#no interneT I'M SO SORRY FRIENDS. )

[sf3uuf]

I've been thinking about JJBA again...

[luna-loveboop]

Legend sick fics you say 👀

Well I don’t think I remember too many sick fics off the top of my head but weathered and wavering by Quirkle is very good.

Once you have a collection please do share with the class 🫶

Hehe yeah. Here is the original post about Legend sick fics. I got a lot of recommendations in the replies and reblogs that are so cool- seriously I read a ton of them and you guys are so awesome (/gen)

@uniquevoidflowers wrote this fic for me which is amazing of course- it has some of the coolest imagery with a flower thermometer which makes me very happy

Pretty much all of @skyward-floored 's sick fics are awesome, including this legend one that was instantly recommended to me by quite a lot of people lol (since it was posted very recently) (go read it)

Fill the cracks with gold by @sister-dear was so fun to read, it might be one of my favourites for Four

I loved Hiding behind plaster and ceramics by @occasionallyprosie -it had a lot of takes I hadn't seen before and was also very good writing

@arecaceae175 recommended down, a nine chapter sickfic that is really good, I loved reading it.

There's a lot of other ones, and most of them are in the notes of the post I made:

@the-au-collector made this reblog with a ton of good recommendations, and @hero-of-the-wolf reblogged with one I liked. Idk if the links can work like that but we'll find out

And my wisdom tooth surgery went well :D I've stayed off the internet for a bit of recovery. I'm good I'm just not doing too much interacting when I'm tired *shrug*. I was scared because my health is always so bad but it was ok. :))) I have definitely spent a lot of time reading- I knew it was a good idea to ask for sick fics for surgery week XD

So that's the lovely list of sick fics I've been reading- for when you get your wisdom teeth out. Or you're not feeling well, or you just feel like reading. Anyways.

Also my mind is still pretty tired right now but I wanted to answer this- I hope it's ok for everyone I tagged, and my phrasing and language isn't good right now, sorry. Love you guys /plat <333

[ghostoffuturespast]

Honestly, getting real tired carrying and supporting other folks around here when most of them aren't returning the favor...

[rimouskis]

cross-generational friendships have been so important and formative and crucial to my adulthood. and i'm not talking about "oh I'm in my 20s and nearly all my friends are in their 30s ha ha ha" [true], I'm talking about "I labored side-by-side with people in their 40s, 50s, and 60s and became friends with them."

one such friend and I went to a funeral today to support a third friend and it really reaffirmed how important these relationships have been to me and how good they are for keeping perspective and taking advice from people with more experience than you.

tomorrow I'm going on a walk and then getting lunch with an old boss-turned-friend/mentor who's old enough to be my mother (like, literally her oldest son is my age) and I'm looking forward to it so much. having friends who you can bond with but also learn life lessons from is such a gift and it makes me lament my current work situation (everyone on my team is within a 3-year age range).

[maraschinomerry]

The little mutuals badge in the activity feed is a blessing and a curse. I see it next to a blog I recognise and my brain goes "friend!!!!" I see it next to a blog I don't recognise with no identifying info and my brain goes "friend????"

[seafoam-taide]

Yall holy fuck I'm in Chicago for the crane wives concert tonight but I didn't realize we'd be here during the pride parade holy fuckkk this is so cool

[pocket-size-cthulhu]

Not to vaguepost but there are those among the users on tumblr dot com who sometimes forget that people doing fascist-leaning stuff are sometimes kids or people who have been too sheltered to understand why what they are doing is wrong. It's not always safe to assume that someone is being insidious on purpose, and telling someone outright that they are being a fascist, when you don't know where they are actually at, is only going to put someone like that on the defensive and make them wonder if fascists have a point, actually.

People who grew up steeped in purity culture and conservativism, who hold purity culture, transphobic, homophobic, or any other number of bad beliefs, CAN change. I'm living proof of that. I changed because of people just living their lives around me, and with occasional firm but kind correction from people who said they thought I was wrong or wasn't seeing the full picture, but who didn't call me an insidious fascist subtly pushing a far-right agenda.

Tell people when they are wrong - absolutely, please tell people when they are wrong - but for goodness' sake, tell them how their actions relate to the problem, don't go in telling them that they are the problem. That never helped anybody change.

I'm not saying you have to be friendly to fascists or anybody else with a rotten ideology. I'm just saying that if you don't know where someone is coming from, calling them a fascist is more likely to hurt them than help them see why they're wrong

[wizardlymilf]

not totally sure yet, but i'm thinking of maybe deleting this account soon. i honestly just have no interest in posting art online anymore.

maybe it was just 2024 being a rough year for me but i realized over time that posting my art online made me hate it a lot. i just found no joy in it and it made me pick apart my art constantly. i literally just had months of hating everything i made because i knew i would be posting it "eventually" and that someone was gonna see it and just that thought alone made me hate everything i created. even if i knew 100% i was the only person who was ever gonna see it, i still thought about posting it and it straight up prevented me from drawing throughout last year! very fun!

additionally, i'm just paranoid about having any sort of noticeable presence on the internet. i always have been but i feel like it's gotten worse over years. i don't want to stick out. i don't want to be recognized at all. i just wanna blend into the crowd. as much as i like the idea of receiving praise and attention for something i've made, i usually dislike or even hate it when i actually get it. there's just nothing good for me here anymore.

so yeah. i'm still undecided if i'll delete or archive this account (like, keeping it up but marking it as an archive and no longer posting to it) but i'll let everybody know what i decide soonish. if you (for some reason) wanna save anything from this account, now would be a good time to do it. see ya.

[claitea]

mutuals you are too nice to me :')

[obnoxiousarcade]

I have a longing to be understood more than anything else i think

[thislittlekumquat]

I like how millennials who see other millennials on the internet saying "no one under the age of 18 should be online" think that that's a serious proposal. I say that shit all the time and then proceeded to get into an argument with my mother last year over the fact that my uncle not allowing my 17 year old cousin to have his own email account or social media in 2023 was not going to help him avoid bullying, but rather the opposite, and that it was important to give kids access to something in mature and guided ways so they don't go crazy with it as young adults, the same with any other activity or consumable that adults tend to restrict minors' access to.

You all have GOT to learn how to acknowledge that teenagers are deeply annoying sometimes, because you are always going to find some people annoying, no matter what groups you're each part of, and you have to practice having empathy for them anyways. Saying teenagers are never annoying uwu is not accurate or helpful. Cracking extreme jokes about impossible scenarios and blowing off the steam of annoyance is fucking normal, you weirdos. Because at the end of the day, teenagers are just like the rest of us: annoying sometimes, but human and valid and doing nothing wrong just by existing.

[transannabeth]

wanna make spider-jam an oc superhero because i've wanted to bring back my superhero ocs from like 8th grade especially since i've decided they're all weird and traumatized and insular and spider-jam is like fun and outgoing and cmyk colors

but like the whole thing is that she was bit by a radioactive spider. like that's the joke.

i need a new joke

[shyspider]

I hope its not too weird of me to come out and say this but I hope you're doing okay. I've seen some of the things you've said and that you're not feeling yourself and I want you to know that its okay to take breaks and time to yourself. I hope you're putting yourself first........ and drink water.

I'm drinking black coffee straight from the pot - is that the same?

Okay but no seriously, I teared up some and of course I'm going to deflect with humor and say everything is just a struggle right now but I'll be okay. But I've been saying I'll be okay for months and I'm still trying to get out of this funk. I don't like getting personal and would rather suffer silently, but fuck it - new year. I'm stepping out of my comfort zone for a hot minute.

I'm grieving. No one died. Just the dynamics of a relationship changed, and it's affected me deeply. I AM putting myself first, and that's why it hurts. It's affected my writing (thank the muses I spent my hiatus finishing the fics so I have stuff to post) where I struggle to focus. I struggle answering comments with that ❤️ energy I like putting out in the world. I struggle with thinking about Transformers, because that person cultivated my love for them, and is deeply tied to it all.

I'm actively working towards healing. I'm determined to be okay, someday. I just hate that it might take a while. I'll still post regularly, but I'm sorry I haven't been putting out the positive vibes, lately.

[adore-gregor]

👋

[catgirltoes]

fun fact: trans homicide rates are lower than the population average. men: 6.6 women: 1.8 transgender: 1.4.

Nonnie, why did you send me this? I'm not even any sort of popular feminist blogger or anything. I just had one post blow up on me. You're gesturing at the idea that trans people aren't oppressed because of an allegedly lower rate of being murdered, yes? You come into my inbox, cite sourceless statistics, and think that'll make me kowtow to this ridiculous talking point. Well it won't because that's fucking stupid.

The sillier answer is that trannies don't go out.

The more serious answer is that even if the statistic is real and reputable, it's only as accurate as its collection methods, whatever they may be. They're probably police homicide reports, let's be honest.

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

Bio families of trans people will often lie and claim they were cis. It's a common fear of many trans people that they'll be buried under the wrong name. Families will often deny any knowledge of any gender nonconformity.

A neutrally-dressed trans person who doesn't pass that well may not even register as trans to investigators, but instead as a cis person of their birth gender. Even when a trans person is more obviously trans to an oblivious cissexual, they will often be written off as crossdressers. Trans people are consistently recorded as their birth genders in official documents, especially dead trans people who can't speak up for themselves.

How often are the murders of trans people even recorded as murders of trans people specifically? Whether a murder victim is M or F is recorded universally in just about every jurisdiction, but neither Canada nor the States nor any other country I can think of consistently records whether every murder victim was trans or not. This, of course, makes collating data that much harder.

Are the murders of trans people even recorded as murders? Police regularly write off murders of trans people, sex workers, people who use drugs, and other "undesirables" as No Human Involved. Aside from the refusal to investigate, the deaths may be written off as accidents and illness, not murder.

All other questions and caveats that apply to any population-based statistic apply here, especially questions for truth claims in general. Who reported it? Who published it? For what purpose? Did the people who collected the data have an agenda? Biases? What populations were analyzed specifically, and how big were the sample sizes, and how were numbers calculated? Was there statistical fuckery? How applicable are the results to all populations? How large even is the trans population? Is it controlled for age, race, and class? You gotta answer all these questions before it can be considered in any sort of useful way.

People will often not investigate truth-claims that support their beliefs, and I think nonnie here is a prime example of that. The failure of not thinking about how often trans people are misgendered in death is the most egregious, though everything else I've listed here applies.

[bonemeal12]

I always get stuck in the evil space between "I can't get myself to complete work without someone telling me to/keeping me on task" and "I can't be perceived" and either end up in the same room as someone staring at an empty chrome tab because unless it's strictly "work" I can't do it in public, or I end up by myself but lost in the endless scroll because there's nobody there to break up time or keep me focused or remind me to stay on task.