#masks can emphasize eye contact and make players feel more real

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

first-person perspective tour of love&deepspace exhibition at shanghai bw2024 comic-con part 1

player interacts with zayne/li shen

(all the four cosers are invited and paid by paper itself so they are known as "official cos" but the cosers themselves are not actually cosers instead they're professional actors (the no-fame kind) invited by paper for the best experience of players)

[onelonewoman-blog]

The Nature of the Beast

This post has to do with online dating, and apps like Tinder, which I'm dabbling in at the moment.

Online dating for the most part is a trainwreck waiting to happen. Tinder, for instance, should have an unofficial motto: Pay US for the privilege of meeting thousands of fuckbois who only want what is between your legs, nothing more! Don't you want to feel used and degraded and actually pay us for the experience? Sign up today!

You can tell a lot about someone based on what they put on their profiles. Here is one example. Some men try to be funny, and say extremely disparaging things about themselves. But by doing so, they put a thought in your mind that perhaps, some of these things are true...Swipe left.

Other men may say something like "If you're looking for your soulmate, it's not me." Or "I'm the player who will break your heart" Or "If you don't like assholes, swipe left". (You may think I'm kidding, but a portion of these comments are not me paraphrasing, some men have actually written such things on their profiles) Granted they could be using sarcasm in order to attract a woman's attention. Considering that most people seem to treat everything as a joke nowadays, my guess would be that was their intention.

For me personally however, I tend to take them at their word. If you say you are an asshole, or that if given the chance you will break my heart, I believe you. Sometimes sarcasm can mask a person's true intentions. Or since you were so kind to tell me what you are actually like, it makes my decision an easy one. Swipe left.

Here is another telling sign...A man who has multiple pictures of him shirtless with his washboard abs on display. Not saying I don't enjoy looking at an attractive man, but if most of your pictures feature you shirtless, well once again I have a good idea of what kind of man you are. Superficial and obsessed with appearances.

Another telling sign is someone who says something along the lines of "looking for a gym buddy, I am physically fit, etc.." Right at the very beginning of their profile. Or if you see numerous pictures taken at the gym (the city itself is MY gym, by the way. Treadmills, what is the freakin point?)

There is nothing wrong with being honest and stating your preferences. But if you've taken the time necessary to emphasize how physically fit you are at the very beginning, chances are you are extremely superficial as well. Which means we have nothing in common. Swipe left.

Another mistake men make, at least to me, is including numerous pictures of them partying in their profiles..This seems to be more frequent with men in their 20s than men closer to my age. (Yes I have dated younger men, because the older you get, the less attractive the prospects. I'll write something about that another time)

I take life fairly seriously, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that, though most people try to convince me otherwise...So I need someone who takes a similar approach to life as well. I don't need someone who constantly tries to make me laugh or who thinks life is one gigantic celebration, I need someone who will keep his word. Someone real.

So if most of the pictures you have on display feature spring break, beer bongs, being the life of the party, etc...Or you talk about how much you enjoy having a good time and want someone to share it with...Well I appreciate the fact you were honest about how much you enjoy partying, but I'm doing us both a favor by not contacting you in the first place because we would only make each other miserable if we were to get involved. Swipe left.

Self awareness is key to finding a relationship that can stand the test of time. And if we have nothing in common because you are obsessed with appearances, having a good time, are an asshole or a player, etc...Then I will not contact you, even if I do find you attractive. I don't see how two people who are polar opposites can work as a couple, despite how everyone claims "opposites attract"..More like opposites repel. So in order not to waste your time or mine, I'll do us both a favor. Swipe left.

Sometimes I may hit the wrong button on accident, and "like" a man who I meant to swipe left on...Which has been eye opening when that occurs. Because inevitably half the time when this happens, a man who either was showcasing his abs. Or mentioned how much he enjoys partying 24/7, swiped right on MY profile...So now Tinder says we are a match...

I cannot understand WHY...I read that man's profile and we appear to have nothing in common, so WHY did he swipe right?

Oh yes because he found me attractive. I hate to say this, but men usually appear to use their smaller head when making such decisions. It always boggles my mind when this occurs. I can only think to myself "What are you THINKING?" That's the point though, they were NOT thinking, even a little bit.

So those are some of my adventures in online dating, a waste of time in my opinion..

(Knowing my luck my soulmate will be someone who wants to party 24/7 and thinks life is one big joke, because the universe likes to mess with me)