#low libido is a medical condition get that shit tested first rule out all options first And you wonder why no one takes LGBT seriously

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Broken? I’d say yes.

Not a lot of science has been dedicated to Asexuality. Because what a boring ass thing to research. But that aside--we don’t have a lot on it. However, humans which are animals, can and do thrive on sexual intimacy. It is a natural act, reguardless of intention. Whether it’s for mating, bonding, or just straight up pleasure; it’s valid, and no scientist of human biology will tell you otherrwise. Even Dolphins have sex for pleasure. 

While humans have reached a plane of understanding and self than other animals; humans again are still animals. And any naturalist will tell you that an animal that has a sudden loss or immediate aversion to finding a mate (homosexual or not), it is instantly reguarded as an issue. That animal will suffer both socially and mentally. As it is not it’s natural modus operandi to do so. (And no, you are not special for “ “overcoming” your natural monkey brain.”) You find me an animal that naturally doesn’t, I’ll re-think this but funnily enough about the only thing you could show me is animals that reproduce asexually. See, that’s where that term originally comes from. An animal that does not need a mate of the opposite sex to procrerate. But they STILL have a need for a bond. Even animals that are natural loners such as tigers for instance, still meet up, bond and mate. The research and science on Asexuality is still on-going with no answers. Not even close to concrete. We don’t even know if it’s biological, or a picked up trait. While there are arguments for Pros of this “orientation” here is also a list of Cons you should consider and mentally file through and eliminate before you make your choice: Bogaert (2004, 2006) identified some of the characteristics of asexuals as follows: 1. More women than men 2. Slightly older than sexuals 3. Low self-esteem 4. Low socioeconomic status 5. Weighed less 6. Poorer health 7. More religious and attended religious services more often 8. Asocial 9. Social anxiety 10. Anxiety 11. Depression

Note: While “less well-educated” was also cited, this finding was contradicted by Prause and Graham (2007).�� 1. Asexuality is a lack of sexual orientation or sexuality, not an orientation.

2. Asexuality is a denial of one’s natural sexuality.

3. Asexuality is generalized low libido (which is a medical condition)

4. Asexuality is the result of sexual anxiety or shame.

5. Asexuality is Sexual Aversion

6. Unlike the other major orientations, it is not known when asexuality is determined.

7. It is not known definitively whether asexuality is life-long or acquired. Here is the entire article so no one accuses me of merely cherry picking: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/magnetic-partners/201406/asexuality We all know the research of homosexuality in nature and it’s quite common and natural as well.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6p1nmOnILA Here is a link to a video talking about not only the biology behind homosexuality but it’s usefulness in society. And please, don’t even get me started on Aromantics. Look, I get that not everyone likes the whole roses and heart-shaped boxes shit, but refusing that type of connection with someone just seems to zap the life out of relationships in general. Why wouldn’t you want to be romanced? Why wouldn’t you want someone to show you they care in a tender and loving, personal way? Romance doesn’t always imply sex and whoever told you that is an idiot and you’re a bigger idiot for believing it if you do. Asexuals bring nothing to the table. I mean, unless you want a best friend or a pet. Or population control. I guess that’s a plus for Aces?They even come pre-friendzoned! So no awkward conversation needed! What IS the scientific use for an animal that does not reproduce nor seeks out that kind of bond?  Some will say Ace’s can have bonds, but of what? Friendship or cuddles? Now sure Ace people argue that it’s a spectrum and there are some Asexuals that are okay with sex and still perform the act. They just say that it’s “not high on their needs list”.

It is usually defined as someone who just doesn’t experience sexual attraction. How can you have sex with someone you have no sexual attraction to? You’ve got to find something about them alluring, something about them physically that you find beautiful and arousing. Not caring for sex is not a sexuality. It is a personality trait. And a very boring and disappointing one at that. Demi and Grey as well. You arent an entire new sexuality just because you prefer to only have a physical relationship with someone you emotionally connect with. And Grey vacilitates between ace and aro? Why split hairs? It’s just your fucking personality. If you have legitimate sexual trauma, that’s understandable, but you aren’t Ace, you just have trauma. Get help. Talk to someone, grow past it, become stronger. Don’t just give up on one of the most intimate, natural and bonding experiences a person can have. If you have a distaste for sexual organs in general, that is also a you problem and your parents failed you in the talk and noramlising sex for you. Any good doctor or psychatrist worth their salt will tell you sex is not only good for you physically but also mentally and emotionally.  If you feel you’re Ace because you had a bad sexual experience, I have news for you: You’re not Ace, your lover just sucked and didn’t know what the fuck they were doing. Get you a better lover and someone who can make you feel comfortable and confident. Some will argue that sex isn’t everything and you know what? I agree. It isn’t. You can certainly have a great mental or emotional relationship with someone, and can really vibe on an intellectual or moral level. Absolutely, I jive with this sentiment too. But good sexual chemistry between individuals can and does make bonds stronger. Also to any Ace people who have openly mocked, or shown disgust to those who really enjoy sex, talking about sex, loving the act and are comfortable with their sexuality and their body---fuck you. We are not degenerates, we are not disgusting, we are not perverts. Your view is just skewed and you’re broken. Fix that shit. Think hard before you label yourself this, you might just realise you have other issues that need to be considered or addressed. Let yourself explore yourself, be open, talk to someone about concerns. Because it’s better to rule everything else out before you put yourself in such a limiting position. You are barely over 1% of the population; good fucking luck.