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jesseweneedtocuck · 1 year ago

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My therapist: ya know you can just. Choose to not have a relationship with someone if you don’t want to have a relationship with them. This person’s caused you a lot of problems and it’s perfectly reasonable to not want to associate with them.

Me: I’m sorry what

Shit therapists say really does feel like those "shouldn't this be obvious" game loading screen tips. Like you got stuff like "communicating your feelings verbally will make others aware of how you feel" and "if you feel overwhelmed in a situation, you can remove yourself from the situation until you calm down" and you roll your eyes like ugh isn't that just common sense, but someone who got thrown in with no tutorial and is operating everything completely wrong will spit out their cereal like HOLD ON YOU CAN JUST DO THAT?

#I can think of so many examples of this it’s not even funny. and honestly I feel like this something about therapy that a lot people get #wrong. like I feel like before I had tried therapy I was thinking of the Freud set up where some dude is like mm yes #you’re like this because of your shitty dad. give me 200 dollars #but honestly a good portion of therapy is discussing your problems in a really safe space and trying to get you out of your tunnel vision #like you can be so fuckin focused on a problem that a viable solution is impossible to think of #like I just realized that I really want to be left alone after work (I work in food service so my work is noisy and social and I have to #be really attentive for the entirety of my shift)#and so by the time I get home I’m exhausted #and very snippy because it’s too loud in my house and people are talking to me and I just want some quiet #I’m allowed to go to my room and get some quiet before facing people.#while I have always known I needed to quiet to calm down after the chaos of my job it had honestly never occurred to me that I could just.#have quiet time #being denied autonomy and having your social/emotional needs ignored from a young age makes your brain squishy I swear

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