#like. two stones butches aren't compatible either. doesn't mean either of them isn't really gay | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

tyrannuspitch · 5 months ago

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people are always ridiculing the idea of exclusively gay people and nonbinary people having *actual conversations* about gender and orientation to work out if they're compatible, as if attraction that is anything less than instinctive, instantaneous and sharply binary makes a mockery of Real Homosexuality. meanwhile cishet people going on multiple full-on *dates* to work out if they're "really into" each other is the most normal thing in the world

#'oh are you going to pull up their carrd before deciding if you think they're hot? lmao virgin loser u just see them and knowww'#well 1. you're talking about attraction to an IDEA of a person not the person themself #how you feel about a person when you know nothing about them does not reflect some Deep Truth of who they are #you literally made that up.#2. you can also misjudge binary people's genders. you can mistake a cis man for a cis woman too #and that doesn't mean you're Secretly Bi OR that he's Basically A Woman it just means you made a mistake #gender isn't fucking magic!!#and it's not actually supporting nb people to be like 'well i can misgender them in my head so i'm p sure that means i'm into them'#does it?#are you comfortable with that nb person being your partner not your boyfriend.#are you comfortable with them being your boyfriend AND your girlfriend.#are you comfortable with the idea that this could change at any time.#you need to actually reflect on these things and allow for the possibility that the answer might be no #and if it is no put aside your entitlement and leave them alone!#god the idea that exclusive sexuality is somehow indicative of exclusionary politics is a plague #not everyone is into nb ppl (or into ALL nb ppl) and that is literally fine!!#'nb people can be gay though :/' not all gay ppl have to be mutually compatible 👍#like. two stones butches aren't compatible either. doesn't mean either of them isn't really gay

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