#n3urodiv3rg3nc3 is not a monolith if you hav3 issu3s with sarcasm 8ut not with knowing what is and isnt aff3ction

[cornflowercanine]

call it m3 83ing touchy or stupid or what3v3r 8ut it f33ls lik3 ppl on this sit3 ar3 just d3ad fucking s3t on pinning ton3 indic8ors as unconditionally unh3lpful and "w3ird" and its so frustr8ing to s33 its lik3. if it's m3mory issu3s that ar3 th3 pro8l3m th3n ask your fri3nd to us3 th3 3ntir3 word inst3ad (ex. /joking inst3ad of /j). or ask th3m "h3y, what do3s /lh m3an?". that is it. that is lit3rally all you n33d to do. 8ut if it is a8solut3ly fucking imp3rativ3 lif3 or d3ath that you do not 3v3r ask th3m smth and can n3v3r fucking 3v3r ask th3m to do smth 3ls3 or that this oth3r thing is 3asi3r and 83tt3r for you th3n lik3, i und3rstand how it is, 8ut you hav3 fucking got to l3arn to say 'no' in any capacity soon3r or l8r and 8laming oth3rs for your struggl3 is only gonna suck for th3 8oth of you if it is a8solut3ly fucking imp3rativ3 lif3 or d3ath unqu3stion3d that you n3v3r t3ll or ask this p3rson anything and asking th3m to do smth diff3r3nt is th3 worst thing you could do and you ar3nt suppos3d to ask or qu3stion anything that isnt 3sta8lish3d no matt3r what th3n lik3 may83 r33valu8 your r3l8ionship with that p3rson????? if th3 p3rson in qu3stion outright lash3s out at you or is passiv3 aggr3ssiv3 or lik3, vagu3s you wh3n you ask. "do th3 sam3 thing you w3r3 doing alr3ady 8ut add 4 mor3 charact3rs to it so i know what it's for". lik3. talk it through with th3m and if it go3s 8ad th3n that p3rson is just rud3 go talk to Lit3rally Anyon3 3ls3. if th3 p3rson in qu3stion ISN'T som3on3 you know and talk to dir3ctly and is lik3, just som3 random 8log or twitt3r us3r, Look At Som3thing 3ls3. if smth is Ups3tting You you can choos3 to look at lit3rally anything 3ls3 on th3 int3rn3t isn't that amazing!! or if you'r3 th3r3 to s33 th3ir art sp3cifically or find a sp3cific post, s3arch for it, and if you cant or if 3v3rything is too clogg3d th3n giv3 it up and do smth 3ls3 8ro. if th3 p3rson ISNT som3on3 you talk to dir3ctly 8ut that you still 3xp3ct to follow unspok3n rul3s and 8oundari3s and lik3s and dislik3s and that if th3y 8r3ak th3s3 unspok3n rul3s you think it's 83tt3r to r8 things oth3r ppl said a8t th3 unspok3n rul3 and 3xp3ct th3m to s33 it and if th3y continu3 to 8r3ak this rul3 you l3t that r3s3ntm3nt 8uild and 8uild until som3on3 writ3s th3m a callout post for kinning dirk strid3r and "just acting so w3ird ov3rall t8h" so you can r8 it and go "ugh y3ah hon3stly it was so scary and uncomforta8l3" in th3 tags. you hav3 a pro8l3m if it's NOT m3mory issu3s 8ut that you sp3cifically can r3ad ton3 w3ll so th3y ar3nt h3lpful for You th3n okay r3ad 3v3rything 83for3 th3 /__.