#my caption is said in a joking manner but i am also very genuine. i dont do it often bc my brain is so small and so tired but :] homedstuck

[sundrykitsch]

serious character analysis

[mirandalinotto]

I am getting so annoyed at Miranda’s fans on Instagram making videos essentially saying she is bi and tagging her husband and sometimes daughter in the videos. Like I get that she’s an ally and I want to be an ally too but putting a label on someone else’s sexuality without their consent (or even input) totally crosses the line for me.

There are a lot of elements to this. I’ll have to address them in parts.

First, I think you're completely entitled to feel like fans are crossing a line with how they're tagging Miranda's husband and daughter in videos, especially if those videos are labeling Miranda with a sexuality that she has not given herself. In general, speculating about someone's sexuality tends to be in incredibly poor taste, and can even be dangerous in certain situations. Miranda seems not to mind playing sapphic characters, and has said that she could fall in love with a woman, and even, in a hypothetical situation, said that she would date Lilith out of any other character from the show... all of which I take to mean that she's romantically attracted to women as well as men. Nevertheless, she's never said "I am bisexual," and so we ought not to put words or identities on her that she doesn't use herself.

That being said, it seems like you're saying (and correct me if I'm wrong) that your desire to be an ally to the queer community hinges entirely on the people within that community behaving in a manner you deem appropriate, which makes me a little worried. In every community there are going to be people who do and say things that you don't agree with, and I would just urge you not to let your ally-ship depend solely on "good behavior." I may not agree with what these fans are doing, but I wouldn't make a judgment about the queer community as a whole from it.

Which brings me to my next point. In my humble opinion, people need to stop tagging Peter O’Brien in every single edit and post they ever make of Miranda, especially the Madam Spellman ones that have nothing to do with him. I know these fans are desperate for attention, and Peter is pretty consistent with commenting on things that he’s tagged in, but if a post has nothing to do with him, it really bothers me that people see no issue with spamming him with notifications that are sometimes posts that are actively shipping his wife (in real life, not even fiction) with another person.

I saw one post where some bystander genuinely thought that Michelle and Miranda were dating, asking “what happened between them?” and people answered it by saying “nothing—that’s the point” and even, “we suspect something did happen but they don’t confirm it.” I know I will continue to get hate for saying what I’m about to say, but I’ve gotten messages saying I should commit suicide from this people, so I don’t even give a fuck anymore.

Fans on Instagram and Twitter seem to think it’s okay to joke about Miranda and Michelle dating in real life, and point to Michelle and Miranda’s own captions/comments to justify what they’re doing, but what I have to say is this: if you are actively pushing the narrative that something might’ve happened in real life between Michelle and Miranda, you need to fucking stop. You think it’s all harmless fun, but it’s not—especially when people are constantly tagging Peter in these posts. You may have a perception of Peter that includes him being a good sport who's okay with people shipping his wife with someone else in real life, but Peter also has a history of extreme jealousy, and was very controlling of his first wife, Joanna Riding, (allegedly—from her own words, not tabloids or anything), so it really freaks me out that people are constantly tagging Peter in things that are outwardly implying Miranda is cheating on him with Michelle. Just... don't.

My advice, anon, would be to limit your time on instagram, if seeing these things distresses or annoys you. We can't control what other people do. I've taken steps myself to limit my fandom presence on instagram and twitter, for my own sanity, for this very reason.