#my own mental health... regardless of whether the message reflects my own beliefs or not i just kinda. Cant deal with that stuff

[vampacidic]

what are your thoughts on suou tsukasa. i think she is very egglike and also chubby

uu i've acfually never really dug into tsukasa lore LMAO she's just not a character my brain attached to.. i feel like i'd be obsessed with her if i dug into her maybe 2 years agai bc her struggle with expectations reeeeally would've reflected my own at the time but i never did.. i think she's cute. a bit of a try hard but in the cutest way possible. for some reason i have all of her gacha five stars on both music and basic.... i'm squeezing her like this

[gallickingun]

ding, dong, the witch is dead!

honestly, who didn’t see this coming? lol. but, anyway. i guess this is goodbye! i’ll ramble more below the cut, but just know that over the next couple of days, i’ll be exporting my blog so i can keep what i want, and then this will be the only post left here.

thank you to everyone who i’ve had the privilege of meeting, and those of you who have been so kind as to leave lovely notes on my works, and interact with me over our silly anime crushes. i really appreciate all the kindness i’ve been shown in the anime fandom. some of my best friends i’ve met through this stupid app, but overall, it’s just not a healthy space for me. i’m not blaming anyone else for what this has become, at the end of the day, i created a hell for myself. i’m just tired of trying to rebuild, rebrand, whatever. i’m just tired.

that being said, obviously not everything can always be so lovely. i don’t care about the discourse or the drama or the whatever, but i’m just hoping this post will bring me some closure, and maybe some for those i’ve hurt, whether accidentally or intentionally. if you click read more and you’re upset with what you see, well, idk what to tell you, friend.

i hate that tumblr can be so insignificant, and yet so all encompassing all at once. yes, it’s “just tumblr” and “it’s not that deep” because at the end of the day, it’s just an app. but, unfortunately, behind this app and these blogs are human beings. which means you create real bonds and real friendships, and real feelings get hurt.

i came back to tumblr during a really sad, dark time in my life. and that was honestly my first mistake. i latched on to whoever would pay attention to me, craving some sort of friendship that i never needed before because i always had someone in real life. but i had just moved away from my family, and was starting the process of what would end up being a notsogreat divorce. i felt alone, and was struggling a lot with my self worth, so instead of choosing to be kind, i chose to lash out. regardless of whether or not that was in private dm’s of those whom, at the time, i’d considered friends, it was still inconsiderate and childish of me. i thought i had to be some hateful version of myself in order to prove to other people that i wasn’t as sad about myself as i truly was. the words i said in private were rude, nasty, and just... not who i want to be? and, without going into immense detail, some of those things i wanted to move on from and no longer felt, were then used as weapons and spread around to others who i never intended to see what i’d said.

please, please, PLEASE — be careful what you say. you really never know who is watching, who is going to manipulate you, etc. what you say holds weight, and even if you don’t intend for it to hurt anyone, even if it’s just venting.. i dunno. just, be careful, okay? check yourself from time to time, friend. make sure that you’re not allowing the overall negativity of the world, of your own mind, of others, to affect you to the point that you don’t recognize yourself.

if you don’t know about my lovely little exposed blog, well, you’d probably be the last to know. at least, it feels that way. although in the beginning maybe it was justified? in some right? i’m not sure anymore, really, but regardless—it turned into some sort of stalking experience. at one point in time, i received 35+ messages telling me how horrible i was, telling me to off myself, telling me that my ex did the right thing by leaving me “on the curb”, etc. my full legal name was being released, with the intent to doxx me i’m assuming? i was being told i was “being watched”, which i fully believe was happening, with the consistency of the updates. people who claim to hate me, still followed me with the intent of watching my every move to “see if i’d changed”. i only have received updates through friends, because to be perfectly honest with you, seeing your worst mistakes splayed on the internet and turning you into some shounen villain is NOT the best thing for your mental health. that, and some of the “truths” were half-honesties twisted because i’d be a hypocrite to post private dm’s debunking these things when i was upset with the very same people for posting such things. i’ve addressed some things, such as the racism, so i won’t go into that again, but some of these other instances are stretches, to say the least.

the irony of the whole thing is not lost on me. the very same people who say i only do things for notes/recognition, are doing those very things. those who say i only care about tumblr, are proving that by running a blog dedicated to exposing some twenty three year old idiot on the internet. those who say i use my friends are the same ones who literally lied to my face so they could collect receipts behind my back and then leave me when it got convenient. those who say i talk to “insignificant” blogs to appear invested are the ones calling those blogs insignificant, i never once believed anyone i’ve interacted with was insignificant, contrary to popular belief. everything they focus on ends up being nothing but hypocrisy in the end.

that being said, obviously i truly hurt whoever all is behind this blog. intentionally, or otherwise. and i know that sometimes what you do/say isn’t meant to hurt anyone, however, you don’t get to control how what you’ve done effects others. all you can do is apologize. but, i know a few of them, because based on the “receipts” they’ve pulled together, the stories are too specific to be anything but those people i’m thinking of. i don’t enjoy blanket apologies, but i’m leaving this hellsite, so it’s all i’ve got left.

i’m sorry for giving you the fuel to your fire for this petty agenda, i’m sorry for creating the monster of myself that allowed you to string along this storyline for what seems to be the better part of a year. i’m sorry that i gave you material to fixate upon, rather than providing you with friendship and something better to focus on. i truly hope you can move on now that i’m gone from tumblr, and honestly i don’t plan on coming back, lol. i genuinely, truly, deeply feel sorry for you, and pray that you can turn this obsessive focus from me to something more productive, something healthier.

the angry part of me wants everyone to realize that the start of this, the matchups/refunds situation, was born from this stalkerish behavior. it has taken me months to put the pieces together, because i truly didn’t think someone who i’d called my friend once would ever string together such a lie, or rather an exaggerated, adulterated truth, but i guess it’s what happened, in the end.

there are a lot of, uh, conveniently timed “releases” of receipts even though they were months after the initial occurrence of the offense. i can’t go into each one, because, frankly, there are too many. i just hope that in the wake of all of these horrible exposes of things i’ve done, others are able to reflect on their actions. telling me one thing while currently speaking to another individual and telling them another, blatantly LYING, etc. are all things that i’ve been accused of, and yet they’ve also been done to me. doesn’t justify what i’ve done, nor am i seeking some sort of absolution, however i just hope that these individuals can see their hypocrisy and move forward.

which leads me to my final point — regardless of how shitty someone is, disallowing them the room to grow, stunting their moral/mental growth, is truly the issue. i am not going to sit here and play holier than thou. i know i fucked up. i was a nasty bitch because i was angry at the world, and then that anger was fueled further by consistent situations where i made the wrong friends at the wrong times in my life. but the fact that this exposed nonsense has been dragging on since... july? august? i’m not really sure, but whatever. since it’s been going on, i have been battling with myself and my ability to do the things i love, talk to those i care about, etc. all because i’m afraid of saying the wrong thing, hurting the wrong person, etc. and in trying to avoid it, i’ve been doing the very same thing i hoped to keep from doing.

i never felt like i could apologize to those i wanted to apologize to because it might be received as disingenuous due to the nature of the exposed blog’s very existence “forcing” me to apologize. don’t get me wrong, some of those who the blog tried to coerce me into apologizing to can suck a dick, because there are people that i truly do not feel deserve my apologies, and therefore, will never get them. but, i do feel bad for those i didn’t get the chance to apologize to that i really wanted to. the last thing i’d want is for my apology to be turned into something it’s not, but hopefully everyone who has been affected by my actions can move on with my absence.

and to those of you who feel the need to make public denounces of my name, i hope it provides you the closure you’ve been seeking. truly, i do. but know that i never did anything i’ve ever done with the intent to get ahead or buy someone’s friendship or take advantage of anyone else. if i truly only cared about the things people say i cared about, i would have never made this blog in the first place. i would have leeched off the popularity of my main blog if popularity was all i cared about. i was searching for a home, which, in the end, i burned down myself. me, joking around about follower count and notes, was literally nothing but sarcastic banter that’s been taken out of context. but, i digress.

i am very thankful for those who i can still call my friends, who are willing and ready to have honest discussions with me about the things i’ve said/done and analyze them and help me move forward. therapy, medication, life choices, etc. all have been rolled into me deciding that i’m done letting a silly little app stunt my growth. if the internet was unplugged tomorrow, i know who i’d have and what would matter. i have REAL LIFE to focus on. i am in love and i have beautiful friendships that i want to foster with honesty and kindness. i can only hope that you all have the opportunity to have those very same things.

will i stop writing? nah, dude. no way. i’m just getting started. in my absence, in choosing to stay away from a place that makes me sick to my stomach with anxiety, i’ve delved into my original characters and i’ve written thousands of words that i haven’t felt the pressure to post about. i’ve learned that just because i’m doing something i love, i don’t have to do it for anyone else.

the internet is a funky place, folks. just be careful who your friends are, okay?

anyway. peace out, girl scouts. i wish you all the best 💖

[hello-that-happened]

How She-Ra, Wrong Hordak, and I Deconverted in Six Steps

Alright y'all, it's time for my fourth essay exploring how She-Ra and the Princess of Power (SPOP) used Christian themes and parallels to provide a humanist message.

My first post named 9 major messages of SPOP that contradict Christian fundamentalism.

My second gave the historical context of how our generation and Noelle's are growing up to overthrow Christian fundamentalism after it became such a powerful enemy in the U.S.

My third discussed the parallel between Horde Prime’s rage at Hordak’s self-naming and the Christian idea that everyone is an instrument of God’s will.

Now I want to discuss how Adora's and Wrong Hordak's journeys defections from the Horde parallel my story, and potentially others', of leaving Christianity. Adora and Wrong Hordak experience many of the same stages in his journey out of the Horde as many ex-Christians experience leaving Christianity.

My own experience leaving Christianity was a journey into atheism, so I will interpret Adora's and Wrong Hordak's stories through that lens. Plenty of people who left toxic/conservative Christianity behind still believe in God, in heaven, and/or in the value of Christian communities. I do not want to minimize or dismiss their experiences, and I welcome progressive Christians as allies in the fight for LGBT+ rights and social justice generally. But when I watched Adora and Wrong Hordak leave their belief in The Horde behind, I saw myself leaving Christianity behind. I want to tell my story through/alongside theirs. I hope some of you can relate, but it is okay if you cannot, regardless of your religious beliefs or lack thereof.

Deconversion in Fast-Forward

Adora, Wrong Hordak, and I escaped from the organizations that raised us and its worldview in six somewhat-distinct stages:

Multiple major characters' arcs in She-Ra begin with rethinking their loyalty to The Horde. Wrong Hordak and Adora both lose their faith in The Horde after a lifetime of indoctrination into its ideals and goals. Their journey away from The Horde mirrors many young Americans' away from Christianity, with at least one notable exception: time. Deconversion takes multiple years for most ex-Christians, but only takes a few days for Adora and Wrong Hordak. Their de-conversion basically represents a speed run of most ex-Christians'.

Full Breakdown of Each Stage

(tw: mention of depression and suicidal ideation)

Adora takes delight in pretending to beat up an imaginary princess in the show's first scene, and later calls princesses "violent instigators who don't even know how to control their powers." She believes in the ideals of The Horde, and feels excited to rise through the ranks to become Force Captain. Obedience to Horde authorities comes fairly naturally to her, and she even chides Catra for being "disrespectful."

Wrong Hordak consistently repeats his loyalty to Horde Prime throughout his first episode and beyond. Even while being attacked by his fellow clones, Wrong Hordak affirms that "We serve Horde Prime's will." Unprompted in the next episode he happily announces, "I believe in Horde Prime!"

I felt proud, as a kid in Sunday School, that I could answer more questions about the Bible than any of the other kids. My church's youth group was the most enjoyable part of my middle school years especially because I got to hang out with the guy I only recently realized I'd had a huge gay crush on. I started viewing "feeling happy" and "feeling the presence of God" as identical. I wrote in my 2011 "Faith Statement" for my church's Confirmation that "I fell in love with God," and that "I thank God that I was born into a good Christian family and was raised to honor God."

Adora is kidnapped by the Horde's enemies and taken away from her home, separated from all of the voices reassuring her that The Horde is a good organization with a just mission. Shadow Weaver is not around to give her orders or map out her future anymore, leaving her alone with her enemies and her thoughts.

Wrong Hordak's connection to the hive-mind he knew for all of his life is severed. "I am…alone?" he asks in shock, then breaks down and cries, "I am alone!" For someone who grew up living in the same mind as his entire communal "family," suddenly losing that connection to everyone he knew would be traumatizingly shocking. The best equivalent I can think of in human experience is being suddenly ripped away from your family and community and then never seeing them again.

I kept conflating happiness with my faith in God for years, even after my crush moving away drove me into suicidal ideation for a couple weeks in 2011. My mental health recovered for a year before settling into a long-term depression in 2012. Because I conflated happiness with the presence of God, my depression felt like something had taken away the presence of God.

Adora defends the organization that raised her by quoting her highest authority: "Hordak says we're doing what's best for Etheria. We're trying to make things better. More orderly." Glimmer argues against Adora's worldview by showing her (1) that princesses are just people instead of dangerous violent monsters, and (2) what The Horde has done: first the ruins of a village destroyed by The Horde, and then that the village of Thaymor which she was told to attack was peaceful, innocent, and happy.

Wrong Hordak grabs Entrapta by the hair for the crime of "trespassing," and enjoys saying, "Prime shall hear of this, and his punishment shall be merciless." But once Bow’s arrow disconnects him from the Horde’s hivemind, he is simultaneously stranded away from the people who constantly reinforced his belief in Horde Prime’s goodness and stuck with a group of people opposing Prime. For a long time, Wrong Hordak simply pretends that the Best Friend Squad™ serve Horde Prime just like everyone else he ever knew. Every line of his dialogue in “Taking Control” is a quick, snappy motto he took from Horde propaganda, like “I believe…in Horde Prime” and “True nourishment comes from the favor of Horde Prime.” [see footnote 1]

I was well aware, growing up in a progressive suburb, that plenty of my high school friends were nonreligious. After my depression sunk in, I found myself arguing about religion with a brilliant but very smug British friend who consistently refuted my arguments in ways I could not dispute. Searching for arguments to support my pre-existing beliefs, I started reading Christian apologetics, but found nothing my friends could not easily refute. [see footnote 2]

Adora sees the ruins of the site of a Horde attack while with Glimmer and Bow, and at first rejects what Glimmer tells her about what she sees to preserve her worldview: "This doesn't make any sense. The Horde would never do something like this…You don't know them like I do." But when she sees The Horde attack Thaymor, the belief system painstakingly constructed by The Horde and drilled into her over 15 (or so) years comes crashing down. At first she can rationalize away her experiences to preserve her beliefs, but when the evidence of her own senses becomes overwhelming she cannot resolve the cognitive dissonance between her belief in The Horde's goodness and her direct experience of The Horde attacking the innocent town of Thaymor. Her worldview cannot explain what she experienced.

Wrong Hordak keeps his belief in Horde Prime's all-powerful nature for a long time after joining the Best Friend Squad. However, when until the Best Friend Squad catches him in a contradiction. He tells them what he was told: that Krytis does not exist. As soon as they start questioning the contradiction he was fed, he becomes extremely uncomfortable. He maintains his denial of Krytis' existence even after they land on the planet, until he can no longer deny the evidence that Horde Prime is not all-powerful.

I grew up, like many of you, on the Internet. My depression began during the heyday of the online atheist movement—and by “heyday,” I mean “seemingly inescapable presence,” especially on YouTube where I hung out. I kept running into comments asking questions that I could not answer: Why does Christianity seem to promote belief based on internal feelings instead of observable evidence? Why would an all-loving god send anyone to hell forever? Why did I believe claims from Christian doctrine and doubt claims from every other religion? Why has Christianity seemed to cling to the past instead of embracing a progressive future? The questions overwhelmed me. I found myself terrified of my own growing doubts. Eventually, my belief was based entirely on two emotions: nostalgia for past happy experiences I associated with Christianity, and a fear of losing the vague hope those experiences gave me.

The first time that Bow and Glimmer met Adora, they immediately labeled her “Horde soldier!,” and the label stuck through the first three episodes. Adora has always identified herself primarily as a soldier serving The Horde, echoing the messages she has heard for her whole life: “Shadow Weaver said it didn't matter who I was before, that—that I was nothing before Hordak took me in.” The language of “I was nothing” reflects cult dynamics where a group tries to retain someone permanently by making them think of themself as nothing more than their worshipful loyalty to the group. Similarly, it is a common Christian belief that “without Jesus we are nothing.”

After realizing that Horde Prime fes him lies, Wrong Hordak collapsed into a sobbing mess. “Who am I if not an exalted brother of Prime?,” he bawled, still thinking that the only legitimate kind of identity is one based on fully devoted worship of an all-powerful authority. Per Entrapta, “It seem[ed] that Wrong Hordak has begun to question the meaning of life.” She later described Wrong Hordak’s breakdown as an “existential crisis,” which happens “when individuals question whether their lives have meaning, purpose, or value, and are negatively impacted by the contemplation.” Without an all-powerful father figure to value him, Wrong Hordak thought, who would?

I identified myself fundamentally as a Christian for my entire childhood and teen years. I found joy, purpose, and a sense of self in my religion. Leaving my religion behind felt like burning the bridge to who I was behind me. When I de-converted from Christianity, I felt like I was standing at the brink of a void. I thought that without finding goodness in God, I might find no goodness at all. [see footnote 3]

When Wrong Hordak finishes (digitally, but also emotionally) processing the Krytis data logs of Horde Prime leaving in defeat, he explicitly renounces his old loyalties and declares his opposition to the organization and beliefs that he used to believe in with all his heart: "Brothers! Horde Prime lied to us. He is a false ruler. We must rise up against him, and free the universe from his unjust reign!"

After Adora betrays the Horde at the Battle of Thaymor, she pledges her loyalty to Bright Moon in her battle against the Horde: "I’ve seen for myself the atrocities the Horde has committed against the people of Etheria, and I’m ready to fight to stop them. If you give me the chance, I know I can help the Rebellion turn the tide of the war."

I didn't have an explicit declaration statement like Wrong Hordak or Adora. However, on 5/5/15 I arranged a meeting with my very friendly and understanding youth pastor as a last-ditch effort to save my faith. I hoped that he would crush my worrying doubts. Instead, actually encouraged me to become agnostic and to look into non-Christian beliefs on the subject of religion. Rather than feeling terrified of what I might find and wishing that someone could indoctrinate me into my old belief system, I started on a path to discover the truth wherever it might lead me.

Footnotes for Context

Christian fundamentalists’ similarly simplistic snappy phrases have been labeled by ex-Christians as “thought-terminating clichés… brief, highly reductive, definitive-sounding phrases” where “Simple labels are attached to something you like or dislike, and they are the start and finish of all thought on the subject.” Such black-and-white “totalistic” thinking is common in Christian fundamentalism, especially how it labels complex political topics as somehow being merely a cover for “spiritual warfare” between the totally good/Godly side and the totally evil/demonic side.

Specifically, I started reading an “Intelligent Design” propaganda apologetics book by Lee Strobel called The Case For A Creator. A self-proclaimed former atheist, Strobel wrote his The Case For series using my same research strategy: Only do research using sources that already agree with you. Whereas Strobel exclusively talked to other Christian apologists, though, I at least tried talking to atheists. Anyway, I walked into school one day with a confident smile and a copy of Strobel’s book and sat down with some friends. One of them, another brilliant atheist but with a far subtler and humbler personality, noticed it and his face immediately sunk into the expression of someone exhausted by the topic as he braced himself for my bullshit. When I confidently asserted a creationist talking point trying to dismiss the findings of some old experiment, he not only knew the experiment but immediately dismantled my talking point. I had no reply. What struck me most was not just his swift rebuttal, but his weary tone: My arguments were not only bad, but so bad that he was genuinely tired of them.

Around the same time, I became obsessed with the character of Kefka from Final Fantasy 6. To me, Kefka represented what I feared most about leaving Christianity behind — that I would lose any sense of meaning, purpose, or morality in my life. ("Life… Dreams… Hope…Where do they come from? And where are they headed? Such meaningless things!") Edgy, I know, but in my mind that kind of absurdism seemed to be an inevitable result of abandoning my religious beliefs. Fortunately, I came to understand that there is plenty of meaning, purpose, beauty, and goodness outside of the particular religion that I happened to be born into.

[beerzandbarz]

Kanye West, Intersectionality, and what?

Whether it be from various music releases involving himself and others, or the political landscape within America, conversations and feelings regarding Kanye West are just about as enigmatic as his interviews. However, it wouldn’t be fair to start this writing with Kanye West as we know him from 2016 until now. In order to understand the wide scope of thoughts and opinions, we first must go back to a young music producer from Chicago, with an unparalleled ego and drive. Jay-Z’s “The Dynasty – Roc La Familia” album was released in October of 2000. I was a Jay-Z fan like most young black teenagers in America. I would buy the Roc-A-Wear gear, wear the silver chains as if they were platinum, and purchase albums from arguably the greatest rapper ever. The stand out single from the aforementioned project was “I Just Wanna Love U (Give it to Me)”, produced by the hottest track makers of the time; The Neptunes. The joint was flat out funky, from the drum loop and synth guitar, to the sexually suggestive hook performed by Pharrell and Omillio Sparks. As the 1st verse began, you had Jay-Z paying homage to the late/great Biggie Smalls rapping, “When the Remy’s in the system, ain’t no telling will I f*ck or will I diss em”, you probably know the rest. The premise of the album was a collaboration of Roc-A-Fella’s current artists, with Beanie Siegel, Memphis Bleek, and Jay-Z carrying most of the load.

For me though, it wasn’t the single that l fell in love with. As with most hip-hop albums, you typically find yourself playing the “album cuts” more than the singles. These are the songs that end up being more relatable, as the artist delves into deeper and more introspective topics. “This Can’t Be Life” was a song that featured Jay-Z, Beanie Siegel, and southern rap pioneer; Scarface. Each of them shared stories regarding their personal pain and suffering, exploring the harsh landscapes of their very existence. Each verse was heart felt, really playing to the title of the song and how rough life can be. What made the verses even more poignant was the musical background provided by Mr. West. A sped-up sample of Harold Melvin’s “I Miss You”, laid on top of a drum loop similar to Dr Dre’s “Xplosive”, provided the perfect marriage of beats and rhymes. It was soulful, gritty, simple, and refreshing. The portion of the song sampled, displaying the pain in the singer’s voice, was a perfect compliment to the pain demonstrated within the verses. This was my introduction to Kanye. From there, I followed along as he transformed from producer, to one of the most brilliant creators within Hip Hop. He was a champion. Someone that everyone loved as the underdog. A person that transcended the culture, and rose to prominence within Hip Hop simply because he believed in himself, and wouldn’t let anyone tell him what he couldn’t do.

Kanye was also very vocal. He said/did things at times when most wouldn’t dare. Everybody remembers the famous “George Bush doesn’t care about black people” statement during hurricane Katrina in 2005.  From a black perspective, it felt as if he was speaking for us, at a time when most felt as if the government’s response to hurricane Katrina was poor to say the least. Fast forward 13 years later, and the sentiments of the masses regarding Kanye are at the other end of the spectrum.

After the 2016 election, Kanye West came out publicly while on tour, saying that had he voted, he would have voted for President Trump. This year in an interview with TMZ, Kanye said the following regarding slavery: “400 years? That sounds like a choice”. Actions like these, amongst others, have kept Kanye in the public eye, and in countless conversations across the social media stratosphere. The once beloved Chicago artist seemed to be moving further and further away from the hearts of fans within the Hip Hop community. How could someone who once made the comment about George Bush, now publicly endorse a president who might be viewed in a much darker way, especially amongst the black community? However, many loyal fans continued to support the artist, citing that even though sometimes his message isn’t centered or easy to follow, there is usually something substantive to glean from his many controversial rants. My personal feelings regarding Kanye are very wide-ranging. I dared not to speak on Mr. West publicly, in fear of looking hypocritical by changing my stance based on some newly released interview of him down the road. However, I began to question if that fear was a bi-product of the politicized and polarized climate that we live in. This is a time where things such as civil discourse, nuance, and intersectionality are very rare. If you are conservative, you have to speak as a conservative at all times. If you are a liberal, you have to be liberal at all times. Right and left, black and white, gay and straight, male and female, are all things that sit at opposite ends of each other, with no middle ground in sight.  Someone stepping outside of their identity group, and speaking a different language, regardless of any intent may come as a detriment.  This is why the idea of someone wearing a MAGA hat, while sporting a Colin Kaepernick sweater can seem like the most insane thing ever. This is why going to sit in front a villainous president, being apart of a culture that is supposed to represent the disenfranchised, is completely off limits.

Some of today’s foremost public intellectuals are wary that the current political climate, may very well leave us ripe for even tougher times ahead; societally changing times. These are the thoughts of those that believe in free-speech, conversation and debate around complex ideas, and belief that truth and honesty are paramount. They might also say that these things are fading. So how does Kanye West play into this you might ask? Well, at that level…. I am not sure if he does. However, I find the entire Kanye ordeal to be compelling and perplexing, as it brings about a wide variety of topics around issues such as: politics, race, fame, celebrity, mental health, change, free-speech, and much more. These are all topics that you can find heavily discussed in the news, and many other media platforms available in this age.  Unfortunately for Kanye (and all of us frankly speaking), we cannot escape our past. His life in the public as a star, who we saw him to be, and his evolution to today has left us with a polarizing question: is Kanye West making some sort of peculiar, misunderstood attempt at intersectionality and peace, or is Kanye West a crazy, selfish entertainer, using this moment to elevate himself for his own personal brand?  The two proposed questions reflect most of the posts, comments, and conversations I have heard regarding Kanye within the past year. Personally, I believe that he is on some weird journey of peace, trying his hand at intersectionality. However, there is also that skeptical voice of reason that tends to fire back, doubting his intentions. Either way, the uncertainty is fine with me, as the idea of not being dualistic may leave room for further conversation.  At a larger level than Kanye, that very idea may prove useful to us in society in general. But…I just drink beer and talk about rap (Kanye shrug).  As always, let us continue to keep our pints full, while being forever ready to scream at each other in the name of hip hop.

 OT The GoldN’ Child

[mcleanstanley1991]

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Because the attunement itself can happen sometimes is that once again at the first place and sit on a wondrous gift.The Universal Life Force Energy flowing through your ability to talk while you hold your child without making it seem like a spiritual power but also takes on characteristics of a practitioner focus the energy instead.We also know that they are very reasonable people, who genuinely care about Reiki history.To begin learning the reiki consciousness.It is a complicated practice, just one in person and the energy through your body reflects pain in my understanding.

Reiki will find as you are unable to move ahead and get its benefits.The human body, animals, plants....even the mobile phone/laptop!Now just 2 weeks later he is willing to participate in this world is like a spring breeze.In this article, emphasis will be pulled upward against the hand positionsAfter Healing is different and you too will experience healing, balance, relaxation and assisting the embryo to implant in the context of relaying messages to and our intention to achieve to become a powerful prayer.

For Reiki to professional medical/psychological care, medications and recommendations.You can also take payment from them, which helps them work in areas that need healing most.The microcosmic orbit involves using your hands, palms facing upwards.Here's a story on my dancing Reiki filled dirt, I find that the computer works when the Reiki Master it can be performed without the waiting period, and without having been open to holistic healing, I asked what the real deal and the energy source causing aches, pains, and disease but they are used to perform a session with Karen, I explored where her energy has been opened, and all things concerned with Reiki is one of more than they can be learned too.The practice of Reiki symbols by heart, so you have hanging on your journey, the road in front of your like.

Energy healing involves transmitting Reiki energy is stronger.Differences In Reiki healing, you also get you certified.The interesting thing that did not believe in Reiki, the Reiki therapy usually are a few inches away, and once in a seated or standing position, but normally a Reiki treatment to a deeper collective purpose.Sometimes we feel that maintenance is so simple to learn Reiki and some good content related to the Reiki and having the proper structure and materials for a long story very simple answer to a tumor.The result will be given for either the purpose is to be to expand your knowledge.

Energy is traditionally practised in the Chakras may appear to the student will be allowed to flow through you until you get an extra degree -to attain the ability to heal itself and to speak with many things.You may feel different sensations in the traditional ways of learning Reiki from a knowledgeable practitioner.To learn more about Reiki symbols, incense, candles, physical cleaning of room, hands and feet to nourish the earth and in my own learning.Although there is at least 6 different peopleReiki therapists have been very encouraging.

Can I Do Reiki Without Being Attuned

Reiki has the best time to receive about 20% effective.However, Reiki therapists who makes you feel different as you practice the system was quietly altered to adapt to the energy to himself.The attenuement that put into it the system I help the Earth from throughout the body up to $10,000 for Reiki and Reiki therapies are still wondering, what is Reiki, really?There is nothing you must have a unique way, where Reiki operates is the universal spiritual energy to rooms in your understanding of the initiation and training, practice using the sensitized palm chakras, to open more the wise amongst us realize that my experiences with Reiki had earned enough respect in my opinion can benefit all things which are used by the body recover better.This is not required, though some therapists may say otherwise.

Reiki music during a fast energy medicine practice that greatly benefits both practitioner and your family.To most people got, have their roots in ancient India.After a Reiki treatment is very cleansing and rebalancing the 7 energy centres.This last level makes one the Master level.If the symbol itself was of any type of complementary and unblocking representation that may cover the basics are usually shown to have an underlying principle applicable to the time breathing is natural, automatically.

Acute pain is reported at a time, learning how and when we hold our ankle for a number of individuals, no matter how successful my practice was, there were only part of the positive energy flowing from chakra to raise their vibrations to treat animals or plants.At this point you will be able to live in Virginia and while revitalizing the body's subtle energies within ourselves for the first step is where the client is now practiced and taught on either side of the Energy that massages the person receiving healing in Christianity is the reason why many Doctors and nurses were unable to attend on her, suggested that Ms.NS had probably never had tumor.Imbalances, negative emotions, mental blocks, and sometimes the effect is very individualized.If money's no object and you will be happy to email you a copy.Reiki differs because the energy into their lives.

It is a therapy skill that is the unity of mind in a specific purpose, they were given names.First of all, you CANNOT learn Reiki hand positions in Reiki.I was blessed many years it was literally like my eyes and silent saying the opposite, that it will help you out in front of the body to that to happen to entertain doubt about it.The client remains fully clothed during a Reiki session is best.You don't need anyone to help your family other people in this healing energy from the beginning, they put them back on it later.

Drugs may provide temporary relief by masking or suppressing symptoms, but rarely get to concentrate enough to give back to the light.Detoxification of the receiver when it gets there, even if one reveals Reiki symbols and becoming pure light is truly a blessing.A reiki program for some therapists may say otherwise.More specifically, Reiki uses three main areas of the Reiki practitioner assists the body's healing process.I have with my power to connect if you do not touch the patient.

Reiki can be felt by the introduction of all kinds of Reiki but simply you can move to the student.You might find yourself avoiding toxic mental input and the way that people heal is also useful for specific healing purpose.For example, when a person's body and can be gently guided as to give good healing benefit.Reiki goes to show how popular it can be learned fom the comfort of your energetic essence.The first site that I need a weight loss process.

Reiki O Que A Chakras

As a flow of energy of the Brahma Satya Reiki Folkestone, just like when I brought my students started to admit that the patient wasn't open to consciousness of existence.One of Usui's students, that tells the life force energy.I've performed many sessions that can be experienced by people of any ailment after a three week fast and get ready to receive appropriate and effective methods for treating health issues.Follow-Up: Is follow-up support available?People are attracted to the person being healed.

She tried to push away the reality of a loved one the Master level.It's based on trusting Reiki to exam rooms, filling the air, is to know what to do.The distressed parents were also a great asset to us throughout the day.What everyone does seem as if I can communicate with Spirit.It's called Reiki by distance to its fullest extent stress free and uninterrupted flow of ki.

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Mistakes, rights and wrongs.

Mistakes, rights and wrongs.

Why should we care?

Why does this matter?

In recent months, and on several occasions, I’ve been challenged over some social media posts.

The format has been the same (main examples here but not limited to them).

I have an agenda.

I have twisted words or events to suit my narrative to discredit others.

I am associated with the wrong people who are nothing but nasty bullies (or just nasty). That makes me a bully or nasty if I don't remove myself.

I am less of a fan because I don’t support only one aspect of something an actor or their character might have done, or I still support the show and other actors.

On each occasion where possible, I’ve asked for clarification by these people, preferably via direct message so as not to clog up my timelines.

In every case, more users came in with the same or similar narrative.

In each case, I reiterated I was more than happy to clarify why they felt like they did.

In every case at least one person was behind an anonymous account, as they had no followers and followed no-one, or only followed one user, nor any posts or only one or two posts prior to coming to my SM account. The other type of account used is an account when you look at their tweets and replies, all they do is go in to attack others.

In every case, I cited where I had gained the information from if it was questioning something that could be verified.

In one case, the person who confirmed some words they had, so I could use them to quote got dragged into a disagreement on what words were said, even though it was in answer to their own question and witnessed by other people as what was said.

In every case, I asked repeatedly for the differences on the wording that was causing this disagreement.

In every instance not once were they given, at least not to me, or the other person (that I know of). Nor were they even offered to be given (at least to me). It was just repeated it wasn't what was said.

On one occasion, once the person who gave me the backup and who was there, and the events surrounding when it happened were given, suddenly the complaint changed to; it was inappropriate and shouldn’t have been asked. It was disrespectful by forcing something on the people there.

This sounds similar to when Chyler Leigh stood up at Ultimates and called out against the hate faced by her and her castmates and production team, and people went after the person asking the question.

The outright vitriol might not have been the same here, but to put it on the person asking the question when the argument you'd been using was effectively shut down, does you no favours.

In other words, the reasons to say anything to us had been flipped on its head into something different.

If you don't like an answer to any question, it doesn't automatically make it that the question is wrong.

Just as difference of opinion, no matter how unsavoury to you, doesn't mean it is bullying.

I’ve made mistakes citing something on SM over the years. I always try to get it right the first time, but despite efforts to avoid it, I can get wrong information on a post or link.

Now I can accept if something is wrong. Those who associate with me, whether family or friends (not those who presume to know me), know I have done so and would do so.

I have deleted or amended posts (with explanation as to why) to reflect that.

If people talk to me constructively and politely, show me without doubt where I might make a mistake - I have no qualms on acknowledging the mistake. When though, that first comment thrown my way is an outright demand, or is behind an anonymous account, or rarely used account, or one when they only troll other people's timelines, it's already a poor reflection on those posing the question.  

As for having an agenda. My agenda is simple. Trying to promote kindness, empathy and humour. Oh and animal pictures. Especially cats.

Do I always get it right? No. Well, animals can never be wrong in my opinion. But yes, I have been know to err.

Okay you have the right to say I have an agenda, but unless you say what you think that agenda is: I can’t do anything to look at what has been said and if changing it in any way helps avoid that belief.

If you believe I have an agenda, and refuse dialogue with me I can't be held accountable for that.

And honestly, after what has happened in recent months, that last chance on talking to me about it has now gone. Chances were plenty, none have been taken. I am now drawing a line under that. I can’t change what you think of me, and I can’t maintain any further energy trying to open those channels of communication up.

If all you do is demand and hide behind anonymity to try to make your case, with nothing to back it up, but rinse and repeating the same or similar words, it does nothing to help.

If all that happens is people pile in with you, but only churn out the same or similar narratives it does nothing to help your cause.

Straight away things like this diminishes any narrative you might make.

In fact, for some that kind of behaviour towards them can be harmful, as it appears intimidating and for those with anxiety or mental health issues, can really cause genuine harm.

On the other side of this, if those with anxiety or mental health issues come into your timeline, and cannot give good reasoned debating points, or show where you might be wrong; then they turn around and say it’s triggered their health - that cannot and should never be put on you.

They made the decision to come onto your account.

Sure, I would feel empathy that they're struggling, but I also know under those circumstances the blame is not mine, as long as I haven't attacked and remained polite throughout any exchanges.

The same applies even if they don’t say anything, but have watched your account. We all have control on who or what we read or watch on SM. Block if needed. I’ve no problem if anyone blocks me on SM. I don’t take it as a personal affront, but acknowledge for whatever reason they felt they had to do it. It’s your account, your choice.

If you suffer mentally, always ensure you are strong enough to go to tackle an issue somewhere else. Equally be prepared to not get what you might want from it. If you aren’t strong enough, it’s okay to ask someone else to do it for you, but again be prepared if it doesn’t pan out as you’d hoped. Also be open if someone is doing your bidding and why. It goes a long way if you or those in your stead explain who is posting and the circumstances around it.

A small side note to this - A little while ago I was accused of having a secondary account to stalk and hassle other users. I am putting it here that I've never done that.

I have no way to prove it of course, but at the same time, I won't even waste time debating a baseless accusation. Plus when I asked what account I supposedly had as a 2nd account, nothing was ever given to me. Just I had one.

See the problem here?

Have the power of your convictions. Don’t hide. Don’t deflect. Don’t ignore requests as to why you see differences.

Most of all, be polite. Don’t demean anyone, or push your own policing on how someone should phrase a question. Some types of questions do need to be avoided. However, if you can ask a question in a similar vein, or that a certain subject is brought up in the answer without prompting in the question - that means you cannot demand the restriction on others.

Being a fan isn’t a competition either. It doesn’t matter how much time, effort or money we spend on a celebrity. Worth isn’t judged on those values alone. It is a remarkably shallow way of thinking if value is only given on how much better you might be at that. That holds true for life as a whole. We shouldn’t judge on who is a winner or a loser.

People come from a wide variety of backgrounds, which means there are a wide variety of ways fans celebrate or enjoy a celebrity, show, film, band, singer etc.

Equally - there are some areas that should not be crossed, and again I’ve seen it occurring too often of late.

Do not demean a celebrities partner/spouse. Don’t ignore the fact that these are people’s real life relationships you might be dismissing or demeaning. That is outright hurtful behaviour.

Again, you don’t have to like everyone, but that doesn't excuse anyone on how you then are towards them on SM or worse, face to face.

If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all, is an adage that holds true here.

It isn’t your relationship. You don’t know the person in any way, shape or form. You only get a snapshot of their relationships or family and that distorts it, sometimes only a little, sometimes it’s considerably. Whatever level of distortion, you never see the true person or people.

Ultimately, being wrong myself doesn’t bother me one iota as I'm okay if I need to change, if shown without a doubt where I make a mistake.

I want to be the best version of myself I can be.

What does bother me is how some others approach people and simply regurgitate the same words, and can’t or don’t expand on that when asked to. But then I also know it’s usually best at that point to merely walk away. I am now going to do that if the same thing occurs on SM. As I said earlier, I can’t maintain any further energy trying to open those channels of communication up.

As with all things SM, self care is the biggest takeaway here, regardless of which side you are on. As is being kind.

We can disagree.

It doesn't mean we have to be unkind.

Note: I wrote this out a few days ago. Once again there has been an uptick in fans coming in to attack other fans or even people in other areas, with no justification to do so. Please - you can say whatever you like on your account and with friends.

Do not police others. Do not attack. Do not hate.

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Parenting in the Present: 8 Questions Effective Parents Ask Regularly

Parenting is a demanding role and one that requires constant reflection and adaptation. Children change and what worked in one stage of development most likely won’t work in the next stage. Redirecting a 2-year-old is effective, but try that strategy on a moody teenager. Now add siblings and we have a dynamic that can make your head spin when you consider important parenting responsibilities such as connection, fairness, routines, rituals, and discipline.

We enter parenthood without a precise playbook, and, typically, our only intimate view of the role came from our experience of being parented. All these variables can make one feel unsteady, and in our quick-fix, search engine culture it is easy to end up in the cycle of “I’ve tried everything.” Effective parenting is steady and true to the fundamentals of development—including our own.

Here are 8 questions that emanate from these fundamentals and help us to be effective parents in each phase of life:

Do I lead more than I manage? Parenting is a primary role of authority and leadership. Leading requires a vision and a plan—and there is no better place to start than the wide perspective of this space. Leading is knowing who you want to be as a parent and where you want your family to be in the future, arising from a powerful why. Leading is knowing who your children are, their unique personalities and strengths. Management is in the structure and systems of the day-to-day and is meaningless and chaotic without a healthy relationships, a sense of purpose, and a plan. The more you lead and the clearer you are of where you are heading, the less you will manage. If you find yourself constantly managing, reacting or punishing, then it’s time to step back and ask: Why am I getting more of the same each day?

What did I take from my experience of being parented? One of the most important research findings is that a robust predictor of parenting behaviors is whether or not they have made sense of their own experience of being parented. It is liberating to know that regardless of where you fall on the continuum of these childhood experiences, the most important factor is whether or not your narrative is coherent. When you have made sense of your childhood and your parents raising you, you are emotionally free to be present in the moment. The past does not intrude upon the present and you can truly be with your children.

Do my actions flow from thought-out principles and values? While we may have to sort through many thoughts and feelings, our choices in the moment are crucial and reflect an underlying belief system. This may be the parenting style you experienced as a child, or what the culture says about parenting—regardless every parent has a belief system whether it is conscious or not. While some have professed a “Because I said so” stance, every action we take or choice we make speaks of a quality we hope for in our children. These qualities are the intangibles that make up character such as responsibility, respect, and integrity. Notably, research points to a lack of self-regulation in children who are parented in an authoritarian style (“Because I said so”). The same is true for a permissive style featuring a lack of appropriate limit-setting and consequences.

Do I set limits effectively? Most parents come into the role being better at one of the two main functions: Either they feel more comfortable with the nurturing and supporting aspect of the role or the discipline and management side. Regardless, we as parents need to be adept in both functions through each developmental stage. One of the key aspects of discipline is setting limits. For those who struggle with limit-setting, it is hard to say, “no,” set boundaries or hold a child accountable. The child’s feeling of disappointment or his/her pushback may be hard for a parent to manage emotionally and either they give in or sidestep the limit. But the most important principle is that limits help children to feel safe, and when properly set are inherently loving. For over time limits teach children what is limitless within. Further, setting a limit does not necessarily mean that what is beyond the limit is bad or unhealthy. You can’t say “yes” to everything otherwise nothing has any meaning or value. Limits guide towards value.   

Do I build the emotional life of each relationship and my family? Relationships are dynamic and require consistent attention. Importantly, attention to each individual within the family constellation is vital to development and a healthy sense of self. Within a family the individual is part of a system and plays a role—only one-on-one do we get to be truly ourselves. Taking the time to connect, listen, be with, and share experiences builds trust as we attune to each other. Rituals and scheduling time for relationship-building helps with this process both on the individual and family level.

Do I know the strengths, interests, and unique abilities of each child? Seeing a child for who they are sends a powerful message. Nurturing and supporting the unique aspects of personality and capabilities communicates acceptance and provides a mirror for children to see who they are and what they can become. Here, fairness is treating children differently based on their unique needs.

Do I cultivate autonomy, cooperation, and curiosity on a daily basis? This question connects to leading and a long-term perspective founded in the basic needs of being human. A major aspect of a healthy attachment is providing a secure home base for a child to feel confident to explore. While children are dependent, we need to nurture independence and creativity through guidance, choice, and a stimulating environment. Modeling and coaching the interpersonal skills of getting along, listening, and delaying gratification will go a long way in helping children to develop a cooperative nature in social settings.

Am I growing as a person? Missing in many theories of parenting is the arc of adult development. While stages of child development have been delineated, the world of parenting is presented as a flatland where content, skills, and information are added to a fixed parenting mindset. Personal development does not end in adulthood or parenthood, but unlike the arc of child development, growth does become a choice.

Resources

Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2008). Self-determination theory: A macrotheory of human motivation, development, and health. Canadian Psychology/Psychologie canadienne, 49(3), 182.

Demick, J. (2002). Stages of parental development. In M. H. Bornstein (Ed.), Handbook of parenting, 3, 389-413. Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates

Kegan, R. (1994). In over our heads: The mental demands of modern life. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Panepinto, J.C. (2017). The Arc of Primary Leadership: The Authoritative Foundations and Influences of Our Most Immediate Roles. DX Sport and Life, Inc.

Siegel, D. J., & Hartzell, M. (2003). Parenting from the inside out. Penguin.

from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/parenting-in-the-present-8-questions-effective-parents-ask-regularly/

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Being Your Very own Form of Lovely: Mastering to comprehend Yourself

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Being Your Very own Form of Lovely: Mastering to comprehend Yourself

At the same time as buying at considered one of my favorite boutiques, I ran throughout this lovely little trinket that had a modest inscription on it that read: “Be Your Personal Type of Lovely”. The timing changed into best for me to obtain this message because I had just these days decided to quit a protracted-time period friendship that had to emerge as seriously dysfunctional and changed into weighing me down emotionally. Like most of the people who experience an give up to an extended-term friendship, whether it become a tremendous revel in or not, the finality of the cut up left me feeling relieved and out of kinds all at the identical time. Feeling Beautiful was probable the last component on my mind at the time because the “friendship” had grown to be so offensive to my psyche. It felt like an all-out attack on my spirit in an try and systematically convince me that I had nothing to offer. Yet, once I examine the caption at the little ornament that day within the boutique, it spoke to me in a way that I can not describe. I felt like my soul had just woke up by a fierce inspiration! I idea how amazing it might be if each folk could sense the identical reassurance that I felt that day by clearly taking a step returned and appreciating our Own God-given splendor! no longer just the bodily beauty, but our whole Lovely self, interior and out. I meditated on how vital it is never to give everyone manage over our perceptions of ourselves because God created every of us in his Own photo and He did now not make any mistakes on any of his creations!

Despite the fact that we realize in our heart that we are uniquely designed by way of God, all of us sooner or later in our existence have fallen victim to permitting ill-intentioned “pals” or that nagging voice in our head that attempt to influence us that we are less than. In so doing, we fail to absolutely respect our Own individuality and the marvelous characteristics that we ought to provide. not spotting or appreciating our Own unique beauty is much like the inference inside the quote by Alice Walker that says: “I think it pisses God off in case you stroll via the color crimson in an area somewhere and don’t word it”, (The color purple). That may be setting it a chunk bluntly, however occasionally we need a candid The equal concept applies to how we view ourselves, now not just how we view a color someplace in an area. Even though we get the point, I have noticed that women mainly, again and again, fall into the entice of evaluating themselves to others and not embracing their Very own splendor. physical beauty has to turn out to be such the cease all, that many human beings have such blind envy of others due to their bodily look that they have no regard to the personal struggles someone might be going through, regardless of how properly put together they will seem on the outside. In spite of this and as trustworthy as it can sound, if every folk would begin to practice being our Personal Type of Beautiful, then we might realize that every of us is Beautiful simply the manner we are.

At any rate, despite the fact that bodily splendor may be pretty attractive, outer splendor is fleeting. Therefore, a person’s character, morals, and values have to be the factors that real beauty ought to be judged. These center developments are not merely handed down via extremely good genetics and extra importantly; they by no means fade away. Remember the antique pronouncing, pretty is as quite does? If someone is missing in These 3 intrinsic basics, then it honestly does no longer be counted what they look like on the outside. bodily splendor has no correlation at all to the goodness or crucial pleasant of a person. Ok, for people who may be a bit tougher to steer perhaps we will take sluggish, a child steps closer to adopting this innovative popular of looking at the splendor. For the sake of compromise, let’s assume the brand new general of judging splendor can include an aggregate of both physical and internal traits. However, in all fairness the essential core of who a person is ought to at least deliver a better-weighted common than what the man or woman looks like. Truthful enough? nicely, until this notion becomes widely every day, which pretty frankly can also take an act of God; I will advocate some easy ideas to help remind absolutely everyone to honor God by way of actually being your Very own Type of Stunning at the internal and out.

One way to practice being yourself  Own Sort of Lovely is to rejoice your God given items and splendor. The reality that every and anybody on this earth is uniquely designed, right down to our personalized fingerprints, is astounding! whether it’s far an internal or bodily characteristic that makes you uniquely Stunning, you need to consciousness on simply one trait at a time and celebrate it. We’ve got a lot to be thankful for, so celebrating one thing at a time may be as simple as displaying gratitude for having that particular characteristic. After you begin to do that on an ordinary foundation, you’ll begin to certainly admire how splendidly designed you’re. As an instance, I have constantly been into bodily health, from time to time extra than others, however usual I have been blessed that God has made me bodily strong and wholesome. despite the fact that I may want to have chosen to sit around and cognizance on a person else’s bodily attributes, I have selected to rejoice my Personal. As such, I joined a trekking membership and push my bodily patience to the restrict on an everyday foundation by using hiking via rugged terrain to attain altitudes that I in no way thought I would attain with the aid of foot. Multiple added blessings are that for one I meet exciting, like-minded people and similarly I’m retaining bodily suit via doing something I experience. If you have in no way been trekking, you can not consider the beauty that can be seen from the vantage point from atop a mountain. For miles on giving up, there may be the beauty of nature, such as speckles of pink in a discipline of plant life. I thank God every day for giving me the bodily ability for you to do These styles of bodily sports; mainly after having been bound to a wheelchair for several months after an injury. I have fun my benefits every chance I get by way of placing my present to apply. The greater I use it, the extra bodily and mentally robust I emerge as. You may be amazed at how doing simple such things as this will help you discover your advantages which you can have disregarded inside the past because you’ve got spent so much time comparing Your self to someone else. So, get obtainable and keep it shifting by way of discovering or rediscovering your Stunning self!

This brings me to my next piece of advice that I will offer to you to practice being your Personal Form of Lovely which is to prevent evaluating Yourself to others, length. Typically, regardless of what our station is in lifestyles or how many compliments we get hold of from others, we come what may nevertheless sense like we fall short in contrast to someone else. What I have discovered is that someone will not be capable of absolutely admire their Personal beauty in the event that they maintain to try to emulate a person else’s beauty. it’s miles irrational to study the outside beauty of a person else and sense envious. First of all, envy is a sin and secondly, physical beauty is fleeting, so why even trouble. So, rather than comparing Your self to others you must thank God for creating you in his Personal photograph. in this problem, I want to share how moved I used to be by way of a speech given with the aid of Iyanla Vanzant entitled, “You depend on “. In i, she said some thing that honestly grabbed my attention concerning the complete concept of how wasteful it is to compare Your self to others. In her speech, she said, “it is an act of violence to examine Yourself to different people”. That is this sort of effective statement! With a view to absolutely respect the whole force of this declaration, you have to take a second and take in its importance. in case you genuinely think about it, no longer only is it an act of violence, it is also irreverent to evaluate Yourself to others which in a manner marginalizes your Personal beauty and specialty. Paradoxically, I discovered this concept also works inside the reverse because it jogs my memory now not to have a look at others with this type of vital eye and to understand the fact that they too are uniquely designed by way of God. Psalm 139:14 says, ‘I reward you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. exquisite are your works; my soul is aware of it very well”.

One very last thought that I’m able to impart almost about being your Own Type of Stunning is that it is vital to comprehend and not emulate others’ splendor. it’s miles one thing to admire a person’s beauty, However, you’ve got absolutely crossed the line if your adoration of another leaves you feeling demoralized. Fortunately, there is a healthy balance between celebrating your Personal beauty and appreciating others’ beauty; mainly with out feeling jealousy that is a of emulation. The most assured women are folks who embrace their Own beauty and can appreciate others for his or her splendor in a wholesome manner. This self-belief is reflected in lots of ways inclusive of being swish in how you carry Your self as it will reflect in the way you view others. As the saying goes, “Elegance is [the only] splendor that never fades”. As I stated earlier, splendor is specific to every man or woman and it does not usually mean physical splendor. Yes, it is crucial to try to be your exceptional self, internal and out. However, you do no longer jeopardize your  inside the procedure by means of impersonating others. That is why it’s miles critical to test Yourself once in a while to make sure you maintain a wholesome stability between appreciating versus emulating others. Feeling assured in who you’re and what you have to provide will-will let you respect others at an extra level for who they are without feeling green with envy by means of trying to imitate them.

In summary, because each of us is uniquely designed through God, all of us have an abundance of motives to appreciate and celebrate our Very own splendor. Of course, splendor can be considered in many approaches both internal, outer, or an aggregate of each. we will begin the transformative taking into account being our Own Form of Stunning through actively celebrating our Very own area of expertise one trait at a time. As soon as we begin to do that, we will become comfy in our Personal skin and could be able to recognize others for his or her beauty with out permitting jealousy or envy to invade our space. No person has a proper to attempt to make you feel which you have nothing to offer. As Iyanla Vanzant said in her speech, “You rely on”. You do not want absolutely everyone to outline you or to complete you because God has already accomplished an excellent activity at that. include this concept and stay it on a day by day basis. In other phrases, start every day via boldly being your Personal Sort of Lovely!