#maybe have her actually pose a threat to someone who isn't a random member of the working class she can harass with no actual consequences

[justmenoworries]

POV you're the poor nymph working at Olympus Starbucks and you just told her she can't have a free refill.

[bakedcheez]

loooooooooooong ramble

Gonna get hate for this but i just assume that anyone being misogynistic in radblr spaces is just a dude in disguise, glowing heavy, or russian disinformation stuff. like oh, this old feminist thing from years ago that many people here are too young to know it's been fine, and too online to know it's not the big issue you think it is (yes....i'm talking about the osa women haters) and now it's being pulled out of someone's ass to sow discord amongst a group of women online who are finally understanding the power of solidarity and are spreading valuable information amongst each other. try again sir. i know many women are in earnest falling for it but I can't blame them knowing they're most likely under the age of 30 and experience the "unfiltered rage" part of class consciousness. i'm not some feminist scholar by any means but i really hope women stop engaging with this over the top bait meant to entice us to infight and just tell these types to fuck off. this is just some weird effort to prey on our well-meaning intentions to help who we perceive as our fellow women understand where we feel they are misguided. Think about it from the perspective of a group that is both scared of feminism and also looks down on us as a community. Of course a group of men would feel the best way to distract us and turn us against each other is through our common need to clap back, have the last word, "make someone aware", and our (well placed) sympathy to lesbians and the oppression they experience. Like a man larping as female, these men know there's a certain way that we behave to lesbians and how we want to approach them with cognizance to the discrimination they face that makes it much harder for us to just dismiss what they have to say in our spaces or adjacent to them. They have probably crafted this armor for a while by observing us. It's not like this is some password protected underground community. This argument pops up regularly and while I'm sure there are some people being genuine (it's not wrong to feel frustrated with osa women when you're someone who is used to the online moral purity culture as your only exposure to leftism, because you're thinking it's lifestyle and moral purity that brings justice to the world.), it only takes one person with a few carefully crafted images, a collection of convincing posts and reblogs to give a certain tumblerina authenticity, and maybe learning a certain typing style to emulate for a discord or groupchat that with a small amount of work can turn an ordinary stranger into a fully integrated member of an online social group, enough to have their words taken as a genuine female speaking out about how angry she is at the lack of effort from her feminist peers. From there, you just need to have a few surface level points that seem like they're profound to make because the answers to the questions they raise are not simple and digestible answers, but ones that require time and logging tf off to answer. You have to be a part of women's liberation in the real world to actually have those answers sink in. You can't be a victim of the mental warping that's common here, even among the best of us. I suppose I could also mention how we really should just be telling anyone who throws around name-calling bullshit that they're not getting a debate no matter how justified they feel they are. Also, do you really think a group of people can't go to this website and sow dissent among the groups they feel pose a threat to their status quo or their bank account AND BE SUCCESSFUL??? Am I living in a new dimension where most alt-right talking points and memeing a dingus into presidency didn't get their start on unfiltered anonymous message boards? Where this very website didn't also have people posing as leftists who were irrational and extreme just to ensure the left remained constantly infighting and blocking each other? I think much of this isn't done by even making up random shit now but by very precisely targeting quite real vulnerabilities and past infights to ensure we don't grow and connect.

I mean, come on. lesbians vs bihets? are you fucking kidding me?

by all means, dont feel the need to include us bisexuals in any group you want to make. we're still going to be feminists and radical feminists and there's not much you can or should do to stop us. The less welcome we feel the more I would hope osa feminists create specific osa places to help ssa women not feel like they have to be subjected to us talking about our personal lives, and what effects us personally. However, general feminism should always be open to all women, as it seeks to liberate all women. this is probably obvious. it sucks to think that many women may be misled to think radical feminism is unwelcome to women like themselves due to something either unchangeable about their past, or so invasively personal that it seems nearly impossible to change. If I'm going to be honest with you, I think others have done the same that i have, which is avoid talking about their boyfriend/husband out of shame with people who they feel will never truly respect them. As you might expect, hatred just means people do the thing you don't want them to in secret, and therefore more dangerously. What a sad thing to know you can't even talk to your feminist friends about finding the closest abortion clinic because you're too afraid of the judgement and damage to your reputation from them knowing you had sex with a man. Or the discomfort you feel about opening up about your husband's ill behavior because you may lose your badge of moral purity among your peers that are conditioned to believe such purity is the goal. I guess I'm more interested in being the woman who is here for those women from a non judgemental standpoint (critical, yes, but I'm focused on making things better, not to captain hindsight another woman) than someone who can't get over the fact that a woman made the "wrong" choices. Do we treat tifs questioning the validity of gender like this? Or more so, do we want anyone who questions the logic and morality of women's liberation to feel like they're committing a crime when they do or don't live their lives in accordance to centering women? Do you think that's going to encourage the spread of these ideas? Do you feel like making the majority of a population feel uncomfortable is going to push more of them to agree with you? Obviously I'm rambling at this point and losing much of the plot, but I truly do feel confused why we let our emotions take over this much when we're seen a partially representative of these ideas that we care about. If you really do still feel lost as to why all women need to be included in liberation efforts, perhaps it's best you keep the confusion and rage you feel to somewhere less public. maybe it's time to talk with someone, research what confuses you, or just vent without broadcasting it to so many. Not everything needs to be posted in a tag or to your followers when you know eye are on you. You can always delete things later and apologize if you need, too. I suppose there's something to be said about my unedited and incoherent rambling being thrown onto my public blog but I have zero followers and I'm not throwing petty insults to a large group of people so no, it's not the same.

it will never be the same btw. you're calling another woman cum-breath, you're literally hitting that point where you are too mentally unwell and need to log off for at least a few days. I'm annoyed people aren't just saying "this person sucks, is probably male, do not engage" in response to what you're doing but i think it's just people being too nice and thinking they can save you. i don't think it's healthy for you to believe someone wants to try and save you, I think it's important you experience widespread social rejection until you can learn to actually try to give people basic respect. if you really are female, congrats on being a the extremely small percentage of actively misogynistic ones who should know better at this point. I am sure it must be very, very lonely and i hope you get better at seeing the men who are going to take advantage of how blinded by your rage you are.

"it's actually the WOMEN who ruined feminism!!"

get fucking real for a second oh my god. log off. go back to 4chan or twitter or whatever. we get it babe youre a femcel and a big ol hater and you're very cool and interesting for this. good for you i guess. i hope you find the ideal lesbian commune that has wifi. not even being sarcastic there i think that would be a good thing for someone as upset as you seem to be.

I'm just gonna like....not engage with all of that drama anymore. I don't really like to talk about being bi since i've been married to a man for over 4 years now. unlike my previous blogs ive had, i'm not going to hide it or pretend like i've done anything wrong here. i'm doing just fine. other het partnered women, in fact most of them, are probably not and I want to make their lives better. I want to work to make life better for all women. i'm tired of doomerism and defeatism too, because it's helping nothing. obviously feminism, specifically radical feminism, is better if we're now attracting people with the intent to sabotage what small community we've made. being off tumblr for almost a year has really shown me that radical feminism is more than just our tumblr bubble, and there's a lot more hope for it than the dashboard here might make you think. the tra movement is also getting weaker, and people are becoming more aware of the harm porn does, and most people are pro-choice. Also, it's just getting more cringe to talk about "sex work", or to be a more extreme tra, or to be shameless about your porn consumption...as usual, the social perception of being "cool" dominates all. The world is still not ready for books of statistics and history, or long lectures from people with expertise, the world is run by memes and twitter screenshots, of charismatic youtubers and snappy one-lines you can quote and seem like you're smart or funny. the world is run by what seems right at a glace and not what has the substance and sustainability. We will still buy from shien and temu because it's cheap and easy and no one has to know we did it, and we can buy our pride flags from amazon because we've used enough social justice buzzwords in our heads to justify our complacency. And yet, it's not wrong to think these people are worth fighting for. to know that hypocrisy is the norm, and to appreciate when someone makes the difficult changes to live how they feel is right. To look at their smaller actions and see hope. we have to stop connecting all these progressive movements of advocacy together. Saying you're not feminist if you're vegan, or you're not anti-racist until you're zero waste, or whatever is getting lumped together because "if they're addressing and fighting this issue, it's basically related to feminism in some way" like I see that yes, women are such a common class that our liberation can be seen as a couple turns away from anything that involves social progress or environmental progress, but people deserve the right to not care about something without being talked down for it. I'm talking in circles. I'm rambling again. My head is killing me. all of this shit is probably obvious. i've said enough. it's actually crazy if you read all of this. goodbye.