#need to be his personal fleshlight :( life is unfair

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denying patrick your pussy just to be petty over a fight you've already mostly forgiven him for just for him to stroke his shit in bed next to you. whatever. not that you're that easy. let him beat his meat if he wants. except he's so fucking loud. and you can hear the slick twist of his fist on his cock. the grunts he makes. you try to shove a hand over his mouth but he just grabs your wrist and licks your palm, wraps his lips around two of your fingers and moans around them as he speeds up - you can't not fuck him ://// even if you're huffy about it because you lost whatever game you were playing, you still end up straddling his thick thighs and sinking onto that big dick he's been jerking next to you - his grin is almost enough to irritate you, if he didn't immediately grip your ass to start using your pussy to jerk off with instead.

😌🫶

Yeah <3

You’re just trying to stay firm when you tell Patrick to fuck off, that if he thinks he’s getting any pussy tonight he’s a fucking idiot. when you turn on your side and shut your eyes tight and try to ignore his continued attempts to argue just for the sake of it.

But he knows you’re weak, you’re always fucking weak when it comes to him. If you’re not going to give him pussy, he doesn’t give a shit— he can take care of himself. Typically he’d just spit into his palm and jerk himself off, but he wants you to hear each slick pass of his hand. But no, he pumps a handful of lube into his hand wraps that fist around his cock and fucks his hand in earnest, makes sure you hear each slick, wet stroke.

He knows you’re not asleep, that you’re not even trying to be. An annoyed huff escapes your lips as he tugs the blankets off of you, looks at the pretty dip and ripple of the silk nightie you’re wearing against your skin. He groans as he pulls the hem up, just enough to get a peek of your panties.

“Fucking quit,” you snap. You slap at his hand, but don’t move to cover yourself up again. Patrick grins, speeds up his hand. “You’re so fucking gross, Patrick.”

He grins. “I bet your pussy’s so fucking wet right now, baby. God, you always get so wet when we fight and you— fuck— you know you’re wrong. It’s just your body trying to apologize, getting wet so you can take this fat dick inside that tiny little pussy.”

You slap a hand over his mouth, glaring back at him. “Shut the fuck up, Patrick.” He grins, sucks two of your fingers between his lips, laving them with his tongue. Heat bloomed in the pit of your stomach, licking at your nerves.

He was right— you were wet for him, already desperate and wanting. And he knows. His hand speeds up, jerking his cock faster, making his balls jerk upwards with the force of each tug. Your mouth fucking waters at the sight. Unfair.

He knows what you’re doing before you even do— can sense it in the tension in your muscles, the tick of your jaw. You climb into his lap, practically glaring as you tug your panties out of the way. “Fuck me, then go to sleep.”

He grins, holds his cock so you can sink onto it. He’s right— you’re so wet you take him easily, stretching around his thick cock, sinking down until he’s buried deep and nudging against your cervix. You gasp, forehead pressed against his, panting hot against his mouth as he grabs your ass for leverage and starts fucking himself with your pussy, using you as the sweet little toy you are.

“That’s it, baby,” he murmurs, his breath hot as he pants against your ear. “Just look pretty and let me use that pussy. Make it up to me.”

You moan, almost frustrated by your inability to resist him, and hold onto his broad shoulders as he fucks you on his cock. He groans as your cunt clenches around him, tight and hot and wet, his favorite fucking feeling in the world. Works you on him until he cums buried inside your sweet little pussy, pulls out and tugs your panties back into place.

You huff, still sitting in his lap, wet and achy, unfulfilled. He grins, pats the spot on the bed beside him. “Go ahead, take care of it. I don’t mind.” He turns off the lamp and pretends to go to sleep while you rub at your clit in frustrated silence.

[abbacchiosbelt]

NSFW alphabet for Dr. Cioccolata PLEASE I AM SO THIRSTY FOR THIS FUCKING MOLD KILLER! - 🥦 anon. I love your writing btw...😚

aaah, finally getting to some old requests! the mold doctor returns and so does one of my favorite anons! 🥦

18+ under the cut! cw for general nastiness, because it’s cioccolata. also — non con, dub con, medical kink, violence, & blood.

Aftercare - Nope! Unless you consider taking your vital signs and making sure you’re secure in your bonds again as aftercare… If you don’t happen to be restrained, you’re still not getting any sort of aftercare. Secco might cuddle you if Cioccolata lets him. The doctor himself doesn’t have much interest in things like cuddling.

Body Part - Oh, you have so many interesting body parts, but Cioccolata is particularly interested in what you have in the inside. If he can’t get to those, however, he likes your eys… for obvious reasons. On himself, he’s proud of his hands. They’ve been the key to everything in his life.

Cum - Cioccolata prefers to cum inside his partners to negate the mess, but if he plans on going multiple rounds, he has no issue with cumming anywhere on your body. He’s not going to clean it up, anyways. 

Dirty Secret - Cioccolata is not the kind of person to have dirty secrets, really. He doesn’t feel shame, although you might see a certain flush on his face if you happen to call him ‘Daddy’ at some point. Going much darker, it’s not really a secret, but he prefers to have his patients under a sort of twilight anesthesia when he fucks them, especially for his own videos.

Experience - Not a lot of experience with willing participants, but plenty of experience — we’ll leave it at that. With a partner who happens to stick around for a while, he picks up on what you like fairly quickly.

Favorite Position - Anything that has you in a compromising position, like a mating press or doggy style. He’s not too worried about the position.

Goofy - Cioccolata isn’t goofy, but he’s not afraid to be… well, weird during sex. He doesn’t get turned off by much.

Hair - Very messy and coarse green hair.

Intimacy - Cioccolata doesn’t do intimacy — although he considers the time he spends cutting into you intimate. 

Jack Off - Not much, actually. He prefers to take his needs out using Secco, his patients, or you. If he does jack off, it’s to one of the videos he’s had Secco film.

Kink - Oh, lots of them. Medical play, blood, asphyxiation (giving, of course), sadism, bondage… You name it, he’s probably into it. If he can rope Secco or you into it, he gets really into clinically-accurate patient/doctor roleplay. 

Location - He doesn’t leave his lab much, except when called out on missions, so he prefers fucking you on the operating table. Cioccolata doesn’t have a preference.

Motivation - None, really? His motivation comes from himself — seeing you squirm beneath his scalpel or the way you whimper out his name in pain… those get him going, but it’s not like you’re doing it on purpose.

No - Not much. He’ll try just about anything once.

Oral - Cioccolata loves extremely rough facefucking and throatfucking. He wants you to be crying and gagging while he shoves his cock into your mouth and has his way with you. For as sadistic as he is, Cioccolata is surprisingly decent at oral sex, though it’ll be a very rare ‘treat’ to receive it from him.

Pace - It depends on the mood — he can pound into you relentlessly or fuck you agonizingly slowly. Cioccolata doesn’t have a preference.

Quickie - Yep, he uses these as a way to ‘jack off’ when he needs a pick me up. He uses you as a human fleshlight, basically. 

Risk - Everything is a risk when it comes to Cioccolata. So, yes. He loves risk — especially when it involves the chance of you bleeding out on the operating table. He likes to push you to your limits.

Stamina - A lot. It’s not surprising when you see the muscles he has hiding under his outfit.

Toy - Yes, but maybe not the traditional toys you’re thinking of, though he does use those too. He prefers to use medical tools as ‘toys’, though it may not be the most fun for you… If he’s pent up, he might leave you with a toy stuffed in each of your holes on full power. 

Unfair - Very. It’s about his pleasure, not yours. He has no problem with leaving you hanging.

Volume - Cioccolata is actually quite talkative during sex, but his gasps and moans are pretty quiet. He’s more of the grunting, type.

Wild Card - If he forms a relationship, somehow… He is capable of partaking in an evener sex life that doesn’t leave you hanging. There will be a power dynamic, of course, but if you’ve managed to wrangle him into a relationship, well, it’s only right that he treats you as more of an equal. (Or, like another Secco. Still.)

X-Ray - Well-hung, in all senses of the word. About 7.8 inches and thick with big balls. Uncut.

Yearning - It’s more of bloodlust, really, but pretty high.

ZZZ - You’re not really sure if Cioccolata ever sleeps… but he’s certainly never tired after sex.

[meat-husband]

Brahms Heelshire - Alphabet Ask Meme

I’m hoping to start doing requests on this blog, so I thought I would start up with the alphabet ask memes as a sort of intro! I figure all the letters get asked eventually, so I’m just doing all of them in one go. There will be one of these posted for each character I’m writing.

I have a page with what and who I write for here.

Both the NSFW and fluff alphabet asks are under the cut!

NSFW Alphabet

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

You better be prepared to pamper this boy afterwards – snacks, cuddles, the works. Brahms isn't going to want to lift a finger, but he definitely expects to be taken care of. Get him tucked into bed or cuddled up on the couch, and expect to be there a while, petting his hair, kissing his mask and holding him. Getting up from this position is going to be the hard part. Brahms is a clingy bastard and he's not gonna let go just because you can't feel your legs or you have to pee. If you're lucky, he'll fall asleep and you can sneak away (and risk him waking up grumpy) otherwise, you're in for the long haul.

B = Body part (Their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Brahms is a boob man and I will tolerate no dissent on this topic. It doesn't really matter what size, shape, etc. he just wants dem titties. If you ever need to get him out of the walls, a low cut shirt or clingy sweater is a guaranteed way to get it done quickly.

Not really a body part, but Brahms likes being tall – especially if he's got a short S/O. He might not want to be on top all the time, but he wants to be in charge and it's easier to boss people around when you're nearly two goddamn feet taller than them.

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person)

He doesn't have much of a preference for where it ends up, which is a good thing considering he's a bit unpredictable. It's hard to tell what or when he might tip over the edge, this boy is 2 seconds away from nutting at any given moment tbh. If it happens to get on him, though, he'll whine and moan about it until you clean him up, preferably with your mouth.

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

Brahms is a garbage boi, all of his secrets are dirty ones. Probably the one he'd most want to keep hidden from you, though, is the fates of the nanny’s who arrived before you did. He’d be tempted to threaten you with the knowledge, but ultimately he thinks it’s best you don’t know too much.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

He's probably got a computer in that incel man cave of his, so he’s seen some shit - but that doesn't mean he has any idea what to do with a real person. In fact, any pre-planned ideas of what he might do go flying right out the door once he's got a Real Live Naked Person™ in front of him.

F = Favorite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual)

Whatever you can do to him while he’s relaxing on a comfy pile of pillows.

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

Just fuckin' desperate lol.

Clingy, grabby, hard porcelain kisses and lots of bratty whining.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

Brahms knows how to bathe and take care of himself. But that's what you're here for. Showers/baths are a couples event now, and you always have to sit on the side of the tub with the faucet. He will absolutely refuse to do even the most basic self care unless you're helping or doing it for him, so haircuts, bath time, laundry days, etc., are up to you to enforce. It's rare that these moments turn into sex, he prefers the bonding and cuddles they bring, so even if he gets a little riled up he'll wait until the moment is over.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

BRUH. The rest of your damn life is going to be one long, intimate moment as far as Brahms is concerned. You are never going to have a damn moment to yourself now. Watching TV? Brahms is right next to you, complaining that you're not paying him enough attention. Reading a book? Bedtime stories only in this house. Making dinner? Brahms is following you around the kitchen, whining that he's hungry but getting in the damn way every step you take. It might get annoying and make you long for five seconds where a giant, hairy man-child isn't tugging on your sleeve, but he thinks this shit is the height of romance. Every remaining second of your life is going to be intimate. His day revolves around you and he expects the same in return.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation head canon)

There is not enough time in the day for all the fucking this boy requires, so he'll have to take care of himself occasionally. Most of the time you never even know about it – he retreats to his room in the walls, or watches you silently through a peep hole somewhere – but if he ever feels like he's being neglected (god forbid you need to leave the house for a few hours, he's like a dog that panics and thinks you're leaving forever) you will wake up one morning to find the most treasured things you own covered in cum. He will refuse to apologize no matter how angry you are – clearly if you'd only take better care of him, this wouldn't have happened.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Skipping over the obvious ones, Brahms is really into body worship. Let him lay back on some soft pillows and spend a while undressing him, giving him soft kisses and quiet whispers of praise. Tbh he'd probably nut before you got to the main event. He also loves being teased, so give him all the kisses he wants, but not where he wants.

L = Location (Favorite places to do the do)

Since you're alone in the house, nowhere is really off-limits or taboo. His favorite is probably inside the walls, though. Dark and enclosed, almost not enough space to fit two people, forcing you to keep incredibly close. He might even be comfortable enough to take off the mask in this situation.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

Honestly, it'd be faster to list what doesn't get him going. He's been touch starved for so long that even innocent touches like hugs and goodnight kisses can set him off.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Not a lot of things he would outright say no to. Obviously, though, no threesomes/involving other people. This is a monogamous relationship with no wiggle room.

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

Get used to blowjobs, cause they're gonna be a big part of sexy times in the future. Really, anything that lets Brahms lay back and get pampered is something he'll like. It would take a lot of convincing and trust to get him to remove the mask in order to reciprocate though, and it may be that he'd never do it. He would want to, and maybe that frustration will encourage him to give in, but he would never risk showing his face to you.

P = Pace (Are they fast and rough? Slow and sensual? Etc.)

Brahms relies a lot on instinct, so left to his own devices he's rushed, desperately trying to cum and doing whatever he can to get there. You'll have to slow him down and make him take his time, which he won't always want to do. When that happens, just let him have his way and once he's got what he wants, he'll do his part to take care of you.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

He really prefers drawn out, long sessions, but realistically you'll get more quickies just because he's a needy garbage boy who doesn't wanna wait for his rewards.

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

There isn't much risk to take with Brahms, in terms of getting caught together. You're alone in a giant house and he's good about staying out of sight whenever someone does come around. Personal safety is another thing entirely. Mood swings are a common thing for Brahms and you have to be careful of any misstep. Something as simple as answering the phone can drive him into a tantrum and it's during these rages that he feels the need to take charge and remind you of who's really in control here.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

Normally, it's quick and rough, but if you can manage to keep him focused then he can go until he loses that focus. His max times in a row is probably two - maybe three if he's angry and needs to work off that energy - simply because you gotta make time for the post sex snuggles.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

Brahms would absolutely be the type to own a fleshlight, I swear to God. But I can't see him managing to sneak that onto the grocery list, so most likely he does not own anything before you show up. He would totally be into whatever you wanna bring him, though, and I think he'd enjoy something to hide under clothing or for you to wear in public secretly. He'd have a love/hate relationship with chastity devices for sure! Loves the teasing aspect, but will 100% lose his temper the first time he gets a boner and you don't immediately take it off.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

His teasing game is non-existent tbh, it's just gonna end up with him desperately humping your leg. He will try but your willpower is stronger than his, so he'll lose pretty quickly.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

He screams at the top of his lungs until he’s out of breath. God forbid you tell him to hush, that’s only going to make him louder, just to annoy you. You would think all those years of hiding away would give him some volume control.

W = Wild Card (Get a random head canon for the character of your choice)

He will never fully believe that you wouldn’t leave if the right opportunity came up. Everything you mention that references your life before him infuriates him and only reinforces this belief. Old photos, souvenirs and mementos are some of the first things he’ll get rid of when you come to stay.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive)

That much fucking can’t be good for you. You tell him his dick will fall off if he keeps it up and he isn’t amused (he still doesn’t know if you were joking or not).

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Most of the time, Brahms won’t fall asleep afterwards, but he will pretend to. Once you’ve cuddled him enough, he’ll close his eyes and keep still, waiting to see what you might do without him watching. Leaving the bed is a big no-no, but if you keep close and drift off yourself, he’ll do the same (after making sure that you’re not faking too).

Fluff Alphabet

A = Attractive (What do they find attractive about the other?)

How trusting you are. You might be the nanny, but he’s still in charge so having someone who won’t fight him and try to get away with breaking the rules is a plus.

B = Baby (Do they want a family? Why/Why not?) If you’re living with Brahms, you’ve already got a baby (it’s him, he’s the baby). He’s not going to want a child of his own, at all. It would be dangerous to even hint at this being a possibility.

C = Cuddle (How do they cuddle?)

You’re gonna have to get used to him hanging off of you like a monkey most of the time. It doesn’t matter if he’s got to lean down, arms around your shoulders, and shuffle along behind you awkwardly as you walk, he’s a touchy boy. It would be easier to give in and lay down with him, but then you’d never get anything done.

D = Dates (What are dates with them like?)

Does hovering ominously over you from the end of your bed while you sleep count? He’s a little torn because he has no idea what exactly a normal date would consist of locked up in the house, but he’s also seen plenty of romantic movies and they seem important to relationships. You eat dinner together, does that count as a date? The people in his movies did that. So as far as he’s concerned, you’ve had quite a few dates and it’s up to you to decide if you want to burst that bubble.

E = Everything (You are my ____ (e.g. my life, my world…))

‘You are mine.’

There’s no compromise with this, Brahms is a lifelong commitment (even if it’s only for your life). This relationship is your full time job now and there’s no room for error, cause he’s just waiting for you to mess it up.

F = Feelings (When did they know they were in love?)

It would take a lot for him to realize he actually likes you beyond being his pretty nanny. He thinks he loves you immediately so it’s going to come as a shock when he figures out he was just super horny lol. Once you’ve both settled into a life together and he sees you doing things to please him because you want him to be happy, rather than because you’re afraid, it will start to shake up how he thinks of you.

G = Gentle (Are they gentle? If so, how?)

Most of the time he’s very gentle, but it’s more out of timidity and nervousness than anything else. He’s not used to contact with other people and he’s unsure of how to go about it. Eventually he’ll get over the nervousness, but unfortunately he’s still got no social skills so prepare for some of the most awkward cuddles you’ve ever had.

H = Hands (How do they like to hold hands?)

All the time. It’s really tiring hearing that little huff every time you pull your hands away to do some task or chore. And it’s not long before one or both of them are occupied by his and you’ve got to tug them away again. He’s really got no concept of personal space.

I = Impression (What was their first impression?)

He was interested right away, like he always is when a new nanny arrives. He followed you in the walls, trying to get a better look without giving himself away. Once he picks up on how pliable you are, willing to follow the rules and not ask questions, he knows you’re going to be staying.

J = Jealousy (Do they get jealous?)

This is probably the most obvious ‘yes’. There are exactly two people allowed inside the house and you’re one of them. Anyone else is horribly unwelcome and it won’t end well. He might allow some temporary visitors once you’ve stayed with him a while (you gotta get WiFi set up ASAP before you go insane) but they’re on thin ice.

K = Kiss (How do they kiss? Who initiated the first kiss?)

Of course, your first kiss has gotta be the goodnight kiss. There’s a creepy man living in the walls, a quick smooch is the worst he could ask from you, and he’s delighted by how quickly you accept the rules of the house. Of course he doesn’t stop at demanding bedtime kisses anymore.

L = Love (Who says ‘I love you’ first?)

Brahms will say it first, a lot, and before he really means it. He mistakes lust and want for love at first and it will take him a long time to realize that they aren’t the same. But love and trust aren’t the same thing, and when he does figure out how much he likes you it’s only going to make him more possessive and overbearing. 

M = Memory (What’s their favourite memory together?)

The first time you invited him in to sleep in your bed. Of course it wasn’t the first time he’d slept there, he would always sneak in or slip past you before you could close the door, and good luck getting him off the bed once he’s in. Eventually you give up trying to keep him out and automatically assume that’s where he’s spending the night when it comes time to tuck him in.

N = Nickel (Do they spoil? Do they buy the person they love everything?)

Technically, he’s super fucking loaded. He could crawl out of those walls and buy you a gold plated yacht. But you’re here to spoil him, not the other way around, and you best believe he expects it too. Not with money, but virtually everything else. He wants your attention, time, love - anything you might have to give and more.

O = Orange (What colour reminds them of their other half?)

Grey, like the skies outside. He sees the way you look at the windows, the look on your face when you go outside and see the stars. But he’s confident that you’ll follow the rules, because he’s made sure you know what will happen if you don’t.

P = Pet names (What pet names do they use?)

He doesn’t mind you giving him pet names, he’ll probably get off on it tbh, but he doesn’t use them for you. He always uses your full first name, no shortening it, and it’s honestly sort of off putting (that’s probably why he does it).

Q = Quaint (What is their favourite non-modern thing?)

He has an old paint by numbers set that he’s had since before the fire. He’s filled in all the pages and used up all the paint, but he keeps them anyways. He’s copied the pictures so often that he can nearly do them without looking at the original.

R = Rainy Day (What do they like to do on a rainy day?)

‘Outdoors’ isn’t really his thing. Rain doesn’t make a difference when you never leave the house anyways, but he’ll appreciate that any plans you may have had in town will be delayed.

S = Sad (How do they cheer themselves/others up?)

He’s naturally a loner and doesn’t want to be around anyone when he’s upset. He’ll keep away for days until finally slinking out when you least expect him. That doesn’t mean he’s not watching you, of course.

T = Talking (What do they like to talk about?)

Brahms isn’t very talkative and most of your conversations are a little one-sided. Most of the time he uses the boy-voice and keeps his sentences short and simple, but if you’ve really upset him then he’ll scream and rage, one of the only times you’ll hear his natural voice.

U = Unencumbered (What helps them relax?)

Once you’ve fallen asleep and he can sneak off to his space in the walls. He wants to be beside you 24/7, but that brings its own stress and he can’t fully relax when every little noise wakes him, afraid you’re sneaking away.

V = Vaunt (What do they like to show off? What are they proud of?)

He’s normally such a brat that when you genuinely praise him for something he’s quick to repeat it. Oh, you liked the sandwich he made you? Guess what you’re eating for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the next two months. He’ll also take things you use everyday and return them like a proud dog bringing in the paper, like he wasn’t the one that hid them in the first place.

W = Wedding (When, how?)

Brahms is pretty firmly not about that life. You’re his nanny before anything else and he’s comfortable the way things are. That doesn’t meant this isn’t a serious relationship, cause he expects the same amount of loyalty and love you’d give a husband, but he isn’t going to break the facade.

X = Xylophone (What’s their song?)

Well, he’s not going to pick just one! Brahms loves music but he also likes variety. He’s got favorites of course, but there hasn’t been a lot of new material and he doesn’t want to get tired of the best ones. Do not attempt to introduce him to modern music though, he will just be offended.

Y = Yes (Do they ever think of getting married/proposing?)

Your relationship is a weird thing. You’re his girlfriend, sort of? But really his nanny. Who’s really his girlfriend. Sometimes hostage. It’s confusing, but marriage is for sure not a part of that equation. Even if it were possible, with him legally dead, it’s not something Brahms would want anyways.

Z = Zebra (If they wanted a pet, what would they get?)

He’s not into animals at all. Besides, you’ve got him to take care of and that should be what you spend your time on.

[idkwhatawritingblogis]

nsfw alphabet meme; noam

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex) he's in such a positive headspace, he feels like he can take on the world, you know? so he's just very snuggly and touchy and wants to hold on to his partner. like hey, they just did something Fantastic. unless it's a one night stand. then he runs. but if he cares, he's a soft boy full of spooning and love.

B = Body part (Their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s) you know what? man loves his thighs. and he loves gideons thighs and also her arms. choke him out. 

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person) he is a boy who enjoys shooting on the stomach. he also is open to eating his own cum. so you know. snowballing. what of it. 

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs) he had sex with one of his mother's close friends. he was an adult when he did it but he is very Yikes about it.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?) he's pretty experienced. he's been at it for years, hopefully satisfying, and exploring different ways to please people. he definitely knows what he's doing. he's very committed to being great at it, though, so. you know. got a little ego. someone says he's bad? h'ouch.

F = Favourite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual) .. anal, man. he's big into it. and he's not douchey about it, but, you know. he's just a Big Fan. and he's also into missionary. he likes to look at his partners. take in the beauty. 

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc) do you see how i'm answering this. he's a goofy bitch. unless he's real thinking with his dick, he's definitely a goofy motherfucker.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.) he's fairly groomed. bit of hair and stuff. he hates shaving, but he's also not about to grow a whole bush and expect a partner to put their mouth on it. he grows a lot of hair, fam. nah.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…) i mean. when he's in missionary and stuff, he's big into holding hands. so that's something. he's not a "oh lets put out fake rose petals and candles" kind of romantic man, but he's not a complete asshole or anything. he also likes to nuzzle and kiss a whole lot during sex. so.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon) he nuts and ends up shooting himself in the face nearly every time he jerks off. genuinely. he's just accepted that this is life. a nutty face. he's alright, just keeps a lot of baby wipes nearby. 

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks) wet hair. he doesn't know what caused it, but.. a girl with wet hair just is a whole Thing for him. girls look their best that way to him, too. 

L = Location (Favourite places to do the do) A CAR. and also the kitchen. he likes to crack jokes about eating in more ways than one. please smack him. 

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going) ..i mean. he sees gideon and he's immediately Ready For Anything. he's thirsty for his girl, even if she's in some clothes or something. soz. he also is a fan of breathing on his ear. sensitive spot for sure.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs) other than the obvious, noam's one turn off is neville mentions. talk about flaccid. besides that, he really doesn't like 69ing? it just feels weird for him, there's no real rhyme or reason, but man. he just wants one focus at a time. or little different focuses, like stroke him a lil or something, but don't go for a blow because he will probably jump and just..no one needs that! not a one!!!

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc) he prefers to receive, but you know. welcome to sit on his face any day. he will drown.

P = Pace (Are they fats and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.) usually it's more on the fast bit. he's not out here Making Love with gideon, but if they're going sensual and slower, a massage is always involved.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.) he's always down for a quickie. it's sex. he gets to be with his girl. he's all for it, fam.

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.) he's pretty open to experimenting, i think. and he likes car sex, so you know. risk. illegal. he's a bit dumb there, but whatever, he's all about car anything. fingerbangin while he's driving? SAFETY ISN'T FIRST FOR HIM.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…) it depends. whenever he gets to get a nut in after not seeing gideon for awhile? it's a quick. sorry. he makes up for it with oral and stuff until he's ready for another round, and then it lasts longer there.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?) he does not own any toys. he used to have a fleshlight. then heath called himself a human fleshlight and noam had ptsd and threw it away.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease) he.. weirdly isn't too into the teasing? like on his end, anyway. more straight forward, i s'pose. he digs being teased by gideon, even if it ruins his life.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make) he.. grunts. mostly. like if he's pushin it into someone. you know. he isn't the silent type at all. when he's getting blown, he moans like a whole lil bitch, alright. don't @ him about it. 

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice) he definitely is into wearing his cowboy sex during sex. so you know. yeefuckinhaw, hoe. also he can't have sex with someone who has their socks on. ever. sorry. have cold feet.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words) he's a cut boy. jewish and all that.

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?) high as fuck. dude. he wants his dick wet all the time, even more so while around gideon. probably due to distance. also because he likes getting his dick wet. 

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards) noam.. will fall asleep if someone's got their fingers in his hair. but also, he can fall asleep pretty quickly. he loves his sleep and he wants to spoon after bangs and he is Content.

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Kihyun A to Z

(I feel like this might be a departure from how a lot of people see Kihyun on here. Just keep in mind this is all my opinion and it’s totally fine for you to disagree... just don’t be mean about it please.)

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

Kihyun is known as the mom of Monsta X for a reason. After sex he’s so doting it’s borderline smothering. You want a massage? No need to ask, he’s already on it. Need some food? He’s downstairs cooking before you’re even finished blinking. He’ll do anything to keep you happy and show his appreciation to you.

B = Body part (Their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Gather round children and listen to the tale of Kihyun adoring your tummy. It’s soft and cute and his absolute favorite place to kiss you whether it’s during sex or not. He’s said before he would like a girl on the ‘chubbier’ side which leads me to believe his favorite body part of yours would hands down be your stomach. He’d be full of compliments,

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person)

He loves cumming all over your hand. Forget inside you, forget your chest, he loves having your hand around his cock and cumming all over it while you whisper in his ear what a good little boy he’s been for you all night. He loves watching you lick it off while he catches his breath after his orgasm.

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

He tried being a dom in bed after hearing Shownu and I.M going on about it one night but it just never appealed to him. It was one of the worst sexual experiences of his life. Then Shownu teasingly called him baby boy one night and Kihyun got embarrassingly hard embarrassingly fast. That’s when he knew he was more of a sub than a dom.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

Don’t let his softness in bed fool you. He’s a grown man and he’s also the most experienced. You can fight me on that too. No, that doesn’t mean he’s slept with a ton of girls but he’s certainly honed his craft in a way that can have you dropping your panties with one doe-eyed look your way.

F = Favourite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual)

Kihyun likes missionary. HEAR ME OUT! To Kihyun sex is about intimacy and trust and showing the other person how much you care for them. What better way to show that than pressed together chest to chest, looking in each other’s eyes. Usually the dirtier the position the less he likes it. Doggy style is the ‘dirtiest’ he’ll go.

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

Kihyun is the most serious in bed out of the boys because he’s the least dominant. He totally loses all sense of self when having sex and easily gets wrapped up in the intensity. As a sub he knows he has to trust you implicitly and there’s nothing lighthearted to him about that.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

It honestly depends on what his partner wants. He’s a natural born pleaser so what you say goes. If you want him completely bare he’ll go out and get a wax in a heartbeat. If you prefer him a little hairy he’ll let it grow to your preference. Hell, you could ask him to dye his hair plaid and he’d find some way to do it… much to everyone’s horror.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

Kihyun is leaps and bounds ahead of the rest of the boys when it comes to romance in the bedroom. It’s always an event with him and he always works hard to make you feel special. From candles and rose petals, to chocolate and champagne he certainly knows how to treat the one he loves. Expect intense eye contact and lots of praises.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

He likes to ask you before jerking off. There’s just something about having to beg before receiving. The anticipation of your answer gets him so hard he has a difficult time concentrating on anything but the bulge in his pants and the haze in his head.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Orgasm denial (receiving), pet names (receiving), body worship (giving and receiving)

L = Location (Favourite places to do the do)

Kihyun doesn’t really have a place he likes more than others. As long as he gets to take his time he’s okay with anywhere.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

His biggest turn on is when the two of you are laying together cuddling and you start stroking his skin. Just feeling your hands trace over his arm, down his chest, across his stomach, along his thighs is enough to have him squirmy and whiny in no time at all.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Dom. He’s no Christian Grey (thank God) or whatever other dominant man is popular in media.

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

GIVING GIVING GIVING GIVING. And he’s GOOD. Boy knows what he’s doing and knows exactly how to flick his tongue or what noise to make to get you wetter and wetter. He’s not sloppy like Wonho. He has a set way to do things that’s sure to drive you crazy.

P = Pace (Are they fats and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.)

Look up slow and sensual in the dictionary and you’ll find a picture of Kihyun. He’s also good at thrusting DEEP and hitting all the right spots inside you.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

Nope. Kihyun and Shownu are the ones that dislike quickies the most. He just feels like it doesn’t give him enough time to do everything to you that he wants to do.

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

The thought of experimenting doesn’t thrill him but he’s willing to try anything once if it will make you happy. But if he really doesn’t like something he’s really vocal about it.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

Kihyun is one of the ones that can’t really last more than two rounds. He gets too tired after that because the rounds usually last so long (about an hour, sometimes even an hour and a half) and they’re always so intense.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

Yes he owns toys. Several fleshlights and a few collars. His favorite is a vibrator that he constantly begs you to use on him. That being said he doesn’t really like using it on himself unless you’re there to encourage him.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Kihyun isn’t really a tease unless you explicitly ask for it. He’d rather be teased. He wants you to make him beg for it until his voice is almost gone.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

He’s a moaner ‘til the end of time. The occasional high pitched whine will get mixed in amongst the throaty moans but that’s only if he’s extra needy. Mostly it’s all soft little moans and delicate praises.

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

The only time he’ll take without giving is after dance practice. He’s usually so wiped out he’ll let you do whatever you want to him. He always makes up for it the next morning though, pleasing you with his mouth and fingers until you have to pull him away.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

He’s around 6 inches and on the thicker side. He’s always been a little shy about his size for some reason but he’s never had complaints from partners.

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

I’d say his sex drive is fairly average for a guy his age. No, he doesn’t want it all the time but there are definitely a few things that really put him in the mood.

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Like Wonho, Kihyun is out like a light very soon after. He’s always exhausted after you’re finished with him.

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Kink A-Z: Jason Todd

A/N: Heyyoo it’s time to get nasty ya’ll. Admittedly, this is more explicit than Dick’s but Jason is more explicit than Dick in general. And by god, I’m sorry this took so long. Long day. But I finally have RHATO Vol.2 and Injustice 2! Yay me! Also sorry if this is all over the place, I wrote this in short bursts, so yeah.

Warnings: Explicit. EXTREMELY NSFW.

A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

Quiet. After the deed, Jason is fairly peaceful. He’s not opposed to pillow talk, but Jason is more of the guy to lay there, fingers in your hair and lingering on your body. If you talk, he’ll listen, maybe nod and hum. But usually, he’s there just replaying the night over and over in his head, in awe of his partner. Yeah, he gets mushy after.

B = Body part (Their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Jason loves his arms. Because of the pit, he’s stronger than usual - for him or any other human being - and it shows. Where Dick uses his legs, Jason uses his arms, so they’re nicely toned. Not too buff and not too slim. On his s/o, I feel like he’s way into boobs, big or small, and backs. He likes peppering kisses on his s/o’s breasts and sucking on them, and loves seeing their back arch, to the point he chooses positions where he knows he’ll hit the right spots to see them arch under him.

C = Cum (Anything to do with cum basically… I’m a disgusting person)

I have a lot of opinions about this. His favorite place to cum is on his s/o’s face. Just something about seeing his cum on their face, them looking up at him, he finds it crazy attractive. He also loves handjobs and finishing on his partner’s hands.

D = Dirty Secret (Pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

Guns. Now, Jason would never hurt his s/o nor would he having a gun around them with the safety off, but just having them there in the bedroom is a huge turn on for him. He would probably never bring it up, but his guns are his babies, and he’d never say no to adding them to the fun.

E = Experience (How experienced are they? Do they know what they’re doing?)

Flip it anyway you want it, Jason has skill. Quickies, Threesomes, whatever. He knows what he’s doing. Now of course you don’t get much game when you’re six feet under, but he’s intuitive and creative, so that fills in the spots.

F = Favourite Position (This goes without saying. Will probably include a visual)

Jason has a number of positions in his arsenal and depending on his mood, he’ll go with a different one. His ultimate favorite is ‘Z’ position, having his s/o on their back and him sitting up between their legs. It gives him the perfect view and the perfect angle to go just the pace he wants. His next favorite is cowgirl, them facing him. He likes seeing them in motion, seeing them breathless and gasping on top of him while he holds their hips. His last favorite is missionary and he usually resorts to it when he’s close. It lets him go as rough and as fast as he likes with minimal effort. Plus it lets him go as deep as possible.

G = Goofy (Are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

Jason is serious. Once he gets to it, he’s into it all the way. He’s zoned in on his partner and how it feels and how he’s unwinding. He’s kind of too preoccupied to come up with funny quips.

H = Hair (How well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

He’s either clean cut or barely trimmed. No in between. Luckily, he’s not one of those unfortunate fucks like Dick who choose to wear skin tight suits, so he has the luxury to pick and choose. Sometimes he’s clean shaven (when he has to time to) and sometimes not. He maintains a balance. And he just likes the look of going ‘Brazilian’ down there. As for carpets and drapes, fuck the whole red-head Jason thing they match. Both Black.

I = Intimacy (How are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

Despite the roughness and how down and dirty he can get, Jason considers sex a really intimate activity. He’s known as the ‘hard-shell’ brother, so it’s not often he’ll open up to someone, which is why when he does have sex he gives it his all. He’ll praise his partner and compliment them to the moon and back, his eyes are glued to them.

J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)

I feel like Jason does jack off, but he’s not a big fan of it or does it often. When he does though, it’s to get the horniness out of the way. He watches porn while he uses his hand or a fleshlight (thanks for the ‘gag-gift’, Roy) and gets down to business. Jason’s a very visual person, all about appearances and taking things in that way, so the porn helps him a lot. Regardless of how much time he has, he likes to do it quick and fast. And just like usual, he finishes all over his hand.

K = Kink (One or more of their kinks)

Guns, Public or Semi Public Sex (Mainly libraries or the manor), Breath play, Edging, Periods of Abstinence, Light Bondage, Red Lingerie.

L = Location (Favourite places to do the do)

He has a number of places. Of course, above all, he’d rather do it from the comfort of his own home, but there are some other places. These include in between the aisles of libraries, the manor, bar bathrooms, cars, or anywhere he might get caught.

M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)

With Jason, he’s either in the mood or he isn’t. Sometimes he’s really wrapped up in a case, sometimes he’s really into a good book, sometimes he just wants to cuddle. But when he’s in the mood, he loves being teased. In a different way than Dick, he likes it when his s/o plays the jealousy game or acts flirty in public. Maybe it’s because he knows he’ll get his way. But to him it’s a huge turn on and he’ll be carrying you home ASAP to even the score.

N = NO (Something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

Daddy dom, Slave roleplay, Sex on drugs, Non-con roleplay, Bruise-inducing BDSM, Knife-play.

O = Oral (Preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

This goes without saying. Jason loves oral. No matter which end he’s on. He loves getting it and if he’s comfortable with you he’ll ask for it. He loves his s/o looking up at him with him in their mouth, loves having his hands in their hair. It drives him nuts. If you’re a pro at it, Jason is basically a goner, bucking his hips into your mouth without even thinking about it. When it comes to giving, he’s a pro. He likes switching up the pace to keep it fun and likes to make you come more than once. He actually finds it fun.

P = Pace (Are they fats and rough? Slow and sensual? etc.)

Patience is Dick’s strong suit, Tim’s too. Not Jason’s. Sure, he’s use to playing the long game at work, but in bed he’s rough and fast paced. He likes being on top because it gives more control pace wise, but he’ll take cues from his partner. Sometimes he might stop for long strokes, but usually he’ll hover over you, put your hands above your head, and just go to town.

Q = Quickie (Their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

Quickie King. He’ll take it anytime. Five minutes before patrol or a meeting with Black Mask? In the manor ten minutes before everyone comes back? Seven minutes before your favorite show is on? Sure. It gives him an excuse to be a little more rough and he loves the feeling of tousled hair and breathless pants. Hot moments between little patches of boring daily life.

R = Risk (Are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

Jason lives on risk. It’s probably why he’s been dead before. He’s not changing anytime soon. He has little fantasies he’ll ask to play out and go for and if you have any in mind, as long as it’s not really out there, he’ll be down.

S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

Jason is like his guns. He’ll fire off as many rounds as you need. His stamina is off the charts. Just let him get a drink, take a breather, and he’s ready to go again. He lasts an average amount of time, because he’s not too much of a teaser, but he also doesn’t like to get ahead of himself. Usually, he holds out until his partner gets theirs.

T = Toy (Do they own toys? Do they use them? On a partner or themselves?)

Jason has some toys here and there, nothing big. The ones he does have are usually for couples and they’re all kept in his apartment. Maybe one pack of rope, a fleshlight, a ball gag, ect. He doesn’t use them frequently or routinely and he can get off without them, but they’re there just in case you wanna try something new.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Jason will tease during oral, but that’s as far as he’ll go, because after that to tease his partner is to tease himself. He gets off by seeing or knowing his partner is too, so teasing is pretty counterproductive for him. Now, for him to be teased is another story. Jason is a  man of action, so if you’re holding out and teasing he can flip the tables to make it a tease for you.

V = Volume (How loud they are, what sounds they make)

Jason grunts. He’s a quiet one but one that is very easy to read. His muscles tense, he grips the sheets, and between little actions he lets out grunts and pants and sweet questions like ‘you good?’, ‘you okay?’ and other lovely compliments.

W = Wild Card (Get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

Call him ‘Red’ in bed and he’ll melt. No one knows why, not even him, but call him ‘Jay’ or ‘Red’ or ‘Baby’ in bed and you’ll get whatever you want.

X = X-Ray (Let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

Jason owns like five pairs of boxers. One is for suits, two are for if he’s wearing leather pants. The other two are reserved for if people are coming over and if he’s working out. Besides that, commando all day. Especially if he’s wearing sweatpants. It’s comfortable.

Y = Yearning (How high is their sex drive?)

Jason can do without, but he very much prefers to do with. Jason has a high drive with high stamina, but if he’s not getting any then he’ll be fine. But it’s more a case of willpower than drive.

Z = ZZZ (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

Jason doesn’t, not unless prompted to. He’ll go to sleep if his partner does, but if not he’ll just lay there and talk to them all night. Jason’s a light sleeper - deep sleep reminds him too much of being dead - and only really goes into a deep sleep when he’s drugged, sedated, or after he’s been hurt. Most times, if his partner doesn’t go to sleep, he’ll get up and go get snacks to share, or just grab a book.

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Dildos, vibrators, fleshlights - sex toy talk is no child’s play

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Dildos, vibrators, fleshlights - sex toy talk is no child’s play

She thought she would have a heart attack.

She was absolutely unprepared for what just popped out of the closet on to her body.

A sex doll. There it was.

Direct, irrefutable evidence of her husband’s infidelity.

“She demanded a divorce,” said M.D. Nguyen Lan Hai, a theology lecturer, recalling what happened to one of her patients.

On the verge of losing his life partner, the husband confessed that before he met her, he’d bought this doll to satisfy his needs when he was single. He said he did not want to deal with sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) from having casual sex with random girls or pay for sex services, Hai said.

The use of a sex toy being seen as a partner being unfaithful is an indicator of how these are being understood and misunderstood in Vietnam.

Hai is a prolific author well known for her psychological expertise in gender and sex education. She, and her work, have been featured in various newspaper columns as well as on TV shows.

The story that Lan Hai recounted also reflects the inhibitions of Vietnamese society as a whole about sexual openness. The society does not just accept that discretion is the better part of valor, but that discretion is the only valor there is.

So, in a milieu where even masturbation is sometimes treated as a perverted activity, mentioning the use of a sex doll, a fleshlight (artificial female sexual organ), etc. becomes unthinkable. That means getting someone to speak face-to-face using sex toys is a very difficult task.

An anonymous survey on sex toys usage attracted just 41 respondents and only 26 people went on to answer the questionnaire. Among these people, 14 said they have used sex toys. Half of the respondents had a positive outlook on sex toys and their buyers. They felt these were a healthy option. Two respondents thought sex toys were unhealthy. The rest did not care, one way or the other.

Of those who acknowledged buying sex toys, some had bought up to 10 times; most owned 1-3 items and the most favored toy was the vibrator.

An overwhelming number of survey participants preferred a real person over sex-stimulating devices (73 percent); their reason for buying the sex toys was a desire to explore more, sexually (55 percent), and spice things up with a partner (45 percent). Twenty percent said that they were too busy to find a sexual partner.

Irish man Greg, who taught English for more than 10 years in Vietnam, remembered a Vietnamese woman he used to date.

“She had a very high sex drive and one day she came to see me with a brand-new external vibrator, which we tried during our intimacy, but it felt rather distracting for me.

“Another date, who lived far away so we couldn’t meet very often, once shared that she regularly used a dildo at home, but when I suggested that she has it with her next time we meet, she was too shy to do so.”

Demand and supply

“My customers don’t really tell me how the toys work. They wouldn’t share with me their stories either. They are shy and that is because of Vietnam’s customs,” said Vu, who owns the G.D condoms brand in Ho Chi Minh City.

Even at a time of globalization and liberalization, there is discomfort, among a segment of the population and authorities, and some of them see it as “decadence.”

On the Vung Tau City administration’s website, an article published in Social Security section stated that Vietnam needs its “fine customs, or thuan phong my tuc” to uphold human ethics and social discipline. The entry criticized revealing clothing worn by young Vietnamese women as being against Vietnam’s fine customs. It advised the youth to reflect on this and preserve their traditions.

Such pushback has evidently had limited success.

The G.D brand has been in business for more than a decade. Its 10 branches are located in major HCMC districts. It has condoms and lubricants always in stock, while sex toys from the U.S. are ordered upon request.

Because “sex” is still a “sensitive” word, adult shops do not incorporate it in their signs. Condoms are now more commonplace after a sustained effort in the early nineties to promote their use as a response to the HIV/AIDS pandemic, so stores do not get into trouble for displaying the word enlarged and bolded.

“The police said we cannot put the English word ‘sex’ in our shop sign. But the word condoms (in Vietnamese) is fine,” representatives from two other sex shops said.

S.K is a multi-chain brand present in four different cities in Vietnam, Hanoi, Saigon, Bien Hoa and Da Nang. Dildos, vibrators, stimulating condoms, performance enhancer liquid/gels, and bondage gear cram glass shelves in one of its branches.

The S.D Condom shop in HCMC also displays many sex-related items including dildos with diameters of 2.5 – 8cm, some larger than a human wrist. “My customers focus on the diameter of dildos, not the length,” the owner of this shop said.

S.D said no to underage buyers. It is rather easy to identify this group by looking at their appearance when they come to buy sex toys at the shop, the owner said. Delivery packages require recipients to show their ID cards. S.K also implements a similar policy.

Representatives from all three brands all were confident that their business was doing a good thing with a free-spirited understanding of sexual needs.

“There is nothing bad about sex toys. They simply meet people’s needs. The demand for these items increase every year,” said Phu, an S.K staff.

There is currently no law that says sex toys are illegal, but they cannot be advertised or displayed publicly.

Interestingly enough, Vietnamnet, a publication of the Ministry of Information and Communications, recently published a sponsored article which featured condoms, performance enhancers, and stimulating gel at the G.D store. Clicking on the website linked to the article showed a variety of sex toys for sale, including vagina massagers and vibrating dildos.

Unfair legal limbo?

According to law firm Viet Phong, sex toys are not a forbidden product on the market. However, businesses can still be fined if their products do not come with papers indicating their source and/or their images pollute/distort Vietnam’s culture, customs, and morality.

Because Vietnam has not regulated this item and the law does not explicitly declare it legal or illegal, not all exotic toys imported into Vietnam come with official custom documents.

The owner of the Golden Boy brand argued that sex toys were actually a healthy way to meet one’s needs, which protect users from potential STDs-infected sexual partners.

“Everyone knows beer and alcohol are not good for us. But advertisements of these products are rampant on TV. Why can’t something beneficial like condoms and helpful like sex toys be advertised on TV too?” he asked.

Motorbikes drive past a shop advertising condoms and sextoys in Ho Chi Minh City. Photo by Sen

Sex toy morality

Vietnamese people, especially the youth, are increasingly cognizant of their sexuality and expressing it. The use of sex toys can be a symptom of this. But since no real public conversation has taken place in Vietnam about this, many people are still ambivalent and others have strong opinions.

For some people, sex toys can be a home wrecker. La Linh Nga, director of Research Center for Applied Psychology and Education in Hanoi, told VnExpress that some modern-minded Vietnamese husbands are open to the idea, but this is sometimes accompanied by sadness that they are unable to satisfy their wives on their own.

On the other hand, some Vietnamese husbands with a conservative mindset find it shocking that wives want to use sex toys. They judge such women to be “rotten” and want to have nothing to do with them.

“Vietnamese men look down on sex toys for women, they look down on that. I try to not rely on my sexual needs and slowly I will be able to keep my sexual appetites under control. I avoid adult toys,” commented Chinh Kien, a VnExpress reader.

Quoc, another reader, thought that people continuing to using sex toys will lead to women reproducing asexually and men becoming bisexual.

“Women are never content so family failures are because of them,” wrote Pem Pem, another VnExpress reader.

However, Le Thi Kim Dung, a gynecologist and obstetrician at Thai Ha Health Center in Hanoi, wrote on Giadinh.net that sex toys, if used smartly, are not only harmless but also help balance one’s life.

She told Vnexpress International that while society stigmatizes sex toys as pornographic, women have been inserting alternative objects into their vaginas for pleasure since ancient time, and kept this practice hidden.

Masturbating men have not had this problem, she noted.

She also cautioned that people wanting to use sex toys for personal pleasure could harm themselves by buying and using unregulated or low-quality products or improperly using them.

“We don’t really talk about the issue seriously in official meetings among doctors and the Ministry of Health. We do so through jokes. One time I joked about giving sex toys to soldiers working in distant islands as a present and people just laughed, but nothing happened,” the doctor told VnExpress International.

She said that Ministry of Health should deal with the issue and regulate sex toys so that there is quality control.

Sex toys were not born yesterday, said doctor Hai. Archeologists have found a 28,000-year-old stone phallus in caves near Ulm in Germany.

She said sex toys have gone through various stages of evolution and the late 19th century invention of plastic allowed them to be made with a material friendlier to the human body.

The important thing, she said, is that people equip themselves with knowledge of sex and gender related issues, and make a rational decision on whether or not sex toys are for them.

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Dildos, vibrators, fleshlights - sex toy talk is no child’s play

She thought she would have a heart attack.

She was absolutely unprepared for what just popped out of the closet on to her body.

A sex doll. There it was.

Direct, irrefutable evidence of her husband’s infidelity.

“She demanded a divorce,” said M.D. Nguyen Lan Hai, a theology lecturer, recalling what happened to one of her patients.

On the verge of losing his life partner, the husband confessed that before he met her, he’d bought this doll to satisfy his needs when he was single. He said he did not want to deal with sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) from having casual sex with random girls or pay for sex services, Hai said.

The use of a sex toy being seen as a partner being unfaithful is an indicator of how these are being understood and misunderstood in Vietnam.

Hai is a prolific author well known for her psychological expertise in gender and sex education. She, and her work, have been featured in various newspaper columns as well as on TV shows.

The story that Lan Hai recounted also reflects the inhibitions of Vietnamese society as a whole about sexual openness. The society does not just accept that discretion is the better part of valor, but that discretion is the only valor there is.

So, in a milieu where even masturbation is sometimes treated as a perverted activity, mentioning the use of a sex doll, a fleshlight (artificial female sexual organ), etc. becomes unthinkable. That means getting someone to speak face-to-face using sex toys is a very difficult task.

An anonymous survey on sex toys usage attracted just 41 respondents and only 26 people went on to answer the questionnaire. Among these people, 14 said they have used sex toys. Half of the respondents had a positive outlook on sex toys and their buyers. They felt these were a healthy option. Two respondents thought sex toys were unhealthy. The rest did not care, one way or the other.

Of those who acknowledged buying sex toys, some had bought up to 10 times; most owned 1-3 items and the most favored toy was the vibrator.

An overwhelming number of survey participants preferred a real person over sex-stimulating devices (73 percent); their reason for buying the sex toys was a desire to explore more, sexually (55 percent), and spice things up with a partner (45 percent). Twenty percent said that they were too busy to find a sexual partner.

Irish man Greg, who taught English for more than 10 years in Vietnam, remembered a Vietnamese woman he used to date.

“She had a very high sex drive and one day she came to see me with a brand-new external vibrator, which we tried during our intimacy, but it felt rather distracting for me.

“Another date, who lived far away so we couldn’t meet very often, once shared that she regularly used a dildo at home, but when I suggested that she has it with her next time we meet, she was too shy to do so.”

Demand and supply

“My customers don’t really tell me how the toys work. They wouldn’t share with me their stories either. They are shy and that is because of Vietnam’s customs,” said Vu, who owns the G.D condoms brand in Ho Chi Minh City.

Even at a time of globalization and liberalization, there is discomfort, among a segment of the population and authorities, and some of them see it as “decadence.”

On the Vung Tau City administration’s website, an article published in Social Security section stated that Vietnam needs its “fine customs, or thuan phong my tuc” to uphold human ethics and social discipline. The entry criticized revealing clothing worn by young Vietnamese women as being against Vietnam’s fine customs. It advised the youth to reflect on this and preserve their traditions.

Such pushback has evidently had limited success.

The G.D brand has been in business for more than a decade. Its 10 branches are located in major HCMC districts. It has condoms and lubricants always in stock, while sex toys from the U.S. are ordered upon request.

Because “sex” is still a “sensitive” word, adult shops do not incorporate it in their signs. Condoms are now more commonplace after a sustained effort in the early nineties to promote their use as a response to the HIV/AIDS pandemic, so stores do not get into trouble for displaying the word enlarged and bolded.

“The police said we cannot put the English word ‘sex’ in our shop sign. But the word condoms (in Vietnamese) is fine,” representatives from two other sex shops said.

S.K is a multi-chain brand present in four different cities in Vietnam, Hanoi, Saigon, Bien Hoa and Da Nang. Dildos, vibrators, stimulating condoms, performance enhancer liquid/gels, and bondage gear cram glass shelves in one of its branches.

The S.D Condom shop in HCMC also displays many sex-related items including dildos with diameters of 2.5 – 8cm, some larger than a human wrist. “My customers focus on the diameter of dildos, not the length,” the owner of this shop said.

S.D said no to underage buyers. It is rather easy to identify this group by looking at their appearance when they come to buy sex toys at the shop, the owner said. Delivery packages require recipients to show their ID cards. S.K also implements a similar policy.

Representatives from all three brands all were confident that their business was doing a good thing with a free-spirited understanding of sexual needs.

“There is nothing bad about sex toys. They simply meet people’s needs. The demand for these items increase every year,” said Phu, an S.K staff.

There is currently no law that says sex toys are illegal, but they cannot be advertised or displayed publicly.

Interestingly enough, Vietnamnet, a publication of the Ministry of Information and Communications, recently published a sponsored article which featured condoms, performance enhancers, and stimulating gel at the G.D store. Clicking on the website linked to the article showed a variety of sex toys for sale, including vagina massagers and vibrating dildos.

Unfair legal limbo?

According to law firm Viet Phong, sex toys are not a forbidden product on the market. However, businesses can still be fined if their products do not come with papers indicating their source and/or their images pollute/distort Vietnam’s culture, customs, and morality.

Because Vietnam has not regulated this item and the law does not explicitly declare it legal or illegal, not all exotic toys imported into Vietnam come with official custom documents.

The owner of the Golden Boy brand argued that sex toys were actually a healthy way to meet one’s needs, which protect users from potential STDs-infected sexual partners.

“Everyone knows beer and alcohol are not good for us. But advertisements of these products are rampant on TV. Why can’t something beneficial like condoms and helpful like sex toys be advertised on TV too?” he asked.

Motorbikes drive past a shop advertising condoms and sextoys in Ho Chi Minh City. Photo by Sen

Sex toy morality

Vietnamese people, especially the youth, are increasingly cognizant of their sexuality and expressing it. The use of sex toys can be a symptom of this. But since no real public conversation has taken place in Vietnam about this, many people are still ambivalent and others have strong opinions.

For some people, sex toys can be a home wrecker. La Linh Nga, director of Research Center for Applied Psychology and Education in Hanoi, told VnExpress that some modern-minded Vietnamese husbands are open to the idea, but this is sometimes accompanied by sadness that they are unable to satisfy their wives on their own.

On the other hand, some Vietnamese husbands with a conservative mindset find it shocking that wives want to use sex toys. They judge such women to be “rotten” and want to have nothing to do with them.

“Vietnamese men look down on sex toys for women, they look down on that. I try to not rely on my sexual needs and slowly I will be able to keep my sexual appetites under control. I avoid adult toys,” commented Chinh Kien, a VnExpress reader.

Quoc, another reader, thought that people continuing to using sex toys will lead to women reproducing asexually and men becoming bisexual.

“Women are never content so family failures are because of them,” wrote Pem Pem, another VnExpress reader.

However, Le Thi Kim Dung, a gynecologist and obstetrician at Thai Ha Health Center in Hanoi, wrote on Giadinh.net that sex toys, if used smartly, are not only harmless but also help balance one’s life.

She told Vnexpress International that while society stigmatizes sex toys as pornographic, women have been inserting alternative objects into their vaginas for pleasure since ancient time, and kept this practice hidden.

Masturbating men have not had this problem, she noted.

She also cautioned that people wanting to use sex toys for personal pleasure could harm themselves by buying and using unregulated or low-quality products or improperly using them.

“We don’t really talk about the issue seriously in official meetings among doctors and the Ministry of Health. We do so through jokes. One time I joked about giving sex toys to soldiers working in distant islands as a present and people just laughed, but nothing happened,” the doctor told VnExpress International.

She said that Ministry of Health should deal with the issue and regulate sex toys so that there is quality control.

Sex toys were not born yesterday, said doctor Hai. Archeologists have found a 28,000-year-old stone phallus in caves near Ulm in Germany.

She said sex toys have gone through various stages of evolution and the late 19th century invention of plastic allowed them to be made with a material friendlier to the human body.

The important thing, she said, is that people equip themselves with knowledge of sex and gender related issues, and make a rational decision on whether or not sex toys are for them.

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