#like this especially pisses me off right now because the bi-lesbian discourse revived because someone who IDs as it revealed the no fly list

[the-dragonlich]

Still weird to me the discourse around the term bi-lesbian, specifically the idea that it harms lesbians because people will start insisting they’re attracted to men because of it.

That already happens, it was happening long before the bi-lesbian discourse came around. What’s harming lesbians is lesbphobia/queerphobia and some people’s inability to take no for a fucking answer. That was one of the first warnings I got when I started ID-ing as a lesbian, that some guys would insist they could change my mind

Bi-lesbian is one of those significantly rarer identities and I’d never even heard of the term bi-lesbian until the discourse started, what like June 2021. So needless to say I don’t think it’s common enough to play “Oh, people will assume this about my identity because of this other thing.”

There’s already like a thousand posts out there about this but literally every year the same argument can be boiled down to ‘The way these other people identify is harmful to the way I identify’

You live in a queerphobic society you fucking fool. People don’t hate the gays, bis, or lesbians or think they can change you because of what those other guys are doing, they hate you because they don’t want you to exist and think they have entitlement over your person.

Please stop making up wedge issues, you’re only helping queerphobes because literally no one else benefits from this.