#no finding good who like u for u when ur my version of neurodivergent/mentally ill ppl always expect the performance

[fairycosmos]

the advice is always to stop self isolating but the compulsory performance involved with being around others makes it so easy to withdraw. what now

[ibvix]

Please forgive my presumptuousness, but You said something which stopped me in my tracks ...

The advice to stop self isolating versus the burden of "compulsory performance", driving the need to withdraw ... This "Catch 22" I can understand ...

SIGNAL BOOSTING

FOR THOSE OF YOU NOT FAMILIAR, HERE'S SOME HELPFUL INFORMATION PERTINENT TO THIS DISCUSSION:

Isolation is the experience of being separated from others. It may result from being physically separated from others, such as when a person lives in a remote area. Isolation can also result from being emotionally removed from a community. (The separation could be real or perceived.)

An isolated person may experience loneliness or low self-esteem. Over time, a person may develop social anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns. The right therapist can help individuals build social skills and connect with others. Therapy can also help people recover from the effects of isolation.

WHAT IS SOCIAL ISOLATION?

Social isolation is an absence of social relationships. It is distinct from solitude, which is simply the state of being alone. Social isolation can occur in solitude or in the vicinity of others.

Solitude can be chosen or forced, healthy or unhealthy. Social isolation describes an unwanted and often harmful experience. A person may be experiencing social isolation if they:

Avoid social interaction due to shame or depression.

Spend extended periods of time alone.

Experience social anxiety or fears of abandonment at the idea of social interaction.

Have only limited or superficial social contact.

Lack important social or professional relationships.

Develop severe distress and loneliness.

WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ISOLATION?

Emotional isolation occurs when someone is unable or unwilling to share their emotions with others. Someone may be reluctant to discuss anything but the most superficial matters. Without emotional support, they may feel “shut down” or numb.

Emotional isolation can occur due to social isolation. Yet a person may feel emotionally isolated despite having a social network. Even though relationships are necessary for our well-being, they can trigger negative feelings and thoughts. Emotional isolation can act as a defense mechanism to protect a person from distress.

Someone in an intimate relationship can still experience emotional isolation. One or both partners may feel alone within the relationship, rather than supported and fulfilled. Infidelity, abuse, and other trust issues often cause such feelings. A couples counselor can help partners identify the source of their distress. The couple can then work to improve communication and rebuild trust.

SOLITUDE, ISOLATION, AND LONELINESS

Solitude, isolation, and loneliness are similar terms, but they have distinct meanings.

Solitude is the state of being alone.

Isolation is a lack of social relationships or emotional support.

Loneliness is a craving for social contact. It is often linked to feelings of sadness and emptiness.

Spending time alone is not inherently bad. Solitude can be a healthy, rejuvenating experience. It can allow people to reconnect with their needs, goals, and feelings.

Some people require more solitude than others. Introverts, for example, enjoy spending lots of time alone and can feel drained through social interaction. Meanwhile, extroverts often need more social interaction to feel fulfilled. Circumstances that feel isolating or lonely to one person may be healthy for another."

CITE : https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/isolation

the advice is always to stop self isolating but the compulsory performance involved with being around others makes it so easy to withdraw. what now