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5 Rules that will Change your Future

“Every time you have to speak, you are auditioning for leadership.”

-James Humes-

Here are FIVE rules that I follow, and I would like to share them with those aspiring to be better leaders.

1. Go after the things that you want-

There are two ways to see the world, some people see the things they want, and some people see the things that prevent them from getting the things they want. You don’t have to do it the way how everybody else has done it, but you can do it your way. You can break the rules, but you cannot be the obstacle to somebody else getting what they want, and that is rule number one.

2. Take Accountability for your actions-

You can take all the credit in the world for all the things you do right, as long as you take responsibility for the things you do wrong. You get to take credit when you also take responsibility. We need to realize that sometimes we are the problem. We can be a reason for something that isn’t working well, and we need to take accountability for it. I follow a simple mantra.

‘’if you want to become unique, defeat fear and become the captain of the problem.’’

- Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam-

3. Take care of each other-

When you want to be an aspiring leader, it is not about how well you speak, how smart you are, or how knowledgeable you are. If you aspire to be a leader, you need to be good at taking care of the people around you. You cannot accomplish everything on your own. The world is too strenuous and dangerous for you to think that you can do these things alone. Whom are you going to ask for help, and when are you going to accept it when offered, is an important skill to learn. Learn by practicing to help each other. It will be the single most valuable thing you will ever achieve in the entire life. When you practice asking for help, you will discover there people all around you who always wanted to help you. They didn’t think you needed it because you kept pretending that you had everything under control. The moment you don’t know what you are doing or feel stuck, you will find many people who love you will rush in for help and take care of you. But that will only happen if you learn to take care of them first.

4. Be a good listener and learn to speak last-

You must have heard that in life that you need to learn to listen. I would say that you need to learn how to speak last. You have seen in meeting rooms that the leaders will walk into the room and say. ‘’Here’s the problem, this is what I think, but I am interested in your opinion.’’ you have lost the team right there, and it is too late. Learn to hold your opinion for the last, and it does two things.

i) It gives everyone else the feeling they have been heard and contributed.

ii)You get the benefit to listen to what everyone thinks before you render your opinion.

With this, you get a wide range of understanding of why the opinion is given and is the opinion valid.

This understanding developed from one of the great leaders of the world. There is no doubt that Nelson Mandela is regarded universally as the top leader. In one of the Interviews, Mr. Nelson Mandela answered the question ‘’How did you learn to be a great leader?’’ he responded that his father was a tribal chief and he would go with his father to tribal meetings. He remembered two things when his father would meet the other elders- one: They would always sit in a circle, and two: His father was always the last to speak.

5. Be humble, no matter what position you hold-

A person enjoys the perks and respects it gets when he/she is in a higher position. Usually, the power you get from this position makes you a different person and tends to manipulate your mind to take certain advantages, which can be harmful to the team. It is necessary to realize that the perks are for the person holding the position and not for an individual. You are well respected as long as you have this position, but rather be grateful and enjoy them. Never forget you are replaceable.