#my hard line isn't something you've ever gone near in your writing or other posts

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♚ : What’s something you just can’t stand and will unfollow someone over? (taking notes so i never fuck up lmao)

Monday Malarkey || accepting

Untagged sexual/intimate content - it really is russian roulette with me, where some days i can react to seeing it unexpectedly just fine, and others i'm sent spiraling. Untagged images are worse than writing, too. Hard note in that high degrees of platonic, romantic, or sexual intimacy also trips the trigger - not just blatant sexual nsfw. It literally can be as bad as 'seeing people holding hands' if i'm on a really, really bad day.

Chances are I wouldn't have followed in the first place if i thought there was a chance that i might get bombarded with near-naked ladies (or men), or images with obviously sexual proportions or intention - at least if i thought it might happen in quick succession with no proper tag filtering system. The blacklist is not an option for me, it is crucial to keeping my head on straight.

And believe me, it's not as if i can't just follow anyone who posts nsfw content either - i AM the outlier who can't handle completely normal things for the rest of humanity half the time, and who needs to handle it with an iron grip. And trust me, even after realizing what the trigger was, it was NIGH IMPOSSIBLE to avoid all the triplines for it, even in my daily irl media consumption and interaction with other people. Humans are sexual. People who are comfortable with and can handle sexual content more easily do not realize HOW sexual their society actually is, or how much of it is geared towards romantic or sexual intimacy.

It is literally inescapable, so i've had to come to terms with my trigger and figure out the best way to work around it. If I can't beat it, then i need to get to a place where i'm comfortable with it and in control when i do see it. Needless to say, it was a hellish rollercoaster these past 10 or so years i've been on tumblr without fully realizing exactly what actually tripped that trigger, because half the time it felt like trying to navigate a minefield where the owner didn't even know where the mines were buried.

That being said, sharing those images at all or writing that sort of thing is not a hard no - it's just that i need to be in total control of when and where i see it. It's not a squick, some days i CAN handle seeing it perfectly fine. It's just when i'm in a bad way, and i have no control over when that might be. I can and will follow folks who post nsfw/intimate content, so long as i feel comfortable with their approach toward said content and can take measures to control when it physically appears in my line of sight. A mere tag to toggle does absolute wonders.

Now, you i can't ever see having that issue with, nor do i think you've ever actually tripped that flag. For as long as i've known you, though you aren't against tackling darker or nsfw content, you approach such content with a level head, treating it responsibility and sensibly for what that content matter is. So the risk of you tripping said trigger is actually extremely low.

But yes, the most likely scenario where i feel i need to unfollow someone immediately, is because they post content and create/approach it in a way that poses a legitimate mental health risk to me. My health and mental well-being is my top priority and comes before my desire to write with folks, so i can and will curate who i follow accordingly if i feel it necessary.

secondary 'will unfollow in a heartbeat', on a related topic: being super, SUPER vocal and possibly downright hostile in either direction regarding dark or nsfw content matter (of any degree - light-hearted, darker, uncomfortable, etc). Just because you WON'T write content of specific NSFW varieties doesn't mean you aren't safe from being unfollowed by me, because that's still putting content of that nature, even if only in reference, on my dash and where i might see it and/or be reminded of it. So uh... yeah. I will at times also unfollow because said content matter is being handled as a literal lit firecracker being held with bare hands, and thus isn’t being handled safely or responsibly.

My tolerance for irresponsible approach of nsfw subject matter is 0.