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I see a lot of antis talk about their comfort and triggers, and while I pride myself on being an empathetic person all of them manage to cross the one line I have. Which is, if you're not willing to do the bare minimum, I don't give a shit.

"CNC/Incest/Lolisho/Toxic pairings trigger my trauma."

"That's awful. Did you block the tags and the people who post them?"

"No. I shouldn't have to do that. They just shouldn't post it."

"Then shut the fuck up."

Cause if you do not care about your mental health enough to do the bare minimum to make yourself comfortable (in this case, avoiding triggering subjects) then why should I care? Why should strangers on the internet have to bend over backwards to make you happy when you aren't willing to spend 5 seconds to block a random user?

yeah I agree

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I posted this one on my blog but then I thought you might get a kick out of it too. Ladies and gentlemen, the worst DNI I have personally come across:

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so tired of stories that have siblings that are really close and as part of them “growing as people” or whatever they end up drifting apart bc it’s “healthier” or whatever that’s bullshit give me extremely close siblings give me complicated relationships give me codependency

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why do antis always bring up proshippers in situations not related to fandoms/internet discourse?

The grooming and abuse that happened to the then teen actors is horryfing and unfortunate and as the documentary pointed out, the fault of an adult in power exploiting vulnerable people

also "a child will see you shit" is a dumb point, no we aren't responsible for what someone else's child finds on the internet, who they interact with and what they start believing, we are not their parents and we do not have ANY control over what reaches whom, much like authors have no control over who gets influenced by their work and in which way

Instead of pointing fingers at others and claiming proshippers are the only group that "hunts for minors" (when in reality predators lurk everywhere in every group), they could have used the time to educate people how to spot abuse, what the red flags are, who is most affected, why it happens so often to children, why it's actually normalized in (hollywood) media production etc. but none of them really care or do that, instead they always cry so much about people wanting them to start. literally. thinking. critically

priorities!

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this new push towards "you can only portray dark themes if you don't romanticize them" is basic media literacy to understand authorial intent.

If the main character in a (psychological) horror story has a warped perception of reality, this is often the whole point of the story. If they romanticise horrifying things, this is to invoke a reaction in the reader. To make them think, feel, and analyse.

If the protagonist is meant to be an awful person, this is usually to frame their state of mind in a more understandable way for the reader, and make them a more believable, realistic character.

If the protagonist is someone to be empathised with, it's usually to highlight their own self-hatred + self-doubt. In a horror story, the protagonist is often tormented.

Gaslighting them and making them doubt their perceptions of reality is a deliberate tool within the narrative to accomplish this. It's a technique that's literally a defining aspect of the genre.

But this push to label anything like this as “romanticization” kills the horror genre. If you want palatable and easy to digest stories with good morals and intent, then you should stay away from horror

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Honestly, am I the only one who hates the term "Gooner"? Feel free to ignore this if this ask makes you uncomfortable

Cause it had a meaning at first, pretty much being someone who masturbates excessively (Which even then it kind of fell into my category of "Not my business, why should I care"), but now it's used to refrence anybody who shows even the slightest amount of sexual interest. Sometimes sex isn't even a requirement.

You watch porn? Gooner.

You read smut? Gooner.

You play a lewd game? Gooner.

You play a game with jiggle physics? Gooner.

You play a game with attractive female characters? Gooner.

You find a character sexy? Gooner.

You find a character attractive? Gooner.

It's just annoying. Like I'm not a "gooner" or whatever just cause I think Mt. Lady is attractive. I simply have eyes.

tbh I haven’t really heard it used much

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there seems to be this misconception many people online have (and most of all antis I think) that implies they can spot a groomer if they like xyz media or if they’re a proshipper or if they like taboo fiction and I’m begging them to drop it now because that’s not what grooming is and this is not helping 

Grooming is a specific manipulation tactic which is usually carried out by an adult against a minor, but grooming can happen to anyone at any age, even to adults! 

grooming is not a proshipper/kinkster or anyone else existing on tumblr or social media without bothering anyone, grooming is when an adult befriends a minor very quickly and starts isolating them from their friends and family 

grooming is not someone making their kink fantasies public (with proper tagging), grooming is when an adult talks to a minor about intimate details of their life, their sexual relationships, sends this minor adult content to “warn” them about it, slowly desensitises them to it or if they call this minor “mature for their age” 

Even if we lived in a world where taboos in fiction and people glorifying them didn’t exist, it wouldn’t stop grooming from happening. Abusers will and can use anything to get close to their victim, movies, books, candy, tv shows - or even toys

grooming is always a pattern of specific actions and behavior and it’s important to realize this, to call these things out, stop focusing on the tool someone used because they’re not important, tools are replaceable even 

also, it is never the fault of the victim that they were groomed. It is always the fault of the person who takes or took advantage of them. 

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JAT reported by an AO3 commenter: reading romance novels is the same as cheating on your partner! Bonus quote: "I've heard a distraught girl argue with my RA that every story is real in some universe so my drawing sad art was tantamount to endorsing child abuse."

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This just in, antis using a school shooting to say how "fiction affects reality" when the DUMBASS ACKNOWLEDGES THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT EDITS OF REAL PEOPLE THAT IS NOT FICTION

like not only was this fucking tasteless and insensitive but they HONEST TO GOD don't even get it right

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I've noticed an increase in anti comments on Rule 34. "I just want to remind everyone that this character is a minor! <3" Like, buddy, we're both at the devil's sacrament at this very moment...

ugh yeah seriously

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The weirdest aspect of antis that I noticed is that a concering amount of them identify as leftists. Cause they constantly use conservative (and sometimes plain alt-right) talking points, and get REALLY aggressive when you point it out. Like they share a dictionary with christian nationalist, conservatives, and sometimes nazis but get mad when you point the fact out. Like they think the points are fine but don't wanna be associated with the main group that uses those points.

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Antis are transmisogynist as fuck. They will say "this blog is a safe space for trans women uwu" and then make callouts on trans women for making the "wrong" art or fanfics or having incest kinks. I know there are some trans women who are antis but the antis will turn against them any second, even if they’re not into taboo stuff

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Hey! Giving everyone a reminder to drink water, look away from the screen, and rest your scrolling thumb! If you can't hold your thumb up without trembling(and that isn't normal for you), give it a break.

always a good reminder!

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What that anti said about Call of Duty hurt my brain. NONE of the games are saying that the United States Army are “Le good guys.” Call of Duty’s topics are about war crimes and terrorism. In Modern Warfare 2 (2022), notice how an American general and an American PMC group are the bad guys.

There are idiotic news people and puritans like Jack Thompson and his supporters that made violent video games like Grand Theft Auto out to be a gateway for children to commit real life crimes.

Like mofo, I played Metal Gear Solid 4 when I was a kid after watching my dad play it. Same with Call of Duty. If that was the case, then I would not have a tumblr account, lol. I’d be rotting in jail.

Comparing fictional sexual violence to real life sexual violence is disrespectful to rape victims just like how comparing someone playing FPS games like COD to real life shooters is disrespectful to the families of victims.

It’s amazing how people miss the point of this comparison, they blatantly ignore it, or they just show how media illiterate they are.

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I hope this is okay to send in, but like. While I'm not a fan of the booktok community, I'm always very interested in the books they end up reading. I don't usually find them to be Super high quality writing wise, but they're *weird,* and usually a little fucked up, and I like that!

I don't have a lot of time to read myself, though, so I end up watching longform reviews and breakdowns on YouTube while I work. And this is where I get annoyed. They are always, always, *always* littered with commentary from the reviewer about it being Weird or Gross or Problematic, and I really don't think they get that that's part of the appeal sometimes! Like...I'm not watching your review on Credence because I want to hear you shame people for 40 minutes. I'm listening to it because it's a weird premise that IS dark and I'm morbidly curious.

Its worse when the story is actually well written and they refuse to give it the credit it deserves because of its use of sensitive topics. That doesn't just annoy me, that actually like, makes me really upset. In these stories the use of sensitive topics have meaning. They have a significant purpose to the themes of the story, and are often even commentary. You're allowed not to read stuff you don't like or don't think you can handle, but it's really unfair to the authors to dismiss it all as hot trash.

Anyway. I'm not really sure where else to put this, I don't think anyone I'm close with would Really understand. Thank you for having an open askbox to these kinds of rambles lol

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https://www.tumblr.com/just-antithings/769955195284340736/always-makes-me-kinda-angry-when-i-read-antis?source=share

Oh boy, the argument of "Teenagers shouldn't have crushes on adults" is an absolutely wild thought process. If they are allo and don't start looking at adults in their teen years, that could be a sign of a problem.

Example: I was groomed by a teenager when I was 10. Fortunately, my mom found out what was happening and stepped in before anything serious could happen. One of the things my mother explained to me was that boys his age should be looking at girls his age or adult women, aka people who are more developed, not a prepubescent child.

And that's not even getting into the insane victim blaming, and the demand for the "perfect victim".

Dont tell teenagers not to have crushes on adults, teach them what's normal and not normal for an adult to talk to them about. If you're 15 and the adult you barely know is talking about how he's divorced and his wife took their kid, maybe don't trust him too much! (That was a pastor BTW, real life example!)

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