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hua-fei-hua · 6 months ago

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when i was in my second year of high school i sat next to this guy in history whom i didn’t rlly get along w/until i saw him writing love letters to his girlfriend and offered to fold them into hearts for him. i wonder what he’s up to.

#and now i am thinking abt how the differences in latinx n asian cultural values were probs what led us to not interact #(by 'us' i mean just like the general latinx n asian social halves at school)#like they probs thought i was looking down on them at first (strong asian value of academic achievement)#(also that chinese habit of never speaking your thoughts n feelings aloud bc i will keep all my feelings right here n then someday i'll die)#but like... i guess once i made it clear i was willing to help them (n not just leave them n their grades for dead) the dynamic changed too #i remember my hispanic classmates were often so much more *earnest* and open w/their feelings n affection #like i feel like high fives n dramatic gestures of greeting in the halls btwn classes are kind of obnoxious. you feel?#but once there was that understanding that i wasn't looking down on them i'd get those 'EYYYYYY *HIGH FIVE*' in the halls from them #n like looking back i think it's just a cultural thing bc there was like one asian student who did that but we all were like #'oh yeah. she's Like That(tm). it's not a... *bad*... thing..... (but we all think it's out of place socially n some think it's annoying)'#you ever just think abt cultures different from your own and sit in your baffled state for a while #bc 'we just don't do things like that. we just *don't*.' like not in a derogatory way or anything. just pure bafflement.#like who were the chinese parents who decided that being open w/your feelings (w/your children but also in general) was a no-go #how did we come to value emotional privacy to this extent. there's gotta be a philosopher i can point to #was it you confucius??? i bet it was you confucius #this post has been in my drafts since oct 21 2021 lol i think i should probably release it to the queue now #it's so old it uses the old post format editor #花話

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