#men have called her crazy

[randombookquotes]

men have called her crazy- anna marie tendler

[cherryrehab]

i think the real feminist issue about anna marie tendler's memoir is can the general public let a woman be a mediocre navel gazing artiste the same way they do men. the answer was no btw.

[youreonyourownkid]

need this book like i need water

[dk-thrive]

My brain never stops..I have an internal monologue that is running all the time. I constantly weigh and analyze everything I do and say... I feel it in my body. I feel dizzy a lot, or my brain feels foggy and out of it. Sometimes I feel like my whole body is tingling.

— Anna Marie Tendler, Men Have Called Her Crazy: A Memoir (Simon & Schuster, August 13, 2024)

[whosbuxkt]

Ugh. A 5 star read.

This book. I had the privilege of reading it in May, a time that couldn’t have been more fitting given everything happening in my life. The beauty of this book is undeniable—beautifully written with scenes that captivate, even when they’re far from comforting or joyful. It introduces characters and thoughts that linger long after the final page. I can confidently say this book ranks among the top five I relate to most deeply.

Anna Marie Tendler masterfully captures her experiences from childhood to adulthood, particularly her relationships with men and how these shaped her mental and emotional landscape. Her portrayal of the anger many women feel towards men—their dismissiveness, their privilege—struck a chord with me. I often find myself echoing the sentiments expressed in the book, and it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in my frustration and confusion over how to navigate these feelings.

This book covers it all—toxic teenage relationships, the struggles of mental health, the bewilderment of early adulthood (that feeling lost in your 20s feeling), grief, loss, and the journey of moving forward. It has stayed with me since I read it, offering both insight and comfort in my own life. I highly, highly recommend it. 🤍

[larkingame]

hi! i wrote anothe substack piece about anna marie tendler's men have called her crazy in relation to modern feminism! it would mean a lot if you checked it out :)

[plxviophile]

does anna marie tendler know that those of us recovering from EDs tend to not share our height and weight?

[idontevenlistentomitski]

I’ve seen some bad reviews of mchc.

(How can you even criticise a memoir?)

I saw people getting mad because she’s not perfect, or she hasn’t worked out everything she feels like okay??? Have you???

I saw people say her life was uninteresting. That she’s only passionate in things for a short time and she attaches herself to men to fund these passions.

I thought she made very clear in the book that she recognises this tendency in herself and does not like it??

Furthermore, look inside your chest and ask yourself what am I mad about? Was I expecting something different? And why so?

I’ll tell you why, cause she was your perfect victim!

Man says he loves woman, man cheats and leaves woman, woman makes amazing art (rooms in the first house) about it. You can empathise with her, you can make her into whatever you want UNTIL SHE TELLS HER STORY.

Stop expecting the narrative fed to you by her ex husband to be truthful! If anyone knows herself it’s her, not you or me for watching 3 hours of him talking about her on stage.

This is the woman she is, she has issues like all of us some resolved some not. Is that a crime? I don’t think so.

Also I personally LOVED how her ex husband was never mentioned by name thus shifting the power from him to her AND if you actually payed any attention you’d realise he’s pretty much everywhere in some chapters even though she doesn’t make that explicit.

This is, frankly, annoying.

[the-final-sentence]

I do.

Anna Marie Tendler, from Men Have Called Her Crazy

[judgingbooksbycovers]

Men Have Called Her Crazy: A Memoir

By Anna Marie Tendler.

[ryukisgod]

[showmethesneer]

Just when i start thinking about the similarities between this book and My Dark Vanessa, she starts talking about her love for Fiona Apple

[dk-thrive]

We had bad fights sometimes, yet I never once felt any disrespect or lack of awareness for my emotions, or inclination that he did not deeply care for me. He was the sort of man who was on a constant journey toward betterment. He questioned himself and his thoughts and his behaviors. He always strived to be the best version of himself for the people he loved. In the years since then, I have realized these are very rare qualities for men.

— Anna Marie Tendler, Men Have Called Her Crazy: A Memoir (Simon & Schuster, August 13, 2024) I

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“Pop culture had taught me that being the Lolita meant being in control. It meant being bad in a cool way. I wanted to know, numerically, how bad I was being. I never considered how bad he was being.”

Anna Marie Tendler

Men Have Called Her Crazy

[ninasbookshelf]

september 2024 reading wrap-up

hi all! i finished four books this month:

Men Have Called Her Crazy by Anna Marie Tendler

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

A Conspiracy of Kings by Megan Whalen Turner (re-read)

Heaven Official’s Blessing Vol. 6 by Mo Xiang Tong Xiu

i’m thinking of doing a review post for Anna Marie Tendler’s book, so keep an eye out for that if you’re interested. i’ll try to remember to tag it properly so people can find it!

[idontevenlistentomitski]

Truthfully, I first met anna Marie tendler through her ex husband’s comedy.

I’ve been on her side during the divorce and lost all my admiration and respect for said comedian. I’ve been waiting for her autobiography restlessly since it was announced and now that I’m halfway through it I can’t stop thinking about how much he used and distorted the character of a struggling woman to make the world laugh.

I’m reading about what she was experiencing, with sh and depression, and the years coincide with the times he was making me laugh about her on tv and thinking wow, they are so happy! I want a love like this!

Or finding out how her Jewishness, which I thought was a huge part of her character from his comedy, is only cultural and religion is not something she’s particularly interested in?

I’m angry at men, as I often am, I’m angry at this particular man most of all.

I’m angry she didn’t get what she deserved from him, I’m angry he used her to make us laugh and I’m angry I did laugh.

I had a completely different expectation of who she was as a person, what her passions were, what she was doing with her life and that was because I was fed a men’a narrative of what her life was.

I’m glad she’s dismantling that narrative, I’m glad she got her voice back, I’m glad she’s herself.