect that. And by the way I love playing pop music too.