#new way of calling people a trender or something lmao

[vampelune]

i find it weird the way people have been making fun of transmascs who don’t want to be totally masc when they transition (i.e. a lot of body hair, balding, getting bulkier) like it’s completely normal for someone - especially someone who is nonbinary transmasc to want a certain androgynous look still? but to still pass as reasonably amab/not afab and not be clocked

like its not just “you’re just mad that being a trans man doesn’t make you an uwu anime boy” like no 😭 im uncomfortable being hyperfemme/clocked as female as much as i dislike being Too Masc, i want androgyny

like tf would you say that to amab twinks who get laser hair removal and even taken doses of estrogen to be more gnc/feminine “ur mad that being a man isnt being an anime twink boohoo” stfu

[izzyliker]

right so here’s me over a couple of years ranging from 2016 to 2019. in all of these photos i IDd as trans. i DO have dysphoria. im on t and have been since the summer of 2018. in fact i was so dysphoric i paid out of pocket to start t in the us bc the waitlist was so long in finland that i opted to pay $300 to do something that would’ve costed me $0 if i’d been willing to wait 2 more years. but i didn’t! bc i couldn’t handle it. in the second & fifth pic i was so dysphoric on the like regular that i had to leave stores in the middle of grocery shopping bc the knowledge that people thought i was a girl was too much. the last three pics are from the last 4 months.

but you can’t fucking tell from these pics now can you! and i KNOW y’all demons would absolutely have called me a transtrender and a snowflake resource waster who just wants to be special! i mean look at these pics. makeup, colored/long hair, “accentuated curves/tits,” etc. it wasn’t even that i COULDNT bind - in some of these pics i had a binder on;the fifth pic and the last two; the last two were actually pics of me trying on a new one and showing my bf how flat it made me - i just didn’t! i didn’t feel like it. lol. note that i’m wearing women’s skinny jeans and a cropped sweater in the last two! the 6th one features me in women’s gym shorts from 10th grade and a t-shirt that says “raise boys and girls the same way” and a binder is nowhere to be found! i don’t really have curves to accentuate anymore bc t + losing weight means i don’t really have a Feminine Waistline anymore but whatev, i still have titties and i won’t bind if i’m not going out and you bet your ass i’m in the kitchen in a form fitting t-shirt every damn day making dinner or coffee even if my roommates are home even though one of them is a whole transphobe who keeps misgendering me. lmao

i mean this is also me:

schrodingers transtrender? is me dressing gnc okay bc i also dress gender confirmingly and pass bc i’m on t? did i only become trans after i stopped doing makeup and bought new clothes? am i allowed to dye my hair and not bind just bc i feel like it and wear crop tops now because i have short hair and my face is masculine? or am i still a snowflake trender who’s wasting resources and probably just confused? lol.

anyway those caricatures and ways to tell if someone is a “trender” are less than worthless

@saviourofawakingworld

Really?

Really??

Because my experience is that truscum

make fun of people who look like me or with similar features as me

and laugh about them together

and end up harming me and others like meno matter how much “but not people like you, just people who are indistinguishable from you without having them disclose their medical history!” you spew

because all of these caricatures trigger my dysphoria

and no amount of placating will be able to make up for all of the harm you do to people who CHOOSE not to pass for personal/medical reasons especially if you force them to disclose that personal info in order to be accepted.

So I hope I’ve made my point.

I’m dysphoric and don’t want to put in effort to try to pass because it’s not worth it to me anymore from a convenience standpoint.

If you look at this picture of me and still think, “trender who deserves to be hurt by these caricatures because ‘‘she’s’’ obviously cis if ‘‘she’’ doesn’t try to pass and flaunts ‘‘her female body’’ off too much to actually be a real, true, dysphoric trans,” based only on how I look and what my gender is, you’re being transphobic and harming people who are trans and GNC, disabled, closeted, etc. by spreading these stereotypes around as how to spot a ‘trender’ and laughing at how ‘ridiculous’ people who look like that are, regardless of anything else.

Honestly. A lot of them end up being fetishistic, and so many of them get picked up by cis people as a ‘woke’ way to police trans identities. It’s not worth it, and if you continue standing behind them as being ‘harmless fun’ or ‘real but not about people like you even though they look and act exactly like you!!’, I think you need to re-evaluate how you view other trans people.