#lol i'm tired and venty too anon

[transandrobroism]

The very small but very vocal part of Tumblr that insists transmascs have so much unconscious/internalized misogyny to unpack and that they themselves don't is really funny to me. They truly don't get the irony of going "ah, these silly little 'tme's need to sit down and shut up while I tell them how their experiences with misogyny have affected them, because obviously they're not capable of self-reflection."

They sound identical to the transphobes who claim trans men are just trans bc they have internalized misogyny.

Bit of a vent, sorry. It's been bugging me.

Hope you have a good day :)

yeah it's really tone-deaf and in poor taste to sling around the "you don't have any real problems, just internalised misogyny" line towards transmascs, considering that is exactly what terfs say about us to invalidate our identities.

in reality anyone who grows up in a misogynistic society can internalise misogyny that later needs to be unpacked. there isn't a single demographic that gets to magically swerve on all that societal messaging by virtue of their identity. sure, there are some misogynistic transmascs out there. there are also plenty of misogynistic trans women and transfems and cis women.

assuming transmascs are uniquely prone to having a pile of toxic misogyny to unpack is just a weird form of gender essentialism. it's "obviously you will be a misogynist, you're a MAN" which is sorta funny cos you'd think at some point the male privilege would kick in and we'd get the privilege of being viewed as authoritative experts on our own lived experiences and Rational Sensible Men who Know Best.

something something the feminist praxis of not letting trans men mansplain what it's like to be a trans man

[velvetvexations]

this is pretty venty i apologize in advanced but I feel like transradfems literally dominate trans spaces at this point… cant follow a trans meme page on instagram without being hit w some theyfab shit, literally sought out meme pages ran by transmascs only to see post after post abt how transwomen get worse treatment so thats the only issues they should talk about; cant follow important trans archives without every comment section being full of discussions about only transmisogyny and tma/tme and how transmen and tme enbies are violently trans misogynistic , literally anytime Ive ever mentioned anti transmasculinity the only responses I get is from transradfems telling me “trans misandry” isn’t real and then pulling some “yall just hate a tranny that disagrees with you🙄” when you try to argue w them. Cant try to follow hardly any lesbian/transbian pages without seeing “MEN DNI” (im multigender and while im not necessarily a man my experiences are v similar to trans mens so this always pushes me away). A few of my transfem friends have shared memes about “theyfabs” and “she/theys”, and how pronoun circles are just for when someone “clocks u as tranny” Literally just saw someones profile that said “Cis people/tme people: GIVE ME MONEY GIVE TRANS WOMEN MONEY” which like… idk am i the only one that feels weird about “tme’s” being constantly grouped w cis people? Idk im just so exhausted,, i dont even know how to verbalize my feelings anymore but… idk i feel like this upsurge of radical feminism will never end and Im gonna have to live the rest of my life being afraid to have a voice for myself in queer/trans spaces. It means a lot to see you and people like my gf rooting for us but it feels like such a small minority lol. Idk what else to say im too sick and tired to get my thoughts together but thanks for what you do, hope ur taking care of urself <3

Ugh, all of that is really infuriating, I'm sorry anon. <3 I'm in your corner.

[strangertheories]

I agree with your post. It's a shame that we can't criticize the show's writing within the Byler community. Also trigger warning for Byler doubt... I wish we could just enjoy the ship without the pressure of it ever becoming canon, and without looking into every single detail that 99% of the time has probably nothing to do with Byler. I feel like I'm the only one but to me it's clear that the writers wouldn't have had Mike confess his love to El if they were planning on making Byler endgame in season 5. It just wouldn't make sense. We now know that Mike being unable to say I love you wasn't because he didn't feel it, but because of his insecurities or whatever bullshit reason they came up with. It's too late for us, but we can still enjoy the amazing dynamic Mike and Will have, and make our own fanart and headcanons like any other ship, and that's wonderful! But it seems like to be in this fandom you have to believe that Byler is endgame, and it's quite tiring. (sorry for the rant I wasn't planning on it lol)

Please give me a second, Byler shippers, this isn't a Byler doubt post! For any Byler shippers reading this, I'm not going to side with the doubt but I'm also not going to try and dismiss it because I think whenever Byler shippers have doubts about canon Byler it's a kneejerk response to try and get rid of it and rationalize it out of existence. I get why, but I think anon raises a good point. I've spoken about this for months and months, but Byler pessimism is a very big thing I feel like nobody talks about. Like we get one piece of bad news, give up and then be sad and venty and genuinely stressed and then we rationalize it and move on but I feel as though maybe we need to actually consider that your love for Byler should elevate the show, not take away from it and make you stressed.

And I know that is so easy to say and I'm not saying you should not feel this way at all, what I'm trying to say is that even if Byler didn't end up being canon (not saying it won't), you can still love this community and eagerly wait for fix it fics and fan art to appear instead of immediately giving up or wanting to leave the fandom. Wanting Byler to be canon is one part of the fandom, but I also think it's so much more than that and it's healthy to acknowledge that and try to still hold love for Stranger Things even if it isn't what you hope for.

Just to put a personal thing here at the end, some followers might have noticed that I've not been posting as much recently. Truthfully, it's because Byler wasn't fun for me anymore. I was stressed out because on one hand I felt super doubtful and never really moved past Volume 2's release and the Mike love confession but on the other, I didn't want to make any of my followers feel scared or doubtful. But I've posted less frequently and re-watched the show and I'm trying to healthily express my honest feelings for the ship, most of which are nice (some of which are critical), and it's been really nice. I expected to kind of be eaten alive for it but everyone's been so nice and I've received a bunch of asks of people who also felt as though they couldn't express this opinion. And it's honestly decreasing my fears for Byler because now I feel more excited than stressed that it won't happen.

Feel free to skip this, but I didn't really know where else to say this; I've gained a lot of followers recently but didn't want to post about it. It feels weird; I have the most followers I've ever had on anything and the Byler tag has hundreds of thousands of followers too, but I just feel so weird about it, y'know? Everything is so quiet at the moment and I'm excited for stuff to ramp up again, but it feels odd gaining followers but with nothing to post about. However this week, I feel as though getting these doubts off my chest has really helped me feel happy. Now I'm excited about Byler potentially being canon instead of just worrying that it might not be happening.

Thanks for the ask and thanks to everyone for being a really supportive loving community. Getting Tumblr was great and I'm glad that this anon and others can find love out of Byler beyond it just being canon in the show.

[whitevelvet-ly]

terribly ooc ppl lol (i promise i'm better than this)

AYYEEEE I'M WRITING FOR VENTI (modern au)

notes: inspo is from laufey's amazing songs and songwriting !!! (beautiful stranger and Dear soulmate by Laufey), maybe not angst but yeah no happy relationships for us lol, lumine makes another appearance because lumine is love (lumine cupid??)

you're in a slightly crowded plaza in liyue, sitting down on a bench. previously, you'd been to a friends apartment visiting them. your friend talks about their relationship and how inlove they feel. you, of course as a good friend, is happy for them.

sat down on the bench and watching people pass by, you call a friend to pick you up as it's pretty late and you doubt it would be safe travelling back home alone.

you've never been too good with romance, but always think about what it would be like if someone cared for you. if the said someone woke up beside you each morning and greeted you "good morning", or "good night" — what would that feel like?

but before that, where could your soulmate be? maybe on a train, maybe somewhere in the countryside. what does your hair look like? do you have siblings or none at all? my future lover, will you take care of me?

as you thought so hard, someone sat by you — shattering all your thoughts into pieces that'll take you ages to fix. you tense up; who is this person and why are they beside me?

the stranger beside you sighs, seemingly tired just like you. slouched on the bench next to you, they pull out a book from their bag and started reading. although, it seems like they did acknowledge you.

they look up at you, and you look back. would be a little rude if you didn't do so, no?

you and the stranger make eye contact and you feel, flustered? it was just like seeing love for the first time. you looked away to collect yourself, because the last this happened you were embarrassed to the limit.

...

after awhile, you look back at the stranger. you swear that he was the most heavenly smile you've seen, as he reads his book. you know to yourself you fall in love too easily and far too fast, but not this quick. your heart drops as you almost say something to the person beside you, catching their attention.

this person, stranger... have they put a curse on you, that you fall in love with them so fast?

...

"ehm, excuse me but were you going to ask me something?"

"huh? no no, it's nothing. i apologize."

...

just a few minutes after, you look at your phone. you find quite a few messages, and realize that you've forgetten you told your friend lumine to pick you up (NAURR LUMINE 😍😘😘😘😘).

you pick yourself up from your thoughts reshaped as you walk away from the bench you and the charming stranger shared. you walk slowly as you debate to yourself; "should i go back and ask him his name? or how their day had been?"

ultimately, you end up looking back. he's looking back at you too, until you bump into your friend who'd been looking for you since (cough cough) you took a bit longer than she expected. although, it isn't exactly lumine who you bumped into...

...

"Aether? wheres Lumine?"

"ah, [name]! Lumine and i have been looking for you since, well, she got worried. but as much as she worried for you, she quit finding you and went back in the car... so i was the one left to find you."

"sounds like her alright... we should go back now."

...

"one more look", you mumble to yourself. and yet when you glance to your back, he's gone. if you talked to him, got over your cowardice, would've you gotten somewhere a little farther than a simple glance?

naurrr who am i supposed to show this to 😭 (+context, i write a prompts for another person too lolol !!) /opm anon

A??2!2!?1!1 AAA??!!1!1?1?1!!1?1?1

stop HSHSJAJSJBD

NO because I would do the same 😭😭😭 I'm not the type to initiate conversations HEP

I wonder what happens if fate decides to let them meet again 😁😁 who will start a conversation first?? or will they just sit in silence?? HEHHSHS

[kaeyazuha]

hi Ky! ♡

no need to apologise! the works you post on your blogs are amazing, i guess they take quite some efforts and time ? and you were tired, so it's fine if you take a break or an inactive. even if you're alright, no need to be sorry for this :) i find it impressive that you follow your own schedule most of the time, it takes some motivation lol.

im just a little tired, i feel like i keep relapsing in stuff and it's almost like i'm never allowed to heal. but i'm feeling a little better now, i have games to cheer me up :'D

fr, sucrose is such an amazing character and yet it feels like she never ever comes home ?? if your pity isn't too high, you'll definitely get them all! also scaramouche banner may or may not be in 2027. depends on whether mhy is feeling nice or not /j

you finally brought the househusband home ? that's good! his voicelines are the sweetest <33 what will you build him as, if you're planning to build him ?

have a good day/night, and may you get all the primogems necessary for venti, sucrose, xiangling, kazuha and scaramouche! ♡ ily, take care ♡

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Actually, the thing that takes the most effort and time is starting! Once I start, the writing usually finishes itself with a few hiccups or so. But starting, that's always been the hardest part.

Well, absolutely ANY time you want to talk, I'm here, m'kay? If you'd like, I could make a sideblog and we could talk there assuming you don't want to come off anon! And also, my requests are always open for you, so you know where to find me if you'd ever like something. <3

YES YES YES She refuses to come home! I'm missing Sucrose, Fischl, and Yun Jin- then most of the five stars HAHA but yeah, everyone's always shocked to see I don't have them.

MY GOSH YES HE'S SO CUTE- I'm planning on a shield Thoma build since I can't dodge- probably favonius lance + 2pc tenacity of the millelith and 2pc emblem of severed fate. Giving him the black tassel would physically wound me so that's a no, just hoping for HP substats HAHA

You too, love! Make sure you take care of yourself, and have a nice day/night/evening. and oh heavens that's a lot of primogems