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updates 2k18™

hi! i hope 2018 has been treating all of you well so far. ♥ just wanted to drop a few things that have been going on/update on some things that will pertain to this blog this year.

I’ve gained a lot of new followers recently (which i’m not sure why/how but its always appreciated) but I wanted to bring attention to this page just in case it were missed. I’d appreciate reading it if you haven’t already & blocking/tagging/or unfollowing where you see fit. Thanks!

Long post, short, I’m not going to be around here as often anymore! Well, at least that’s my plan. This year I really plan on focusing on my art, developing a style, and working to see it improve. That means being online less and keeping my head down yelling in my sketchbooks more.

DOES THAT MEAN YOU’RE QUITTING ROLEPLAY? No! I’ve been using it as an escapism for way too long to just drop it cold turkey. But it has finally become a second hand interest of mine than what i’d rather be doing 25/8. I’m also no longer interested in starting new plots, finding new partners, picking up new characters etc. (I don’t think i’d want to anyways bc the RPC has really deteriorated from my style) So unless you’re a close friend or current partner please don’t ask to plot. because it’s hard for me to say no and it puts me in a really awkward spot

SOOOO YOU’RE DROPPING YOUR PLOTS...? No, i’m not doing that either. I’m really happy with the ones I have left, active or not and I intend to continue to keep replying and see them through. At a slower pace than before, sure, (”What’s new” so I hear my partners say) but still with as much love as the day I picked them up. The ones that have yet to start I still am very devoted to as well. Truthfully, the plots I have now are the ones I can see myself having permanently until I really do feel like i’m “done” with roleplaying. So if all of those plots drop...then yeah, i’m Freed™.

THIS BLOG IS GOING INACTIVE? Nope! I love this blog, it’s home, and I always have it logged in via mobile app. Plus I still need a place to log my dumb PS4 adventures, yell about my faves, and do my annual E3 celebration. So you can still IM me if you need to get in touch with me. Just sometimes you’ll catch me online rapid posting if I have some free time and other times this blog might go days without a post. As much as I love tagging inspo for my characters and ships it’s just not my priority to keep up with it constantly anymore. I’ll still have a smaller queue of things though. 

If anyone wants to contact me faster than Tumblr IM I do have a Discord i’m willing to share if you’d like. Or if we’re really close I don’t mind sharing my number to text. And if anyone’s interested in following what I get up to on my art blog it’s right oveeerrr here.

I think that’s it for the most part. I can’t think of anything more for now. Except your usual ‘hey I post lots of personal and video games now’ PSA. I made this update moreso for anyone who visits my blog often and notice I go inactive here and get concerned. OTHER THAN THAT, I hope ya’ll have a good as heck year full of new adventures, new friends, new muses, and lots of fun because WE ALL DESERVE ONE GOOD YEAR! 

Happiest roleplaying! ♥ 

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Hi, I'm the anon who asked your thoughts on mpreg a while ago. I wanted to say thank you for your thoughtful reply. I had never considered that perspective. It's making me see a/b/o in a new light. thank you for answering my asshole ask.

Referring to this ask from a while back!

Imho, it wasn’t an asshole ask! You were curious about something, and I had some thoughts about that something, and that’s how things like that work. :D

I think about the hate that a/b/o gets a lot, actually. Not that you gave it any hate, you just didn’t like one of the tropes that’s also found outside of a/b/o? And that’s perfectly understandable. Some people just don’t like some tropes, that’s how likes/dislikes work.

I recently saw an author I respect in m/m romance saying that if he had to remove a word from the dictionary, he’d remove the word ‘shifter’ and basically destroy the a/b/o genre. Saying it knowing I’d see it, and knowing I’d written a shifter / a/b/o book and intended to write more. It was just that acceptable for him to say that, even I’m expected to be self-deprecating towards something I write and enjoy and enjoy precisely because it is so potentially queer and subversive.

It is, in some ways, really trendy to hate on a/b/o if you don’t read it. In the same way it’s also really trendy to hate on mpreg and it also used to be trendy to hate on Mary Sues. There’s always something, that it’s okay for the bulk of fandom to go ‘well I like this, but at least I’m not one of those people who likes Mary Sues / mpreg / a/b/o / superwholock / reader insert fics’ etc. In time, it’ll change, in ten years it’ll be other things.

Over time, inevitably, all those things get talked about and discussed and it’s usually to draw attention to where something subversive is happening and making people uncomfortable. Sometimes I come out of those discussions still hating the tropes (like reader insert fics are a huge no for me. I don’t want to insert myself into anything that boldly, thanks, and I admire people who can? But it turns me off bigtime), but I usually understand them a bit better.

But yeah, like, that’s how we work as people, and how fandom works, there’s going to be some things that turn us off, and sometimes, that thing will be cool to deride and disregard, and sometimes, that thing we collectively don’t like, is actually kind of doing amazing work for the people who secretly like it and won’t say so, because they’ll get insulted for it.

Anyway, your ask wasn’t actually assholish at all. You felt the trope was heteronormative and it can be (as, I think, any m/m or same sex or queer romance will be, because we only have heteronormative paths to guide us, so we’re either matching them, or working against them, which always draws attention to them, even when we’re queering them or they’re queer by default - like, two dudes fucking is pretty queer, but they’ll still get asked ‘which one of you is the woman and which one of you is the man’ - things will still be seen as heteronormative even when they’re not). Mary Sue fics can be badly written. A/b/o can be lazy and misogynistic like all get out. Superwholock can be kind of icky sometimes. Reader insert fics are sometimes so indulgent that they’re impossible to read without feeling like you’re getting a first row seat to your author’s kinks and deepest desires.

But you can say many things critical about even the most wildly celebrated tropes in fandom. Fluff can be empty and vapid. Hurt/comfort can sometimes display how desperately an author needs therapy or a goddamn support network. Angst can sometimes be gratuitous and excessive and gross. Like, coffeeshop AUs can be boring and lazy. And so on and so forth. And they can all be heteronormative, misogynistic (not to mention racist, ableist, bigoted etc. depending on what the author is bringing into their stories). Even Fae Tales is too Eurocentric and white, and celebrates the monarchy a little too much, and well, I could keep going but I want yall to keep reading my shit. :D

I kind of love that about things though? I love that there are things you can love more than anything. More than anything ever. And someone else can just be like ‘eh that thing can do this gross thing though.’ You can say it about anything. Everything is problematic. It’s great. Once you know that, you can explore it, explore why, and choose to do it differently or even choose to engage with it in the same way as before, but a bit more discerningly. I’m still not gonna go out of my way to read mpreg/pregnancy, even if I think it can do great work. It’s just not for me.

tl;dr - I liked your ask? I really did.